How To Break The Feedback Loop Keeping You Stuck In The Same Reality

It's no secret that life can be very challenging. It's no secret that life can be triggering. It's no secret that sometimes we wind up in circumstances that we wish we weren't in. But I am here to give you a little bit of tough love and a little bit of a harsh reminder. No matter what circumstances you find yourself in, you're the only one who can change them. And the only way that you can ever change your circumstance is by changing yourself and changing your energy first. So many of us get stuck in this trap, in this feedback loop where we're looking at our situation, we're looking at our circumstances, our finances, our relationships, our job, our career, whatever it is, our house, our environment. And we're so obsessed with how much we hate, despise, resist, don't want to be in these circumstances that we spend all of our life force, all of our power, all of our resource resisting something rather than channeling that into creating something new. And the problem with that is if you don't rise above your circumstances, you have to stay beneath them. Your circumstances do not have power over you unless you say they do. So I don't care what's going on in your life. I don't care how challenging it's been, how triggering it's been, how heavy it's been. How overwhelming it's been. I'm just here to remind you that you are bigger than your circumstances, whether you feel it or not right now, you are bigger than your circumstances. And I'm inviting you today to remember that you are bigger than your circumstances. And the only way you're gonna stay stuck in a situation is if you continue to accept that situation as your reality, or you continue to resist that situation, or you continue to be defined by that situation. So much of the way that the world is made up today programs us with fear, programs us with separation, and specifically separation from ourselves and our power. The more trauma, the more fear, the more of that stuff that you hold onto and that builds up in your energy, the more you disconnect from the divinity within you, from that wholeness within you. From that creative spark and that power within you, but it's always there. And in fact, when you're in challenging circumstances, that is the perfect moment for you to rediscover that spark. So maybe you've been in a situation that feels like you're in a rut, you're stuck, you feel maybe you're lonely, maybe you are struggling with your finances, and you've been in this cycle for a while where you're trying things, but it's just not really working. I invite you to stop trying and start being the energy that you wish to receive from your circumstances and from your environment. So I talk about this all the time, but we're gonna go through it again today because it's probably one of the most important things that I include in all my videos. So we're gonna do a whole video just on this today. If you are in a situation where you see something in your reality, okay? So let's say you're in circumstances of having difficulties in your finances. And you're saying, "I see lack," and you allow yourself to believe in lack, to have an identity that corresponds with being broke or having no money, to feel like you are just limited, unresourced, undeserving of money, then you deciding that that circumstance can dictate your state, because that's a decision, that's a choice, is what's creating a frequency of lack. And that frequency of lack is what's perpetuating the circumstance for you. No circumstance can give you a feeling unless you assign a particular meaning to it. You are the one who is generating the feelings internally. And so rather than constantly, for example, saying, if you're in circumstances of lack, I see lack, I believe in lack, I am lack, broke, and then whoop, the circumstance of seeing lack perpetuates, and then you believe it and you feel it again, and then it perpetuates again. If you want to get out of the feedback loop of whatever circumstance you're in, you have to do something that not a lot of people do. You have to decide to break that feedback loop. Before your circumstances change. And that's why not a lot of people do this, because it is very difficult for our logical human minds to see a circumstance and to decide to change the meaning and the feelings we attach to that circumstance. And the reason that we find that so difficult is because we tend to treat our circumstances as God and allow them to dictate our state to us. We tend to forget that we are the creative power here, and we don't realize what we're going to get from changing our state and changing the meaning that we are attaching to our circumstances. So what you are learning here from this video that most people don't know is if you were to look at your circumstance of, for example, lack and and you were to say instead, I'm not gonna let this circumstance dictate to me who I am, what I feel, what I believe, and how I identify. Instead, I'm choosing to feel abundant. I'm choosing to feel secure. I'm choosing to show up as the most successful and abundant version of me today, no matter my circumstances. What happens when you do that? Is you start to reprogram your reality from that very moment. The very moment that you change your energy, that you change your perspective, that you change how you see yourself, that you change your expectation, that you change the emotions that you're feeling, that you change what you're focusing on, that very moment is when reality will begin to reorganize itself. Physical reality. Why? Because everything that exists in physical reality is simply an energetic potential that has moved into form. Okay? When you're stuck in this old circumstance loop, whatever it is, I see lack, I believe in lack, I see lack, I am lack, or I see tension in my relationships, I see disconnection in my relationships, so I believe that I don't deserve to feel connected and intimate in relationships. Whatever it is, we could have endless examples of endless circumstances that you've probably been resisting in your life, When you stay stuck in the feedback loop, here's what happens. You're looking at your situation. So this is an energetic potential that has already moved into physical form, okay? You're looking at a material physical outcome or a situation that has unfolded in your reality. And you're saying, okay, this is going to generate my default emotional reaction. This is going to generate my default perspective, the default lens through which I see reality. And it's going to generate the default energy that already exists. It's not even a new potential, it already exists. So you keep feeding your energy and your power into this same physical circumstance that already exists. And so it stays stuck, it stays stuck. You're basically like supercharging this circumstance, this thing that you don't prefer. You're the one who's keeping it alive with your energy. So I want you to just conceptualize that everything that exists right now in your life, every single circumstance, every single outcome, everything, you are sustaining that with your energy, with how you're focusing on it, with how you're feeding energy into it, with how you're resonating vibrationally with it through your identity, through your beliefs, right? Through your state of consciousness. That's what's keeping that thing alive and breathing as part of your experience. 'Cause if you think of it like this, okay, you're the higher form of consciousness. You know this if you've watched my videos, you are the higher form of consciousness. This circumstance couldn't exist without you having a conscious experience, okay? So you are the higher form of consciousness embodied in physical form, and you're having this physical experience, but you are much more than a physical being. You are an energetic being. You are consciousness. You exist on the mental plane and the spiritual plane. Those are causal planes. And you being the higher form of consciousness embodied in physical form, you are the perfect vessel to birth different physical experiences from an energetic potential, from the spiritual, through the mental, into the physical world, because you're the portal, you exist on all three planes. So everything that exists in your reality, every circumstance, every desire, every yearning, every wish, everything, everything, everything, it exists in the way that it exists because of the way that you exist. You're the lens, you're the portal through which this thing can even exist because you're the, experiencer of it. If you were not alive, if you were to disincarnate, pass away, if your consciousness were to leave your physical body, your experience of lack in your circumstances would die as well. If you die, so does your experience in this physical world. If you think about that, just think about that alone. Can't you see how contingent your circumstances, the experiences that you're having, that you're putting on this big pedestal and letting to tell you how you feel, they need you. Your circumstances could not exist without you. You're creating them. They are an echo of your energetic vibration, of your focus, of your perspective. It is all a mirror materialized in physical form. So when you begin to take your energy and power out of circumstances that you don't prefer, and you start to direct your energy at circumstances and potentials that you do prefer, you are essentially taking something from the quantum field of infinite possibilities where every single potential is existing in superposition, many possible states all at once. You are observing that with your frequency, with your consciousness, and then that thing can begin to materialize into physical form in your reality. But until you, the one who's writing this whole script, does that, then that thing cannot start its journey into your reality. And so there's a lot of heavy stuff in this world, there's a lot of challenging stuff in this world, but none of it is bigger or stronger or more powerful than you. None of it. I don't care who's being mean to you, I don't care what went wrong at work, I don't care if everything fell apart, if your girlfriend left you, if your boyfriend left you, if you lost your apartment, if you lost your job, it doesn't matter. None of it is bigger than you. None of it. Because you are a fractal of God. You are a fractal of source consciousness, the consciousness that made this whole freaking universe. The consciousness that made this physical body, this pen, that cute dog on the floor, this house, the clouds, the earth, the wind, the air, your fingernails. You are a fractal of that. And the circumstance that you're experiencing couldn't even exist without you existing and having a physical experience, without your soul deciding to incarnate in physical form and say, okay, let's play this game. Let's drop our consciousness into this physical body and let's play this game. And now, because you're playing this game, this circumstance gets to unfold of you losing your job. Without you, that would never have happened. Weirdly enough, the circumstance of losing your job needs you in order to have existed. If you didn't exist, that never would've existed. Stopped existing, your current circumstances will stop existing. So you are generating every circumstance in your life constantly. And I don't care how many self-help books you read, how many videos you watch, how many, uh, spiritual retreats you go to, whatever it is that you're doing, there will come a moment where you have to stop waiting for someone to rescue you. You have to stop waiting for your circumstances to magically change, and you need to take radical accountability and responsibility for your energy and for your response to your current circumstances. So the universe does not know what you like or dislike. It just knows what you're focusing on. If you keep focusing on your problems, you are going to start coming into energetic resonance of what you're focusing on, and you are going to start vibrating at the frequency of a problem. If you instead could take your focus, which is the portal through which your life force energy goes into things in physical reality, take that focus and put it on solutions, you would start energetically vibrating at the frequency of a solution. And the thoughts that you have, the ideas that you have, the energy that you have would open you up to an entirely different experience of reality. So remember this, all of this, when you have an unwanted circumstance, fighting, complaining, gossiping about it, judging it, resisting it, hating it, blah, blah, blah, is you focusing on it. And so long as you do that, You will be resonating with the unwanted. Are you with me? Are you with me? So what can you do instead when you have an unwanted circumstance? I'm not saying you should bypass, you should spiritually bypass and be love and light and just think positive thoughts thoughts and then everything will be amazing. No. Accept that this was your circumstance. So this sounds weird. It's like, oh my God, if I accept it, then it's gonna continue. Mm-mm-mm-mm. No. When you accept it, you come out of the energy of resistance, which actually causes you to send less energy to this thing. And when you accept your circumstance, you're able to learn why it was created in the first place. Because here's the thing, it was created by a past energy that you were embodied in. And so you stay in this perpetual blind spot if you keep fighting your circumstances or keep resisting them or keep just complaining about your situation and not wanting to actually take responsibility. You stay in this blind spot as to why the circumstances you're in are even there in the first place. And our ego wants us to stay in that blind spot because when you accept your circumstances, the next step is to gain awareness as to how they got there, which means Figuring out what it is within you that created this unwanted circumstance, that resonated with this unwanted circumstance. What is the lesson maybe that this unwanted circumstance came here to teach you? What part of you is it here to illuminate to you? And this is not in a self-blame, self-hate, oh my God, I'm so terrible, I can't get anything right type of way. No, this is in a way to actually look at your life as a tool. Like look at your circumstances, look at your results. As a way to learn about yourself in a way that is non-judgmental. Okay, so maybe you slipped into self-judgment there for a minute because I am being tough love today, but let's come back. If you keep judging yourself, if you keep being harsh with yourself, if you keep being critical with yourself, you are never going to be able to unlock deeper levels of self-awareness. Because how can you truly deeply understand something when you're so busy judging it and criticizing it? You can't. Judgment and understanding are opposite energies. So while you're standing in judgment against yourself, you will not be able to truly understand yourself. And as soon as you come out of judgment and you come into the energy of trying to just observe, understand, see yourself fully, see your situation objectively without making it mean that you're terrible or your life is terrible, but from the neutral observer, you accept and you say, okay, I'm curious, how, why did this happen? What did this unfold from? What energy? What have I been doing? How have I been acting? What have been my expectations? Where have I been showing up in my life that maybe I haven't been taking full responsibility? When you start to really honestly speak to yourself like this, with the view to just understand yourself, not to hate on yourself, you will gain so much awareness as to where you might be blind to your own parts that may have been creating the circumstances that you don't prefer. And when you discover those parts of you, so I'm gonna give you one of my most tangible examples. When I started on YouTube, I had this like entitlement complex. I literally was like, okay, my first couple of videos, they're gonna go viral and da da da da. Not consciously, but subconsciously I was like, wow, I'm gonna be great at this because I had journals and journals of mindset stuff and I finally found something I was good at and da da da. So there was an ego part of me that made me not take it that seriously because I just wanted to be like a special snowflake who didn't have to follow the rules or didn't have to try to be successful. I had this whole part of me that like didn't wanna, I was too cool to try, too cool to try. And so I just showed up on YouTube, expected to go viral and it didn't happen. And then I was in these unwanted circumstances, but I have to look at, okay, what got me here? It was my own attitude. It was my own sense of entitlement that was protecting me on the other side of that from a part of me that felt like maybe she wasn't good enough, right? So those are two opposite energies. And when I discovered this, I didn't go into it and go, oh my God, I'm such an idiot for thinking that I was, but no, I went, wow, okay, that's really interesting. Where did that come from? And this loving and open way of exploring yourself and exploring these parts of you that maybe had a hand in causing your current circumstances is how you start to shift your energy and how you start to actually release those parts of you and integrate those parts of you, okay? Instead, you accept. You be honest about the situation that you're in, and then you lovingly— because you're doing all of this because you love yourself and you want better circumstances for yourself. That's self-love. There is nothing more self-loving than deciding to stop settling for a life that you don't prefer. There's nothing more self-loving than having the courage to look at the circumstances that are less than what you deserve and decide, okay, you know what, I'm gonna do what I need to do to change these so that I can have a better, more aligned life for myself. That is self-love, okay? And so you accept the unwanted circumstance. You be honest about what it is, where it came from, and then you lovingly take responsibility. Identify the self-cause. So you lovingly take responsibility by identifying the self-cause. And what that means is, like I said, you look at and examine yourself. You look at and examine your own patterns, your own behaviors, your own attitudes, and just look, is there anything in there that may have caused this to come about? And then once you discover something, you work with that aspect of you. Okay. Because what you will find underneath it all, whether you've been self-sabotaging, whether you've been stuck in circumstances of lack in your finances, whatever it is, what you will always find is there is a deeper reason to your behavior, always. And even our most kind of ugly or unwanted behaviors, let's say you have a terrible habit of spending all the money that you get, and it's painful for you to look at that because you don't want to be that person, but you're here to change your circumstances, so you're looking at it and you're like, right, this is probably on me. I'm not going to keep shouting at my reality. There's something within me here. I just can't hold the money that I do have, so why would the universe bless me with more? You're starting to realize, hey, if I want to be abundant, I have to show up as abundant. And a part of me that's been not acting abundant is the part of me that's been spending all of my money, every money that I ever get. And at first, your ego might kick in and try to defend and say, well, we don't have that much money coming in anyway, so what do you expect? Da da da. I invite you to look deeper. And then you look deeper. And when you look deeper and you realize, why do you keep asking, well, why do I feel the need to do this behavior, which is spend all my money? What am I getting from that? You might find that you're getting a sense of safety because you don't feel safe having money for whatever reason. You might find that you're getting a sense of abundance. This is a really common one. A lot of people spend all their money because in the moment, because let's say you're not earning, uh, a huge amount every month. Let's say you are just about covering your bills and then you have a little bit more, but not too much. You might find that because you're running out of money or you're running really low every month, as soon as you get paid, you've been feeling so not abundant, you've been feeling like you have to be so limited financially for whatever, 2, 3 weeks before you got paid, that the moment you get paid, you're like, right, this money's gonna disappear anyway, so let me just spend it on things so I can feel abundant now 'cause I'm so sick of not feeling abundant. So you see how when you dig deeper and you look underneath, your behavior is always serving you. And it's going to give you a clue if you start to look at your circumstances as clues as to maybe past energies that you have had and start to work with those parts of you. You will see that there's nothing, there's nothing you do that's random. Every single thing you do has a reason. It's coming from somewhere. And as soon as you identify it, you start to free yourself from it. So let's say that last example of spending all your money to feel abundant short-term. As soon as you realize that that's why you're doing that, you also realize that feeling abundant in the short term. So say 1 or 2 days where you, you splash the cash on a lot of things is causing you to be in a state of lack long term. As soon as you see that objectively, you're able to go, oh, right, I don't wanna be like that anymore. And you're able to switch your energy and switch your behavior immediately. By the way, on the 18th of May, I am hosting a 3-day Aligned Abundance event. Where we are going to be going super deep on all things wealth, money, and success. So over the 3 days, we are going to do very deep energy shifting work. We're going to be removing your blocks on money in real time, and we're going to be shifting your belief system, shifting your identity, shifting your paradigm in real time into one that can correspond with your most aligned and your most abundant timeline. So not only will you open the gates for abundance to flow into your life, but you will be doing it in a way that actually feels aligned with your purpose and your true calling in this life. This is not just going to be teaching. It's not just going to be more information. It's going to be live energetic shifts out of lack and into abundance. So if that resonates with you, if you are ready for that journey, if you're ready to actually make real shifts in your energy and in your belief system, and you're ready to have the support there to do that with you, You can find all the details for Aligned Abundance in the description below. And then once you've done all of that, you have to be okay showing up as a new self in an old reality for a while, for however long it takes. And this is where most people fall off. This is where most people let the old circumstances pull their vibration back into that level and they give up on everything. Let me give you a visual for this. Okay. You want to go to here. You want to go to the land of sunshine, lollipops, and rainbows. You want to be rich. You want to be free. You want to be happy. And your life right now is here. I don't know why these are the symbols that I'm using. I hope you can see this. It's like orange squiggles. So as soon as you've processed whatever this is, you've done the inner work, the shadow work, whatever it is that it's brought up, then you go, okay, I'm not gonna stay in this energy. What I want is to be in a reality that makes me feel abundant, happy, free, everything like that. You got to realize that your ticket into that reality is your energy and your emotional state and what you're focusing on. There's no other ticket in. You— that's the only ticket in. Now this should be a relief. This should be a relief because you could stop looking for tickets elsewhere because I'm telling you the only ticket that exists. It's your energy. It's the only one that exists. So now that you know that, you go, okay, well, that means I have to stop vibrating in this energy of complaining and suffering and thinking about lack and limitation, and I need to change my energy to correspond with this reality that I so desperately want. By the way, the only reason you want it is to feel a particular way. So how you collapse time and you get there is you feel that way now. You feel that way now. So you take the energy of whatever circumstance you prefer, what you're attaching to that circumstance, and you become that energy now. You become abundant in your energy now. You focus on things that make you feel abundant now. You don't say, "I'll be happy when." You say, "I'm going to be happy now." And the thing that I want you to remember about this is you have to do this while you're still in the old circumstances. And that takes strength, but you're strong enough to do that because you're a creator being. Man was made in God's image, not your circumstances were made in God's image. Not a rock was made in God's image. Not money was made in God's image. No, man was made in God's image. You are a creator being just like God. So you can be in these old, the worst, most shitty circumstances ever, and you can change your energy. And as soon as you start vibrating at the same energy, you start focusing on the things that correspond with your desired reality. You start saying, you know what, even though even though I don't like my circumstances right now, even though I'm not really technically physically in the best situation right now, I'm choosing to be happy anyway. I have done this, you guys. If any of you are here since early days, there's a video where I spoke about this specifically, and this is what started shifting my reality dramatically. When I first started on YouTube, I had like, I don't know, 1,000 subscribers, and it was super challenging for me to not resist that, and I wanted to go, faster, and da da da da, and there was so much I was unsatisfied with in my reality. But I just said, you know what, no matter what goes on, I choose to be happy today. I choose to feel inspired today. I choose to feel confident today. It's a choice, you guys. It's a choice. Unless you're dealing with a shadow aspect or a trigger, or there's something purging or processing through you, that's a little bit different. You're gonna have to feel those emotions and process them. But day to day, moment to moment, it is a choice. And so when I started doing this, my old circumstances started to drop like flies, started to fall away because I lost resonance with them. And I started to resonate with the reality that brought me more happiness, more fulfillment, more confidence, et cetera, et cetera. So for a while, you need to be a new self in an old reality. That's how you become a master reality creator. There's no other way, but the good news is you were born this way. You were born with this innate talent, with this innate capability. So why not use it? It's the game you came here to play. Strong is the person who can do this. I'm not saying it's easy. It's something that takes a lot of inner strength. However, this should feel liberating to you. Because this is your ticket out of the old reality. So practically, what I invite you to do from this, from this video, I invite you to write down all of the things in your life right now that are making you feel a certain way that you don't like, that are making you feel negative, that are making you feel low, that are making you feel stressed, that are making you feel anxious, right? All of the things, the circumstances, the situations, whatever it is. And I want you to then go, even though this situation, I'm choosing to feel desired emotion. And write it out line by line. Even though my bank account is not where it wants to be, I'm choosing to feel abundant. I'm choosing to focus on abundance. Even though the work meeting this week stressed me out, I'm choosing to feel confident and happy. Even though blah, blah, blah, you get my point. And this is going to start to train you to stop basing your state off your circumstances because the thing is, guys, If that's what you do, you're gonna stay a slave to your circumstances and you're never going to step into your full creative power and your full creative potential. If you choose to operate from a higher frequency, if you really focus your energy on the things that are already abundant in your life, the things that do make you happy in your life, and you focus on generating those emotions anyway regardless of what's going on around you, then what you'll find is your old reality, like the old arguments, the old the old challenges, the old headaches and annoyances that used to pop up in your old reality, they will just stop happening. The drama stops happening when you stop creating drama in your energy field. The suffering stops happening when you stop choosing suffering in your energy. But it all starts with you. And this is something that I realized before I started YouTube, before any of this. After my first breakup, I was heartbroken. I've told this before, but I was devastated. Oh, I was so heartbroken. Your first breakup was just rough, you just think the world's gonna end. I also had an anxious attachment, so that didn't help me, and I was like, wow, the world has ended. It was also a terrible, terrible breakup, big betrayal, all of it. And I got into a really negative state, and then my life started to look really negative, and then the people around me started to seem really negative, and I was having awful interactions, and da da da. And then one day I realized, oh, I'm looking for this happiness, this joy, this healing, this lightness outside me when I'm the one who has to create that within. And I wrote on my whiteboard, and I'm gonna write it here and now, even though it's a little bit corny: when you can't find the sunshine, be the sunshine. Because that's exactly what I felt like. I felt like there was a big gray cloud over me and I just thought, okay, I'm gonna be the sun that starts to break these clouds. And so I got up in the morning and I did my hair and makeup for the first time in weeks, and I put on my favorite song. I think I needed those 2 weeks to, like, heal and process, or however long it took. But that day I said, no, this does not have power over me anymore. I am going to be the dawn that breaks this long dark night. And up I got, and I went out into the world, and the world— I smiled at the world, and the world started smiling back. Slowly at first, and then, then my whole reality started to change. So whatever it is you want from the physical world, you want from reality, you have to be that energy first. You have to present that energy to the world and then you will receive it back to you. It's like giving compliments to people. You want to get compliments. You want to feel good. When's the last time you made someone else feel good? When's the last time you complimented and appreciated someone else? You want your friends to appreciate you more. When's the last time you showed appreciation for them? You want to feel like what you do is valuable. When's the last time you made someone else feel valuable, or that you actually genuinely thought that something someone did was valuable and really appreciated it like that? So you are the one creating this whole experience. You're writing the whole script, and nothing changes in your external reality until you do. But the moment that you do, that's when everything starts to shift. And that's, that's the point that should bring you the most relief. As soon as you change your energy, as soon as you change the way that you're showing up in the world, the world changes to reflect that back to you. That's all for this video, guys. Please remember, you are a powerful, unlimited being, and you have more than anything you could ever need within you to create the life of your dreams. You just have to let go of all the noise and tune back into yourself. Love you all so much, and I will see you all in the next video.