Elay Amitay HaleviElite Trading Performance Coach

It’s not the city.It’s your consciousness.Stop blaming location for what’s happening inside.

25 Oct 2025 · 1 min

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A short YouTube monologue (by Elay Amitay Halevi) arguing that people blame their city for dating difficulties to avoid self-blame; the speaker asserts that if a person is meant for you, location wouldn't prevent meeting them and that stating "dating is hard here" protects personal identity from failure. The clip focuses on the psychology behind blaming location rather than on city-specific dating mechanics.

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Every city I go to, I ask them, is dating hard in this city? They all say, yes. They say. I say, which city is the hardest? They say, oh, my God, I'm in New York. It's so hard to date here. I'm sure it's easier in Los Angeles. People in Los Angeles say it's impossible to date here. I'm sure it's easier in New York. Everyone always says it's harder wherever they're at. Why is that? Because they haven't been successful yet in their own city. They haven't been successful in their own city. And if I say it's hard to date, then I don't have. It doesn't reflect poorly upon me fact that I'm single. So I will tell everybody this narrative. It's hard to date so that they don't judge me and I don't judge myself that I can't find a man or woman. It's not me, it's everyone else. Everyone else. It's the city. But the truth is, even if everyone in LA was superficial, if your. If you earned your soulmate, that one person would appear right at your door. Ooh.