Life is a Video Game (Here’s How You Win)
In this solo coaching video, the speaker frames life as a video‑game composed of distinct "boxes" or levels that correspond to different experiences (e.g., starting a YouTube channel, launching a business, forming relationships). The central claim is that you cannot enter a new box until you become the "minimally viable" version of yourself capable of inhabiting that level. The speaker illustrates this with the example of a creator who fears being seen and must first adopt a faceless, low‑stakes approach to post content. The talk stresses that waiting for perfect readiness wastes energy; instead, you must take the immediate next step, which rewires resistance and reveals subsequent steps. As you progress, you may outgrow a level, feeling a loss of resonance; this signals the need to move to a higher box. Transitioning requires confronting "shadow" parts—repressed fears, trauma, and ego defenses—through courageous, honest, non‑resistant work. The speaker shares personal anecdotes of moving from performative, scripted videos to authentic on‑camera presence, describing how shadow work freed energy, shifted identity, and opened new possibilities. The video concludes with practical reminders: practice courage, honesty, and non‑resistance; engage in simple body‑based shadow‑work meditations; trust that aligning with your true self yields greater fulfillment, not the material goal itself.
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The more I do this inner work and the more I coach this material, the more I help people shift their awareness and achieve their dream realities, the more I know that reality is structured like a video game with different levels that equate to different experiences. So essentially, as you are progressing throughout this game of life in this 3D reality, in this Earth, You enter these different boxes of experiences, okay? And the key thing that I want you to know and get straight away, and this is going to be the core concept we're going to get into today, is you cannot enter a box of a particular experience in this reality until you become the minimally viable version of you that can enter that level. So a lot of us waste a lot of time, a lot of energy. We spend a lot of time criticizing ourselves, watching loads of content that's not the right stuff for us to watch, trying all these hacks that's just not the right hacks for us to try in an attempt to get into a certain level in this game of life, whether it be starting your YouTube channel or just starting that dream business, finding that relationship, becoming more confident, becoming more wealthy, whatever. Whatever it is, we're looking always to get the material things. We're thinking constantly about how can I get to this dream desired level? But we're not thinking about how can I become the minimally viable version of me that can just start to experience that level. And I wanna give you the simple reframe today because it can really cut out a lot of the distractions and a lot of the noise that's happening in this space. This is all you need to focus on. And so I'm going to give you a really tangible example. Let's say, for example, you want to start posting content online and you have a fear of being seen. This was me, you guys, so no judgment. You have an intense fear of being seen. You struggle to even speak your truth when you're with people out in the world. So how the heck are you going to start posting your truth on the internet? Okay, I was there once. I know the struggle well. So let's say your box A, and by the way, all these boxes, this is box C, it's massive, it's fallen off the page. All of these boxes of different levels are relating to the same category. So in this category, it's creating content, doing what your soul desires, which is starting to create content, okay? Again, just an example. And so for you to enter box A, which box A is like the smallest first level of this experience, which is just starting to create content, you have to become the minimally viable version of you who can start to do that. Meaning you need to become the entry-level identity and frequency and state of consciousness that can just start. That does not mean that you have to be perfect, that you have to even be good, that you have to even be like posting it in the way that you really, really want to post it. It doesn't mean you have to be ready either. It just means you have to be the minimally viable version of you that can start. And so oftentimes we enter a new level and we're like, it feels like we're a small fish in a big pond. That is the best place for you to be because what happens is right before, right before you become this version, so let's say this is the minimally viable version of you who can start creating content. So you still have pretty intense fear of being seen, but you've released enough of it to just start. Okay, you've acknowledged that you are never going to be fully ready, because that's the truth. You're never going to be fully ready. When I started posting content, I wasn't ready, but I was just so sick of waiting, and I knew if I kept waiting, it just was never going to happen. And so anytime you're entering a new experience— before we get into what happens once you're in the box, right before you get into that level or that box You're gonna have a lot of resistance because you're gonna have to do something that most people don't want to do. You're gonna have to jump before you're ready. You're gonna have to enter the new game, the new level of the game, while there's still many parts of you that are screaming at you not to do it. That's okay. That is okay. What happens when you still go for it anyway is the going for it and the entering of this new level is what actually rewires those parts for you. So not every single part of you needs to be on board with this new level. You just have to get enough parts on board that you can just get into the room, get into the box, get into the level, and just start. And this brings me to my next point. When we enter a new arena and there's a lot of unknowns and we're stepping into this new self and we don't know where it's going and we can't fully trust it yet, we have a tendency to worry and try to think about the future and what's going to happen if this and what's what's going to happen if that, and how am I going to execute it, and how is it going to be run, and what's my brand name going to be, and you don't need to worry about any of that. You just need to worry about taking the step that is in front of you. Because here's what happens— this is in life, but also especially in this situation— when you just focus on taking the next best step, when you step on the step that's in front of you, your perception changes. And all of a sudden you can perceive the second step, the step that comes after that. But while you're still waiting behind step 1 and you're not doing step 1, you can't see step 2, you definitely can't see step 3, and you most certainly can't see step 4. There's no way. And that's what a lot of us do. We waste a lot of our energy and our resource waiting until step 15 is clear, when if you just stepped on step 1 now because you're perfectly capable and ready to step on step 1 now, otherwise it wouldn't be there, then you would be gifted with step 2, and you just step there, and so on and so forth. So the path to any endeavor, any progression, any ascension, any evolution, the path illuminates as you walk it. This is how you start to make crazy progress in your reality, in your projects, and in your identity. And if we come back to here, So right before you enter the box, let's say you're down here, okay, and you're looking and you're looking and you're looking. A lot of people spend years— I spent years looking at the level, trying to figure it out, trying to like procrastinate, watching 10,000 videos on how to make content, how to grow a YouTube channel, how to set up a camera, when actually all I really had to do was develop enough courage to set my iPhone up and press record and just go and post it. It didn't have to be high production, it didn't have to be planned out thoroughly, it didn't have to be any of these other things. And oftentimes the actions that you're most fearful to take but that actually feel the most expansive, if you could just get your fear out of the way, that's the stuff that's going to let you cross that that fear, that terror barrier as Bob Proctor calls it, and actually enter the box. And here's my point with all of this, you guys. I'm coming to it in a very long-winded way, but we're getting there. My point with all of this is, and if you've experienced this, please let me know in the comment, because I know a lot of my clients are feeling this lately. As soon as you let yourself just go through the fear and just step into this new level, you have arrived. In an entirely new space, okay? And notice how you're small in this huge big space. That is so fun, that is so amazing. Because now that you're in the level, you have the opportunity to expand into the level, but you won't have the opportunity to do that a moment before you step into that level. It's like the same thing that I said with the stepping stones, except this is to do with the energy of particular experiences and particular levels that you are playing in this game, okay? And so one of my clients put it really, really well. She loves these analogies. She, she is so good at making like analogies of stuff as well. And we were speaking about this and she said it is literally like a video game. Like, it's like being on level 2 on a video game and you're gathering all your resources and your tools and you're unlocking different things and you're about to go meet the boss and you're already trying to think about like level 3 when really you need to go and meet the final boss at level 2 and deal with that first. Deal deal with your shadow parts that are stopping you from entering the next level. I wonder who made games, do they know this? Anyway, you have to deal with the final boss, which is usually some insecurity or some fear that's keeping you stuck in a level that you've gotten too big for and you know you need to move beyond. And then you get into level 3. You don't know what's in level 3 of a game until you enter it. Okay, and you enter it as a beginner to that level, as everybody does. You have to be okay with that. But the exciting thing about that is, specifically when we're talking about the level in reality, you've now given yourself the biggest gift you could ever give yourself. You've given yourself room to grow. Look at all of this space in this experience, right? So let's say you enter Box A. We'll continue with the content creation analogy. And you started making content, but at first maybe you had a faceless account, okay? So you still have this fear of being seen, and the minimally viable version of you who's posting content in this first level of this experience, they are— they have a faceless account, they are like scripting out the videos, they're using different tools, but it's their voice, for example, okay? And then maybe eventually they start putting their face on it, so First they came in, their face wasn't on it, it was a faceless account. But then because they entered the level, they started to get insights and ideas. And this is actually what happens. As soon as you let yourself get into this level of this game, you will start to get the ideas, you will start to get the insights, you will start to get the energy and the clarity on what you need to do next within this dimension because you're in the right space to perceive those things. I.e., basically you're in the right frequency to perceive those things, okay? And so here you are in this, in this level, you've allowed yourself to enter the frequency of just being a content creator, even if it's not who you really want to be. And that starts to grow you and expand you within this level. So over the course of a few months, you are growing, you are growing, you're getting more and more comfortable, your frequency is shifting more and more into content creator. Your identity is shifting more and more into content creator, and then you get to a point— and this is the key point— then you get to a point where you start to become too big for the level that you're in. I'm hoping this is going to land on the algorithm of who needs to hear it, because this is something nuanced that I've never heard anyone talk about, but I have suffered with this. So you start to get too big for the box that you're in. So let's say the way you've been posting content for months, it's gotten really comfort zone-y, okay? And so it's become really comfortable, it's grown your identity, you've settled into, I'm a content creator who makes videos like this. Let's say they're really short form, let's say, you know, your face is in it but they're super, super edited, and it's starting to feel a little bit forced and performative, and it's starting to feel not authentic, okay? So when we think about something like showing up online and being seen, there's layers to allowing yourself to be seen, okay? And depending on how much fear you have, how much trauma you have, how much darkness you've stored around your authenticity, your ability to be authentic, and your ability to be seen, when you enter this first box, you might not be okay at all with actually being seen for who you are. So let's say in this whole level you've been showing up on the internet— so that was the first layer, is just like doing that task of getting into that habit and saying, okay, I'm a content creator— but actually showing yourself and showing the more vulnerable parts of you and the more real parts of you, that's not something you were able to do at this level. But because you entered this level, you shifted to a point where now you're starting to get the itch that something needs to change, something needs to shift. And this is typical no matter what journey you're on. We go through phases in life, and oftentimes We will resonate with a way of doing something for a long period of time, or a short period of time depending on your journey, but it's typically a longer period of time, maybe a few months, maybe even a year or two. And then what will happen is we lose resonance. Now, we don't know that this is what's happening, but essentially your, your path is your path, okay? You have a path that you're supposed to walk and evolve within, and let's say the, the end goal of your experience of creating content is actually to make it to box C, okay? It's not to stay in this version, this first, like, uh, what's the word, meta version, beta version? I don't know, I'm not a tech person. But you, you're— this is like your training wheels version, essentially. Like, your soul, your higher self has planned for you to get to here. So you have to be in this level for a while to get in the training ground and start shifting your energy and your identity. But where a lot of people experience pain and suffering is when they start to get too big. Sorry, why did I even speak with that in? They start to get energetically too big for the box that they're in. Now you can tell me if that hit you when I said it, because this is something that a lot of people deal with and they don't realize that this is it. You lose resonance with the way you've been doing things because you're— it's not fully aligned with actually your big mission, and you— your energy is trying to evolve beyond what you've physically been doing. And so this is something that personally has happened to me many, many times. And actually, if I reflect on my journey and the big moments where my energy, my identity, my frequency has shifted, the moments that I've suffered the most is when I've gotten too big for the level that I'm in. And I didn't know that that's what was happening, okay? So I was doing something one way for a long period of time, and then I lost resonance with it. And instead of asking, why did you lose resonance, or what could feel more aligned, I just kept forcing myself to show up in physical reality in the same level, in the same way, with the same kind of limited range of behaviors, when what actually going to resonate with me was over here in the next level. Now, the reason that we don't want to acknowledge that sometimes, the reason that our ego keeps us in autopilot, keeps us feeling suffering and misaligned, and doesn't let us see that this is what needs to happen, is because making a shift from one level to another level is usually really uncomfortable. I'm not gonna sugarcoat it, you guys. It's usually really uncomfortable. And I'm not going to say always, but I want to say always. I will say for now because I don't know for certain, but I will say pretty much always, pretty much always, it's going to require you to sacrifice some parts of yourself. Okay, I can almost safely say that that's the case every single time. Every time you ascend to a new level in your consciousness you are going to have to clear out a part of you that does not resonate with that level of consciousness. Because the only reason that you're not sitting here within that level of consciousness is because there's a part of you that's stored within you that's causing a distortion in your frequency that's blocking you from being able to sit in the level of consciousness that resonates with the next box. And this is where people go astray with like, why can't I just act as if? Why can't I just, you know, hustle harder or make a decision? It's like, if you're not in the right frequency, if you're not in the right identity to align with the reality that you desire, you are not even going to perceive of the right decisions to make and the right actions to take. You have to get into the state first. You have to get into the identity and the frequency first. Only then can you correspond in your perception with the right and aligned ideas, the right decisions, and the right actions. Okay, and so this is where a lot of suffering happens. So you're— you have been playing in a box or a level for some time You're ready to graduate from that, actually, and the subconscious part of you knows it, your soul knows it, but you have some sticky parts of you that are connected to your ego that don't want you to see that. And so it keeps you in autopilot. And also, it's just like having to jump into another level is always a little bit of a mission. This is where the fun is, this is where the excitement is, but it's also where the discomfort is. It's also where you have to practice a lot of courage. And so So for me, the times that I personally have suffered the most on this journey have been when I've known deep down in my soul that what I'm doing is no longer aligned and something needs to shift, but I haven't had the courage to look at it because I'm not ready to make the changes. I feel like I'm just not ready. I'm just not ready to look at the ugliness or the insecurity or what it's going to what it's going to ask of me actually to step into this level. And you can think of it like me meeting the final boss on each level. The final boss is your shadow. It's the parts of you that are repressed, that are keeping your consciousness trapped in the previous self, in the previous level. And so to give you another tangible example of this, I'm going to tell you my own example actually, because this is really similar to my journey with content. I started making a certain form of content. I didn't do faceless or anything, but I suffered for a long time because my, my intuition, my soul was telling me you need to change the way you're doing this, it's not aligned, and I didn't listen. And so I felt worse and worse and worse because the more you lose resonance with what you're doing physically, the more misaligned you are. In my experience, if you're like sensitive to this stuff, but even if you're not, you're going to feel anxious, you're going to feel not great when you're out of alignment. Getting in alignment, no matter how uncomfortable it is, is one of the most profound things you can actually do on your spiritual journey to help your evolution and to help yourself shift your consciousness. But in any event, when I first started YouTube, I was posting a comfortable type of content. I was kind of like delivering it in a funny way that didn't even really feel like me. It was like a performative version of me. You can go back and watch it. But, um, you might not notice the difference, but I definitely felt it. It was like I was in this persona a little bit, and I would have to get really like in the zone to do it. It wasn't really me because I wasn't comfortable really being me on camera yet. But I played in that level for a while, and then I started to feel really bad, and then I started resisting it, and then I couldn't even post. And it was just this whole thing where I went into a little bit of an energetic trench, is like what I like to call it. And what it was, was I had to change the level I was playing. I had to go to the next level. But in order for me to get there, the next level required me being more authentic on camera. And there were parts of me that were terrified of that. And I couldn't get to that next level of authentic content creation until I went and worked with those parts of me until I sat down. I took myself by the hand and I sat down with myself. And this is when I really started realizing the importance of shadow work. Nothing like getting in alignment with your path and your purpose to get into shadow work, because you're going to realize how much your parts are in the way of your alignment when you start that. But I had to sit down with those parts of me, like the most insecure parts, the parts of me that I was so scared of other people seeing and shouting out. Like, that's what was stopping me from being authentic. You can't— so the fear of being seen, side note, you can eradicate the fear of being seen the moment that you are comfortable fully seeing yourself. If you can see all the parts of you, good, bad, ugly, everything in between, and you can accept them and you're okay with them, then nothing that anyone else says about any parts of you will scare you or hurt you, because you see, you've accepted, you see yourself, you accept yourself. And so rejection from another person it just doesn't really hold any weight. The times that you fear rejection the most, especially for being authentic, is when there's parts of you that you are rejecting. And so for me, I was ready for so long to start being authentic on YouTube, but like at my soul, but my trauma and my parts were not ready, and my ego did not want me to get ready. And so I had to go into that trench, I had to sit with those parts of me, I had to release those parts of me. And as soon as I practiced the courage— and by the way, courage is always the emotion that's going to pop you to the next level. Courage, honesty, and acceptance, non-resistance. As soon as I practiced that courage and that non-resistance, I could actually meet those parts of me. I was shocked. This is like my first, like I said, real shadow work that I did just with myself on this journey. I was stunned, the stuff that I had stored from when I was like 14, 15 that I, I did not realize was still there. And as soon as I faced it, they released. And this happens at every level, you guys. You have these parts that have been so unconscious, but they're like frozen in time from your trauma within you, and they're diluting your consciousness and your potential. And you go and you visit them and you reassure them and you release them, which by the way, I have a whole video on shadow work. I'll leave it down below. I say that in every video. And your energy gets so freed up from those parts, and now all of a sudden your awareness shifts Your identity shifts, your frequency shifts, and now you can enter the next box on the next level, but not a moment before. So now you go in here, and now that you're in here, you've got 3 legs. I don't— I'm not sure why you've grown a leg. You've released so many shadows that you're defying the laws of gravity like the enlightened masters. But now you're able to enter the next box of, for example, authentic creation. Now this, you can apply this to anything. Obviously I'm using content creation as a really like simple tangible example to follow, but apply this to any area of your life because it's the same in every single area. And what I really want you to remember is you will always be rewarded for having the courage to release the parts of you that are keeping you stuck in a level that you know you're ready to ascend from. And as soon as you kind of go through that purging and you just face those parts of you, you will get so much energy back, you will get so much clarity back, you will enter a new level. And when you, when you work on your energy like this through shadow work and through coming into alignment, your ego gradually begins to dissolve and it controls you less and less and less. You start to get more and more close to the truth of who you are. And when that happens, essentially, as you're going on this journey, what you're basically doing is you're purifying. Okay, so this path that you're on, it's not about the material thing at all. It's about like— and I'm assuming with this analogy that you're here and you're watching this because the thing that you're desiring in your journey in physical reality is some kind of mission or project that feels really aligned to you, but you just feel like you're in the way, or the old self is in the way a little bit. Okay, this is kind of specifically for that. When you have something materially, like a material goal or a project or something that you're shooting for, it's not actually about that at all. But that project, some, an aligned vision will purify all the parts of you that aren't really you faster than anything else will. It will require you to let go of all of the illusions of who you are not, because your path essentially in this reality is your path. You don't have to be anyone else to walk your path. You just have to become more of who you really are. And the only way that you can sway what your higher self, what source, what your soul has in store for you on this miraculous path that was designed for you is if you step out of authenticity. Okay? And so some core reminders that I want to give you guys in this analogy and in this crazy journey that we're on is non-resistance. Okay, whatever's coming up, have the courage to look at it. Shadow work— meet the unconscious parts of you. You guys, I did more shadow work last week, and it stuns me every time. Did quite a lot actually last week. There was a portal day last week, so maybe you guys did some shadow work as well. But it stuns me every time, no matter how many times I do how, like, how intelligent this game is. First of all, like, it's, it's crazy, the levels to it and the way it's designed. But how intelligent our bodies are and our nervous system is and our memory, because we literally store past experiences like a frozen snapshot within us, within our bodies, within our nervous systems, within our energy. And when you go back and visit it, it's like you can, you can completely forget about it. It's pushed so deep into the unconscious that you don't even know it's there. But if you go back and you do shadow work, what will happen is something will come up that you forgot even happened. And you might be thinking, why would I want to experience that again? You want to, you want to look at it again because even though you consciously have totally forgotten it, subconsciously you have not. And subconsciously that experience was stored within you because you resisted it because it was stressful or painful. And when you do that, it fragments your consciousness. It causes your energy to split. It causes your identity to split. And it causes you to create a shadow part of you, a repressed part, and then a corresponding protector part, or an expressed part. And that expressed part is usually the ego self. It's a protective identity. And that protective identity is usually not who you really are. It's usually a limited form of self that can't actually align with your full truth and your full purpose. Okay, and so what's so fascinating about going back into experiences of the past is you realize all— you have all the answers right there. Like, every hurdle you're facing in physical reality, it's not a hurdle in physical reality. It's a hurdle within you, and it's always coming from somewhere. So as soon as you start resisting something in your reality, say, no, this is a resistance within myself. There's something within me. Okay, any misalignment in your reality is a misalignment in the nothing more, nothing less, because you are just projecting from your state of consciousness and that's what you're calling reality. Okay, and so when you revisit these things, even though they're so unconscious, you go in and it's like, oh, this is why. And there's a lot of little nuances, like some stuff that was coming up for me this week was some random stuff around when I was in school, like stuff I'd totally forgotten about that was really, really specifically causing me blockages now. Blockages in my identity, in my perception, in just shifting to my next level self. And I never would have consciously known that if I hadn't dropped in, if I hadn't tuned in, and if I hadn't opened up to looking at that stuff again. Okay, and so I just want to reassure you and let you know that You're— you are not, first of all, the things that have happened to you in the past. You know, if you're frustrated with your circumstances, if you're frustrated with yourself, the identity you've been living in, I just want you to know that oftentimes we're living in a version of us who's not even really us. And there is a core self, there is a true self underneath all of this, just waiting for you to open up and to start to release anything that is not really you. And you can release this stuff. I know I say shadow work and it sounds like, wow, that sounds like a mission. But shadow work is actually quite straightforward. Like, I do a meditation on it in my community, and we essentially just tune into the body, pull out the part that feels like painful or heavy or whatever the emotion is, wherever that feels like it is in the body, pull it out, sit with it, let it speak, let it purge, let it process. Sometimes you can drop into that version of you so you can feel the emotions more fully. And then you come back and you reconcile, you reassure, you tell them everything they need to hear to feel safe letting this go. And then you give them something new to focus on. That's the whole process that I do with people. And you can do that. It doesn't take a long time. It just takes courage. It just takes having the courage to be honest with yourself. And one last little reminder I want to leave you with, because I've been purging a lot of things, I've been entering a new level, a new box, and this one has been hard for me, I'll be honest, you guys, because there's parts of the identity that I have been in the last few months that have gotten me really great results, that have gotten me technically what was once my dream life. And so I have had this like ego attachment to this identity that I have been for a long time, and so that resulted in my ego throwing a of fear and uncertainty at me evolving beyond this. But I'm going to remind you of something that I have realized as I've started to let go of those parts and started to just open up and accept that I'm moving on from the energy that I've been in. You can never lose by becoming more of who you really are. You can only gain what's rightfully yours. You can only gain the experiences the connections, the success, the joy, the alignment that's destined for you. Okay, so you can trust that. You can trust your path. That's all for this video, guys. I hope it helped. A little bit of a rant today. Thank you so much for joining me. I am sending you a big hug, and I will see you all in the next video.
