The Real Reason You Fear Being Seen (And How to Overcome It)

Hi everyone, welcome or welcome back to the channel. We are in Los Angeles, so excuse the strange setup, but today I want to talk to you guys about the fear of being seen. The fear of being seen is one of the most dominant fears in the collective. It's one that almost everybody has, and it's one of the biggest blockers to finally standing in your power and standing in the path that you are supposed to stand in. It is a really deep, integral, innate fear as a human being. And it's something that comes up in layers. Okay, so let's just start. What is, what is the fear of being seen? Where does it come from? So the fear of being seen is essentially a fear of rejection at its core. You fear that somebody is going to perceive something within you that they do not like, they do not approve of, and therefore they will withdraw their love, their attention, their validation, their approval from you. Okay? So we only fear being seen when we fear that there is something to be seen that will be disapproved of or rejected by an external person or by a group of people. And One thing I just want to say straight away and reassure you guys with is if you have a fear of being seen, you are so normal for having that fear. In fact, it's quite unusual if you don't have a fear of being seen and rejected because we as human beings are extremely relationally dependent creatures. Our sense of connection and our stability of our relationships is the most important thing in our lives. You might think that it's money, you might think that it's success, but actually it's the health and stability of our connections and the relationships around us. That is the most important thing to us at our core. And you can even see this when we're born. It takes years for us to become independent. Okay? It takes a really, really long time for us to actually be able to stand on our own two feet and look after ourselves in this world. And so we are innately attached to the people around us and therefore the approval and the support of the people around us. Think of it like this. Okay, let's say you're starting a new job. You are really scared of what people are going to think of you. And so maybe you shapeshift a little bit, maybe you people-please a little bit. You attune to the energy of the room to see if you're getting the vibe right. And you're doing all of that. Maybe you're annoyed with yourself about doing that. Maybe you want to be seen in your full authentic self, but you just can't do it. Well, really, there are parts of you active there. What's really happening is these parts are trying to protect you from the potential outcome of you showing up authentically and being seen and being disapproved of because those parts of you, they might have been born when you were too young to remember. And those parts of you know, or think, that if you lose the approval or validation or acceptance or support of the people around you, you will not survive. So it's embedded in your survival from a very young age. And the things you experience, things that you hear, the information that you gather when you're super young, that gets rooted in your subconscious mind and becomes an integral part of you. And it makes up a lot of the fears that rule us today. And so one of those key fears, one of those key patterns that we have from very early years is if I'm not accepted and supported by the people around me, I will not survive. I will die. So our brains link rejection to death. That's scary. That's a big deal. And even when we go back to the days when we were in tribes, okay, so we used to live and exist in communities, in tribes. And you would be born into a tribe, you would be raised within the tribe, you'd be married within that tribe. And you would have a certain network of people around you at all times. If someone had a baby, it was like all the women in the tribe would help to raise that baby.. And the whole tribe would work together in community to meet each other's needs and to support each other. So you would have some of the men who did the hunting, some of the women who nurtured the huts or made the living situation hospitable, looked after the children. And people had different roles within the tribe and they all depended on each other for survival. And so from an evolutionary perspective back then, if you decided one day to start being really different from the tribe and they decided you don't fit with us anymore, you don't belong here anymore, and they cast you out of the tribe, your survival would also be threatened then because it would be very difficult for you to survive on your own versus with the tribe. And so even deeper than that, we're going deeper and deeper and deeper here, is we all have this yearning for belonging really deep down in our core. We have this yearning for belonging, for support, for community. And there is a certain level of conditioning when it comes to socially acceptable personality traits that we all receive in this world. And because we have such a deep-set yearning for belonging and connection, it's so deep-set, it's unconscious, and it's so rooted in our survival, we unconsciously repress any aspects of our personality, any aspects of ourself that don't fit the societally acceptable qualities or traits or the things that are approved of or the things that are deemed positive or attractive, right? When we have traits or aspects of us that come up that don't fit those molds, we tend to repress them. Why? Because we want to belong. We want to fit in. We want to be accepted. We yearn for that. Okay. And so you can understand why it can feel really difficult sometimes to be authentic, to be your full weird self, and to accept parts of yourself deep down that maybe aren't societally accepted. This is why, by the way, it's really difficult to do things like shadow work. This is why you have a shadow self in the first place, you guys. Like, a lot of the reason we repress certain aspects of the self, that they become part of the shadow self, and then we end up forming this protective identity that isn't really us, is because the parts of us we repress, we repress them because there's shame around them, because of the way that society would view them. So typically it's not really normal or okay to show that you have these ashamed, embarrassed, angry, prideful, fearful, insecure parts of yourself. We live in a society where it's a lot more approved of and you would fit in a whole lot more if you didn't show that stuff, or so we think. And if we just show the aspects of us that are successful, that are confident, that are funny, that are likable, right? So we have this fear that we won't be likable if we show these ugly parts of ourselves. Everyone's going to reject us. And then this is reinforced because maybe we do have a likable, fun persona who makes everyone giggle and laugh and who goes the extra mile for everyone around us. And that is getting a certain amount of approval from the people around us and the people in our lives. But deep down inside, we have this feeling of, well, if they only knew the goblins that I have in my basement. If they only knew that actually I can get really insecure, I can get really freaking mad. Sometimes I shout at my dog, sometimes I shout at my children. And this repression of these parts of you and expression of only some parts starts to build up a lot of shame internally because you start to feel like who you're expressing yourself to be is not really fully you, but you just can't bring yourself to show these other parts of you because what if everyone you ever loved and cared about turned on you once they finally knew your big dirty secret, right? This is the thing, you guys. Everybody has goblins in their basement. Everybody. Everybody, everybody, everybody has trauma. Everybody has parts of themselves that are repressed, that they have thrown into the dark, into the shadow, because everybody has been subjected to the same conditioning that you have, to a, to a degree, right? So we're all, we all have different parents, different families, different cultures we grew up in. Okay, cool. But the mass consciousness of humanity is on average within a range where we are all kind of subjected to very similar conditioning patterns.. And one of those is this of you. It's not okay to express this. And it is okay to be this likable version of you, this socially acceptable version of you. And so knowing that, knowing that everyone actually is operating within a very similar state as you are, everybody has goblins in their basement, everybody has repressed aspects of themselves, everybody's been through trauma, everybody's been hurt, and everybody when they get hurt, the protective pattern is to repress the part of them that was hurt or insecure or afraid, and then express a part of them that will protect that part, such as a perfectionist or a people pleaser, right? Or an overachiever. Those are your protective aspects of your personality that are protecting those more vulnerable aspects from ever getting hurt like that again. Now, this is where the fear of being seen comes in, because you're not afraid of being seen in your protective personality. That's fine. That feels safe to you. So the persona that you've been playing for a while, you've developed some level of familiarity in it. You know how people respond to it, and that feels okay. You know what to expect there. That's fine. When the fear of being seen really starts to come up, it's when you are thinking about displaying more parts of yourself than you have before. Okay, so it's like, for example, when I started on social media, the fear of being seen was very intense because I was presenting new parts of me, parts of me that were interested in mindset, parts of me that had certain thoughts, certain ideas. I was showing more authentic parts of me than I ever had before on social media in a public setting. I was making more of those parts visible. And so I was opening myself up to more potential rejection and criticism than ever before. Because here's the thing, I was showing up on social media beforehand, but I was just using social media like most people use it, just for my own personal use. And I had friends and people from school on there and blah, blah, blah. And before I was just posting powerlifting videos because I used to be a powerlifter. I would just post my training videos and I kept doing that even when I had this whole other side of me that wanted to talk about healing and mindset and spirituality. And this was such a huge entire were part of me. But I didn't want to share that. Because it felt safer to just show this like kind of watered down, like, just one little, one little expression of all of me like this, this, this persona that I was playing of like this powerlifter who it was me, it was a part of me, but it wasn't all of me. If that got rejected, that felt safer like that's better than actually who you are authentically getting rejected, right? What's more painful? A persona that you're playing that's not really the full, most honest, vulnerable expression of you getting rejected, or the full true you getting rejected? The true you getting rejected feels a lot scarier. It feels a lot more vulnerable. And so that is why we kind of run around in these performative personalities, in these personas, in these kind of half versions of ourselves or half expressed versions of ourselves, because we're okay expressing this amount of us. Because if this amount gets rejected and also the risk of this amount getting rejected feels a lot lower because we've already kind of expressed that amount and we're using like the socially acceptable parts and we're not rocking the boat too much. So that feels really safe, right? And even if that does get rejected, it's okay because they can't touch on this stuff because I haven't even expressed it, right? So you're kind of protecting these aspects of you that maybe you feel are a little bit different, that maybe you feel are even more authentic because you don't want those to get rejected because that would really make you feel like you don't belong. Okay, are you with me? So when I started on social media, I had a massive fear of being seen because it's like literally every single time. And this is where I'm saying it's layered. Every single time you step into a new level that exposes more parts of you, more authentic parts of you that you've never expressed before, it feels like you're getting stripped bare a little bit. It feels like you're on show a little bit, even if you're posting your little videos like I was doing on TikTok at first and no one's even fricking watching them. Like you have a few hundred views. It still feels like you're being stripped bare. You're like opening up and showing. It's almost like you're showing like these like vulnerable little parts of you. And it's really frightening. It's really, really scary because you're saying, okay, hello world, this is me, this is actually me. And then you're open to potentially people saying, I don't like that. You also open yourself up to losing resonance and connection with people that were resonating with your previous personality, which again, that loss of connection can bring on a lot of fear. And in my experience with the fear of being seen or the fear of being rejected, the only way to actually step into a new level of authenticity and self-expression that feels authentic is to first of all figure out when you're about to step into that level, what are you so scared of people seeing? What are you so scared that they're going to see and that they're going to reject? Because if you really, truly, honestly were strong in your self-concept, and loved all the parts of yourself, if you knew all the parts of yourself, if you knew you didn't have any monsters under your bed, if you weren't worried about that, and you knew all the good, the bad, the ugly, all the little parts of you, and you had already accepted them and already loved them, then there's nothing in the back of your mind when you're expressing yourself that you're trying to hide, that you're afraid that somebody else is going to see within you. And that is at the core of being seen, right? So you need to figure out what are you afraid that other people are going to see? What are you maybe trying to hide? And then you want to go straight to that thing and figure out how can you accept that? How can you love yourself unconditionally, even if you have this ugly part of you who's entitled, who's afraid, who's insecure, whatever? Because the moment you start accepting all of these parts that you normally hide is the moment you stop feeling scared to be seen. Because nobody can see something in you that you haven't already accepted within yourself. So it's not going to be like this big surprise where you suddenly start expressing yourself and somebody says, oh, well, you think you're this. It's like, I know, I've already kind of become aware of that and worked through that. Yeah, I am a little bit insecure about this. Yeah, I do get angry about this thing. It's not like a slap in the face that someone can use as a weapon against you because you're already aware of it. So when you own parts of you instead of repressing them, then they can't own you. All right? And when I started posting videos a couple of years ago, I remember I was so uncomfortable and I had to sit down with myself one day and I go, what am I so scared of people seeing here? And I wrote down everything I was scared of people seeing on a big piece of paper. I wrote down everything and all these little nuanced things came up like, that I'm kind of weird, that I maybe don't know what I'm talking about, that I'm new to this. And just really like, some of it was so insignificant when I wrote it down, I was like, okay, that really doesn't matter. Some of it was a little bit deeper. And when I wrote it down, I had to kind of sit with those parts of myself and really like give them a hug and just go, it's okay that I feel this way. It's okay that this is a part of me. I'm going to own it. And when I did that, it got easier and easier and easier for me to show up online authentically because it no longer felt like I had things to hide that I was scared that people were going to see because I was already seeing them. And I was already accepting them. So the fear of being seen stems from you not being brave enough to see yourself. And if there's one thing I've learned, you guys, as I've gone throughout this journey, and for those of you who've been on this journey with me the last couple of years, I love you so much. Thank you for being with me through all these versions and everything that's happened. One thing I have learned is, this is specific to my journey, but you might relate to this. In every single new level that I stepped into, it has required me to get comfortable with a greater level of visibility and exposure. Okay. And, you know, there's so many little nuanced things, like when I first started posting on TikTok, then I moved to YouTube, then I was just doing YouTube on my couch. So that was like there was still kind of— I wasn't— there wasn't as much of me exposed, right? If I made a mistake, I could just stop and no one would see it, right? Then I moved into the studio where it's like, if I make a mistake, well, the editor is going to see it, people are going to see it. So that required an even deeper level of seeing and accepting myself and being okay with the parts of me that might make a mistake so that if other people see it, it wouldn't be the end of the world to me, right? I have to be okay being seen even more, being seen in my mistakes, in my messiness, in my authentic flow, in my bad days showing up to the studio, right? So that was a greater level of being seen. Then when I started doing live stuff, so I started doing live calls in my community, that was another layer. You're live, right? You're being seen fully, authentically live. There's nowhere to hide and so on and so forth. And recently I hosted an event that was another layer because I was showing— this is where it's nuanced, right? So even if you don't relate to the being seen online examples, me hosting a higher ticket event, which was my Aligned Abundance 3-day event, that was a new layer of visibility because it was new parts of me being seen. It was me activating a different version of me, the version of me that wants to lead live journeys and guided meditations and live coaching and hold a container like that for 3 days straight. And so I had to introduce these new parts of me that had only just been born that had this desire to do this and this this vision that this is what we were going to step into now. And so I was introducing these parts of me that were going to host an event in a container for the first time, which was scary because those parts of me were being seen for the first time, right? So it's another layer of visibility because these leadership parts of me or whatever other parts of me were activated throughout that event, you know, the parts of me that could hold the space, guide the meditations, et cetera, et cetera. Those became visible during that experience where they had never been visible before to that degree, right? Or those nuanced little parts had never even been activated before in front of people. So that is where the fear of being seen comes in. When you're making previously invisible parts of you visible to people outside you, and it's like, oh my God, here I am, I'm being exposed. There's another thing been stripped off me, and I'm just showing this part of me. And you just have to trust yourself and accept yourself enough, accept your reasons for expressing those parts and accept the parts that you're expressing and be okay with whatever response you get externally because you know internally you are good with yourself, you are good with those parts of yourself. I had an even deeper layer of this come up yesterday. So I went on a big podcast yesterday. It's like a one of the biggest milestones. It is the biggest milestone actually in my online career so far. It was a huge stretch for my identity, for my nervous system, for everything, my self-concept. And so naturally it was really challenging and exposing. And there's been a lot of shadow work and different things happening in like fear processing happening in the last few months as I've been building up to going on this yesterday. And, you know, there were parts of me exposed yesterday that I'd never shown before because it was a new environment once again. It was a new setting once again. And so there were new parts of me being presented once again so I can show up to this experience fully. And because for every new experience that you step into, especially if you're growing into bigger experiences, you have to step into bigger versions, expressions, and parts of you, and you have to start expressing them outwardly. And you need to be okay with those being seen. Okay? So it's kind of like you're Bambi taking your first steps. That is how it feels when you keep leveling up and stepping into new arenas. And you have to be okay with being Bambi and being perceived as Bambi. You have to be okay with being that minimally viable version of you that steps into that next level. That unpolished, imperfect version of you. That's the minimally viable version of you to arrive at that next level. Even though your standards for yourself are probably up here, you have to be okay with being that first, like, beta version of yourself and being perceived as that version. And what you really need is the humility to take whatever feedback from that experience, whatever that brings up, and integrate it and grow from it and move on. This is how you grow. It's through the discomfort, growing pains, you guys. It is uncomfortable. So yesterday in this podcast, this was the most exposed visibility-wise that I've ever felt, because it's the biggest platform I've ever been on. It's, um, you're in the moment, you're with somebody, you're answering questions, you have to be on the ball. You can't really like prep or take a break. You just have to show up fully, honestly and authentically. And be in the moment. And so it was a whole other level of allowing myself to be seen at an intensity and a magnitude that I've never allowed myself to be seen at before. And, you know, throughout the whole process, I had to keep seeing, okay, oh, I'm scared to show this part of myself. No, it's okay. I love this part of myself. It's okay. It's a little bit different. Maybe I'm not like, you know, this guest or that guest that's been on this big podcast, but I'm me and it's okay. And so I had to process all of that again because it was again another level and a much bigger scale of visibility than I've ever experienced before. And I have so much respect for people who have massive levels of success and they're doing really big things like publicly and they're being perceived in such a massive way because the amount of like nervous system work, identity work, parts work, self-acceptance that it takes to keep growing in how much you can be seen and perceived is insane. Because again, it's hitting up against this biological need to be accepted and you're just exposing yourself more and more parts of yourself or you're, or, and you're exposing yourself to more and more people. So you're just opening up more and more potential for that rejection. But the more you do it, the easier it becomes because the more you tune inward and you go, what am I scared people are going to see? And how can I get to a point internally that I like myself, I love myself, I accept myself so much that I don't mind if I'm not liked by everyone who perceives me. That is how you start to overcome this fear. And that's the same at every level. Because the truth is it is actually safe now for you to be authentic. You're not in the tribe anymore. You're not 2 years old anymore. Yes, we are relationally dependent still. It's an integral human need for us to connect deeply with others and have intimate connections. However, you will not die if some people reject you. And actually, this is one of the really nice components of where we are at in humanity and the time that we're in. Is we actually have the freedom now to be authentic when we didn't way back in the day when we were in the tribe. Because if you started being like your crazy weird self, you know, it was a lot more difficult to find people who would resonate with you. If you were just in this little tribe and there was no one there who understood you, that would be— you'd be really limited. But now in the modern day, because we have social media, because we can travel, because we have so much freedom and we have the ability and the resources to connect with people all over the world, billions and billions of people all over the world. It is okay now to be your full authentic self and to express that in the world. Because yes, what will happen is you'll lose resonance with the people who don't vibe with who you really are. And some of them will judge you and some of them will criticize you. Some of them will reject you, but you don't need those people. That is not your tribe. So the modern-day tribe is actually found through your authenticity, through allowing yourself to be seen. Because how can the people who are meant to find you and connect with you and who resonate with you on a soul level, how can they find you if you're not being yourself? They cannot. You are invisible to them. And so that's the last thing I want you to remember when overcoming the fear of being seen is realize what you're sacrificing by not allowing yourself to be seen. You're sacrificing the best, most intimate, most vibrationally aligned connections that you could experience in this life. Yes, you are keeping connections that might be a little bit more superficial. You are keeping connections that resonate with a version of you that feels familiar and maybe a little bit safer, but it's at the cost of, first of all, a connection to yourself and your truth and your authenticity. But second of all, the beautiful connections and opportunities that can come only when you are in your authenticity. So practically, how can you start breaking out of this fear? Okay, do some inner work on everything I just said. Okay, write down what it is that you want to do that you're not doing because you are afraid that you are going to be rejected. Whatever level you are not stepping into, whatever you're not saying, whatever you're not creating, whatever you're not expressing. Why? What are you afraid is going to happen? What are you afraid people are going to do or say? And what people are you afraid are going to say these things? Get clear on this. And specifically, what are you scared that they are going to see? What are you scared they're going to see inside you? And then this is an opportunity to do shadow work, you guys. If you find out what you're scared they're going to see, you have to go and see that part of you. Now. So the second step, if you figure out, I'm scared they're going to see that I'm actually really insecure about this thing. Okay, go to the insecure part of you and speak to them. Sit with them. Understand them. Just observe them. Let them speak. Let them vent. Get to know them. You can do this in a journal. You can do this in a meditative state. Pull that part of you out of your body. Let them float in front of you. Say, insecure part. You feel into where it is. You pull it out. You talk to it. Okay. Hi there. I am here for you. I am just witnessing you with compassion. What's wrong? Let them vent. Let them vent. And you just witness and observe. No judgment. And you let them process whatever the insecurity is, and you just be there with them. And then you can reassure them and you can say, you know what? I love you. I understand you. You are a part of me. It's okay that you feel this way. I get it. I'm so sorry I pushed you away. Etc., etc. That is how you start to integrate that part of you. Okay, you can see more on shadow work in my other shadow work videos. Just look up Katie Clarke shadow work. But even if after that you still have a fear of being seen, please just remember that that is quite an inherent, integral fear that all of us have. It is normal. And the really final step to getting over that fear is to actually allow yourself to be seen. It's one of those things that's a catch-22. You can't know until you just go for it. You can't keep waiting on the sidelines, watching other people swim, try and figure out how to swim. You need to get in the water and then you're going to figure out how to swim. So you have to kind of start projecting out your authenticity and microdosing being seen a little bit. Let yourself be seen more authentically, maybe in a conversation, then let yourself be seen more authentically in your business or online. Then let yourself start expressing or creating something that feels better to you and take these little steps. To start showing your nervous system, hey, look, I did this. You're going to take the action. So you might post the video and your brain, your body, everything is going to go, ah, oh my God, oh my God, something's gonna happen. You're gonna be checking it, you're gonna be like, oh my God, oh my God, oh my God. You're gonna be calling your friend, you're like, oh my God, yeah, trying to like see if they saw it and all of this stuff. And it's gonna feel like a bomb is gonna go off, and then a bomb is not gonna go off, more than likely. Maybe someone might say, oh wow, saw your video. And that's going to be it. And you're going to teach your nervous system, your mind, your body that you didn't die. Okay? And then that's feedback for yourself. Okay, I can be seen more authentically and I won't die. In fact, it actually kind of felt good because now I'm finally liberating myself from this false persona and I'm starting to actually feel aligned with what I'm doing, which there is no better feeling on this planet, my friends. And so you start to realize and teach yourself, okay, it is actually safe. I'm okay. I'm okay. I can survive this., and then you do more and more and more and more. The times that it's most triggering is when you take a massive leap in being seen or a massive leap in visibility. But that is the time for the most growth and expansion. And when you do, you know, take on new opportunities or put yourself out there in a new way, don't expect it to always feel amazing. Expect it to feel like a stretch. Expect it to maybe bring up some things that are uncomfortable. And have the humility to actually look at those things. Like if someone gives you a negative comment or if somebody has some criticism for you, have the humility to maybe drop your ego a little bit. And if it is hurting you, just ask yourself whether there's any truth to that and whether there is any work that you, that you need to do. Okay. And this is something that will help you grow so quickly. Like sometimes we feel uncomfortable being seen because actually the way we're showing up, is not really aligned with our standards, or there is something internally that needs to be addressed that's skewing our behavior. Most of my transformation, my biggest moments of transformation have come from those moments of humility where I've really gone, okay, what do I need to take responsibility for here? Like, why does it feel so triggering to be seen like this or get this critique or this negative comment? Is there something there that I actually need to learn? That's the key words. So this actually, in a weird way, makes you immune to rejection because you're looking at it and you're going, okay, you don't take every rejection personally, but if you have the bandwidth to actually go, okay, oh, this is really unsettled something in me. What is this touching on? Is there something true in this? And is there something I can learn from this? I'll give you a really easy example from my life. One time, a friend, like, jokingly made a joke that I was always late. And I do have a very hard time perceiving time and being on time, something I was really working on. And it really triggered me, even though she said it in like a really lighthearted way. It really triggered me, but it didn't trigger me because of anything to do with her. I was not mad with her at all. I never even brought it up. Because I said, okay, this is upsetting me because I don't want to be late anymore. And the fact she just mirrored that back to me, the discomfort that I feel is because I actually breached my own inner standard within myself. And she's reflecting that truth back to me. So yeah, this is something that I need to work on. And thank you for that feedback. Do you see how this makes you immune to things? Because if you get a critique or something from someone, someone judges you or whatever, and you run it through this filter, you're either using it to empower and improve yourself and use it as a mirror to do some shadow work and release and get rid of anything that's actually restricting your growth, or it's not true, in which case you let it go and let it bounce off you because they don't know you and they're not speaking truth. It's not anything to do with you really, actually. So sometimes when you're stepping into a new layer of visibility or into being seen more. You might have this feedback. You might have to have the humility to take it or just develop a thick skin. Like, that's actually not true. I'm not going to take that on. And sometimes it might be that no one even says anything. It might be that you show up in a new arena in a new way and you just feel uncomfortable internally. And that's okay because there might be little nuances and things you need to learn and adjust and grow into. It's important that you don't resist that discomfort because it's trying to teach you and show you what you can improve and change so that you can show up even better, so you can be even more comfortable being seen in this new arena and in this new level. So all of that to say, have some humility, you know, when you are being seen on a greater scale, to take feedback from your own discomfort, your own inner stuff, not in a self-hate way, but in just like an honest, like, I love myself and I want to improve myself way. And even from critiques from other people. And if the critiques from other people, if, if they don't have anything to do actually with anything you're going through internally, and if, if it's not a mirror for anything that maybe you do need to look at, then it's nothing to do with you. It's everything to do with them. Let it go. And just in general, I want to remind you guys, when you step into a new arena, when you step into a new level, that level has a particular energetic vibration, okay? So you might be in rooms that you've never been in before, you might be around people you've never been in before, and all of that is going to be a mirror to show the parts of you that need to grow into this level to become even more vibrationally aligned with it. So you can start ascending through it and really start expanding into it. And so that's triggering, right? So for example, yesterday when I went on this podcast, this was so much bigger than anything I'd done before. It was a mirror of like an opportunity and people who were here energetically, right? And I'm here. And so that gap is a mirror to the growth that I have left to do. And you've got two options when you're presented with that. When you step into a new arena and a new level, you can project and you can run away from the stuff internally that maybe you need to work on to get to this level. You can start imitating and shapeshifting to try and mirror the person at this level,, or you can honestly look at the difference, the distinction, and the things you need to work on. And that is where the growth happens. That's the only way the growth is gonna happen. So in conclusion, the fear of being seen stops being so scary when you stop being scared of seeing yourself. So you're afraid of being seen, first of all, because you are afraid of seeing yourself. So how you start to unwind the fear of being seen or rejected by others is you stop running from and rejecting parts of yourself. That is the remedy, you guys. Okay, I love you all so much. Please do not let this fear slow you down. The path back is through accepting yourself so that anything that anyone else tries to reject, it doesn't faze you. I love you all so much. You are incredible. If you have a calling on your heart that is requiring you to be seen at a greater level, and to be opening yourself up to potentially being rejected on a greater level, then you are going to have to level up your ability to accept all the parts of yourself. That is your ticket in. Okay? And you owe it to yourself and you owe it to the people that you are meant to serve to do that and to become that version of you. You got this. I'm sending you so much love. I will see you guys in the next video.