Elay Amitay HaleviElite Trading Performance Coach

The reason you may be holding on to certain beliefs

19 May 2026 · 1 min

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In this monologue, the speaker explains that many of our core beliefs are retained unconsciously because they serve as a survival mechanism that keeps us aligned with our parents, caregivers, and loved ones. The need for relational closeness is presented as a deep, innate drive that makes us dependent on others more than any other species. Because these beliefs are tied to our sense of safety and belonging, they become integral to our identity and are extremely resistant to change, often operating below conscious awareness. The speaker emphasizes that this unconscious alignment explains why it can feel impossible to recognize or modify the beliefs we inherited from our family.

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A lot of the beliefs that we have, we are unconsciously holding on to those beliefs so that we can stay in congruence and alignment with mom and dad or with our caregivers or with our loved ones. We have this, like, embedded sense of survival where we think if we change our beliefs dramatically so that they're no longer aligned with our family or our loved one or our parents, we're gonna lose those people. This is deeply unconscious, but it's a very real thing. Your sense of survival and well-being is linked to your level of closeness to people in your life. And us as human beings, we are more relationally dependent than any other species. It takes us forever to get on our feet and get moving and grooving and independent in this world. So that is why this is so innate and so intrinsic, and that is why the beliefs that we adopt from our parents specifically can be really difficult to budge, to the point that it's almost difficult to see them because they're such an integral part of us. It's like a survival mechanism that we can't even see them, and we definitely find it hard to change them. Okay, so we keep beliefs that keep us close to others for this very reason.