Elay Amitay HaleviElite Trading Performance Coach

Whatever you perceive as “painful” you will always avoid

28 Aug 2024 · 1 min

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This is a short excerpt from a YouTube video by Elay Amitay Halevi arguing that people avoid activities they perceive as painful because they have mentally linked those activities to pain. The speaker uses a 5k morning run as an example of someone who links the activity to pleasure versus someone who links it to pain, then generalizes to eating habits and interpersonal authenticity. The practical advice is to analyze and reframe why an activity feels painful, then intentionally attach strong positive associations to doing it and negative associations to not doing it (playing small).

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You have one person who gets up in the morning and they run a 5k every single morning. They link massive amounts of pleasure with getting their 5k run done in the morning. Okay, Someone else may link massive amounts of pain with that because they're gonna be tired, yada yada yada. But what you're telling yourself about these things is the key and you can do that with everything. How you're eating, how you interact with people. Like if you're scared that when you talk to someone and you are just unapologetic, authentic loud whatever you're scared to be, whatever you're trying to hide away and play small as there's some painful link that you're making with that, there's some reason you're hiding it away. So you need to get into why you think that's going to be painful, break it down and then link massive amounts of pleasure with doing that and massive amounts of pain with not doing that with playing small.