David Ghiyam argues you must evolve as a person before finding your soulmate, or you'll damage both of you. He uses the metaphor of pouring fine wine into a dirty Styrofoam cup: an unprepared person ruins the relationship, no matter how good it could be.
I know you're fixated on what you want now, but realize that you are going to evolve, and the faster you evolve, the faster you're going to get to your true, true essence. And that is also the greatest way to have fulfillment. I often tell people, if you met your soulmate too early or too soon, you will hate them, they will hate you, and you will get divorced, and you will destroy them. People think like a soulmate relationship is that which makes me happy, no matter what. You know, if you pour a $5,000 bottle of wine into a dirty Styrofoam cup that you just drank coffee from, this wine is no longer enjoyable. You do taste the premium quality of the wine. The vessel is what's important. Not the liquid, not the energy. The energy is going to be compromised by a dirty vessel.
