If you want something, it already exists and is waiting for you. A workshop with 15 single women in their mid-30s and 40s revealed how hidden beliefs about autonomy and fear of limitation sabotage what they consciously desire, like a parking brake on while the foot is on the gas.
People think like, how will I ever find love? Or is this meant for me? Or will I ever find my purpose? If you desire means that this energy exists causing you to desire it. You will never want something that doesn't already exist waiting for you to manifest it. I remember once teaching a group of women, 15, like, really type A personalities, great souls, and they're in their mid-30s to early 40s, all single, and they're like, we want you to teach us the secrets of how we can find our soulmate. So I said, here. I said, well, what do you all share in common? You're all very successful. You all know how to manifest. Why can't you manifest a relationship? What we realized at the end of the session was there's a big part of them that wants love. There's another part of them that's hidden. They don't talk about. They love being single. They love their autonomy. They don't want to lose their bodies to having children. They don't want somebody telling them what to do. They don't want to share a bathroom. They associate a relationship with limitation. And so what happens by the third or fourth date? They begin to sabotage or look for what's wrong. And so everyone who's listening. If there's a part of your life that keeps getting stuck, it means there's either a limited belief system around deserving or a competing belief system where you are causing some form of subconscious sabotage to happen. It's like you have the parking brake on, but your foot's also on the gas, and you're wondering why the car's not moving.
