Increasing Self Esteem Made Simple

You start small every time you keep a promise. Guys, listen carefully. Every time you keep a promise to yourself, your self esteem grows slightly. Like, I don't know if you get the magic of that, but every time you make a promise and keep it, your self esteem goes up a little bit. And the bigger the promise you make and you keep it, the bigger uplift you get in your sense of self worth. I am curious, I really am curious. How many of you have ever had the experience, okay, this is the question. How many of you have ever had the experience where the present you is really sure about what the future you should do, but then the future you didn't agree and didn't do it? And who's had that experience? Yeah, me too. Yeah, the present me is absolutely certain I'm going to be doing that and doing this and making that happen. Then the future me gets there and it's like, I don't know about that. It's funny that the present me can always delegate to the future me beautifully, but the future me doesn't always agree. And so one of the reasons for taking notes is so that the present you can listen to the wisdom of the past you, because you've captured your ideas, you've captured the breakthroughs. Yeah, I want you to really get that. That's important. And before we go into the content, I want to share one of the most powerful things I ever did for myself in personal development. One of the most powerful things that if you were to ask me if I was sitting in an interview, if you have a podcast and you're interviewing me, you asked me, Eric, you know, you've done all the study and you've seen all these different people and had all these great mentors. What is the thing that changed your life the most? And the first thing I would say is I radically changed my relationship with food. If your relationship with food is off base, it's incredibly difficult to function as a human being. Your thoughts are slower, your memory's not so good, your moods and emotions are messed up. And remember your emotions. We'll talk more about this soon. Are the compass. That's like your gps. Your emotions reward you and tell you good, bad, good, bad. And if they're off, then you're not getting good feedback. So that's the first thing. But the second thing is the thing I want to share with you now, and that is that I saw this man speaking. His name was Bob Romito. I've never heard of him since, but I do remember his name. And he gave this Fabulous talk. I was 21 years old. And what he said was, your wealth is not the money you have. It's not the cars and the houses and the jewelry and the trips and all that kind of stuff. That's a form of wealth, a financial abundance, if you will. But what also is wealth? What also is wealth is your worth as a human being. Your word. Do you do what you say you're going to do? Do you keep your word? Because if you lost everything and you're fundamentally the kind of person who keeps their word, well, the odds are you'll be able to attract it all back to you. Because one of the things that works in attraction, if you really want to understand this whole concept of Law of Attraction, one of the things that works really well with Law of Attraction is when you follow your word, right? When you follow your word, your word to others, but also your word to yourself. That's the really tough one. And one of the things he pointed out was that we have watered down the word promise completely, haven't we? Like, here's a question for you. If. And remember, be interactive in the way we answer these things. But if I'm in a movie and I'm the hero of the movie, okay, I'm the hero of the movie, and I'm getting on a spaceship, and I'm gonna go fight the bad guys, and you're my love interest or my daughter or somebody really important, and you're like, oh, but, Daddy, please don't go. And I say to you, I'll be right back. I promise. Am I ever coming back? No. That's the clue. In Hollywood, the minute somebody promises they'll be back, they're never gonna be back. Well, in a weird way, the word promise has been watered down where we can promise stuff. And maybe we don't really maybe think. We think promise means I'm going to give it my very best effort. I'm going to give it my very best effort. No, promise doesn't mean that at all. Promise means, come hell or high water, nothing will stop me. I'm absolutely going to get this done. And I want you guys to all take on that definition of promise from now on. And so here's how it works. Somebody says to you, hey, will you come over to my place for my dinner party on Thursday? You can say, yep, I intend to be there. I do. Do you promise? No, I don't promise. Why not? I don't know. I mean, there could be a pandemic. There could be a pandemic. And that Guy from the Apprentice could end up president and the world would be in a weird and maybe then I wouldn't want to come over to your house for dinner. So you don't promise. You understand? You can say, yes, I intend, but I don't promise. But now somebody comes along and says to you, hey, you know, I'm getting married. I want you to come to my wedding. Will you be there? Yep. Yeah, I'm coming. Do you promise? I promise that if it is at all possible for me to be there, I will be there. Do you hear the distinction now? I'm allowing it out. You know, if there's a major event, if you know, what do they call that, a force of nature or an act of God takes place. Okay? But I've promised that I will be there if it's at all possible for me to be there. Now, I want you to know that when I first learned this from Bob, I decided I was in. And the entire year after that, I didn't break a single promise. Not one promise. I didn't break a single promise. And there was one thing that really helped me to do that, and that was I didn't make any. I didn't make any promises. I just didn't make any. And then I slowly started making them again. I slowly started getting comfortable with making promises. But here's my real question for you. I want to know honestly, by show of hands, how many of you feel like it's easier to keep your promise for somebody else than it is to keep your promise to yourself? Raise your hand if you think that's true. Yeah, no kidding. Hey. And so what I want you to know is the real gift that I gave myself all those years ago is that I learned to keep my promises to me. I do. And I'm very, very careful about making them. I am. I'm very careful about making them. But it's one of the ways that I managed to remember when I wanted to change my relationship with food, There was no Wildfit. I couldn't go sign up for Wildfit. I had to figure it out for me. And so one of the things I figured out was promises. But I learned something about this, and I want you to hear me about this before we jump into the rest of this program here. I really want you to hear this. You start small every time you keep a promise. Guys, listen carefully. Every time you keep a promise to yourself, your self esteem grows slightly. Like, I don't know if you get the magic of that, but every time you make a Promise and keep it. Your self esteem goes up a little bit and the bigger the promise you make and you keep it, the bigger uplift you get in your sense of self worth. This is one of the greatest self esteem building things you could ever do is make a promise to yourself and keep it. But it can be like a drug. It can be like a drug. It can. That's what happened to me. I was in, I was making promises, I was keeping them, I was like rocking the world. I was making more money than I ever had before. I mean it changed. My health had completely transformed. It was absolutely incredible. And then one day, and by the way, this is a quote, not a statement I'm making right now, this is a quote of something I said in the past and that I will never say again. So this is not a promise, this is a quote of a promise. And I said to myself, I went, that's it. I want to totally get fit. I'm going to work out every single day for a year, I promise. Oh my God. It was the worst promise in the history of promises. And I kept it. I kept it and it was really tough. There were times when I was sick, there was times when I had been on a long flight and I was tired and I arrived in a city and I was like barely able to get into the hotel room and I got undressed and I'm sliding into bed and I'm like, oh my God, the promise. And then I so angry with myself that I made and I get up and I had calibrated what a minimum workout was and I did that workout and then I went back to bed and I did that for a year. And I want you guys to know something. I will never do that again. Ever. I will never do that again. I am much smarter now about the promise I keep. But here's my question for you. How many of you think that by keeping that incredible promise that when I came to the end of that year, how many of you think that my self esteem had taken a huge climb, right? If I was able to keep a promise of that magnitude, clearly my self worth was going to go up. And that's exactly what happened. And so to this day I continue to do that. Here's why I want you to know this today. One of the shifts that I want you to make, and we're going to talk about these shifts in a minute, but one of the shifts that I want you to make is I want you to make this shift that a promise means absolute. I will do this. I will do this within the construct of my promise. I want you to switch. I want us all to switch. I want us to be the change we want to see in the world. How would it be if people in their campaigns kept the promises they made in their political campaigns? Can you imagine the world would be a much better place because they say all the right stuff in campaign. They make campaign promises, but we know that they are not going to keep them. I want you, if you're ever running for office and you're ever out there going to be a politician, then somebody asks you, what are you going to do about unemployment? You go, we're going to do this, this and this. And they go, do you promise? You go, no, I'm going to do the very best I can, but I'm going to have to work with Congress and the Senate or the Parliament, whatever country you're in. I don't promise, but I promise that I will do my absolute best to make it happen. I want us all to think that we can do that, that we can keep promises. So here's my tough question for you. How many of you guys are willing to play the game with me that you are absolutely, from here on out, going to treat promises as an absolute that you will keep? How many of you are prepared to do that with me? Do you promise? Don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't. That's a trick question because I only want you to start promising when you're ready to truly keep them. Truly, truly keep them. I hope that that makes sense for you.