Eric EdmeadesVisionary Thinker. Evolutionary Strategist. Transformation Architect.

Why You Feel Mom-Guilt

Name: Why You Feel Mom-Guilt
Uploaded: 2023-08-01T18:02:43+00:00
Duration: 38 s
Channel: Eric Edmeades
Description: A conversational YouTube video (Eric Edmeades with another speaker) exploring "mom guilt": why many mothers feel persistent guilt when separated from…

1 Aug 2023 · 1 min

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A conversational YouTube video (Eric Edmeades with another speaker) exploring "mom guilt": why many mothers feel persistent guilt when separated from their children, how modern living amplifies instincts, and comparisons to traditional societies (Hadza) and evolutionary contexts (e.g., ancestral safety concerns like predators). The speakers argue that some guilt is adaptive (protective) but modern expectations make it excessive and misplaced.

One of my least.
Favorite things in the world is mom guilt.
This idea that two people are supposed to raise one child is insane. And now, to make it worse, not only do we sometimes expect two people to raise one, but we expect two people to raise two.
Or one person.
Sadly, too often.
A woman on her own. And you know why it's so difficult?
Because you weren't built for that.
I have been out to go and visit with the Hadza Bushmen, and I can tell you that when I've been in their camps.
They want to breastfeed, they do it. They don't have to have a special booth in the airport where we hide our women in shame.
And so many of the instances, instincts that we have are a mismatch with.
The way we live. Because if you.
Imagine 30,000 years ago.
You'Ve got a baby, say it's 2ish.
Toddlerish, and it's crawling over here and you're here. No mom guilt make sense, Tiny bit of mom guilt because there are hyenas.
A little more mom guilt. That's what it's for. It's not for you to feel this horrible, seething, knife stabbing pain when you're not with your child, even when your child is doing something socially healthy for itself.
And yet mothers punish themselves with this.