Cost of love? Give up control

The cost of being in love is giving up control. You can't have it both ways. Like, the feeling of limerence, of being in love, is like an exhilarating, out-of-control, topsy-turvy feeling. And it really is. It's like a person who is struck by Cupid's arrow, let's say, like, everything goes out the window. Like, they will quit their job, they'll move, they'll leave their family, they'll change their religion, they'll do all kinds of things that are out of character because it's almost like all the rules no longer apply and they stepped into a parallel universe that has different laws of physics. If you want to have that kind of emotional exhilaration, you have to surrender control. It's like part of what makes roller coasters thrilling is that you're being taken for a ride. You can't be riding a roller coaster while simultaneously dictating how the roller coaster progresses, right? That doesn't work. You either sit there and you get taken for a ride and you do the loop-de-loops and you wee and all that jazz, or you design the roller coaster. Yeah.