Eric Siu discusses why sexual experience matters for men, arguing that confidence and competence as partners depend on it. The conversation challenges traditional ideas about chastity and explores how gendered expectations shape male development in relationships.
Let's say you're a woman and you want to be valued by a guy. You need experience, right? But then, like, if you gained experience with sex, then, like, you're also giving up your chastity, right?
Yes. I think, to be honest, it might be more important for men to have the experience than for women to have the experience. But who are they going to have the experiences with? Do you understand? Yeah, it's tricky. This is because women tend to choose competent men over incompetent men. And often women sort of assume that men are just supposed to know what to do with them, which is certainly not the case. You ladies don't come with an instruction manual. So it takes a long time for a man to be a confident, competent lover and partner, which leads to the sort of uncomfortable conclusion that men kind of have to practice.
