Cope with The Ups and Downs of Infertility With These Tools

Take 2. It's been a crazy morning with my internet. So sorry. I'm Erica Hoke. If you're new to watching my videos, I'm a fertility coach and the infertile mom of 4. And today we're focusing— and actually this series that I'm doing, we're focusing on coping with the ups and downs of the infertility journey. And today specifically, I want to give you some tools in your toolbox 3, but we're going to focus on one of them that, that you can use to deal with the ups and downs. Because if you can't cope, you can't continue. And what I hear from my clients and from my Community is that the mental health portion of it is the hardest to deal with, right? So you have your procedure, you've got the things that the doctor's telling you to do, or you're working on your health. But if you can't get past the mental barriers and honestly the relationship barriers, like drop below, um, drop me a message below and tell me some of the things that you deal with in your relationship that, uh, really make it hard to cope with the ups and downs of infertility. I would love to know and I can address them in a, uh, another video. Um, so the tools that we're talking about today, there are a few, but we're going to talk about AFM, Aroma Freedom Technique. And if this is something that is completely foreign to you and sounds like hoodoo voodoo, it is not. It is very, very based in science. And it's super helpful because Aroma Freedom Technique accesses a part of the brain that you can't, that is, what's the word? Unconscious. That's the word that I'm looking for. It's an unconscious portion of the brain that you can't access any other way. But the essential oils can access it. So it's one of the tools. The other two tools that I would recommend that you look into and that we talk about in my program and provide resources in the forums and videos, my Accelerate Your Fertility Bootcamp, is EFT, which is tapping, neurotapping, which is great also for dealing with stress, especially in places that are awkward, like work when you go to the bathroom, get your cycle, and then all that flood of emotion. So that helps to calm the central nervous system. And I'm sure you know the benefits of mental health counseling and talk therapy. So EFT— or sorry, I'm back to AFT, Aroma Freedom Technique. Well, the aroma portion of it— and I didn't plan to do this, but I have them right here because they're so helpful. This is the aroma portion of it. It's essential oils, and it's not essential oils that you get at the gas station or Walmart or Target or anything like that. I only use one brand. We're not going to talk about that right now, but if you want to reach out to me, we can, we can talk about that. But it's a sourcing issue and it's a quality issue that is very specific to what we're trying to do. So if the chemistry of the essential oil is not correct— so we're talking about, like, I'm not going to go down this rabbit hole, but the molecular structure of the essential oil matters because it creates a certain frequency, right? So here's all the science behind it for those of you like me that love science. So there's— that's why quality matters, is because of molecular structure translating into a frequency that can help release negative emotions. So just briefly, I want to just do like a very high level of what Aroma Freedom is. Aroma Freedom technique, AFT, is, is it's not you divulging external emotion to a practitioner. So it's practitioner-led, but you're not verbalizing a lot of emotions or anything like that, but you are internalizing. And as the person is walking you through with a series of questions, you're pausing and you're doing the Szent-Tent, right? You're doing the Szent-Tent. You're dropping some oil in your palm and then covering and inhaling and walking through a series of feelings and emotions and where you feel them in your body. And you start with a desired outcome. So if you're having, if you're having a lot of repressed emotions, if you're having a lot of negativity in your relationships and your marriage, Or even limiting beliefs, like maybe deep down inside you feel like one, you know, that I hear all the time is that people, and I used to feel this way too, that infertility was like I was being punished in some way by God, or that you're never going to be able to get pregnant, right? So if you keep telling yourself over and over again, this isn't gonna work, I can't get pregnant, um, your body is responding to that subconsciously, consciously, all the things. Neuroplasticity tells us that, the science of neuroplasticity. So, um, I provide some tools and resources, as I mentioned before, um, in the program to help walk you through. Um, it comes as part of the package. Um, for Accelerate Your Fertility Bootcamp, and it's just one of the tools in your toolbox, um, that I give you to help cope so that you can continue. All right, health and blessings to you guys. Bye-bye.