PPI #158: The 12 Surprising Signs of Mentally Strong People

Life can be challenging, but it's impossible to beat someone who refuses to surrender. And today I'm going to take you through the 12 surprising signs of mentally strong people. Use it as a checklist and ask yourself to what degree are you doing each of these 12 things so that you can become that person who refuses to surrender and no matter what, achieves what you set out to achieve.

Hi, I'm Eric Partaker and I've been recognized as one of the top entrepreneurs in the country and I'm also the author of two best selling books including the Three Alarms. So, 12 surprising signs of people who are mentally strong. Number one, you cannot be taken advantage of. A mentally strong person. They don't let people just walk all over them. They don't let people extort them. They don't let people push them to do things that they don't want to do. They stand up for themselves and they do not allow themselves to be taken advantage of. So here's a question for you. Where in your life are you perhaps allowing somebody else to walk on you? Where in your life are you letting somebody take advantage of you? And if it was the best, most strongest, courageous version of you, how would that version advise you in this situation? How would that version of you direct you in terms of your next steps? So are you being taken advantage of and what are you going to be doing about it? Number two, you have the ability to say no and be true to yourself. This may or may not relate to the first point, but the thing is, is that you can't just be a yes man or a yes woman and just say yes to absolutely everything. What are your truths? What are your ambitions? What are your dreams? What are the things that you want to be doing? And are all the things that you're constantly saying yes to, are they supporting you in that regard? You can't be a martyr and just give yourself completely to others. You also have to work on your own goals, your own dreams. Yes, of course, being of service to the world and helping others achieve their dreams creates incredible benefits for both the people that you're helping and for you. But don't lose yourself in the process and make sure that you're saying no and you're staying true to yourself, such that you can be devoting enough of your time and energy to the things that will also help you achieve your dreams. Number three, following on from the previous point, you do not try to please everyone. Again, a question for you. Do you feel like you're trying to please all the people in your life all the time. Ask yourself, what is that doing for you? Is it helping you again become the person that you want to be? Is it helping you achieve more, do more? Is it helping you feel, feel better about yourself, become the best version of yourself? Or is it draining you? Or is it sometimes making you question, what is it that I'm doing here? Why am I doing this? Make sure that you're not trying to please everyone. And once again, make sure that you're also trying to please yourself. Number four, you find solutions to your own problems. Now, this doesn't mean that you can't ask for help, because that could be part of the way in which you find a solution for a problem that you're trying to solve. But you take the leadership of finding that solution. You take the lead, you take ownership that you need to find the solution to the problem yourself. You can't wait for others to come in and solve your problems for you. So to what degree are you finding solutions to your problems? Number five. You admit when you're wrong. One of the strongest ways to develop mental strength is to acknowledge that you're not always right. To acknowledge the fact that you make mistakes. Because they're not mistakes really. At the end of the day, they're learning opportunities. They're learning moments. You might have said something that you regret to maybe a friend or a family member or a colleague. And that is an opportunity for you to learn and actually become mentally stronger in the process by admitting where it was that you went wrong. Maybe you did something that was wrong. Admit it, Be vulnerable. By the act of doing this, the act of acknowledging your mistakes, in that same breath, you're also becoming stronger. So mentally as well. Number six, a mentally strong person, they do not mind their own company. They have the ability to sit there in silence if needed, just with themselves, because they know that there is mental strength in solitude. Number seven, you are patient to wait to see the results of your actions. You don't need everything right now, all the time. You don't need instant gratification, instant results. You're able to play the long game knowing that the pain of discipline that you experience today is much cheaper than the pain of regret of having not taken action towards the things that you know you should be working on. Number eight, you do not let the opinions of others affect you. You're resilient to that, even antifragile to that whereby if people are saying negative things towards you, it only makes you stronger. Number nine, you enjoy helping others out of kindness, not obligation. Mentally strong people still have enough in them to give to others. They still have enough in them to help people purely out of kindness. Number 10, the world does not owe you anything. You are not entitled. You recognize as a mentally strong person that the success that you want in life, the benefits that you want in life, the positive experience that you want in life, that they require dedication, hard work and effort, and you're willing to put that in. Number 11, you are adaptable and stay strong in uncomfortable and unpredictable situations. You know that experiencing the stress of those very situations is the very thing that also makes you stronger. And you look forward to those. And you look forward to those moments. You embrace them, you step towards them because you know your strength and development lies through them and within them. Number 12. You exhibit empathy and compassion. Empathy in that you're able to think and feel from another person's point of view, even if it's not your own. And compassion. And that you're able to extend your heart out to someone else and to comfort and console them and help them get through whatever that challenging moment is. And you can only do both of those things if you're mentally strong yourself. And I'd love to hear from you. So don't forget to leave a comment and a rating as well. And if you'd like to get a copy of my new book, the Three Alarms, please head over to my website@ericpartaker.com that's ericpartaker.com where you can pick up a free digital copy of my new best selling book, the Three Alarms. Sam.