PPI #160: Jordan B Peterson – Mental Strength for Overcoming Fear & Building Your Dreams

Today I'm going to teach you five things from Dr. Jordan Peterson that you can use to overcome fear and build a life of your dreams.

Hi, I'm Eric Partaker and I've been recognized as one of the top entrepreneurs in the country and, and I'm also the author of two best selling books including the Three Alarms. So number one, you need to identify and weed out the things that are wrong for you. And I like to think about this from an energy point of view. Think through in your mind what are the things that give you energy and what are the things that drain you of energy? And you could think about places, activities and people. What are the places, activities and people that generate energy in your life, that make you feel abundant, full of happiness, strength, courage, positivity, a desire to keep going. And then equally on the flip side of that coin, what are the people, activities and places that drain you of energy, that make you not want to carry on, that make you maybe a little bit miserable, that make you question things too often or more so than you would like, especially when it makes you question things about yourself and list those those things out and then ask yourself on the people front, for example, how do I spend less time or no time with the energy drainers and dedicate more time with the energy generators? Same with activities. How do I spend less time doing these activities that drain me of energy and more time doing the activities that give me energy? Same with places. How can I spend less time in the places that bring me down and more time in the places that bring me up? So in summary, identify and weed out the things that are wrong for you. Number two, make a schedule. Because what gets scheduled gets done. And I do this in a couple of different ways, actually a few different ways. So one is at the start of every single week, typically on a Sunday afternoon, I look at my week ahead and I ask myself, what are the top three things that I want to achieve this week? And then I look at my days, Monday through Sunday, and I drop those things in into the blank spaces that I have throughout the week. So what gets scheduled, gets done. And then when I end every single day, I end my day by deciding what are the top three things I'm going to do the next day. And once again, I schedule those activities in as appointments with myself and I show up for those appointments just as I would an appointment with someone else. And when I get to the end of a quarter, I ask myself four questions. What went well? What didn't? What did I learn? And as a result of those three things, what is it that I want to focus on in the quarter ahead? And once again, I plan that into the quarter. What am I going to do the first month, the second month, and the third month? The point being, once again, what gets scheduled, gets done. Number three, you need to live with purpose and meaning. Why do you exist in the world? What is the reason you you are here? It's not just to make money. It's not just to laugh and have a good time. There needs to be a deeper meaning and purpose. Of course those things are nice. You know, I'm not going to lie. It's nice to be able to have money to buy and experience the things that you want to do in life. It's wonderful to laugh and to have a good time. But you need a deeper purpose than that. I'll share with you mine. Abraham Maslow, preeminent psychologist, he said that in his research he estimated that only 2% of people operate at their full potential in life, become all that they're capable of being. And that always struck a chord with me because it made me realize that, wow, there must be something deeply wrong or something not going well or right that keeps 98% of people stuck together not able to achieve their fullest in work and life. And so my deeper purpose, to get people to break free from that 98%, to join that 2% club. So that 2% club, it widens and becomes bigger over time so that more people are achieving and operating at their fullest capabilities. Because that is our path to deepest fulfillment. And another side benefit of that would be that I believe if we can get more people operating to their fullest potential, we can solve more of the world's problem problems. So that's just a quick example of my deeper sense of purpose and meaning. And I ask you to think about it for yourself. What's your life purpose? Why are you here? Go deep. Come up with that strong, compelling, powerful reason that will power you not just in the good times, but also in the low times. Number four, stop saying things that make you weak. Give yourself, arm yourself. Empower yourself with, with positive self talk. Now you can do that with a simple affirmation practice at the start of your day by just reading off a series of statements that mean something to you, that empower you, that invigorate you, that make you feel confident, happy and determined in your work and in your life. So stop saying things that are weak and instead say, say things to yourself that empower you and that take you to a new level that elevate you to your best self. Number five Aim High and Dare to Do Difficult Things When I was growing up, my parents used to say, eric, if you shoot for the moon, even if you miss, you'll still land amongst the stars. And I've always believed that, and I've experienced it as well. Every time I've set a goal for myself that feels too lofty, too ambitious. Often, to be frank, I don't achieve exactly what that goal was. But I land somewhere near and around it. And by having something so high to aim for, I end up at a higher spot than I would have gotten had I not set something that high at all. And also daring to do difficult things. It's the difficult things that lead to our growth. It's the difficult challenges that make us stronger. So ask yourself, sit back and ask yourself right now, what do I know that I should be doing in my work, in life that scares me, but I know is important for my growth and development? And then step into that and dare to do the things that are difficult. Because it is through those things that you'll also find your path to growth, to freedom, to fulfillment, and to happiness. And I'd love to hear from you. So don't forget to leave a comment and a rating as well. And if you'd like to get a copy of my new book, the Three Alarms, please head over to my website@ericpartaker.com that's eric ericpartaker.com where you can pick up a free digital copy of my new best selling book, the Three Alarms.