PPI #76: How to Create Family Values

Hey everyone, Today I want to share with you a nice story and a few simple techniques that you can use to create a strong sense of family values in your home. Because leadership starts at home, which will also create a much tighter and stronger connection under your own roof.

So I want to share with you a quick story. Recently, I was coaching one of my clients, the CEO of a local company here in the uk, and he shared with me a set of values that him and his family had created at home to guide their behaviors and actions, much in the same way that you would create a sense of or a set of values in your workplace. And I really love the approach and it's the inspiration for today's video. And so this particular CEO with his family, they would have this habit of asking themselves regularly, are we doing this right? But what was really cool and beautiful about this is that right stood for the set of values that they had all agreed on as a family. So it was actually spelled RIT with three E's, right? And the R was for respect. The I was for integrity. The T was for teamwork. And then the three E's were for excellence, environment and enjoyment. So are we doing this right? Was basically a question that the family would ask themselves in a given situation or a decision that they're trying to make to ask themselves, well, are we upholding these things that we find value valuable? Are we doing this with respect? Are we doing this with integrity? Are we doing this as a team? Are we doing this with excellence? Are we doing this with respect to our environment? Are we doing this with enjoyment? And so here's three simple things that you can do, borrowing from this story to create a sense, a set of family values at home that will create a stronger, deeper connection and help guide your behaviors. Again, much in the same way that is done in a company. I mean, think about it this way. Isn't it funny that we create set of values for companies, but we never think about doing that for this most important unit of all, right? Our family unit at home. Where's the values for our family? You know, where are the guideposts to guide our behavior? So what you should do and what I have done with my family is do a sit down meeting with all of your family members and agree, well, what are the values? What are the things that we value in each other? What are the things that we don't value? You know, what are our likes? What are our dislikes? And create a list of words. Not too many words. Maybe it's three to five or six words maximum, and then play around with synonyms of those words or just reorganize them, however you know the order in which you lay them out so that you can create step number two, an acronym, a memorable acronym that you'll never forget, similar to the client story that I shared, you know, are we doing this right? Where right stood for the six family values. And once you've had your family meeting, number one, to set your values, number two, organize those, you know, have some fun with them. Organize them into a memorable acronym that you can always, you know, easily, you know, bring up and never forget. And then number three, just get into the habit of asking the question, are we doing this with whatever that acronym is? So try those three things, family meeting, to set your values, reorganize them into a memorable acronym, and then get into the habit of always asking yourself as a family, are we doing or behaving with whatever that acronym is? And you'll suddenly see that your behavior and the way you operate as a family, as a unit starts to coalesce and starts to form around the very things which you find to be most valuable when which you value as a family. So I hope you've enjoyed that. And if you head over to my website@ericpartaker.com you can also subscribe to my weekly Peak Performance Insights newsletter.