Feeling Off In Your Business? Start Here

One day you are looking at your to do list, calendar promises you made to others and it hits you what the f I'm actually doing. This space is not a failure. It's not a detour. It's actually a doorway between the person who got you here, where you are and the person who will take you to new levels. This is the Leap Live and Laminate Podcast. Hi, I'm your host, Esther Godor. Twelve years ago I took a bold leap. I left my corporate role, I moved to a new country and I built a business from scratch in my fifth language. This podcast is for new and aspiring entrepreneurs who are ready and eager to turn their ideas into something real and and thriving while making a lasting impact. Whether you are contemplating on leaving your nine to five or you are already on your entrepreneurial journey, this is your go to place for honest stories, actionable strategies and real talk around building a business and life you love. Your best life and success story are still ahead. Let's write them together. Hey there. Welcome to this brand new episode of Leap Live and Lemonade. Today is a solo episode and I wanted to address something that comes up a lot with my clients in our conversations and also in my inner world too. It's that moment when one day you are looking at your to do list, your offers, your products, everything that's waiting for you to be done, calendar promises you made to others and it hits you what the f I'm actually doing. If you've ever been in that headspace or if you are right now in the middle of it, let me tell you this. This feeling doesn't mean you are failing. This means that you are at a threshold between the person who got you here, where you are and the person who will take you to new levels from here. And this moment, this in between space is not a failure. It's not a detour. It's actually a doorway. Let's call it what it is. WTF mode. It's not just a single doubt or confusion. It's a complete, full on energetic state with which holds you, keeps you constantly on, constantly in fight or flight mode, constantly ready. Your mind might be foggy. You are questioning yourself whether everything you do even makes sense. You are questioning your whole path, your progress, why you are doing this all. And you might even think, okay, this is fine, let's just push through or I will figure this out or let's see if I can get a new strategy. But here is the truth. If we stay too long in this mode, if we stay too long in this Alert mode. This stops being just a season and it becomes our standard. We normalize it, we build on it, we build from it. And we might be building businesses where everything is based on pressure and everything is created from a place of hurry, from a place of having it, having to have everything done for yesterday. And yeah, a place of constant pressure instead of steady, stable power. And at this moment we lose touch with our original spark, the reason why we even started this whole thing. And we lose touch to a version of ourselves who knows how to lead, who knows how to make decisions and grow from alignment. And if you are in that space right now, I want to stop here for a second because I created something for you. It's a five day secret podcast series and it's called It's a five day secret podcast series and it's called from what the F I'm Doing to I Got this in five Days. Each episode of this five day secret podcast helps you take one step out of this brain fog, out of this. Let's just hold my head down. I'm gonna figure this out. I'm just gonna push through and takes you one step closer to making decisions out of alignment and being in control of the whole situation and enjoying the process again. You can start listening to it right now at astrogoldor.com/reset. That's the the public friendly version. I also have the URL astergodor.com WTF. You will find the same information there. I just try not to use that too much on socials. After my recent blockage and limitation by meta, I don't want to give them reasons to limit me again. So I'm using the link reset on socials. But you will find it on both links and you can get started with it straight away. But before you go there, let me share a few more thoughts with you. When we are. When we are in such a place, when we are in the WTF mode, the shift we are craving is not just tactical. It's not a different type of funnel that will solve all our issues. It's not a new platform that we should be going with. The shift we need is internal. Even if it's difficult to accept this. It's not about having the perfect to do list. It's about reconnecting with the version of you who already figured it out. As you know that version of you exists. Otherwise you wouldn't have even started this. When there is that spark of starting something new or taking the leap, that's the person who knows what you need to do. As your next step. And that version of you might have already taken several leaps. They might have said. They might have said no to people who surpassed their boundaries and stopped saying yes out of guilt and trying to please everyone. And the most powerful thing you can do right now, today, is even if, for just five minutes, let this person take the lead. Even if it's a tiny decision, it's. Even if it's turning down something, even if it's a pricing decision, even if it's a reframe of how you talk about yourself and your work, how you stand in your power. Inside the Secret Podcast, you will have an exercise to get closer to that person for each day. But right now, I invite you to do something simpler. To gently reconnect and so you don't have to wait for for days if you are craving that reconnection, right? Take a piece of paper or just sit down, close your eyes and you can even stop this episode after each question and reflect on it a little bit. Ask yourself, what part of my business or my life feels super heavy right now? And what might that be trying to teach me? Then ask yourself, where in my day or my week do I feel truly as heavy? Me? Then ask yourself, is there a decision I'm avoiding? And if I made that decision, who would I become? Who would I be when I made that decision already? And then lastly, ask yourself, what do I want to be known for? Not as my business, not as my job, but just me, myself. What do I want to be known for? You don't need to answer all these questions. Just pick one and let your truth speak. This isn't about an ultimate fix. This for now is just about listening to yourself. I used to think that connecting with my new self and outgrowing my old self had to do with completely starting over. To the point that in 2013, I left everything and I moved countries. I moved from Hungary to Spain. I left my corporate job of eight years and I was ready to completely start from scratch. There were a lot of ups and downs, but finally I started my business a few months after I made the move and it went pretty okay as a start. But after like six months, a year, I noticed I was following the same patterns, the exact same patterns which served the reason for me to leave my corporate job. And that was answering emails in the middle of the night, not having boundaries around my hours, thinking that I will be perceived as a great professional if I please everyone, if everybody around me is happy. And yeah, after six months inside my business, I realized that I was following the exact same pattern. I didn't have a boss anymore who you could blame. Like, yeah, my boss exploits me, or they expect so much from me. I didn't have that. I was my own boss. But I'm telling you, I was my worst boss ever. I was totally going down that same route and I was burning myself out again. And I already did the country move. I already left everything behind. So that was the true proof for me that it's not the external circumstances that need to change. This shift has to come from the inside. And to be honest, up until that point, inside me, nothing has shifted. But this was when I realized it, and it was a very humbling experience. And here is what I've come to believe as a result of this experience. Outgrowing who you used to be is not optional. It's in fact the only way to build a successful business that truly works for you. If you build a business, a new life on the basis of who you used to be, it might serve a specific purpose, or it might serve you for a limited amount of time, but it will not take you where you want to go. This shift only happens when you are ready to tackle your whole identity, when you are ready to tackle your whole energy, your whole leadership, and you finally start listening. And this is the point to ask yourself, who am I now? And what kind of business is that person building? So now I invite you to pick just one thing your I got this version would do today and do it today. Maybe it's raising a rate. Maybe it's closing your laptop at 5pm Maybe it's saying no to someone. Maybe it's letting one of your ideas good enough and putting it out to the world. I had the same feeling about this episode. I was like, I have to review my script for it again. I have to come up with a more polished version. But then we just had a scheduling conflict with someone who couldn't come today to my podcast as a guest. So I decided I'm going to go for it. I'm just going to record this as a solo episode. Even if there's one person who needs it right now, it's ready to be put out there and I will put it out in the format it comes out today, right now. So take just one idea, one thing that your I got this version would do today, do it. And do let me know in the comments what it was. Whether you are listening to this on Spotify or watching this on YouTube, I would love to hear that today. For me, it was putting this episode out there for you. Let me know what was yours and if you are ready to go one level deeper, like I said, esthergolder.com reset and you will get there. The entire five day experience. It's totally free, it's fully complete, it's available to you. Go with it, run with it and let me know how it went. And remember, you are not behind. You are not broken. You are becoming. You are becoming your new you. Thanks for watching as always. Talk to you soon. Bye for now.