#405 Online Dating...How to Open Yourself to the World…If You Really Mean It!

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Episode of Flow Dreaming. That's right. And we are focusing on relationships this month, as many people are. It's a month for love and relationships and frankly, family, anyone that we care about falls into this month of love, at least here in the United States, where we have Valentine's Day. So I thought it would be a great time to get back to this topic because it's been a while, frankly, since I've covered it. You've probably noticed that when I do these podcasts and the live tapings of them that I go through series of topics and say, two months ago, we went through a topic called Going Big, which I think we're actually going to return to because you guys are still talking to me about it. You're saying, oh, that was my favorite yet. And I'm thinking, well, there's more to say there. We go through topics like how to earn money, how to increase your career, get bigger there. All of this, of course, is in reference to Flow Dreaming and manifesting and creating and frankly, just using the power of your mind to make stuff happen for yourself in your life, in your future, really understanding what it's like to be someone who can feel what they want into existence, backed up, of course, by lots of action, inspired action. And.

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So today I have a kind of unusual topic for relationships. I've never done this one. I'm not really sure how it's going to come out. It is about online dating, but more than that, it's about how you present yourself to the world energetically when you are showing yourself as available for relationship. Okay, now, everybody who's in a marriage or relationship right now, don't turn this off because you're also going to find out certain things about the way you present yourself to meet not just potential partners, but friends, other people that you'll care about. I mean, relationships, like I said before, it extends. They extend beyond just that one romantic partner. It means everyone in our life that we care about that we are able to share and open up to. So, you know, I work with a group of people, several groups of people, one on one. I do a lot of intensive mentoring in how to be a good manifestor, how to change things in your life. And quite a few, not more than several, quite a few people that I work with are looking to develop a great relationship to either attract in a partner or expand a relationship into something more fulfilling in their life. So we talk about this a lot. And because of this, I've been able to, you know what I do? I go on people's minds. I look at them, I talk to them, I feel what they're feeling. I share the information they're thinking with my clients. And so I get to see a lot of different perspectives about how to meet someone, what works and what doesn't and what people have tried and all kinds of stuff. So that's what I plan on sharing with you right now when you are signing. Oh, this. Sorry, back up a minute. I'm thinking of a couple of my diamonds that I was working with, oh, I don't know, over the last couple of months. And we've been talking about going online as a means to open up the energies to having a romantic partner. And usually, you know, a person's thinking goes like this. Well, I wasn't doing anything before to meet somebody and I didn't meet anybody. Maybe now I'll join one of those, you know, match eharmony, hundred fish or a thousand fish, I don't know, there's a bunch of them out there right now, Christian singles. I'll join and that will be enough to tell the energies that I'm available and that will be enough inspired action to bring someone in my life. Well, what happens is that, you know, well, everybody who's ever had an experience with an online dating site, you know, there's a lot of interest at first and then everything dies off. And then you realize that half the, half the if you're a woman, half the men contacting you are married or from some African state. In other words, nothing against Africa, but there's a. Or Eastern European country. There's a lot of people in certain countries who are there to see if they can't get some cash. Out of lovely, willing ladies. So the disillusionment period sets in and you think, well, that didn't do anything. I guess I'm just doomed to forever be single. So let's deconstruct this a little bit and see what happens when you really do set yourself up online. What's the energy behind that? How does flow work? With that flow, of course, being the flow of your future, you going into your future, all the things that are coming to you that are going to be manifested. I mean, that's a common misperception of manifesting, that you just do it and it occurs. Manifesting is going on all the time. Every time something happens to you, it has been manifested somehow, some way it was put in position. You know, multiple paths were colliding to create that situation for you. So your path is now colliding with an online dating service. And what's happening? Well, setting aside all the stuff I just said about, you know, the downsides of it, not knowing who you're really talking to, what they really want out of you and so on, when you open yourself up energetically in the flow, in an online way, an online presence, you are in fact opening your energy to a degree to the possibility of a new relationship. However, you are also hiding behind a screen. You have created a wonderful filter. It's like a window. You could peek out of the curtains, see if you want to participate, see who's outside, maybe trying to peek back in at you. It's a very cautious way of opening up and interacting. Even if you end up meeting people, talking with them, setting up a time to have coffee with them, it's a way to do things where you're very much in control. If someone emails you and you don't like what they said, boom, you don't even have to email them back. There is really no energy requirement from you. What this does is it creates a situation where, yes, you're open energetically to a relationship, but you're not committed to this feeling of being open. You are still hiding behind an interface. And if this isn't making sense, contrast this to simply being out and about during your day. You're at work, picking up kids from school, going over to visit your parents, you know, meeting a friend after work, whatever, and you are being very open. You are being expressive. You're looking up and around, you're noticing. If people are noticing you when someone talks to you, you're talking back to them. If someone introduces themselves, you make comments or laugh or show some engagement, some interest, okay, you Can't. There's nothing you can hide behind. If someone looks at you and says hi, you can choose to look away, but you're still giving that person energy. It's a huge, much more huge amount of energetic and emotional investment when you are doing a living interaction is what I'm getting at. So online dating really isn't enough, in my opinion, to fully open yourself to a partner. I see people engage in online dating when they are tentatively opening up. They are a little crab coming out of its shell, you know, saying, is it okay out there or is it going to be scary? Because I can still hide if I need to. So it tends to be one of the first steps people take. And because of that, you know, yes, people do get together and they do meet, and sometimes you'll meet really interesting and fun people who could become a life partner for you. But more or less the tendency is, it's socializing you, it's giving you a tiptoe way in. But you can't stop there. There are so many other things that you can, can do to show flow. I'm present, I am committed, I am going to be in a relationship. This is going to happen. Okay. Oh, there goes my favorite, one of my favorite phrases again. This is going to happen or my prayers have been answered. I have a whole series on magic phrases like this that really tweak the energies whenever you say them or feel them. So what else can you do besides the online route? Well, a lot of things, starting with where do you go and what do you do where you feel the most radiant, you feel the most expressive of yourself, you feel the most comfortable in your environment, you feel the most enthusiastic in your environment. Where do you go or what do you do where that occurs for you? The reason I ask is the biggest way that you can sort of prime the pump of the energies of flow to hear you feel, you understand that you're looking for a partner is for you yourself to be as open, engaging, relaxed, involved as possible in something. Why? I mean, how does this make sense? When you are your most yourself, you are radiating full knowledge of who and what you are to the universe. Right? You're not hiding, you're not crammed in, you're not stressed, you're not doing something boring. So think about the activities that you do. You know, for some people, frankly, it's, you know, just, you know, trolling through Home Depot if you're a dude, I think you feel relaxed, you feel open. You know, if you've ever been a woman in a In a hardware store, you find that men are always trying to help you out and talk to you. Why? They feel comfortable. They're in their element. They feel strong, they feel more masculine, they feel more capable. You know, I'm a man. I solve things, I fix things. And so they're more open and willing, and they're more radiant. Women, you know, not to be sexist, but I'm going to use a few sexist examples here. You know, women, where do you go where you feel this way? Is it painting class? Is it when you're out with your girlfriends on a ladies night? You know, I try and get together with my friends at least once a month, and we go out and we have wine and we feel real good. I mean, we feel comfortable, relaxed. If I were single and my girlfriends were single, unfortunately, we're an old married crew, but we would be in an excellent position to be showcasing who we really are, our energy. Imagine it's just zipping and zapping above the table. It's flying out around the restaurant or. Or bar, and, you know, we're feeling ourselves completely expressing. So what I'm getting at here is when you're opening yourself up to meeting someone anytime, any place where you are completely you, you are shining brighter than at any other time. Contrast this. Maybe you work in a, you know, a cube in the office at work, you feel small. Your, you know, your face is staring at a computer. You're not feeling completely you. You're also not sending out any kind of energy, of attraction, of availability, of. I'm thinking about a loving, engaging partner, and I want that in my life. No, none of that energy is present in you. And that for many of us, is how we spend 90% of our day at work staring at our computer. We are not giving the energy that. Or the flow, that kind of information. So I'm always counseling people, hey, scale up how often you're putting that kind of information into your flow. That kind of information being how beautiful you are, how comfortable you are, how at the top of your game you are, how shining and bright you are. Because that is what flow will just snatch up and say, ooh, look at this. It's like being the prettiest flower in the field. When you're feeling that way, of course you're going to get the attention of the birds and the bumblebees. Okay, here's another thing. When you're searching for a partner, when you're available to a partner, and I think we've all had days like this, I'm going to use a small example, but certain days you feel more radiant than others. It's like you're giving off an aura. And often I don't even realize that I'm doing that until I'm, you know, out shopping someplace or at the gas station and there's a man looking at me and I think, what? Well, why is he doing that? Doesn't he know I'm married? But the point is there's an energy that you're giving off a glow about you. Something that says, I'm feeling really great in my own skin. Now couple that with an awareness that you know this as well as an awareness of, and I'm looking for a partner and I'm willing to engage. That's when you and that other person are going to lock eyes and you're going to feel like this whole day, I don't know what, what was up. I just felt like everybody was looking at me. I had a lot of attention. My friends invited me out. Someone said I looked pretty, my hair was nice. You know, I haven't had my hair done in three months. I don't know what they're talking about. But nonetheless, that's in my energy. Be aware of the aura that you are giving off. The aura that you're giving off, you inside yourself at any given point, you know, on any old regular day. Notice it like a biorhythm, you know, some points in your cycle, women, you know, your cycle cycle. But everyone has a sort of biorhythmic cycle. At some points you're going to be much more radiant, magnificent, involved, engaged than at other points when you feel low and tired and headachy and shut down. When you are at those top points in your cycle, take advantage of them. Look up, look around, talk to people, be expressive. Here's another thing. We tend to find people that we've either already connected with or are connected to us through friends. And on the surface it seems like, well, okay, that sounds pretty obvious. But let's again, look from a flow perspective. Your friends share or overlap certain energetic qualities with you, certain personality qualities, certain socioeconomic qualities. There's a lot of ways we overlap with our friends. But the basic thing, perhaps the most fundamental, is that indefinable thing. I mean, there's a lot of people, a lot of women live in my area who we share the same socioeconomic level. We're all blondes in Southern California. I am certainly not friends with all of them. Yet there are some people that just speak to me. I know instantly when I meet them, we vibe, you know, we've got it. You and your friends are like that now. Your friends, imagine them, they're the next degree. It's kind of like LinkedIn, right, where you know, a first degree acquaintance, a second degree. And as you get further away, you have less and less in common with the people. It's kind of like that with your friends. If you, if your friend has a friend, you're probably going to relate to them. There's probably going to be that same vibe, you know, that same, you know, snapping sizzle of awareness. So that's why it's so wonderful to keep your friendships really healthy and ongoing and big and for your friends to be doing the same thing. That's how new people flood into your life. That's how birds of a feather find one another. Same is true, oddly, for people who have been in your life in the past and seemingly randomly show up again. What is happening there? I'm never surprised anymore when I'm working with someone and they say, well, you'd never guess, you know, my boyfriend from 15 years ago just showed up in my life again. I have no idea how he found me. And I say, well, you are newly single again and you are opening yourself to that. And, you know, the conditions were ripe, you know, so what happens between people is that when you have a connection with somebody, when you've already developed an energy and attraction, think of it as being kind of sticky. You know, there's a quantum physics analogy for this, but we won't go into it. It's basically like stickiness. Your energy, someone else's energy meet. And even if you're apart from them, doesn't matter. Time becomes totally irrelevant. You can instantly be together again. There's really no distance, even if time has elapsed. Kind of makes you wonder about all those relationships we've had with people of varying degrees and intensities. Yes, you are still aligned to those people. Even if you have let go or severed or released them. If you need to ever see them again, you know, their energy, you could call it back up again. You could feel it in yourself and they would feel it in them and you would come together. So oftentimes, when you're making yourself available again, people from your past hear it. You know, they hear the call. And if you're in different circumstances, if now you're ready and they're ready, then that's why you're suddenly back together after, you know, 15 years or however long it's taken in between, there's so many ways to work with energy to bring in a wonderful partner for you. And I find that it's often very specific because it has to do with what's going on inside you that is either allowing or disallowing people into your life, specifically romantic people. Everyone is completely unique, uniquely made up. It's. You're like a snowflake. Every time I look inside somebody and start helping them with this, I think, okay, you're unique. I can't apply the same formula, Damn it. Make my job so much easier if I could, but I can't. You know, I'll go in and I'll say, well, you're a person who, you know, you. You withdrew because of this or that, or you need to extend yourself here and there. Or have you noticed that this and that has occurred because of your behavior over here, so very, very specific to you, your issues. I could do a whole show on why women attract unavailable men. You know, men who already have a girlfriend or who are married or who live long distance. I could do a whole show on that. Maybe I should. There's an energy there. There's a reason. There's a pattern. And of course, inside you, you have come to it in your own distinct way that we would have to figure out. Or you can figure out by working with your flow. But the pattern of attracting someone who's unavailable is a clear and universal pattern for many women. It's basically a pattern that says, I'm not available. I think I'm available, but I'm not because I'm actually afraid to fully have someone. And it's really fun, actually, to go in and sort of dig after that and then toss it back to flow and work with it to unravel it, loosen it, free yourself from it, and then start bringing in really available men and, wow, your life changes. It's kind of fun. I love that I can be. I'm like a little voyeur in people's lives like this, you know, helping them, you know, to meet their. Their partners. It's. It's fun. I feel like a matchmaker sometimes. Okay, we have a quick break to go to. When we get back, there is more flow dreaming. I'm Summer McStravik. Please stay with me. And by the way, I'd love to take your calls. I'm happy to look into anybody for you. Talk about your life. Talk about your love life. Talk about anything that's going on in your flow. Do you need some manifesting, or do you just need some intuitive insight? You let me know you can find the way to call in by going to my website, flowdreaming.com right now. By the way, if you go there as well, you'll see a lot of really delicious flow dreams about bringing in your perfect partner. I've created a couple of playlists. One focuses on letting go of someone who may be in your life so you can reopen yourself. And the other one is strictly about, hey, I'm wide open. I don't have anybody to let go of. I'm just ready, I'm there. So check those out. I think they'd be really fun for you to work with this month if you want to develop, engage, you know, heighten all of these energies that we've been talking about this hour. Okay, quick break. When we get back, more Flow Dreaming and your calls.

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You're listening to Flow Dreaming with your host, Summer McStravic. Foreign. Welcome back to Flow Dreaming. We're going to do a flow dream right now. For those of you guys who don't know, please go to the website, my website, flow dreaming.com that will explain to you exactly how to do this technique. It is a technique for manifesting, for talking to the universe, for engaging with the energies and kind of getting them to be on your side to help you stay in a path of alignment, a path of ease, a path of openness to where what you want is in fact what comes towards you. It's an amazingly effective practice once you get going with it and just delighted to be able to be here podcasting and introducing it to all of you. So remember, it's not meditation. It can feel a bit like an active meditation. In fact, I do have something called a flow dream meditation, an active meditation, but it's not because I'm going to ask you to be very emotionally engaged. And that means bringing up your feelings. Just allow them to run and ripple through you, give you visuals to look at and words. You know, they'll sound a bit like affirmations sometimes, but I'm only doing that once. You can hear me through a podcast instead of being silent. And two, the visuals should help evoke the emotions. That's the only reason they're there. The other thing you need to know is that we go into a. It's a quote unquote place where we present our emotions. We're not just sitting here in our seats with our eyes closed, feeling things. We are consciously aware that there is a flow or a fluid movement of time and space, and we're in it right now. And what we're feeling in the moment is what is radiating from us. It is going into the rest of our self, our life, into something bigger. And it's now being there as something that's present, as something that's acting almost like a trigger for future events. Imagine if I were to be sitting here and I was very angry, and I was angry for hours and hours and hours and this was spilling out, radiating into my flow. Well, when I stopped being angry, what's going on is I still have a lot of anger around me. It's in the energies. I would expect that the rest of my day would probably be pretty rough and I would feel a mismatch between myself and what I was trying to do. Now, contrast that. What if I was feeling a sense that everything was quite easy for me, that I was very attractive on top of my game, that life was responding to me? That kind of attractive. What would happen the rest of the day? That's the energy that would still be out there. It will stay out there, will be present, it will be ripe and around you until you feel something else that changes things. The key to being a great manifester is continuously feeling good things, continuously preacting. But we could go into a whole show about that. Okay, so close your eyes with me and let's listen to the flow together as we bring up some pretty music and we allow ourselves to just drift. We're drifting. We're a leaf on a lazy current of light. The leaf is green, it's strong, it's filled with life. This is you. You're drifting. You feel yourself as if you're being carried along. You're not determining where you're going. You just know it's right. This current that pulls you, it guides you, takes you where you belong. It takes you where you should be going. You're in this place right now, this flow of light, feeling yourself being tugged and nudged along because you want to be here. You're choosing this over anything else in your life, choosing this sensation of being aligned, aligned to something bigger than you, greater than you, magnificent. You're a part of it, you're important to it. But it's also something that you can just relax into. You relax into your future. You don't anticipate it, brace for it, be fearful about it, try and correct against it. Now you relax into your future because you know that your future is safe and your future, you're well cared for. In your future, you've made smart decisions. In your future, you're a radiant being, Beautiful, alive, filled with authenticity. You feel it right now inside you. You feel how beautiful you are or handsome you are. Not even physically, necessarily, but it's within you. It's your energy, it's the field that you radiate. You glow with a sense of true beauty and authenticity. And you notice that when you meet and talk to people around you all the time, right now, the rest of the day, tomorrow, the next day, they respond to this beauty in you. They respond to this authenticity. They respond to this Kind of energetic charisma, which is just you feeling very comfortable with yourself, owning yourself, being clear, oh, this is how I feel. This is who I am today. I'm quite interesting, aren't I? I'm quite capable, aren't I? I'm quite intelligent. You say whatever you want about yourself. All these things that you know are true about you. You own them, you receive them. Yes, I am. I am this, I am that. Of course, other people would see this, and I'm really good at this. And of course other people notice that. It's who I am. I carry myself with this strong inner awareness of everything I am, especially the good things that I am. Because of this, I exert a strong influence on everything around me. Even the people who come into my sphere, who come into my energy field, whose flows begin to interact with mine. I exert a strong influence where they're aware of me. They look at me and they say, oh, I've caught their eye. I've caught their attention in only the very best of ways. And this is a good thing because it means I'm not hiding, I'm not using or wasting any of my energy trying not to be seen. No, I don't do that. So when someone is looking at me or talking to me or. Or interested in me me, I feel very comfortable replying back, sharing, interacting. Oh, I think, oh, this is a chance for our flows to interact and connect. We can find out more about each other. What a good feeling. What a nice fit we are. There was something in you that was noticing something in me. And now I'm noticing something in you. Oh, what a beneficial relationship this is. And perhaps this is romantic interest, or perhaps it's interest between a client and a customer, a provider. Perhaps it's between you and a student or you and a sibling or you and your child or your child. And you can be any kind of relationship that's filled and fueled with the sensation of I am noticing you. I'm aware of you, you're noticing me. I'm aware of you and me and back and forth, There we go. What would you like to make of this? How can we expand this? How can we get the best out of this interaction that leaves the both of us feeling even higher and bigger and brighter than we were before. This is my life. These are the kind of relationships I have. These are the kind of interactions I have all the time. All the time. Everywhere I go, 99% of them fall in this category of uplifting, of furthering something in my life, making something Better. Making something clearer, making something come together, making something grow. Almost all of my interactions revolve around that in one way or another, either subtly or quite overtly. And I like that. It makes me feel free inside, open inside, very relaxed inside, very strong and comfortable in who I am and everything about me. Knowing that I'm receiving and creating this consistently positive feedback and response. Oh, Flo, I say, I'm so grateful to you that I can experience this here, that I can feel this in this place. So grateful that this exists. This is something I can indulge in and make things happen in. So grateful. And I linger on that feeling, continuing to feel even as now I leave my daydream and I open my eyes. Well, there you have it. That was an interesting flow. I can't say I've ever done one quite like that. The gist of it, of course, was opening you to the most positive, productive interactions with other people. Seeing, noticing that there is an attraction. And again, I don't mean it in a necessarily romantic way. I just mean two flows recognize one another. Say, ah, there's something here to our mutual benefit. Oh, this makes me both of us. Bigger, brighter. This gives something to each of us. Imagine if every relationship you had was fueled, was touched, tinged with that kind of energy. What would your life be like now? I ask you, what would happen if you actually practiced a flow dream like that every day? If you did it for 3 minutes, 2 minutes, 30 seconds before you left the house in the morning on your way home from work? What would happen to your life if you gave it that kind of ongoing direction? About that, I'll tell you what would happen. Your relationships would change dramatically, all of them. And probably some new ones would also appear, if that's what you're looking for. Okay, I'm going to leave you with that thought for a moment. We go to a quick break, we come back. Jennifer, I see you and Karen, we have some calls we're going to get to, so stay with me. I'm Summer McStravik. The show is called Flow Dreaming.

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Welcome back to Flow Dreaming. Let's go to Jennifer right now. Hey, Jennifer, what's on your mind?

Hi, Summer. My name, yeah, Jennifer's Mania. I've been listening to you on your podcast for a couple months now, and it's my first time, first live call, so our first lifetime listening to you. My question is, I have been talking to a guy for a couple years now. We haven't physically met each other, but we've been talking over the phone and texting each other and I, we have made plans for me to come visit him and I just want to see if. What kind of things he's taken, I guess.

Okay, so he, He's a man and what's his first name?

Brian.

Brian. Okay. And you met him. So this is an online relationship, correct?

Yeah, I, Yeah, I met him through a friend. Like, I had a roommate and she kind of said he liked me over, you know, he just knows pictures and everything. And then that's how he started talking.

So. Okay, so he does have. Someone has checked him out then already?

Oh, yeah, I. Yeah, I. It was a. She's a roommate of mine and they were best friends and so. Yeah.

Okay, that's good. Let's go see where Brian, where does he live, by the way? Just give me the city.

Oh, Tallahassee.

Tallahassee. Okay. Brian in Tallahassee. What do you want me to ask him while I'm, while I'm there with him? Okay.

I just want to see like, like what kinds of things he thinks about me and our friendship and.

Okay. He seems to me, first of all, like a pretty nice guy. He. He's nervous. A little nervous, yep. He has high hopes. He's very wants. He wants to touch you. Yeah, that gets it on the radio. But yeah, he really wants to touch you. Meaning that, you know, he's going to be a little nervous going in. Like, he's thinking about it. How's it going to happen? What are we going to do? And you know, is this the next step? And you know, looking, looking ahead, it feels like this for him is a make or break kind of situation. He's going to. From this, whether or not you guys are going to go forward and, and going forward means changes for you. You know, someone's got move or, you know, there's really like a whole other step that will happen as a result of him knowing, are we attracted to each other? Are we physical? Is this going to work?

Right. That's exactly what I was thinking.

So, yeah. And that's exactly what's on his mind. And I think that because both of you have this real strong awareness of it, you know, it's gonna lead to a little bit of nerves because you feel like there's a lot on the table here. You know, there's a. There's a big. There's a lot to be decided, really. So don't let that pressure you. You know, just try not to. Try not to. Just continue to meet him with a feeling of openness and lightness and, you know, just pretend you're meeting him for the first time, not have all this other stuff that will be decided as a result. It's a different way of energetically going in. And I think it will put you both at ease and it will be a lot more relaxing right now because he's nervous.

Yeah, I'm very nervous myself.

Biggest thing that's coming from this because he knows it's, you know, oh, boy, we're finally at that point. There's no going backwards from this point, right? Yeah. But I think you're going to enjoy each other. I think you're going to have a nice time. I think you're going to spend a lot of time touching his muscly arms or something. Okay.

All Right. Thank you so much. I appreciate it.

Welcome, Jennifer. Bye. Bye. Poor girl. I hope I didn't embarrass her, but these two people really want to meet. I wish them the best of luck. Actually, I think they're gonna enjoy each other a lot. How about Karen? It's Karen, right?

This is Karen.

Karen. Hey. Nice to meet you. Hi. Hey. What's happening with you? What? Can I help you? I have.

I'm trying to reconnect with an aunt that. But I'm not exactly sure. I guess I feel that there might be something where she's not interested in interacting with me and I'm not exactly sure why or how. I would like to know how to get reconnected with her or what I can do.

Okay. This is your aunt? Yes. Okay. And you're trying to reach out to her. Tell me what her name is. Marge. Okay. You know, when I look at her, I mean, it kind of goes without saying. There's been some water under the bridge. There's been drama. There's been things back there. Things perhaps with your. Is it your mother? Is that. Who. How. Your aunts with her? Another woman?

No. A few years ago, some friends of mine, we went and visited her. It was really positive.

Yeah. Now you're having trouble. Don't know. I feel like she's. It's like she's looking backwards at you and she's feeling like. You know what, Karen? There's unresolved things here and you should ferret them out. You should dig them out. When you reach her, ask her, how did you feel about my mom or my dad or what are your thoughts about. Does this reflect on how you feel about me or. Why is there a distance here? Because she. She holds things. She just. She holds things. And maybe she hasn't made you aware of what she's holding, but it's there. And I don't know why it would be with you. I think she. Even.

I feel that I am. We weren't really connected when I was younger. She was on my dad's side, and my parents were separated and divorced. And so I didn't get to spend a lot of time with her. And I feel like I'm patterning that in my lifetime with my nieces and nephews.

Yeah. So this is playing right into your mom and her and the water under the bridge and the disconnected relationship that problems she had with her mom probably was having to do with, you know, having you taken her. Taken you or something along those lines. It just still affects her. And she's not able to unlock herself from that completely. So once you discover what her issue is, maybe you'll be able to see that in you.

Is there an approach or way that she would. I feel like I reach out to her and try and communicate and I don't get a response.

And you're sure she's. She's receiving your calls and emails?

Well, I. The only. The information I have was those. I'm not. I don't have any confirmation on my side that she received them. So I will try again.

Yeah, keep trying. Because I'm not even sure that she's aware at the moment that you've been trying to reach out to her. You know, you're present in her mind, but you're not immediate in her mind. You know, she just has an awareness of you when I look at her. So. Which is telling me, like, I don't know if she's totally aware that you're really, really trying. Okay. No, try and talk to someone else who can verify how to get a hold of her and that she's around and stuff.

Okay, perfect.

All right.

Okay, thank you.

Take care. Bye. Bye. Interesting relationships. Oh, boy. Guess I need to do a few more shows about these. In fact, right now I realize I have to put together my show topics for the next couple of months. If you guys have any ideas, occasionally I put it out there. I say just, you know, send me an email telling me what you think I should be talking about, what I haven't spoken about, what's your situation. Please know that I cannot respond, you know, with lengthy answers if you're asking about questions, intuitive related questions and so on. But if you have ideas or topics, I'd love to hear those and explore them on air with you in that sense. Also, you might want to be on my newsletter. That's another good resource to get a hold of me and Facebook. Lastly, before we wrap up our show, let me mention that you can get many more episodes of this podcast if you're listening on say, itunes. They're available by subscription and it's only like a couple of dollars a month, very minimal to reach into another 300 or so, at least more hours. And every show I do pretty much includes a flow dream and some of the back archives. I even did a series of many, many interviews with people which you might find fascinating too. Okay, with that, I'm going to go ahead and wrap things up. It's been such a pleasure to be with all of you this week and as it is all the time, so I look forward to hearing from you and my love goes to you all. Take care. Until next time with more Flow Dreaming.

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