#417 The Fastest Way to Find the Solution to Your Problem

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I'm Summer McStravik and welcome to another.

Episode of Flow Dreaming. That's right here in the Flow together. Hi, Everybody, I'm Summer McStravik, and in this show we talk about manifesting and creation and co creating and the power of your mind and your thoughts to change the kinds of things that happens to that happen to you and around you. Excuse me. And for you and by you and everything. Also. Sometimes we dip into other ways to use what I call flow energy, and that is to use it empathically to read information about life, to scoop up an extra layer, as I like to say, because that's how it always feels to me. I have my regular senses, you know, bringing me information all the time. But when I open my empathic layer, that's my emotional self, I receive a tremendous additional amount of guidance that way. So when I am choosing to make things for myself and create things in my life, I often feel like, hey, you know, if I'm not sure exactly what it is, I just check in, see how I'm empathically understanding the situation, get that little extra bit of information I need, then I jump in and make a decision and I offer it to flow and create, create, create from there. Okay, so today I have an interesting topic. The fastest way to find a solution to your problem. There were a few podcasts back. I did a show called how to Always make a Right Decision, which a lot of people very much appreciated. And this one is kind of along that same theme. Instead of making a right decision, you're finding a solution to whatever problem present now in your life. This is kind of funny to try and pack it actually into just one little podcast because it really is a theme for my entire, you know, teachings. Some of you guys have heard me talking lately about me school me. That's M for manifesting dot E or empathic intuition. Dot school and M and A empathic and manifesting happen to be me. I think that's so cute and so, so apropos. But that's what mi school is also largely about. Finding problems to your solutions or finding solutions to your problems. Which way? Oh, my brain is a little addled. You know why? Because I just got done with a private session right before I caught on air, and part of me is still out there. Oh, my goodness. I'll strive to make sense here. Yeah, so that's what we do. We figure out how to fix things, how to fix them or finish them or get through them in ways that are for everyone's highest good, that offer us the most opportunity, that in my case, I like to say that are the most full of ease. Because I don't like to make things hard and tricky and difficult. When I'm going for something and it's something big or something important to me, I'm already acknowledging that I'm fully investing myself. I'm going to do it and give all of myself to it. Whether or not it's hard or easy doesn't matter if I'm still giving all of myself to it. Do you see what I'm saying? Whether it's difficult and challenging and pushes back or whether it just spreads open and flows, either way, I'm still giving all of my energy to it. I like to look at that in terms of things like, you know, positive things, such say, as, you know, building a business. For instance, a lot of you guys, you know, you. You do tapping or reiki or massage, or you teach or you consult. All of you guys, right? You're building, you know, clients. Well, do you want to always take the most difficult path, Find the most difficult people to work with, have the most amount of rejection to barrel through? You can do that. You'd throw all of your energy into it, and you wouldn't get a whole lot out of it. Or you could throw all of your energy into working with the best clients, the easiest people who want to receive the most from you, who find you and seek you out and automatically align with you, and you throw all of your effort into that. You know what you're going to do? You're going to have a big, beautiful, gorgeous, blooming business with terrific people. That's what I mean by putting all of your information, all of your energy into something and making it easy. Anyway, I'm Getting off track already. I can see it's going to be one of those shows today. One of summer's non focused shows. Oh, terrible, terrible. But there is one thing I definitely want to share with you and we're going to do a Flow dream. And of course I would love to take your calls. Go to my website. You can find all the information about how to call me, what the phone number is, what the right times are to call. But right now I'm pod. Or if you're not, put it this way, if you're listening live, you can give me a call. If you're listening on a podcast, meaning on itunes or through any of the other sources, you probably can't call me because I'm probably not live. So you got to go dig up that information. Okay, let me just mention one more time. Yes, me school, it is enrolling now and until the end of this month it is pre registration. So it is a nice little chunk of change that you get to save. If you're curious about that at all, please go to my website, flow dreaming.com. actually, if you're curious about anything that I say today, go visit flow dreaming.com. you'll find some Flow dreams there that I have pre recorded for you. Beautiful ones. You get a free one. Actually, if you register from my newsletter, I give you one to start working with. Along with some instruction on how to use it, as well as a whole library of different titles that you can can use to create with around different different topics in your lives. Note however, that MI school only enrolls once a year. So if you don't see it on my website, it probably means that the enrollment period is over. Again, if you're listening to this on podcast months down the line, it only enrolls once a year. So it won't happen again until next year, next summer. Okay, there. Enough said. Let's get on to the fastest way to find the solution to your problem. I want you for a moment to think about an issue that you're having in your life. Think about something, some problem that you've been having a hard time resolving. It could be a money problem, could be a relationship problem, could be a family problem. Now step back from that and notice the solution to this problem. I bet you feel like it's either not there for you or it's not available to you, or you can't have it, or there's some problem. There's some reason why the solution isn't here yet for you. It's like out there someplace. Notice this. Notice this impression, what I'm trying to get you to see, is the sense of distance that you have habitually, subconsciously created to receiving your solution. Every time you sit in a problem, every time you dwell in a problem, if this is a problem you've had for more than 24 hours, then you're in this position. You've been dwelling on it, sitting on it. Instead, play with this idea. Every problem you have arrives with its solution. They come together like Hansel and Gretel, like black and white, like yin and yang. Every problem arrives with its solution in hand, right? If you've never heard that expressed before, it can be very eye opening, it can kind of shake you and you realize you're right. I've always looked at problems as things that come up and then you have to wait around for them to get resolved. You've got to find it, you've got to search for it. It's not always there. The best way isn't clear. Just think for a second. Maybe this is all stuff you just sort of told yourself. Maybe that's not true. Maybe you receive both at the same time. And the real trick is how quickly can you move into the solution? How quickly can you embrace the solution? Do you have resistance to the solution? Maybe the solution is already there, but it's the resistance inside you to taking that solution. For instance, let me show you how this might play out. Let's say you're having a family drama. And you and your sister and your mother are. It's just the same old, same old. Run around, run around. You feel your sister sides with your mom, your mom doesn't appreciate you, you side with your dad, round and around you go. It's always the same thing. There's no solution to it. Maybe there is a solution. Maybe it arrived the minute you identified the problem. Maybe the solution is something like this. I talk to my mom and my sister. I share with them my feelings. I do so in a way that's mature, that's just laying it out there. There's no drama, there's no tears, there's no anger. And I say, I feel this way. And I recognize that maybe we just don't connect as much as I've always wanted. It makes me deeply sad and it makes me feel like an outsider sometimes. And maybe the solution then is that your mother and sister respond back to you. And maybe they go right back into their old habits of response. I'm not even saying go all optimist here and think, oh, everybody changes. Happy day. Let's Just say, they just go right back into their pattern and you accept it. You say, that was my solution. That was my solution. Notice it's not the solution that you've been pining for, which is, oh, my mother and sister change and they love me and I become the favorite and everything is good and wonderful and my sister gets over her problems inside herself and. Right, that's. That's one solution. That's an idea. It may roll around. That may be tomorrow's solution or the next day's solution. But the solution today is to do what you can do and allow it to unfold from there. Do you get it? That's really strong because it takes you out of paralysis and frustration, which are energies that don't get you anywhere. The problem is conflict. The solution is airing the conflict. Easy. Does it solve everything forever? Did it actually take away the problems you, your mom and sister have? Well, it may not have removed it, but it certainly has changed it. It's reframed it. It's reframed the problem. It's added new information that changes the problem. Now maybe that new changed problem can have a much better solution. But you wouldn't have gotten there had you not solved the first problem. You see where I'm going here? I'm showing you how to create a stack or a series of small immediate solutions that change the nature of the problem, to unwind it to the point where your, you know, your. The solution you want is, may in fact have a much easier time of arriving. I'm also breaking open your thinking. So you realize that there's always a solution. You are never in a point of paralysis, ever. Well, maybe if you're waiting for a house to close escrow or the bank's funding to come through or something like that. But even then, it's just a problem that's being solved. You will know in 30 days. You will know in 60 days, it will be solved. You can acknowledge that the solution is at hand. It's in process. It's there for you now. Anything that you've got going on in your life, you can feel this about. Problem is no money. Oh my gosh, there's a solution for that. There is. It's already with you. You don't have to go seeking it. You don't have to wait for it. It's a solution. It may not be the solution you want, may not be your ideal solution, but this problem came with its solution and that's the one you need to jump on. And maybe that solution is, well, I'LL get a temp job. Maybe that solution is stop thinking of myself as being so poor and broke all the time and my skills as being not worth much and go for something bigger. Not sure it's all individual, right? What your particular solution is, point is seize it. Take the one that you do see, take the one that is the most clear. Even if it's not a complete perfect resolution, take it anyway, because it's going to change the problem and that new, changed problem will have a new, changed solution and you can keep it going. You understand? This is about keeping the energy moving, keeping the cycle flowing, increasing the odds for a better payoff. It is a huge 90 degree turn from what we often normally do, which is to sit and stew and wait and get set on a particular way of thinking. Things have to turn out for us. They don't have to turn out that way. I'm 100% sure that flow has got dozens of ways that your situation could be taken care of. Dozens of ways, most of which you simply don't know. Why? Well, you haven't put any action out there. You haven't put action toward any solution. So they haven't been able to flow into your eyesight yet, into your realm of, you know, visualizing yet or feeling or experience. So go on, go take some solution and allow another one to come in. All right, so that's what I wanted you to hear today, and I want you to apply it. Think of something right now in your life again that may be the first thing I asked you to think of and say to yourself, what is a solution? What solution did this problem already arrive with? Right. Oh, your mind will just kind of love that. It's just going to be like a happy little dog. Run, run, run. Go on, fetch it. Because it's there. It's there for you. All you want to do is change the nature of your problem a little bit so you can get a different solution until you finally arrive at the one that is the most comfortable for you. All right, quick break. When we get back, we'll be going to more Flow Dreaming. I see your calls and yeah, lots, lots, lots more to go. I'm Summer McStravik.

Hi. It's Summer, but on break. And I know that some of you are still wondering, what is Flow Dreaming and what is MI School?

Because I refer to both of these.

Quite a bit in my podcast. MI School is a transformational program. It's a gorgeous and deeply revealing, empowering online school worldwide where I teach you how to remodel your Life in any way you choose, using the technique of Flow Dreaming, as well as a bunch of other deeply powerful life changing processes. So me school is either enrolling or it's accepting names onto the wait list. And that means that I'm accepting students who work with me for the year. And you can learn how to do.

What I do in life.

The way I think, the way I build things, make things, heal things. Everything I talk about you will learn directly from me how to do. You're going to create some amazing things. My MI schoolers, their lives change way beyond the norm.

And you don't even have to be.

A superstar when you go in. Some of you are, and you're ready to go bigger, play in that bigger field. And some of you are just saying, hey, help.

What's next? Where should I go?

And both are fine. Both are great if you're ready to go big. But you know that you need to deepen your own spiritual practice and your personal growth, because that's where it all comes from, right? Then this is where you need to be. Your life only grows as big you do. So here's what to do. Go over to flowdreaming.com and click on MI School. And during these enrollment periods, you can actually set up a free phone call with me or my staff and we'll talk about it.

Is it a fit? Is it interesting?

During waitlist times, we just put you on a list of people who've expressed interest, so we can notify you as soon as the door is open.

Open. All right.

I look forward to hearing from you and even more to getting to know you as one of my personal students in me school. Now let's get back to the episode.

Welcome back to Flow Dreaming. I am now going to kind of show you a little of how I work with Flow Energy. Flow Dreaming is an actual technique that you use to manifest and create with. It's not Law of Attraction. It's quite its own little animal. Very powerful, very effective. Really great for those of us who want to use emotion as a way to create and paint and make our world for ourselves. So I may do a little bit of that. I also may use my intuition to look into you and see what I see. And like I said, allow myself to get that extra layer of information. Okay, let's start with Gail. You're calling from Texas.

Hey, Gail, how are you doing?

I'm good. What's going on in your life?

A lot. Having difficult with my marriage and my daughter, the peacemaker. They're stubborn and you know, my husband. I don't know, I just feel like. I don't know. I think he's talking to another woman. I mean, that's what I feel in my heart.

Yeah. All right. Gail, I'm just looking at you. I'm getting a sense of your situation. It's a kind of feeling of. Kind of hovering around you. Your flow, your energy. You feel to me like in your life. It feels like a little box you're in. You feel like you're trapped in a way. When I look at you and I look kind of out from you, you don't see very many possibilities. You know, I'm not sure how you've managed to get in this corner, but there you are. And a lot of work. I would really encourage you to do a lot of work to reclaim your power. That's what I call it, reclaiming your power. I have a flow dream for that, actually. But rather than looking at your, you know, your daughter, your husband, all these things that seem to be going on without you, you know, that you're not really part of that. You know, you're just trying to manage them or respond to them. If you get real strong and powerful inside yourself again and you start claiming this energy that belongs to you already. It's you, your life. And you're starting to say things like, to your husband, hey, I'm not happy with this. Here's. You know, here's what we need to do or change or fix. I've been waiting on you to come home at night, or I've been waiting on you to talk with me or open up to me. I've been waiting on you to. All those things that you're waiting on, you need to just stop waiting on. You need to take the initiative and see where it goes from there. I think you haven't done so, though, because part of you is afraid. You're afraid. What if I do that? What if everything falls apart? I don't have any other options. So you need to open up those options inside yourself so that you have the courage to make these choices. Do you see where I'm going with the scale?

Yeah.

Yeah.

You know, I feel like I said, I feel like he's been seeing someone else or talking to someone else. I don't. I mean, am I right about that or. No.

What's his name? First name only, please.

Gilbert.

Gilbert. Gilbert. Gilbert. Gilbert. I think his eyes do wander. I can feel him kind of looking around, you know, It's a. It's a. It's just like A man thing where he feels like it's making him feel good about himself. You know, he feels like the rest of his life, he's kind of like you. Things are a little colorless for him, little droopy. But if, you know, there's a pretty girl and she's talking to him and giving him attention and affection, he feels like a little bright spot, little glimmer. But it's only because he feels just like you. Everything else in his life is just kind of black. Just, you know, that's the thing you guys have to solve. It's not about infidelity. It's about you guys figuring out how to get over the blah, how to create new goals for yourselves. The both of you in your lives. You guys just both stopped.

Well, he doesn't ever want to do nothing. Other married couples invite us, and he doesn't go. But I still go, right? Because, you know, but I ain't doing nothing wrong. I'm with all the couples, just talking with them and enjoying, you know, just talking about our families and our life.

Yeah.

And, you know, my daughter's liver count was real high, and now I'm worried about her. But.

Gail, you've got a lot of things here. I can't. Unfortunately, I can't go through them all on air with you right now, but I really encourage you to go to your flow, get into this space, work with your future, work with your energy. Say whatever Gilbert does or doesn't do. I'm actually setting that aside right now. I need to know what I want, what's important to me, and if I'm not getting it, what's my solution? Okay, because right now, you're in a place where you're feeling powerless, and you have to move out of that space by making some decisions and just seeing what happens.

Okay. Well, I just told him we were going to separate for a while until he decides what he wants.

You can do that. That would put you back in a place of power for sure.

Okay, go for it.

All right. Take care, Gail. Bye now. Oh, that's difficult. It's like I want to give so much more information than I can possibly give in the space of the program. But if she gets her power back, then she' going to be doing great. Hey, Kelly, you're calling from Las Vegas. How are you? Hi, there.

Good. How are you doing?

Great.

I've been listening to Flow Dreaming and somewhat practicing it since about 2006. It's only been very recently that I finally grasped the concept of emotion.

Okay.

The flow Thinking as far as being positive and threatened Day putting that into my flow has been wonderful. I have a 14 year old daughter and I'm trying to get her used to the concept as well because unfortunately my negativity has overflowed into her. But in recent months, everything's been good and going forward in a positive manner. And I just want to know if you can look into my flow and see if I am programming properly and if there are any other obstacles coming up or if I'm going to just continue on this good path and better and better.

So this is a pretty general question. Is it around something specific like a particular area of your life or.

Yeah, business and money. I've had a. I'm a paralegal, so I've had an independent business for some time. Not anything huge because I do other things also, but I'd like to get more clients and have more come out of my independent business than the other work that I do.

Mm. Yeah, I'm looking at it. You know what it feels like? It feels like really there's. What is it? Maybe one or two. I'm not sure how your business is structured, but it feels like you have leads or you have people that refer to. There's like a referral. Like getting a few key people to want you or want your services will open up a whole lot more people. And that's what I feel you doing, like spending more time massaging those relationships. Right. Talking to those people. Talking to those key people. Extending into. Extending your reach. Developing relationship forming. Yeah. Your focus right now should really be on relationship forming. So even if you take your mind off the dollars and cents for a second and think, who are the people who help me? Who are the people I've done the most work for? Who are the people who seem to like me the most? I want to get more and more secure with them and because I realized my fortune is sort of tied to their fortunes. But I don't want to have just a couple, one or two. I want to branch out. I want to have enough that if their fortune goes down, my fortune doesn't.

Yeah, right.

So this is why I feel that's the focus of your expansion. If you do that, I think you're going to be floating really nicely by the end of the summer, like in a really nice position.

Okay, great. Great.

Yeah.

Okay.

Thank you very much and good luck. Bye, Kelly. Thank you.

Bye. Bye.

My goodness, calls flying in today. Is it Jiyoung? Jiyoung in Rosemead Jiang.

Hello. Hello.

Hi. Hi. It's Summer, you're on air. How are you?

Oh, hey, thank you. I'm glad to be on air. Thanks for taking my call.

Uh huh, sure.

So today I just had a question regarding my 3 year old son who has a genetic condition that causes some developmental delays and he's non verbal and I was just trying to get some insight as to, you know, how he sees the world through his eyes. And if there are things he likes and dislikes that causes him discomfort or any kinds of foods he likes and not like or anything, I can get some insight because I can't really communicate with him verbally.

Right, you need that other layer of information. What's his name?

His name is Lucas.

Lucas. Okay, let's just go see what Lucas has got going in his flow today. Lucas, Lucas, Lucas. Where is he right now?

He's downstairs in the living room with his nanny.

Okay. Lucas, you're with your nanny.

Ha ha.

First thing I saw was bright colors. Like that's tv. Yeah. Not, not necessarily. Meaning he's watching it now, but when he's watching TV he loves. He loves the colors. He doesn't care. He doesn't care for sound so much. That's. You could turn it down, it wouldn't make a difference to him. But the colors, the flow of imagery, he finds it really engrossing. He loves that. All right, so that's something he does like a lot. What else? What is he like? What do you like, Lucas? Anything bother you? I don't know if he's still in diapers, but it's a feeling of. Because he would be, well, a little old. Well, if he's delayed, there's a feeling of disliking something like that's hot or just plastic scratchy things. Don't do that with him. Things that itch. It's not that it hurts him, it doesn't hurt him. It's that he becomes overly focused. He can't get his mind off of it. It becomes all that his focus is. So it becomes a bigger deal. Have you noticed that?

Well, he's still in diverse, but I always wonder, I mean, like if he has an itch he can't scratch yet. So. Okay, so that's good to know. I can help him with that.

Give him lots of nice soft things. You know, he. Seeing if he likes to be touched or not touched. Held. Partly he's a little awkward being touched held because he feels like he never really knows where things are going. You know, he's kind of at a disadvantage. He doesn't. He can't read your intention. He doesn't know that it's time to change clothes. That's why we're doing this. So every time he's touched, it's like, where are we going with this? You know? You know, most kids would know, oh, it's time to get dressed. This is what that means. If you're touching me, it's because, you know, you're helping me put my shirt on. And. But he's not following that train of thought through, so that's why it's startling. He just doesn't know where things are going. So it will really help if you start thinking that his. His mind and his life is very immediate.

Okay.

And so the things that we know we're doing for a reason or a purpose, he's not following. He doesn't watch you go that far yet. So it's like everything is a first time for him. Okay. That's the kind of sense of immediacy. Everything is a first time. That's why when he's watching TV and he's seeing all these colors, like I keep saying tigger for some reason, like oranges and reds, those become almost hypnotic. They're very soothing. And so even though he's in an immediate place, he's being soothed in his immediate place. Right. So there's no anxiety there, which is great. I wouldn't say stick your kid in front of the tv, unfortunately. He just. He really responds.

Yes, he does. We have to have him to go out and eat, otherwise he'll be all over. So that's been helpful to us a lot.

So those are just some things to know about him. Let me just see if he's just generally happy, if he feels pretty good. Let me see. Lucas, how do you feel generally about your life? Are you happy? Well, it's funny. It's like he's neither happy nor unhappy. He just is. I mean, this boy is really in the moment. He feels like he wouldn't know what else is there to be happy of. He's starting to get it, though. Like, there are some things he does perk up about, like I said, you know, like something exciting. You know, I gave him that emotion of excitement and he went, oh, yeah, excitement. You know, he gets it. But it's. It's slower connecting. So, you know, he doesn't really have expectations. Today is going to be fun. Today is going to be happy. Today is going to be exciting because again, he's not projecting into the future enough to know that. So if I ask him, is he happy? He just says, well, I am. Right? Unless there is a moment of excitement that he's actually in, you know, that's like peaking somehow. You know, like a birthday cake. Oh, you know what I mean? Then there's the moment because he doesn't.

Really respond when I come home from work or I call his name. I don't even know if he acknowledges who I am or his dad. Does he know I'm his mom and you know, I love him and let's go see.

Boy, that would really go along with that fact that he's so immediate in his head, you know, like he doesn't. There's not like a past future here happening. Let me see. What do you think of Mom, Dad, Mom, Dad? You are familiar.

Okay.

It's hard for him to really get the depth of relationship. He doesn't see those distinctions. But you're part of his familiar comfortable core. You know, he knows home. He knows home very well. Home. He needs that. Okay. So whatever you're doing there is right. Let me see if I can go to a little higher part of himself that's not as. Right now. I'm really getting into his flow, his energy, his mind. But there's another level I can reach into. Let me just get there with him and then I have to let you go. Where are you? Higher level with your parents. All right. Yeah, there is a higher. I mean level. Of course there is. But in case you ever worried, I can feel it in him. It's a higher awareness. You could call it more of a soul awareness. He feels immensely grateful to you too. He's so grateful. He reckoned that's the first thing. It wasn't I love you. It was. It was gratitude. Like you took me on. He just wants you to know. Took me on. Oh my gosh. I just got shivers.

Thank you. Thank you so much.

I would translate as. I would totally translate that as love. Because he's just like you did it. He'll. He's forever. He's forever indebted. You know, when you guys are all back in non physical form, someday you're gonna just be have this huge homecoming.

Okay. Thank you so much.

You're welcome.

Young.

Take care. Oh my goodness. Ah, that brought me to tears. I'm gonna have to go take a break. Pull myself back together. Is it time? Yeah, I guess it's time. Oh, so sweet. Okay, we'll come back right back after this for more flow dreaming. I plan to do a flow dream with you. I'm going to help you see that solution to your problem, and you can go and walk through the experience with me. Okay, so stay with me for more Flow Dreaming in just a few minutes.

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Welcome back to Flow Dreaming. Let's do one more call and then we'll do our Flow Dream for the podcast for the hour. Lisa, you're calling from Orlando. It's kind of nice get to talk with everybody today. How are you?

Hi.

Hi.

I'm doing great. Thank you for taking my call. I appreciate your. Your program so much.

Oh, thank you.

My question is it's a relationship question. I'm in between a relationship that I was engaged to a person that's coming back at me, wanting to get together, and I'm into kind of a Dating scene at this point. So my question is, is the person that I was engaged to actually authentic?

Mm. Can you give me his or her first name?

Ron.

Ron. Okay, Ron. All right. So, Ron, you've come back in the scene. Why are you coming back to her? There's a couple reasons he's coming back. I think one of the reasons you're worried about him being authentic is it's true, he feels more security with you. I don't know if you have a good job or something, but he feels like, you know, he feels more secure. Stable and secure. Like you've got some resources. Right? That's part of it. Make things easier. How do you feel about her in your heart, though? Why are you choosing her again, Ron? Well, he's acknowledging he blew it. That's what he's telling me right now. He says, I really blew it. I don't know what he did, but he feels he's got his tail between his legs.

His comment to me, one point just recently was, I should have nailed him to get married about three years ago. And I was like, every time we would make a date, you would blow me off. So now he's like, well, you should have nailed me on it.

Yeah, yeah. He's acknowledging he blew it. So he wants, you know what he wants. He wants. He doesn't like being single. He doesn't like going through different women and having to impress them. And he always feels a little insecure with them. He feels like he knows you, he likes you, he loves you. You guys would have a good life together. Something about again, he feels like his lifestyle would improve with you. So he is looking at it physically. He's also looking at it, though. Like, it's like he's had enough time to look around and realize what he's done, and he didn't make a very good choice. Right. That's where he's coming from. I would tend to say he is authentic. There's a bit of a selfish thing in there. He's just. He's tired of being single. He's tired of what he's got going on. Yeah, I can see that. Yeah. He's just. I look at his life and I agree with him. I'm like, yeah, Ron, your life kind of sucks right now.

Yeah, it does get bored.

Yeah. He's just. It's just. You know what? It's one. It's one of these rare circumstances where, you know, time apart actually did improve him. And I would. I'd maybe give him another round, but I'd Set some real strong ground rules, real strong ones, you know, like, hey, dude, this is your second or third chance. So here's what you have to do this time, you know, jump these hoops or don't. And I think that would be totally acceptable. And in fact, I think a little part of him would like to redeem himself that way. So the more hard you are, the better.

Okay. Because he's wanting me to move closer to him or move in with him without getting married. I'm like, I don't really think so yet.

Oh, no, that's a gradual.

Yeah, that's what I'm thinking. Okay.

Very good. Yeah.

Thank you, girlfriend.

He has got to step it up. He's the one who needs to impress. You don't need to be doing things for him at this point. Okay.

Okay, perfect.

Thank you so much. Take care. You're welcome. Bye. Oh, I love to end on a note where I've given someone hope, but he really did seem like he was. He was a, ah, he was a, you know, a dog with his tail between his legs. It made me maybe provoked my compassion for the poor man. All right. Even though I said be tough on him. How terrible, huh? You can tell if that's what my compassion looks like. All right, let's go into flow together. All right, let's go and feel this. What it's like to always feel your solution, to already feel your solution. Now remember, I already prepped you and I primed you with this sense that it may not be the solution you were wanting, it may not be the solution you're ultimately hoping for, but this problem came with a solution. They came like twins, hand in hand, yin and yang, black and white. Okay, just think about it in terms of, you know, nature and natural laws. There's. Everything comes with its complement. Everything. Look inside an atom, for goodness sake. There's protons and electrons. You got the positive, you got the negative charge. Everything is there. It's just a matter of reworking your understanding of it to know how to work it your favor. Work that energy in your favor. Okay, so we're going to flow dream, which means that it's not meditation. I'll be doing more talking than you would if you were meditating. I'm also going to be asking you to feel things. So instead of clearing out your mind, you're going to be emotionally relating to something bigger than yourself. The flow is what I call it. It is this flowing sensation of moving into your future, moving forward in life. It feels as if everything is working out for you, it's the path of ultimate ease and grace. It is the ace card that's always in the deck. It's you aligning to that. It's you looking at all the options and saying, I want the very best one. The very best one. That's the one I'm choosing to align to none other. Nope, not for me. Only the very best. We move into that flowing place and then we're going to feel this problem. Okay? So close your eyes with me. This problem meaning your particular one. And relax and maybe we'll get some nice music going to support us. Yeah. Deep breathing. It can feel a little bit like you're going to meditate because you are relaxing. But. But all you're really doing is clearing your mind and clearing your energy so that there's nothing else that's going to draw you away, that will take your focus or attention. It's just you right now. You and your flow. Your flow that sweeps out in front of you in your imagination like a rain road that's absolutely littered with rose petals. Deep rose petals just inches thick under your feet, blowing in the wind. Petals so soft and sweet and fragrant. Do you feel them billowing around you? Look, there's a breeze. They're being carried on. There's a current of energy. It sweeps up from behind you and it blows past you. It's blowing into your future. That's where you're going. And this beautiful rose filled path, that's your path into your future. It's where you're going. It's your next step, it's your next place of being so good and rich and vibrant and alive. Look, there's a sensation now of a golden energy flowing through. Harmonious, soft. It's like a golden light. Has the scent of honey again. It blows across your cheek and the petals go flying. Oh, you feel so good here. It's like being out in the favorite part of the world where you like to walk in the perfect weather. Where everything is right. It's a moment in your life where everything thing is absolutely perfectly right. You remember those moments. You've had them before. There's not one wrong thing, not one bad thing. Everything has come together this day for this moment. Everything has been resolved. You're in the in between space between the problem you just had and all the things that are coming up for you. You're in that perfect spot right now. And yet you look ahead and you say, I do sense that there is a problem. Or there will be one. Or there could be one or maybe you look behind you and you say, yes. Or there was that one in the past, that one that I'll acknowledge. This thing not quite working yet for me, not quite resolved yet, not quite right, not quite where I need to be with it. And you allow yourself to find, feel it, to bring up the sensation of it. Not even all the people, not even the numbers, not even the emotions involved. Necessary. It's the feeling, the sensation. This is the issue, this area right there. And it's like you can hold it in your hand. It's like a heavy gray rock, solid and smooth and gray. Just a little heavier than you're comfortable with holding out. You're looking at it and you're realizing, but wait a minute, you're not alone. You have a sister or a brother. You have a solution that's come with you too, haven't you? And look, your other outstretched hand. There it is. There is a solution. It's a light that glows. It's a potential. It's a white light streaming out from your fingertips. There it is. That is your solution. There is the problem. One is heavy and dense. And there is the solution. It's light and free and vibrant and vibrating and energetic. There they are there together. And you ask yourself, do I want the solution? Is this a solution I was looking for? And you realize in that heartbeat doesn't really matter. They go together. I can't pull them apart. All I can do is deny it or delay it. But I can't pull them apart. They do go together. And so you take that light and you fold it right over on top of that rock. You fold it right into that rock, rock right into that problem. And you say, you say to yourself, you say to your greater self, you say to the universe, you say to flow be solved. You're right. I back off. I don't understand exactly what. What this is here for, why this is supposed to work. But I believe you. And you are here. And I put you together and I. And I let you be whole again. And I let you problem change as a result. And I don't know if you'll come completely go away. I don't know if you'll do what I want. I don't know any of that. I let go of knowing that. All I know is that I allow you to move. I allow you to go and shift into your next form. I allow that because that. That newer problem is going to have a different solution. And maybe that will be my ideal. I don't know. But at least right Now I'm feeling empowered. I'm feeling activated. I'm feeling like I don't have to sit and wait any longer. I'm realizing, no, this is a road that I walk and I keep going. And every step is a solution forming for me with me. And I don't have to keep looking. I just keep my heart in the right place. My heart keeps guiding me. Yes, I want joy. Yes, I want freedom. Yes, I want safety. Yes, I want security. Yes, I want happiness and joy for everyone. Yes, I want health. Oh, that's. That's the bigger thing that's guiding me. And the problem, the solution is just one little stepping stone along the way. In fact, it's one little rose petal blowing in the wind. And that's the feeling. You linger on that sensation, knowing you've just made a tiny shift in your circumstances. And it's the tiniest shift that can put you on the biggest, brightest, newest path. And now you open your eyes. Your flow dream is complete. How did that feel? I stretched out in it. I took a little time with it. I was really hoping to demonstrate that as a technique for you. Now, when you play with that on your own, personalize it, you know, feel your particular thing, feel it changing, feel it evolving, feel the right thing happening to move it into its next most right form. Okay, no more waiting for these invisible things to come. Take action with what is clearly in front of you now. Whew. Your life changes so dramatically and it changes for the better. Because the greater vision behind this was improvement. Improvement. Improvement. Improvement. Right. You'll never get away from that. That is pure flow. Improvement, improvement. So that wraps up my podcast for you all today. Thank you so much for joining me. Do visit flow dreaming.com do say hello to me on Facebook as well. Been posting there quite actively lately. I Love your emails. Summerlowdreaming.com I try and get back to as many of you as possible. I can't solve all your problems in an email, but I do love hear from you and I hope to see quite a few of you in MI school this year. Check that out. It is so big and brilliant and beautiful. Truly life changing. I'll be teaching empathic intuition as well as manifesting and of course the core things that allow you to use both of those tools to your fullest potential. That's why it's called me. It is self growth like you have never experienced before. It's got a dash of woo woo and a whole lot of practicality in it. Kind of like me and it's gonna be a big, wonderful blast. Okay, my love to you all. Kisses. Until next time. I'll see you back here for more Flow Dreaming.

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