#436 Things You Can Do With Flow Series: How to Start A Business with Flow

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I'm Summer McStravik and welcome to another.

Episode of Flow Dream Foreign. Welcome to Flow Dreaming this week. Hi, everyone. I'm Summer McStravik, your host for the upcoming hour as we explore how you can use your mind, how you can use universal energy, how you can use just about anything to create and develop your life and make stuff. So I started a series a little while back in my episodes and podcasts here called the things you can do with flow series, because I was realizing, realizing I'm getting a lot of questions, well, can I use flow for this? Can I use flow for that? Can I use this process? Can I use this technique? Can I use this mindset? And my answer is yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. So we've embarked on a tour of many different things you can apply the Flow dreaming philosophy and mindset and technique to do. So if you're curious what Flow Dreaming is, welcome. I'm glad to have you. The best thing to do is go to my website. There is a newsletter there that you can sign up for. It's called I'm giving you a free gift, something like that. Basically, it's a Flow dreaming training. It's a free package that I put together that really goes over the basics of how to flow dream, what it is, how to do it. Once you've got that under your belt, you can take advantage of all the stuff you're learning on all of these podcasts that you are finding. So go to the website flowdreaming.com, just say, yes, I want my gift. And I'm going to send you a package of audios that will teach you and train you all in less than an hour. Actually less than half an hour until you actually do the practicing. Part which is fun. So today we are talking about how to start a business with flow. All of you entrepreneurs out there, you know, the topic of money and income and stability comes up an awful lot. And I know why. It is the basis for our lives. We trade currency and money for time, for comfort, for leisure, for so many things. And that is what, aside from relationships and love, it's probably the next or the equal most popular thing that people come to me asking about. Well, one aspect of income and wealth and security and lifestyle is entrepreneurship. And a lot of people reach a certain point when they say to themselves in their life, I think I'm ready to do something on my own. And here's what it is. And I wonder if I can do this, and I wonder if I can build this. And then you go out and you start looking around and trying to find the resources to become an entrepreneur, to start your own vision of whatever it is that you want to do. And you start hearing very scary statistics. Like almost all new businesses fail within the first year. Like people take out big loans and they never repay them. There's a lot of scary, scary stuff out there. And I want you just for the moment to put that aside and put it in perspective. Most of the news that you watch is scary stuff. 75% of what gets repeated is in the scare zone. That's because it lights up those part of your brain, that biological brain of yours, that little lizard brain back there that says, hurry, be afraid, protect yourself. It gets your heart racing, it gets you going. It's the staple of talk radio. I know, right? Because I'm a podcaster, I'm a radio show host, I've been in this for like 10 years now. I know exactly what tricks they play. And that is if we get you scared, if we get you whipped up. So you know, when you think about being an entrepreneur, you've already been pre programmed with that exact same thing. If you do it, you're taking a risk. Oh, how are you? How is your family going to survive? What if it doesn't work out? What if you we don't go there in flow dreaming? Flow dreaming is your antidote to that. Flow dreaming and entrepreneurship are your boat out of that way of thinking. That's what we're going to do the next hour. Show you what it's like when you do have your own company. Show you who you have to be to have your own company. And that's probably the most important thing. I myself, this is my third company that I have started, Flow Dreaming before this, I had a business many years back when I went through college. I supported myself through doing editing and graphic design work, digital design, back when, you know, it was Photoshop 1.0. After that, I opened a magazine and was a publisher for a while. Then I went into the world of corporate and I got the experience of working for other people. And I have come back to again having my own vision and my own company. And that's flow dreaming because for me, it's the ideal way to marry personal growth, my own personal growth and fascination with it and lifelong devotion with it, with my livelihood. So I want you to think for a moment about whatever vision might be tooling around in your head. Maybe it's pretty well put together. Maybe you've already started your own company. Maybe it's still a dream inside you. Maybe you haven't even considered it and you're just listening to this podcast because it kind of sounded interesting. It doesn't really matter. But bring it up. What's the thing that you would like to do that you might get really good at that you could conceive of yourself spending 40 or more hours a week doing? And this is without validation from other people. It's without co workers around you, rooting you on or trying to drag you under. It's without your clients yet saying to you, you're fabulous, you're wonderful. This is coming from your heart. This is the very first place you start energetically. What in my heart feels good, feels right, feels me? What would I wake up every day perpetually fascinated by doing, fascinated by this, just willing, wanting to learn every day. How do I get this into the world? How do I share this with more people? The reason I go with that, that I start with that, as opposed to money or anything else when you start a business, is that whatever you do has to come from an energy space of pure fascination and expansion. If it's not, it will die on the vine. And every person who's ever started a business that they did just because it was there, because it sounded good, it was, you know, I don't know, something that they didn't really want to do, but they saw money from it, they could figure it out, right? After a while, their interest in it drops to zero. When you are involved in something in life, your interest in it has to stay there. Your relationship, right? When your relationship, if your interest drops to zero, what happens to it? You bail, you're done, it's over. The same is true of your career. Choose something that your interest will stay in and grow in it doesn't mean that you have to pick the end all perfect thing right now. You may not know what that is, but you can pick something that feels in the right ballpark. Trusting in flow, talking to Flo, saying to Flo, this is in the right ballpark. I think it will evolve and I'm curious to see where it will go. But this is my starting point. That is absolutely fine, absolutely perfect. You know, I started teaching flow dreaming by writing a book and doing a podcast. I had no business. None. It was my own personal, joyful self exploration, a sharing of a way of looking at the world, of a way of interacting, of a technique that I was using that I found very effective. There was no business. It took me a long time before I got some CDs put together, recorded, you know, what the flow dreams were that I was creating in my head. The point is it came from a love and that's where yours need to come from. Now, as you start to grow your business, here's an interesting thing that happens. Your business will perfectly reflect who you are, who you are, how you work, how you interact with others, how you interact with your business. Your business reflects that. People sometimes feel like, oh, I will start a business in, let's use graphic design, okay? Because I mentioned it already and I already did a business like that. I'll do a business in graphic design. And my job is to serve up great images, great website, great layout and designs for books and, you know, printed books, materials, whatever it may be. And the focus is all on what you will deliver, what it's going to look like, what's the storefront going to look like, what's the graphic design going to look like? Here's the thing. If you pull back a little bit energetically and you look at that, the thing that you're offering is really not separate from yourself. It is going to reflect you up, down, sideways and backwards. Even something as seemingly disconnected as a franchise. Let's say you decided to open a Burger King, right? Burger King, McDonald's, I don't know, a franchise. Everything there is standardized. They do not want you to pick even the color of the cushions that will go into that store. Yet the way you treat your staff, that's all you. Even if you're following the book, even if they've taken every bit of your personality out of it because they want you to follow their formula for success, that's a franchise. It's still dependent on you. How do you treat people? How do you interact with them? How do you interact with your customers. Did you choose a good place for it? You, you, you, you cannot take you out of your company. And this is true for small companies and it's true for large ones. I know from the corporate world and from many people that I have, many of my students are in the corporate world. Corporations are as different as elephants and zebras. We think they're all the same. They are not. You go in and you think, oh, it's got to be standardized. There's got to be procedures and HR and vice. Some. Nope, listen. Some companies have vice presidents. Some companies have directors. Some companies have nine different CEOs. CEO, CFOC, they all call themselves different things. They all have different pay scales attached to them. They run differently. They have different amounts of power. In every role, there are different people that you have to go to. In your last job, maybe you went to your boss. In your new job, your boss can't do anything. You have to go to your boss's boss. Why? Because that's the way it's done in one company. It's a little, little fiefdom, a little kingdom. Nobody's got power. Everybody has to go to the king. In another company, the king has no power. In fact, the king is fighting with three other kings who co own the company and nobody can figure out where they're going. Every company, no matter the size, reflects you. This means the way you do things is the way your business is going to do things. Okay, let's pull back from this. I'm teaching you kind of the energetics behind what a company is. How it grows, how it behaves. Your company is a perfect representation of few. So if you know yourself very well, if you have constructed beautiful, wonderful habits inside of you, wonderful ways of interacting that will carry through to your company, you will attract employees who do the same thing. They will learn from you. They will model from you. If you conduct the most positive, uplifting, fast paced and effective meetings, your employees will do the same thing. You will be aligning with those kinds of people and they will be modeling after you if you create tedious, terrible meetings. I know all of you guys are laughing. You're like, oh my God, that's my boss. Right? Your employees will reflect that. They too will say, I don't like meetings, I hate meetings. I don't want to go to meetings, I don't want to have meetings. It flows. Do you see this? It's energy and it flows all the way out. So how do you start a company on the very best footing? How do you Run your company with the very best footing. I will tell you from my own experience. I notice whenever my energy goes off or the energy of one of my staff members goes off, it reverberates through the whole company. It reverberates through my M.E. school students. It reverberates through problems that I begin starting to have on my website. Your work you have to remember flow. It's like the old ice cube tray. I'm going to pull that one out again. You can fill up one little area of your ice cube tray, but chances are it's going to spill over and move into the next couple trays around it, the next couple cubes around it. So if you have something going on in one area, it's going to start feeling and impacting those other areas. When I am creating something, I have the objective goal. Here is what I want to do. This month, for instance, I would like to get out four beautiful newsletters that exemplify four really great mindsets, really great ways for manifesting. Okay. That's my objective goal. Energetically, though, look what's going on in my life. I may be very overwhelmed one week. I may be feeling sick. I may be behind the curve. I may be feeling grumpy. I may be feeling uninspired. You can see directly then my newsletter is going to be impacted. What you receive will be impacted. My energy will flow all the way through that newsletter to the thousands and thousands of people who read it. So I'm very conscious and I'm very careful. Do I want to do that? If you are starting a company and you're noticing something about it, like, I'm putting a lot of effort into it, but I'm not getting any clients. I want you to withdraw your focus from the. The clients aren't coming to me. As if your clients were something external to you. Uh, pretend they're not. You're not getting any clients. What's going on inside you? It's not the clients, it's you. Your clients will mirror you. If you are feeling abundant, expressive, open, ready, willing, excited, if you are standing firm and solid in what you offer, if what you offer is amazing and you it, people are going to turn their heads and see you and they're going to walk toward you and your clients will come to you. If you are instead saying, ugh, I hate sales. I don't want to go out there. I don't really want to talk to people. I'm making myself do this. Maybe if I just hide behind my website, they'll find me. Maybe If I just, I don't know, put out another campaign I can kind of hide behind, they'll find me. What are you really sending out? It's a. I don't like this, but I'm hoping you'll come to me. I don't want to do this, but I'm hoping you'll come to me. I don't want to write this, but I'm hoping. I don't want to talk to you, but I'm hoping you'll. You see what's happening. Your flow is mirroring you. If you have a ton of clients, it's probably because your energy in your company is one of the. Why wouldn't somebody come to me? I'm so good at what I do. I have people lined up. I have them on a wait list. In fact, I'm struggling to find more ways to serve them because there are so many of them. This is an energy. It starts inside you. How about the next thing a lot of entrepreneurs face? Well, I have some interested people, but then they dropped out. They stopped buying from me. They stopped coming to me. You know, my, you know, my massage clients, they just stopped booking my coaching clients. They changed their mind. This, etcetera, etc, etcetera. Again, our tendency is to want to look at other people externally and act like, huh, what do we do about that thing outside of me in flow thinking you are the center of the galaxy. If the planets are spinning, they're spinning around you. You're not spinning around them. So what's happening in you? Oh, you say, I think that when I was speaking to those people, when I was talking with them last, perhaps I didn't really give them a vision of who they could be, of why they would want to come back and have their massages every month of the stress relief it provides them. Perhaps I didn't, you know, fill them in absolutely perfectly on why they would want to coach with me. Who is it that they're going to become as they work with me? Or these products for their home? What is it doing for their family? Why are these superior? Why are they better? Or the houses that I have listed, how come you want to work with me? How come what can I show you? What can I offer to you? I'm completely 100% invested in finding you the home that will make you happy. Right? These are things you communicate and these are things you feel. You feel this. Your client will feel this. They will have to work very hard to doubt you because they're coming up against the energy of truth and you know what truth is? Truth is, you know, truth cuts through, truth hits home. Truth is in your face. You can't avoid feeling truth in flow. Are you in truth? Think about this. Look at your own client base, your own customer base right now, whatever, whatever it is that you're doing. Do you even have a defined customer base? I was working with one of my clients, you know, I work with, I have two. Basically, I have just my company, I have the ME School of Flow, which is a year long program where I work people through this kind of mindset, change their thinking in a dramatic way, move them through some significant changes in their life, teach them how to flow. How do you work with the universe to get the universe to hear them, feel them, help them in every possible way, open their intuition and so on. And then I have my diamonds and they are my ME School of flow. But I work with them privately. You know, they're my high end elite group and because of that they are committed. Because of that, they get more push behind them because they're telling me I need more push and I want more push and I'm ready for more push and I'm going to do more push. Right, well, I'm thinking about one of them who has a. Keeping this all very, you know, generic here. She's got a business selling clothing. And the question is, you know, she, she was selling her clothes all custom done, you know, custom designed. Just had them in a boutique here, a boutique there. And I kept saying, is this what you want to do? This is reflecting who you are. You are assuming only a small group of custom people will enjoy and like your work. Is that true? Because this is coming from you. And we had to go around this a few times until she finally said, you know what, it's true. I do love creating custom work because for me it's a form of art. However, I can imagine that more people would like my work if I did expand it. And I said expand it, expand it to everyone, make it reachable to everyone. Then you can continue to do your art clothing while you also open up the same vision, the same feeling. How do women feel when they wear their clothes? How do you want them to feel? What is the personality that they want to show off in your clothes? You know it because it's you, it's your personality. And other people are going to see it and go, I like that. I want to be like that. I want to put that on and wear it for a day. I want to wear your personality. So it was a shift and it wasn't coming from the perspective of traditional business, which is identify all the storefronts, who will carry you, find your price points, you know, know how much you can manufacture for, etc. Etc. Right? That is all good. That must be done. But, you know, in flow philosophy, you start from the energetic interior world, you program it there, then you go into the world of action and you find matching actions that support the interior world and the interior vision. It is yin and yang. So many business owners only do one side. They only do the physical side, and they pander to a supposed audience that they have no connection to, no real care about. That is why businesses fail. It's also about you, your personality, the way you interact. If you're afraid of certain aspects of yourself, that's going to come up in business. Your business is an extension of you. If you're afraid to upset your employees, or if you're a jerk to your employees, that will come up. That's a part of you. It's not your employees. Your employees are just people passing through. It's up to you to say, ah, here is how I interact with this kind of person, that kind of person, that kind of person. You go into flow and you say flow. I anticipate the very best people surround me, people I love and enjoy, and I can work with that, I relate with that, I communicate with that, fill the gaps, fill my holes, right? You're preacting, you're feeling that, and then physically you're following through with your behavior. That is how you build a great company. And I know because I'm in a position now where I speak with lots of people who have really big companies, multimillionaires, a couple of billionaires. And it's always the same question that I have. How do you do it? How do you manage that? How could you wrap your head around all that you're doing? And it comes to me over and over. It's not the amount of work, it's not the different kinds of work. It's not the physical aspects of it. It's their approach, it's how they feel about it. It's how they interact, it's how they take care of things. If you're not a person who takes care of things right away, who looks at an issue and a problem and says, I see there's a problem here. How can we solve, really effective entrepreneurs solve their problems today or in 48 hours or in a week, or they know the time frame that the bigger issue needs to be solved within. Before everything Slows down behind it. Things like, oh my gosh, I've just become a bottleneck in my business. How do I, how do I work through that? Right. Every person who's growing in business encounters that, oh my goodness, I'm having trouble hiring and attracting the right employees. What's going on? How can I solve that today? What do I need to shift in my thinking and in my flow right now? Oh my goodness. I'm noticing that I'm not able to solve things in a day that I sit on them for weeks. Ah, okay. I understand now that that is going to be reflected in my business as it slows down to match my pace. I'm hoping right now that by, you know, throwing out all of these examples, you're looking at your own work, your own company, and you're starting to see why it's either moving slowly or it hasn't gotten off the ground or it got stalled. At a certain point a lot of you guys are doing fine. Except, and by the way, this is some of you guys, you're employed by other people, but it's more like sales and commission. So you're semi autonomous, you're semi self employed. If you have capped out at a certain ceiling, it's because you got comfortable there. What's going on inside you has nothing to do with how many people are outside you. It's you inside. Okay, quick break. When we get back, we're going to go into this a little bit more, answer some of your questions about flow, flow dreaming. And we're going to do some flow dreaming. We're going to do some pre action so you'll start to understand how we actually talk to this mindset, how we talk to flow, how we create within flow, how we bring the universe now into everything that I've just spoken about. Okay, so stay with me. We'll be right back after this quickie break.

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Welcome back to Flow Dreaming. Let's go to some calls before we run off into some more discussion of what it means to build a business within flow and from a flow dreamers perspective, a manifester's perspective. Nadine, you're calling from Dallas. What's going on with you?

Hi, Summer, can you hear me?

Yeah, hi.

Thank you so much for taking my call.

Sure.

Okay, so my question was, what is it with flow when you just kind of feel like you're stuck in a cycle of debt, as in money, debt just can't be paid off.

Feel great.

I never want to get in debt again. And then, boom, something happens.

Back in debt, right? Going on with that, okay, so energetically, here you are always, you know, getting. Think of this as a baseline that you became comfortable with. Yes, I can get in debt, and yes, I can pay it off, and yes, it will happen again. Even when you say it, you recognize this is the zone that I occupy. It's not the zone other people occupy. Okay? Not everybody has debt. So then you say, okay, well, those people who don't have debt, what are they doing differently? Why is that not me? Now, that's the question that has to lead you into the rabbit hole, lead you to the place where you start to say, hmm, clearly, I make a certain amount of money. I make a certain amount of, you know, income in my life and career that most of the time holds me. That's what I need and want. But when it Comes to the things that are bigger, either they are extras, things that, you know, that vacation that I just didn't want to pass up, or my, you know, my car needed its engine rebuilt. When it comes to those things, I find that, oh, I don't quite have what I need for that. Okay, so this is a mindset. It's an understanding that you have. It's like a handshake agreement you've made with life. This is where we're at. To change that, you would start by preacting in your flow feelings that go more like this. I have what I need when I need it. I make the adjustments in my life easily that create an extra flow of income coming in that more than surpasses what I need. There is always money in my savings. The money in my savings is building. And I notice that even as the money that I earn grows, my expenses don't grow, because if they do, then I could find myself in that exact same place where I'm making even more, but I'm spending even more. And I'm still keeping myself in that thought process of I have what I need for day to day, but not enough for the extras. See what I'm saying?

I do.

Thank you. See, there are a lot of people, you know, everybody's had this, right? You know, in college, somehow we paid our expenses and yet we never quite had enough. And then we got, you know, into our 30s and, and then our 40s and, and now we're paying rent and mortgage and paying for kids and we always have enough, but not enough for extras. It's like, it's like a mindset that travels with you no matter how much you make. So you could do that for the rest of your life. You'll go, you'll go on Social Security, I have enough, but not enough of those extras. And you'll realize what's going on here. Maybe it's not the money, maybe it's the way I feel about it.

Okay, that makes sense.

Thank you. Yeah, yeah. So play with that. Okay, Nadine?

All right. Thank you.

You're welcome. Bye now. So I'm just going to add a little something on there for Nadine, which is when you start to play around with those preaction. And by the way, a preaction is the opposite of a reaction. A reaction is what most people do all the time. You react to things that have already occur. When you're manifesting, you are reacting to things that have not yet occurred, which is why I say pre act. You're not reacting you're pre acting to your future. In essence, you're giving your future a mirror saying, here is what I'm feeling. Make this right. You're giving it, you know, an architect's blueprint, make this. So for Nadine, her preaction now needs to follow the feeling of I'm worth it. I deserve having more. The choices I make lead me to more. I have always a big wonderful cushion that I can draw from. And as soon as I do draw from it, I'm not afraid. I can easily draw from that big cushion of cash and income and savings because something comes in to fill it up. That is the energy set point I'm at. I always have a lot. When I spend from that excess, something happens to refill it. So I go right up to that nice, delicious, filled point again. So you know, you might be thinking, well, how is that so different? Contrast this. Most people think I have just enough. I spend what I earn. When I get extra, I put it away. Then something happens, takes it all from me and I'm back to where I'm starting again. So then I earn something and then I spend it and then if I don't earn something again quick enough, I'll go into debt. Right? I'm describing a way of thinking and a feeling and interacting. I'm describing a set of expectations about you. Your expectations fuel your actions. It's really important, especially as we go back to this idea of what business is. Your expectations fuel your actions. If your expectation is, I just spent my savings, now I don't have any. Boy, I hope nothing bad happens to me before I can refill it. Where is my mind? It's already gone to the lack cycle. I hope nothing bad happens before I refill it. I am already bracing or anticipating something bad to happen so that I have to hurry and scramble and fill it up before it does. Right? Now imagine that that was a friend listening to you. And that friend does everything you tell it. Everything you tell him or her. The friend is saying, wow, you think something bad might happen and you're hurrying to fill it up before it does. Alright, let's see how we can make that happen. Gosh, what a mixed up, messy message that is. What if instead your friend, by the way, your friend is Flo here, is listening to every word you say and is going to do every single thing you say and you're saying instead. Boy, I'm really tired of that. I don't like living like that anymore. The way I want to live is to slowly accumulate, not even Slowly, however fast you want it to be, it's up to you. I want to accumulate ever larger reserves of income and cash and safety so that whenever I pull from it, I do so with complete ease because I know it's going to be filled up again. Now Flo hears that, your friend hears that and says, yeah, I like that. Let's see how we can put that together. Now this is going right to the heart of something really important. What you expect life will give you. Some of you guys are listening and you're thinking, yeah, that's just fairy tale. That's because that's your fairy tale. Because it's what you think life will give you. You think it's unrealistic. Why? Because you're looking backward. You're looking at what you've already created as opposed to what you are going to create. You're projecting your future based on your past. That's why so many of us leave lives of continuous mediocrity. Your future is not your past. Your past is something you already did, had experience. It'd be like walking into the same restaurant day after day and ordering the exact same meal. It's not what we do. It's comfortable. Yes. You look to your future instead and say, I've already done that. I need something different and new. Now here's where you come into this. You're starting to program flow with this. Your mindset is changing your flow dreaming, by the way. You're flow dreaming. It's a technique. You need to do it. Flow it. For instance, I have a flow dream in my store called More Money Monthly. I also have one called Totally Debt Free and have another one for wealth and abundance. Now between those three and the Prosperity Challenge, which is a seven day, actually it's a 14 day, you know, head reaming where we push, you know, get all these old ways of thinking about wealth out of your mind and put the new ones in. That is what we do. We go into flow and we start rearranging that puzzle that we've already created out there. We make it look different, we make it look new. We put new energy there, a new template there. And we say to our flow, start giving me this instead. I know my whole life I've been giving you that other stuff, but I'm changing that. As of this moment, I'm feeling differently, I'm anticipating differently, I'm expecting differently. Now the outshot of that is that your actions start to be different. If flow is giving you new stuff, if every day you're getting New opportunities, things you haven't had before. You're going to be faced with a choice. Do I react to them the same way as in the past? Do I do the same stuff I've always done? Or do I change my actions to receive them. To say yes to this, to say, oh, I will try this. To say, hmm, I hadn't thought of that. Hmm, I wonder what will happen if I do that. Hmm, looks like I want to build up my savings quickly. What can I do to make that happen right now? What action? And you know what? Sometimes that action is really plain. It's the second job that you take just to fill it up. Sometimes that action is not so plain. It's saying, I'm going to start my own company and I'm planting the seed today because in three years this is going to supplement 75% of my income. And I will leave my job and do this full time and there is no other way around it. And I will change and look at and play with everything inside myself until I get myself so right that my life and my flow and my business absolutely responds to that success I've created inside. Remember, you don't respond to the success that's outside of you. Life responds to the success that's inside of you. That's where most of us are stuck in. Feelings of not being good enough, inferiority, second guessing ourselves. Worried about making bad decisions, worried about spending money, worried about being unwise, worried about being lazy. All of those things. If they are 51% of you, that is what you will in fact create. If they're 49%, you've got a shot. That's why you start flow dreaming. Increase those odds. Increase who you are inside. Donna, you're calling from Thousand Oaks. How are you today? Donna? Donna, are you there? Taking a quick call.

Donna, hey, can you hear me?

Yes, hi. Hi. What can I help you with?

Okay, I sort of have a general question. As I was listening, I thought, this is so interesting that I called in today because mine isn't on the surface a business question. Where I'm at in my life. I just, I turned 60 this year. I'm sort of at a dead end job. I'm recently divorced, which was unexpected. I'm just sort of at this place in my life and I don't know where to go. It's just like I don't have a talent. So it's not like I'm thinking about a business. I don't have a business idea. I really don't know what to do. I guess what I really want to do is just win the lottery and, you know, buy a house and travel and, you know, that's really what I want to do, but I don't. There's part of me that says, no, that's so unrealistic. You can't do that. But I don't know what else to do. So I'm just sort of a blank slate at this point.

I love that lottery question. You know, a couple years ago, I actually did get an email from one of my flow dreamers who did win the lottery for about one and a half million dollars. Oddly enough, however, because I. She wrote me this wonderful email. She came on my show and talked about it. She was like, I flow dreamed I walked into that casino and bam. But you know what? Normally what I say is when we talk about, you know, it's in literature, it's called deus ex machina. It's the idea that some. You cannot solve the story's plot without an intervention from God. And people talk about it like, oh, that's the cheapest way out. You know, like, your story should be so tight and wonderful that you don't have to have some, you know, Zeus coming in at the end and saying, I bless you and fix everything and everybody's alive and happy again. So, you know, winning, I would welcome that. At end. The point when you say, oh, I've got to win the lottery, you are often giving out a couple simultaneous emotions to flow. One of them is everything is so screwed up and impossible seeming, it's going to take a miracle. And that miracle is one shot in a million. So while I want it, I'm recognizing it's very unlikely. Now remember, flow is your friend sitting here listening to you and agreeing with you. Yeah, you're right. You're right. It is. It's one shot in a million. Yeah, it would be cool, huh? But probably not. Yeah, okay. And that's what flow then gives you. Yeah, it would be cool, but probably not going to happen because it's so. Okay. It's agreeing with you. Right. So if you go into the mindset of I am only going to win all of my money from the lottery, you're right. And you're saying, okay, I'm giving only that to flow. Then you're saying, to flow. All right. Of the millions of ways that you could have changed the course of my life so that I have abundance and security and income, I'm going to allow you one. That's the lottery or the casino. And I'm Only going there four days this year. So I'm really going to squeeze this down to the eye of a needle. The way you can fix my problem, right? And then when it doesn't happen, you think, oh, you don't work. You see, it sets up a. It sets up a very difficult and narrow trajectory for your flow. Much better is to say something like this. I'm closing my eyes and going into flow. Hey, Flo. I'm at this point where I really need a new track. I feel that my life must change where I have huge security and huge abundance. And I haven't yet figured out the path to that. Even though I've been working my whole life, nonetheless, I need this and I need it fast. I want it fast. I will do whatever is necessary inside me to allow this in fast. And I know that means you might ask me to make some changes to the way I'm talking to you or interacting with you. Plunge me into whatever I need to do. I am your servant. I am also your equal. And I am also your master. We are in this together. Here is my intention. Here is my commitment. You find the best, easiest way to make this occur. And when I sense that when I step into that, I am not going to shy away and say no and get into my fear. I'm going to step in and say yes. This is what I'm talking about. How can we make this happen? And I recognize it may mean a new job comes my way. It may mean I meet somebody. It may mean that I start my own company. It may mean that I plunge into some new kind of training. I don't know. But I'm committed to this. And I'm listening and I'm hearing and nothing is going to pull me off this track, absolutely nothing, until I get it right. Even failures are not going to pull me off this track until I get it right. And that is how it is. Okay, so imagine flow now was just listening to you and it heard that it's going to say okay, right, Right. Because your commitment is overwhelming it. Your energy of this will happen. This is absolutely happening. All of me is in this place now where I will be in this position. I don't know how, but when the how is presented, I'm going in with both feet.

Okay, so when I'm flow dreaming, that's sort of the mindset that I need to be in and not be thinking about one specific, you know, idea or possibility. Just be committed to whatever shows up. I'll be there.

Yes, whatever shows up. That is the best for me. That is in my highest integrity. That's in my greatest alignment. I will be there for it. It is not just one thing. Flo. I know that you could find 10 ways right now to increase the income in my life in an ongoing way that wouldn't break my health down, that wouldn't ruin my family life. I know you could do that. I know that's within the realm of possibility and my eyes are wide open to that now. And I clear all of those other fears and doubts out of my head that say things like, well, I can't do it unless I get another job and I can only be paid this much and I can't do it unless I. And I can't I clear all of those out. I'm done with those. Okay.

I find that one of my biggest hang ups also is, you know, my age, not that 60 is that old, but I'm at a place where I'm not wanting to, you know, start a new job or like I said, start a business, you know, so that's been a huge hang up for me.

Yeah, I totally hear you. You don't want to. You don't want to work that hard. So, you know, flow. You know what, Give to me a wonderful source of income that I could do with my energy and enthusiasm that I currently have. And if it's really wonderful, I know my enthusiasm will grow.

Perfect.

Don't anticipate, don't put the lack cycle onto this, which is anything that's going to make me money is going to be too hard for me at this age. Right. That's. That's lack cycle thinking big time. Okay, I need to wrap up. Thanks so much for your call, Donna. There's a place for you to explore. Yes, wonderful. You know what? We did not get to a flow dream this show because it's a little shorter than normal because I had a little trouble getting on. But I will be with you next week. Go to my web store, flow dreaming.com. you can find a ton of resources there though, all around starting your own new business and company and increasing the wealth in your life. My love to you all. I'll see you next week.

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