#437 Things You Can Do With Flow Series: Seed Conversations Energetically

Flow Dreaming.

It's a show where we talk about the power of your mind to change your world around you, to literally affect.

The fabric of your reality.

We talk about this feeling of hope.

And joy and relief, and that is.

What being aware of your flow does.

It gives you a feeling of power.

Again in your lives.

Oh, my God.

You were so on target. You are so amazing.

I can't thank you enough.

Breathe.

It is the feeling that you bring forward.

It is your emotional connection that really.

Sets the tone for what is going.

To be happening to you and for you. And you know that feeling, when you.

Touch it, it just spreads through you. Thank you for taking my call. I don't know why I feel like crying. I think I just feel your love. Of course. And I think I'm gonna get some ANSWERS.

I'm Summer McStravik, and welcome to another episode of Flow Dreaming. That's right.

Hi, everybo. Welcome to Flow Dreaming. In this show, this live radio show and podcast, we talk about your mind, your consciousness, your ability to affect and change your reality, to shape it, mold it, direct it, sculpt it to play with the energies of the universe. People come here because they want to learn how to be a better manifester, how to be more intuitive. In other words, how to sync up and get in alignment with that perfect flow of life and being, where all information is. You can learn stuff, you can do stuff, you can create and develop stuff. It's like the universal playground of creativity, where everything really just erupts into your life, into your future, as well as it's cataloged in your past. There. That was as succinctly as I could put it. It's the place where everything happens. What I seek to do in this show is explore a different topic every week. Where we look at what flow is, what intuition is, what manifesting is, how to create stuff, how to apply these ideas into different areas of your life to get specific things done. One thing you'll discover about me is that I'm very, very practical. So we talk a lot about why things work, how they work, how to get them to work, what they do, what to do if they don't work, techniques you can, things to try, how to evaluate whether something is working or not. That's also vital, just critical, of course. And this is all on a bed of sort of esoteric wisdom, knowledge about what it means to be empathically intuitive, to be connected, to be open, to understand that your consciousness is not something that's just stuck inside your brain, rattling around inside there but is in fact a conduit. Just like all of you, you are partly physical and you are partly non physical. Your consciousness is the same way. It's partly physical and partly non physical. So people who get the most done in life, I've discovered the people who are the most creative, the most successful, the most happy, they seem to somehow have figured out that they need to be addressing all of themself all the time, the physical aspects and the non physical aspects. And flow Dreaming is one such way of doing this. It is really a way of looking at the world. It's a mindset. It's also a technique, a way of communicating with the universe that keeps you on track and in alignment every single day. It's also fabulously fun and emotionally nourishing. So all of that being said, I have one tidbit that I want to share with everyone before we go into today's topic. Today's topic, by the way, is how to seed conversations energetically in flow. It's a good one. It dips a little bit into empathic intuition as well as manifesting, because you're doing a little bit of both right when you're seeding a conversation energetically to make it go and feel the way you want it to. But the tidbit is this. It's actually pretty darn exciting. I noticed a few weeks ago that I have been turning down students left and right from eschool, telling everyone, hey, you missed the cutoff, you've got to wait till next year. And eventually it dawned on me that I really didn't need to do that. I was getting caught up in my own stuff. My own ceilings. Those of you guys know what I'm talking about if you've listened to all my podcasts on ceilings and lack cycles, etc. So I've decided to open a new class in the springtime. So I will be running a class in the spring. I still don't guarantee I'll be re running one in the fall. I'm not sure because I will be carrying two classes. That means that everybody who missed out the first time around or who was still thinking about it wasn't quite sure. You have the opportunity now to jump into MI School starting in February. If you're listening to this as a podcast and this is an older episode, just check in with me anyway to see if MI School is currently enrolling or not. But right now it is. That means you are welcome to go to my website, click on MI School and there's complete information from there. What it is what we do all year. The amazing things that you learn, learn as well as how to register and how to speak with me or one of my coaches about the school on the phone ahead of time so you know exactly what you're getting into and you can feel super, super comfortable. So jump on it. Like I said last time me school did close, it actually sold out. So I reopened some new spots and those sold out. So I opened a few more and eventually I said, forget it. I can't just keep doing this. I expect me school will sell out again. Prior much, much prior to the start date, which is February 2nd, I believe, or third. I need to check. It's the. So check that out. Go to my website, flowdreaming.com while you're there, you can check out the manifesting store as well. Both of these, of course, underwrite the free podcast to you. So thanks for listening. Okay. Seating conversations energetically. This is something I do with some of my diamond me school clients and I do with you guys too. You call into the show, have a question for me, we can do it as well. But when I'm working with somebody personally, I find that it's pretty common for us to go look at a situation in your life, right? So everyone has a flow of energy, a flow of beingness, their consciousness, where they've been, all that information is cataloged, recorded, organized, where they are now, your present state, the present energy surrounding you, as well as where you're going. And you have to think of the trajectory, meaning the direction things are moving in as having been set and created by you based on all the things you did in the past and are currently doing in the present. So the future you can kind of get a sense of all right, here's where we did. It's like shooting an arrow. You can look ahead and sort of see where that arrow is probably going to land unless you do something in the next few days, hours, years to interrupt that most likely landing point or most likely end up end result. So when we go and look at a person, say for one of my diamond students, we're going to go into their mind, which means basically popping in their flow, connecting energetically. Their consciousness is there, their mind is there. And I start talking, hey, you know my friend here who's with us, we're all connected. It's like a three way phone call, a conference call. You know, they have, they have something they need to say to you. They have a conversation, a question, a worry, a fear, a hesitation, a sense of just not really knowing what's going on. And we want to resolve this. Okay, so we have everyone's attention now. Conversation has opened. This person who's involved in it, rather the two people think of me as the mediator. I'm the bridge, sort of like the telephone operator connecting them. And we kind of go something like this, hey, you know, we really need the best time to talk about this. We need to chat about this when we're both in the absolute best mood, feeling very relaxed, not stressed, when we're both open to a solution. So timing is important. Don't you agree? The other person will say, yeah, usually, yeah, I agree. Sometimes they say, no, I don't want to talk about this. I'm done talking about this. This person has talked to death to me about this and I have no more to say. That's fair too. Remember, whenever you are working with other people than yourself and you're entering other people's flows, you cannot make them do anything. You can try. You can put your force on there. But remember, it's like bullying, right? It's like, it's like the unwanted, you know, telephone solicitor who calls you every day at 8:30 in the morning, oddly enough, like I have right now. You don't want to do that to people. They won't like you if you do. They will resist you. They will build a wall towards you. So most the time, if you haven't been doing those kinds of things to somebody, I know some of you are crouching and cowering right now thinking, oh my God, she just called me out. I've totally been doing that to my ex boyfriend. But most of the time the person will say, yeah, I would be happy to resolve this because you know what? I feel it too. It's weighing on me too. And I also don't know what to do about it. So at this point, you may think you're just communicating, you know, but you're doing both. One, you're empathically connected. This is intuition at its finest. At its best use. Two, you're manifesting. You are seeding an opportunity in flow. It's like making an agreement. We'll meet for a lunch date in two weeks, right? In flow, you're saying, we are committing to creating a beautiful growth opportunity for the two of us in a conversation where we get really clear, where we move into a different level of exchange, where all that old stuff that's been hanging on and tight and unspoken and unsaid or said badly, miscommunicated, misinterpreted, we're going to a place now where all of that is below us, beneath us and behind us. We're setting up a scenario where it's just going to spontaneously happen. Doesn't that feel good? Right? Like some of you, you can feel it right now, even as I say it, it's like your heart responded. Oh, that feels amazing. Yes, that's exactly what I want. All this time I've been putting out these. These feelings of pressure and stress and resistance to this, and I have to deal with it, but I don't want to. And suddenly I'm feeling like, wow, if it could be like that, then yeah, that's exactly what I want. I want that tomorrow. I want that as soon as possible. Because remember, what you're putting in is I want the very best opportunity where both of us are in our highest place, totally ready to just move through this. Let go of anything that is irrelevant or misunderstood. We can do that. We can truly see this issue in a light that's very different. I want that. I crave that. Don't you remember? The other person is still listening. They're still connected. Okay, so this is seeding, essentially a kind of divine timing. It's manifesting a divine timing for the communication to occur. Now, what if you want to sort of, you know, create an aura around the conversation of how you'd like it to go? Okay, be careful because your way is not the only way. Right? You're not the only road to Rome here. You have an idea for what you need. It may not match what the other person needs. In fact, it probably doesn't. That's why you guys are in a place of resistance to each other right now. It's not matching what they need. So you're going to want to be able to reframe your desire. So instead of, say, let's use the boyfriend thing, okay? Because that's so common. Boyfriends, bosses, husbands, wives, girlfriends. This is it. Those are the people usually involved. Oh, wait. Moms, sisters, brothers, they're. Oh, kids. Oh, wait. Okay, everybody. Best friends. All right? You can use it with everybody. They're all common. But let's go with a boyfriend right now. So here you are feeling like, you know, I'm gonna say Jim. Okay, Hypothetical Jim. You know, Jim, we really need to figure out what's happening because you were into me and now you're not into me and I'm not hearing from you and it's making me have, you know, issues about self doubt and was I good enough and all my deserving issues. You Just triggered them all. And all of my issues of lack that there's not enough good men. You just triggered all of those in me. Is that really what you meant to do? Is that what you intended? Or did you just decide that I wasn't, you know, a perfect fit for you? I would find I'd be fine if you told me that. I get it. So let's allow an opportunity for us to connect and get clear on this, because I'm looking for closure. So Jim's going, okay, yeah. But the reason I was quiet is because I didn't, you know, I was scared. I was nervous. It was easier just to slink away. And you're saying, no, no, it's all good. Really. I feel really good about this. This is really air clearing. So, you know, let's create this opportunity for us to have a connection again and just get through it. Okay, Now, Jim's on board with you. He's like, yeah, okay, if you make it sound like that, I'm absolutely up for that. So then what do you need to get your needs met? Well, you already kind of said it. You know what I'm looking for. Not to draw you back in, even though you were the most fabulous guy I've met in 10 years. But I just need to know what happened. Tell me what it was. I'm really curious. If I actually know, then I can take care of it. I can deal with it. So my need that I need to get met in this conversation that I'm pouring in as an energy surrounding this right now, my need is for clarity. I just want to know how you really, really feel. And I want you to feel really strong as you say it so that I can get it right. Don't hide. I don't need anything that's unclear or murky or confused. And if you are confused, if that's it, just, you know, hey, say you're confused and I'll go, okay, I got it. I know exactly what I can do with that now. See, Jim, I need to get in a really strong place in myself. And that means I need to be able to date somebody else now or let go of you in my thinking or even just set you aside for a few weeks while you move through whatever it is that's happening. Right? But I need to take the power back and get really strong. And so I need something from you to be able to do that. That's what I'm hoping for. Right. So you've offered Jim a really clear understanding of what the conversation should embody Just by feeling this, okay, I'm talking it out so you can hear it, and you know you're using your ears right now, but really, this is all happening emotionally. I am empathically with this person, feeling this person, creating this connection, pinging them constantly with this emotional scenario, a feeling scenario. Jim is giving feelings back in response. Happy, sad. Good. Yes. No, I could do that. I couldn't do that. Well, here's what I need, or here's what I'm afraid of, or the last time I did that, the girl freaked on me, so I learned not to. There's all kinds of stuff going on in his head. You have no clue what it is, but now he's feeling empowered to say it. So you have just seeded the energy with a perfect and beautiful piece of interaction. Now, do this a couple of times, and it's out there, it's set. Remember, being in flow means that you're constantly carving the energy with whatever you're putting into it. You are a mirror. So you create this energy place inside yourself, this potential conversation. It now exists as much as the fact that you're listening to my podcast or show right now. Exists. It exists, right? This happened, it happened. If it happened, it exists. Doesn't matter if it only happened in your own head, it exists. If you're actually doing it in flow and Jim really is there with you, then Jim felt it, too. His flow was entwined in your flow. Why? Because you made the connection. How do you make a connection like that? Well, that's something I teach you how to do. I can actually. I mean, right now, I can tell you what to do, but the fundamentals of how to reach out and touch him and grab him and be in that place with him, that takes a little more subtlety. Actually. It's one of the things I teach in me school. Speaking of mi school, we spend about six months opening your intuition, teaching you many, many techniques like that. Not to become an incredible psychic and work a hotline, you know, but simply to make your life easier. Every time you learn an intuitive or energetic technique, the point of it is to make your life easier so you can pull into your little bag of techniques and processes and pull out the one you need when you need it. And that is exactly a form of one. So, you know, here, I told you what to do. You know, do the best you can to connect with him, to make that bridge. It involves going into flow, which I've explained to you guys how to do a million times. It involves calling up the essence of who he is and what he feels like. Further questions, though. Oh, we can go into those in me school. So this is good, though. This is a good way to get you going. And I know that, I mean, all of us have at least two conversations that we can have right now that either are overripe and overdue or they're getting ready to be ripe. They're getting ready to happen. We're still not ready to go to them yet. We can feel them just still kind of putting themselves together, but they're getting ready. Okay. So I hope this helps you in the days ahead as you communicate better with people, get your needs met. Flow gives you what you need when you need it. That is a hallmark of energy, of manifesting of the kind of work I do, teaching you that that is a truth. And I need you to experiment with it and I need you to play with it. If you don't start playing with it and doing it and experimenting with it, it will always remain simply knowledge stuck in. But you won't develop the faith and the trust. And without those, you're not going to move into that high speed, beautiful action of going big. It's a process, right, that we all move through. So no matter what stage you're in, just get going. Okay? All right, we have a quick break to go to when we get back. I'm happy to look in anyone's head for you. I'm happy to precede conversations with you. If this sounds exciting and attractive, do call in now. You'll find that number located on my website and if this is live, and I do tape the show live every Tuesday at noon Pacific time. So go to my website right now, flow dreaming.com, click on radio podcast and you'll find the calling number. And let's get moving. All right, I'll be right back after this.

Hi. It's summer, but on break and I know that some of you are still wondering, what is Flow Dreaming and what is MI School?

Because I refer to both of these.

Quite a bit in my podcast. Me School is a transformational program. It's a gorgeous and deeply revealing, empowering online school worldwide where I teach you how to remodel your life in any way you choose, using the technique of Flow dreaming as well as a bunch of other deeply powerful life changing processes. So MI School is either enrolling or it's accepting names onto the wait list. And that means that I'm accepting students who work with me for the year and you can learn how to do.

What I do in life the way.

I Think the way I build things, make things, heal things. Everything I talk about you will learn directly from me how to do. You're going to create some amazing things. My MI schoolers. Their lives change way beyond the norm.

And you don't even have to be.

A superstar when you go in. Some of you are, and you're ready to go bigger, play in that bigger field. And some of you are just saying, hey, help.

What's next? Where should I go?

And both are fine. Both are great if you're ready to go big. But you know that you need to deepen your own spiritual practice and your personal growth, because that's where it all comes from, right? Then this is where you need to be. Your life only grows as big as you do. So here's what to do. Go over to flowdreaming.com and click on me school. And during these enrollment periods, you can actually set up a free phone call with me or my staff and we'll talk about it.

Is it a fit? Is it interesting?

During waitlist times, we just put you on a list of people who've expressed interest, so we can notify you as soon as the door doors open.

All right.

I look forward to hearing from you and even more to getting to know you as one of my personal students in MI school. Now let's get back to the episode.

Welcome back to Flow dreaming. I'm Summer McStravik, your host. Today, let's go to some calls. And by the way, we're going to be doing a Flow dream here during the show where I will help you talk to that person that you need to talk to. So we'll actually go through a little dry run, a trial run, except that it will be a real thing. Unfortunately, every time you do something, it is real. It does exist. So don't screw it up. No, I'm kidding with you. It's okay if you do. Let's start with Tamika in Georgia. Hey, Tamika, you there? Yeah, I do.

Hey, this is my question. Seeing a conversation, I've actually done that with other people, and it's worked very well. Your mom did one for me once, and that was sort of my model. But what if the person that you really have to have that conversation with is sort of another part of yourself?

Mm. Okay.

I'm doing some really wonderful things, but there's a part of me that's just not buying in. It's almost like it's a whole other person there that needs to get on board.

Yeah, I know. That is, you know, I Do a lot of teaching around the idea of blocks and restrictions and ceilings. I use all three terms interchangeably, really, because I find that when you're trying to grow, and that usually means manifesting and creating new and different things in your life, you can only grow as far as your ceiling will allow you to. You know that old Alice in Wonderland where she takes the potion and she grows so tall she has to bend over inside her little room? It's sort of that feeling. So if you're talking about a part of you that is resisting what you're trying to create, that is one of your patterns, typically, that has created this ceiling. That is every time you're trying to do something different, it's saying, no, don't do that. You won't be safe if you do that. You know, that's too risky for you to try. You don't deserve to do that. Why should it be you? Who do you think you are? Right. So this ceiling inside you is built. Everybody is. It's. It's built of different things and different people. And there are different ceilings in each of us that are built of different things. So what I do in cases like that. Oh, gosh, I do so many things. That's me squall for you. We move through, like, you know, a dozen different ways of, you know, going through that, because it's really not one size fits all. Sometimes you have, you know, to try two or three different things to start budging it. But here, let's close our eyes and look at you. All right, so tell me what this part of you is resisting. Just give me one example you're willing to share.

I started a business, and I have an opportunity to. A couple opportunities to really expand. And it's like the couple things that I need to do to go from this point to that point, they're not that hard. I just. It's like, almost like I don't want to do it.

Right. Yeah, it's just looking at you. You don't want to do them right. So you have to look at these things that you don't want to do. And this is where I start emotionally interacting with them. What do I think is going to happen if I do it? Is it going to have a. Maybe I'll fail, and then I'll be even in a worse place because I'll have proved to myself that I shouldn't have tried in the first place. Is the feeling that I think it's going to be really hard and a lot of work, and I'm just Too tired for that. Right. That's something that a lot of people feel who've already had big careers and they're like, I don't want to build a new career. I'm tired. I've done it, you know, And I say, well, why are you anticipating it's going to be so hard? Why are you throwing it into the same category as your old career? Doesn't need to be there. It's a shift in thinking that occurs as you look at these things that you're anticipating. Right. Let's use the term bracing, which is another one of the terms I use to get at it. When you think about these things, you feel yourself sort of bracing, tensing up. We brace because we're resisting, we're defending ourselves from something. Your key is to figure out what is it that I'm defending myself against, what am I expecting? So check in. What are you expecting if you do one of these things?

Just when you were saying that I had a really termination that I had for a position, I really didn't love the work, but I love some of the people I came into contact with. And I was fired. So when you were talking, that's what came up. Because it really hurt when I was fired.

Yeah, you know what? I've been fired too. Most people have. If you haven't been fired yet, you need to go get yourself fired. Everybody listening, serious. It's a really important growth step because it makes you understand that as long as you're performing and doing good, you're getting validation. You're being validated constantly. I'm good, I'm wonderful. When someone fires you, they withdraw their validation. And it really paints it in a stark way how much validation you needed from other people as opposed to you self validating. Right? Self validation is, oh, you fired me. How strange. What a weird thing for you to do. Well, I guess I didn't align with your vision anymore, but you really lost something. And as long as you can say that without anger, right? Not like you really lost something you screwed up old. But you got to say it without anger. Then you know that your self validation is really strong and beautiful. So look at it like this. So the feeling is, wow, they took away their validation from me. I'm still angry, I'm still hurt. Now I'm going to go try and do something else. I have conflict here. It's like streams of water traveling in two directions. You know, they crash in the middle. It's a big frothy mess. Nothing is clear after that. So you're trying to move forward, yet you have this, this, this counter stream coming towards you that says you were fired. Who do you think you are? What are you trying to prove? There's a whole bunch of stuff tied together inside you is what I'm getting at. Otherwise I would have pulled out the main one already. But you're a mixed up bag. So play with the firing, okay? With the feelings in it. Play with the sense of what am I bracing for? What am I anticipating when I think about doing those things I need to do next? If you figure out what you're bracing against, you will know exactly what your fears are. And then you can use flow to go in and start talking to those fears. You know, talk those fears down from the cliff. Hey. Right. I know you guys are here. I feel you. But we can't stop here. Listen up, guys. You know, look at your little fears like an army of soldiers. Hey, we can't stop here. If we stop here, this is it. And you won. All you fears won't. And you know what? You guys don't really want to win, because if you do, we're all sad. So let's not stop, no matter what. It's that kind of energetic turning point. It's like a U turn that happens right there, and you realize, I just have to do what I have to do. I have no other option. Okay, These. These phrases I'm using, they're really strong manifesting phrases because they turn your emotional self and they turn your energy in new directions. And you need to pick the strongest phrases, the strongest emotions in those phrases, and you need to start feeling them in your flow over and over again. Get what I'm saying?

I do. Thank you so much.

Okay, there's a little starting point, actually. I think I gave you too much to start with, but you need it. You will be.

Listen to this tomorrow and write it all down.

You know what? You're gonna be successful. And you can start letting go of the firing. We've all been fired. And those of you who haven't, go get fired. Okay? I'm serious.

Thanks, Summer.

Bye, Tamika. You take care. You too. Bye.

Bye.

See, you know, with her, I didn't even need to go really look into her situation because she's able to do it herself. Right? And he felt that she can see it. She knows she just needs to be pointed in the direction of what to look for, to notice when the emotions leap up and then to go after them. If she learns that very fundamental skill, she's going to reapply that over and over in every step she takes to build a business. If I leapfrogged over that and just gave it to her, she wouldn't learn that skill. She's got to learn that skill because she's going to use it again and again and again. And I know this to be true. You know, when I work with my students and my private clients, they're all about learning these fundamental skills. How do I interact with the energy? What am I creating inside me that my flow can now Mirror, Right? You are a mirror. And who you are reflects out around you. Everything that's built around you is a direct reflection of what's inside you. So if you have a ceiling, you're gonna have ceilings outside of you. If you have a limitless limitlessness in you that will be reflected outside you. And all the different areas of your life are reflecting different aspects of you. So maybe you're not a mirror. Maybe you're more like a disco ball. You've got a lot of little mirrors, right? And everyone is reflecting in a different area of your life. So personal growth, really being a manifester, being a flow dreamer, is about looking at all of these areas and saying, which one do I need to work with today? And we did. We moved through all of them. And sometimes we move unexpectedly into areas we don't think we are supposed to even move into or had any issue going on at all. I go, oh. Oh, it was you. No wonder I couldn't find out what the block was for so long, because I kept thinking it was over here in this area, but really it's in this other area that I thought was totally unrelated, and it's not. Oh, I love this work. I love flow dreaming. Okay. Hey, Sonia, you're in Michigan. How are you today? Sonia, can I get you on air, please? Sonia. Sonia. Hey there, Sonia. Hey, Sonia. Oh, there you are. Yeah. Hey.

Yeah, hi. How are you, Summer? It's great to talk with you.

Yeah, I'm wonderful. What's up? What can I help you with?

Okay, well, I've been following you for the last year and a half. I absolutely love you. You're great on Mayan Valley. And I today am looking into my career, so it kind of seems like that's the theme that's going on. And yes, I have been fired. Unfortunately, I've worked past that.

Yeah. And I know right now this is going to go down in history as the show where Summer told me to get fired.

And I did your career trauma. And that was awesome.

Yeah. The career trauma that's a great reference. That's another podcast you can find in there. Little show topic.

All right, so the thing is, I'm trying to. I'm looking for a job. I have been and I'm raising my feeling and I've been, you know, wondering, like, when am I going to get. When is it going to come? I'm wondering if you, you know, you see me like, getting a new position before the end of the year and. And if not, what's lacking?

My energy.

I just really try to work on directing my flow for prosperity and abundance and really being focused and seeing myself be really successful and happy in my career.

Sonia, what is the career you're looking into continuing or pursuing?

Yeah, I'm a social worker and right now I'm looking into going into academic advising and working with. You've been, you know, helping them go into further education.

Mm. You know, when I look at you, I see a lot of jobs that are beneath you, and that's probably something you've been encountering too. It's like you look. It's like you're looking down at them like they're entry level, they're a lower level, the pay is too low, the play. You know, it's like you see a lot of stuff below you and then you see yourself and then you look up and you're trying to find the jobs that are a little above you. Right. A little high up. The next step. And it's like finding those is like the rare bird flying through the sky. Every now and then you catch a glimpse. Okay, so this is your interpretation of the energy going on around you in your career. What I'd like to see you do, actually, is some active manifesting here, because I don't see any impediment. I don't see any reason why you should not be getting a job like this, except this sense of emptiness that's surrounding you. So in your case, and I don't recommend this to everybody, but in your case, you know those rare birds that you see flying, those good jobs? Close your eyes with me. All right? See yourself. We're floating in the air together. It's kind of weird, but we're just floating. And below you are all those entry level jobs, the ones you know you just will not do. You've been there, you've done that. Those are for 20 year olds, okay? Just. Just getting out of college. There are tons of those below you and you're looking up and you see a couple of where you want to be, and some of them look far away. They're too far away. They're distant. Some of them look like they're just, you know, they're surrounded by other people already. You're going to be the bird caller, the bird whisperer. They're like a flock of blackbirds, right? And you're putting up this beautiful, gorgeous net. It's not a bad net. It's a net of light, sparkling light. Every thread in this net is a different sparkling color. This net spreads out from your hands. You're a fisherman and your fish are birds. My metaphor is crazy, but it's okay. And all these birds are coming to you, and they want to land on this net. It's like a phone wire to them. And you have a huge flock of them. It's just full. And they're all coming together and they're chirping and bouncing around. And you're realizing these are jobs. And they're all coming to me. They're all being brought to me. They're attracted to me. You feel the energy swooping in, pulling in towards you like you're a reverse radio antenna. It's all coming into you. These jobs are everywhere. They are not scattered. If they are scattered right now, you are losing any sense of distance between you and them. They all drop in your inbox right now from across the planet. But especially ones that are close to home, especially the ones that are the places that you want, those come right close, tight in around you, a big, close, tight circle of energy. These beautiful, soft, silky birds looking at you, and they're saying, we're your next step. We're your job. You're ready for us, and there's a lot of us, and we're beautiful. And yes, we are the next step. Yes, we are the next level. Which one of us are you going to pick? Which one? Okay, so I just open my eyes and I let go of that feeling, the energy that you're cultivating with that image. And you can use any image you want, by the way. But that just popped into us is a sense that these scattered, infrequent opportunities become very concentrated for you. And there is absolutely no reason why they shouldn't become very, very concentrated for you. Why not? And you allow them to. And now you have five or six good ones to pick from in the new year. Okay? Hit that energy over and over. Build it inside you so it becomes a part of you. Then just expect the response and do a lot of action. Of course, looking. I think you are doing acts. That's why I didn't Harp on you.

Yeah, yeah. It will come. I know that. I notice.

Yep, you will come. It's just we shorten the timeline. That little energy exercise, that little flow dream was a shortening of the timeline because right now you are putting out a condition of I know you're out there. You're just so far and few between, it's going to take a while. And we scrapped that and we replaced it with a different expectation. Right.

Oh, wonderful summary. Thank you so much.

You're welcome. Sonia, thank you for finally calling in after a year and a half. Bye. Oh, let's go with one more. Hey, Cole, you're calling from St. Louis. Hi, darling. I think I know who you are. You're one of my MI School diamonds. What's up?

That's me. So I have been able to. I'm obviously calling it about career. So I've been able to manifest real well in getting more yoga classes. As we've talked about before, I think one of my areas that is the struggle for me in my private business is that I am not connecting deeply with the value of my program and what my clients are getting out of working with me. And I just feel I'm obviously the one with the answers, and I just haven't been able to connect with it. When Shanda asked me, what do they get out of working with me? I can't even answer that question.

This is so common for coaches, right? You and every other coach. You think you have to have the whole entire kingdom put together perfect before you can open the doors and let your clients walk in. Like, you've got to know everything right off the bat. And, you know, when you're starting out, it's not like that. You know, when I started out, I had a good idea of. I'll give you. I'll give you an example. Like with you, I do flow dreams. When we work together privately, they are purely spontaneous. I allow the information to come in and through, and I trust it implicitly. And it's always right. In the very beginning, years and years and years ago, talking 2005 maybe, when I used to do flow dreams for people, I would have them fill out a form about what they wanted, and then I would write the flow dream out. I would spend an hour typing it out for them, them so that when they got on the call with me, I could read it to them and take them there. I did this because I felt like I had to know in advance exactly what it was that they were going to need and what I was going to deliver. And it had to be perfect and just right. These were not effective flow dreams because once I actually connected with my client, talked with them, got to know them, I would then go back into a flow dream that had been pre thought out, pre ready, and it was just dry. It wasn't. I mean, it was effective, but it wasn't stellar because I wasn't paying attention to what was tuned in. I wasn't trusting myself. So when you're looking at your program and thinking, I need to know everything that you know, get your tools together. The tools are the things that you use to change people's lives. The things that, you know work really well, that you can use extremely well to guide, direct, and open people or teach them, whatever your combination of things is that you do. Go to your clients right now. Ask them. Ask each and every one of them, past and present. What was the biggest thing that I gave to you? What changed in you in the most. The most as a result of working with me? What didn't change in you as a result of working? You know, be brutal. You need to know. They will tell you what you are best at. You don't need to know yet. They will tell you. And from their response to you, you will get an understanding of where you shine above all others. Right. That's what happened to me. Eventually, I got enough feedback. People said, just when you just go into that place, when you just connect, it's the most amazing thing I've ever felt. And I thought to myself, I don't think I need to spend an hour pre writing these flow dreams anymore. They told me, and that's what I started to build my trust on. So have you asked each and every one of your clients what their biggest benefit was from you?

I haven't asked every single one. I've asked a couple, but ask more.

Okay.

All right.

Ask everyone. And if their response was, I'm not really sure, I don't really know. Okay, then that is an indicator. Hmm. You know, because I didn't know. They're not sure. Okay, so it's still murky. Keep going. You know, don't stop. Like I did with Tamika. Don't stop. You can't. You can't let it stay there just because they said that. That's an indicator. Huh? I was unclear, so their response was unclear. So let me try things now to get more clear. Let me just start playing around. You'll get there. I mean, it's not even determination just so much as an absolute knowing that if you just follow the right Steps, it will be revealed. You'll get it. You just have to do those steps and relax. Chill out, honey. You'll get there. Okay, start with asking everybody. Honest to God, feedback, good stuff, bad stuff.

Okay.

All right. Thank you so much. You're welcome. I'll talk to you again. Bye, honey. Okay, we've got a quick, a quick, quick, quick break to go to. When we get back, we're going to do a flow dream and we are going to have a beautiful conversation set up with someone somewhere in your life where there's no fear, there's no bracing. This is the best conversation you have ever had. It's the one you walk away from and say to yourself, oh, my God, I had no idea it could have been so amazing. If I had known that, I would have done this days, weeks, months, years ago. So stay with me right after this break.

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Manifest your life with Summer McStravic and Flow Dreaming. Welcome back to Flow Dreaming. We're going to go into the place that I spend lots and lots of lovely, luscious, delicious time. It is Flow. It is an energy of perfect alignment. It is perfect synchronization with the universe, with my future, with my present. It is a place where I potently inform universe of who I am, what I expect, and what I need. And then Flow has the opportunity to respond to that by giving me whatever matching circumstances it can dream up. And I let go of control at that point and I say, you dream them up. You know what I'm looking for, right? It's like defining your perfect personal style. The best clothes, how you want to look. And your personal shopper goes out and puts together tons and tons of possibilities for you. And then you get to look through all those racks of clothes. And some of them you say yes to and some of them you say no to, but they've already been honed in to match you as closely as possible. Oh, my God. I think I just likened Flow Dreaming to having a personal shopper, which I've never had, by the way, but I do watch all of those darn trashy TV shows about them. All right, so let's close your eyes with me. If you don't know how to Flow dream, by the way, go to my website. There is a place you can type in your email address puts you on my newsletter. And you get a 30 minute how to flow Dream introduction, audio to download, and you get a Flow Dream to start working with. So I explain this process in detail so you know that you're doing it right. So go to flow dreaming.com and get that. Until then, close your eyes with me. And no, this is not meditation. It's not self hypnosis. We are going someplace else entirely. We are opening up our emotional selves and we are communicating deeply and strongly. Deep breath in and relax. Letting go. No stress, no stress. As you drift off, moving into this place, it's like an energy starts to swirl around you, catching up around you. There they go. Energies moving, swirling. And you're in these energies. You're in this light, this feeling of movement. It's a subtle feeling. You can almost feel it in your body. Kinesthetically, you're moving forward. There you go, gracefully floating, moving in a perfect alignment. There is nothing wrong about this. There Is nothing resistant about this. It is absolutely spot on, right? It is you. It is you synced up to your source self. It is you synced up to everything. And in this place, this flow, you find yourself slowing down now. And you're in a beautiful room. Imagine a room that feels good. It could be filled with white walls and soft, plushy white furniture. It could be an old fashioned room with nice dark woods and soft velvety fabrics. However, it feels good to you. You're in a room and there are two chairs in this room, or two couches and you're in one and someone that you care about is in the other. You care about them because you love them. You can care about them because you are infatuated with them. You can care about them because they control some aspect of your life or your paycheck doesn't matter. You have a connection with them, a strong connection. And you can feel all around you. It's like a cloud of light. This is communication that has to be had, it has to be made. And you recognize. You could either let that communication just sort of drift back and disappear. You could let it go, continue to hold some sort of need deep inside yourself, tuck it down. Or you can say, no, we're gonna have this. We're gonna have this communication and we're not gonna have it in the way that I've been fearing, the way that I was thinking it might happen, where either I don't get my knee met or everything falls to pieces. Big drama. Whatever it is that I've been worried about, whether I'll just never hear from you again. Whatever that fear is, I'm rolling that up in a ball in my hands and I'm letting it go. I'm just sending it out and away from me. A ball of light rolling off into the distance, breaking down and disappearing. No, I don't need that. I don't want that. And you don't either. Know what we really need? We need some sort of beautiful place, A beautiful moment, beautiful time to really have with each other. And I can feel it happening. I can feel it swirling around us. A potent moment or two where this conversation is so natural, it just. Just erupts. It just bubbles out. And the way it comes out is so freeing. It's so delightful. It comes from a place of. Oh, really? Because this is what I need. Oh, yeah. This is what I need. Wow. We kind of need some of the same things. I wonder how we can work this out. What should we do about this? Do you feel the positivity? Do you feel the. The absolute connection? Do you feel how you're both actually on the same page, even though you may have come from different places? It is there. It is right? Feel good. And it's only to the degree that it feels good. If it even starts to dip into feeling bad. Oop. The conversation stops. It's done. You've got enough. And you realize, I can do this. I can have this. I just have to reframe how I feel about it, what I expect from it. So I'm going to have this conversation. We're going to have it. We're going to communicate. These are my feelings. Do this. Let's make it happen. Perfect, right? To the perfect, right degree. Whatever the opening conversation is, it doesn't have to be the whole thing, just the right door in. We've got it. We've snagged it. Oh, what a feeling of relief. How delightful that is. The other person nods and grins, and they're so happy, too. You blow them a kiss or you wave goodbye. You say, I. I will see you soon. And you allow the imagery to dissolve, the flow to dissolve. And now you open your eyes and you are shocked to discover that that was about six or eight minutes you were there because you lost all track of time. And that's flow for you. That's exactly what it is. Someplace else. No time, just feeling, just energy. With that, I'm going to wrap the show and I will see you all next week for another episode of Flow Dreaming. Thank you all for being with me. Be sure to go check out my website, flowdreaming.com. my love to you all.

All right, that wraps up our episode today. But before you go, two things. One, you can get the Flow Dreaming app in the Google, Amazon or itunes app stores. It allows you to search and sort to mark your favorite episodes. It's completely free to download and it gives you access to the latest several dozen of these episodes, as well as to the premium episode library, where there are more than 400 episodes that date back 10 years. The app's free, so go download it now at Flow Dreaming in the App Store on your mobile device. And last, if you love my show, I'm going to give a shout out to my mom's podcast. It's called the Dear Venus show and she's an amazing intuitive and a medium and super, super funny. Search the words Dear Venus in your podcast directory or online and that way you can find her too.