#438 Manifesting vs. Intuition: How They’re Alike And How They’re Different

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The more you are in your routine when you interrupt that pattern, everything gets shaken up, shaken out. It brings you to a different perspective, a different way of looking at things, and it creates a necessary open space for new things to now move into your life. Even if you work daily to bring things in, you sometimes have to interrupt. Personally, I find that every six months is the minimum that I need to create a space like this in my life. To stay juicy and to stay creative, to stay focused, to continuously move in new directions. I highly encourage you all to do that. And the bonus is you get to come home with a worn out voice from all of your fun parties and staying up late. And my hubby went with me, so we had A fabulous time. Okay, let's jump into our topic, right? Manifesting an intuition. So I have something called the ME School of Flow. M and E. M is for manifesting, E is for empathic intuition. It's a year long program and I'm actually opening up the next wave of it. So if you're interested and you want to see or learn more about it, you really should go to my website right now. I have a bunch of appointments open to speak with you about 20 minutes. We get to talk together and see if it's something you might be interested in. But my current group of students right now, they are heading into the most deep, crunchy, how to describe it? Opening experience in manifesting. Right now it's the fourth month for them and they're really discovering what it means to manifest, what it takes inside you. And I have to tell them all the time, look, we are going to get to the intuition part. We're going to go there, you know, that's you're going to do the manifesting with me for six months, then you're going to do the intuition for six months. We're not going to do the intuition first. There is a reason for this. It's because when you develop your ability to manifest, you are creating the connection. Now let me, let me give you some examples here, some other ways of saying this before you know, you have to create the connection before you start reading what's in the connection. So another way of saying it is, you know, the Zen masters, they say that you can't see your reflection in running water, only in still water. That makes a lot of sense to me. You can't see your reflection in running water, only in still water. Running water is the energy of the universe. It is the flow of time, it is the flow of events. It is the manifestational aspect of life. Running water, you can't see your reflection in it though. You have to reach the other place. And this is why they suggest meditation. Because that is the still water. That is where you get to see what you are creating. You get to see what you are reflecting outside of yourself into your life. You have to do both. Energy is both still and full of movement. It reflects both aspects. Likewise, your life should be doing both. Here's another way of saying it. Most of us know how to pray, right? Almost all of us have been exposed to prayer. We talk to God or source or, you know, whatever sort of universal intelligence that you identify or acknowledge. So manifesting is like prayer because you're essentially talking to God. You're communicating. You're saying, hey, God, here's what I'm hoping to get, here's what I want, here's what I need. You know, I'm desperate, you know, tell me what to do, you know, save someone for me, help this person, help me. This is your part of the conversation, manifesting prayer. Your part of it. Intuition, on the other hand, is like meditation. Meditation is the act of listening or hearing. Meditation is where you listen to what God or the divine says back to you. You become empty so that you can become filled with that divinity, with that ecstatic experience. That's intuition. Intuition is going in to the same energy, the same place. But now you're not talking to it, you're hearing it, you're listening to it. And this is what it means to be in conversation with life, right? If you do just one and not the other, you're only halfway in conversation. Imagine someone who is only talking, only talking. If you're only praying, you're not listening. If you're only meditating, you're not manifesting. You need both parts of the dialogue. You are in conversation with the divine. And this is why I flow dream. Flow dreaming is a synthesis of both. It is the divine conversation. It is the way to say, to pray in essence, to energy into flow, into. Here is what I'm looking for. Here is what I'm creating in me. I am making it inside myself. Do you see me making it? I am embodying these characteristics. I am embodying the sense of this is what I am. This is what comes into my life as a result. And the other side of the conversation is flow saying back to you, I hear you, I see this, I reflect this. I am this. And further, here is what you can see when you look at yourself in this state. And what you see, that is your reflection right in still water. That is where you hear and that's where we say the guidance comes from. Otherwise, imagine manifesting as if writing a to do list, a totally random to do list. You know, pick up kids, soccer uniform, you know, write a paper for my class. What if I wrote a to do list like this? One, my kids aren't in soccer. Two, I have no class, you know that I'm, you know, having to write a paper for. It'd be random, it'd be totally irrelevant, not connected to my life yet. It would be full of action. But I never do that. My to do list is guided by what I am intuitively knowing that I need to do, right? I had the things on My list, the action parts of my life have a reference point. That reference point is my intuition. Yes, it's also my intellect and mind clicking through the things that need to be done to get from A to B. But the source it derives from is that greater place that says, we know what you're asking here is what needs to be done. Do you hear me? Here is what you need to do to get there. Here is our part in it. Intuition is your flow speaking back to you, saying, we hear you, we know what you're asking for. This is what we're doing to bring you to it. And that's why you say, oh, I got a flash. Oh, I know what's happening next. This is where you get a sense of, oh, this is in my future. Oh, this person's going to call me. Oh, I just knew this was going to happen. Oh, I felt like if I followed that feeling, that hunch, it would take me here. Oh, I knew I was on the verge of a giant transition in my life. Oh, right. This is you acknowledging the stuff that you're hearing, that you're learning, that you're being shown or told or feeling about yourself. And when you have that information, it makes it so much easier to create your to do list because it's no longer random, it is now being absolutely and beautifully guided. The conversation is rich. It is going back and forth. Here's what I want. Oh great, here's our part of it. Here's what we're going to do for you. Remember like it's, it's talking to a friend. If you do all the talking and your friend does all the listening, it's a very one sided conversation. You don't get any guidance or direction because you're doing all the talking. You need your friend to respond, to bounce back. Likewise, if you're only listening and your friend is doing all the talking, if you are only in your intuition without manifesting, then what happens? You're simply absorbing. There's no action, there's no traction, there's no gal, no, no ground that's being gained because you're not translating that, listening into anything purposeful, forceful, useful in your own life. Manifesting and intuition are the yin and yang. They are the conversation again of the universe. So I was thinking, you know, after I was putting together my thoughts for this program and trying to share with you the differences and why, when someone says, well, I'm going to take a class on, you know, intuition, I say, yay, great, I hope you're doing manifesting too or if they're only doing things like law of attraction work, I say, great, I hope you're doing intuition too. Because they go together. And if you do one without the other, you will come up, I don't want to say empty handed, but you will only be halfway there. I mean, you reach the halfway point in the marathon, but then you look at your life and say, why isn't this yielding what I wanted it to yield? Well, because you've been the only one talking or you've been the only one listening, right? It has to be if you want growth. You know, think of this divine conversation. From a divine conversation. What happens if you were truly talking with God or source or, or quantum consciousness, whatever you choose to call it, your greater self, if you were truly in divine conversation with that every single day, what would flow from that? Did you hear that? You catch that? What would flow from that? That is the ultimate generative force, the flow. What flows from that? Ideas, action, you know, responses. That is, that is the energy of life moving forward. That is the opposite of stillness. It is the opposite of empty that becomes the full you experience every day. So anyway, I was, I was saying, I was thinking how I communicate to people what it's like when I am reading someone's mind, for instance. You know, the old proverbial mind reading. Yes, I am a mind reader. Yes, I am a medium. You can see me, I'm throwing up my little finger quote marks in the air. To me, both of those are very old school ways of identifying things. You know, mind reading and mediumship and woo comes from that older tradition of understanding. Mind reading for me is simply opening in flow and allowing myself to connect with someone else's state of being. Their flow, my consciousness opens into their consciousness and I feel them. I am wholly within their sphere. Wholly within your sphere of being. And this is very easy for me to do. There's no struggle involved. It's not like having to row a boat across the energies of the universe to find you and reach you. There is no distance. It's an experience of opening into you. There's no place to go. Rather, it's more like I take you into me or you, you know, in other words, imagine, no distance. Imagine. Imagine you're holding a string and you have that string. One, one. One end of it is pinched in one finger and the other end is pinched in the other finger. And it looks like you have to be a little ant crawling along that string from one side to the other. And it can be a very long string make it as long as you want in your mind. Now bring your fingers together so both end of the strings touch. Now the distance is absolutely closed. What can the ant do? Just hops from one end of the string to the other. It bypassed the distance, created a loop. This is what happens when I move into your flow state or you move into my flow state. It's interesting. I was reading a book on the plane ride and they were talking about great masters, gurus essentially, and stating how a guru is able to transfer grace. They're able to bring you into their state of enlightenment just by being present with them, even a brief glimpse. You move into their flow. You move into their state of enlightened beingness, their enlightened consciousness. It overrides your energy. It moves into you, it envelops you. Flow is very similar. Now, I do not claim to be a guru far, far, far from it, but the principle is exactly the same. You move into someone's state of being, or they move into you. This is why it's really important who you allow into your flow in minor ways and in major ways. You know, if I am your teacher and I'm moving into flow with you, and you are being guided with me, you become part of a flock of birds. We fly together. My energy is very important that you want to be involved with that you, you want to be exposed to. It will colonize you. And I will say, here is where we're going. This is what I want you to look at. This is what I want you to see. Now, a guru will awaken. Apparently the God state in you. I don't know. I don't have a guru. From what I understand, when you move into flow, it's also a sense of moving straight into God's state. As close as you can go, as close as you can go into absolute, utter alignment. And the God state, being a place of movement, a place of grace, a place of energy, of consciousness that is continuously expanding, evolving. You know, when you think of enlightenment, you often think of a frozen kind of state. It's an achievement once you reach it. It is static, it is there, it is known. Right? Isn't enlightenment in your head? It's kind of a known state? In other words, it's a place you get to and then be. What if enlightenment was the ability to stay in continuous, synchronized flow with that ever expanding consciousness, never dropping out of that consciousness, never dropping out of that expansion, but being present in it at all times? It is no longer a frozen state of being, but it is continuously sinking In. To everything that changes around you, to everything that continues to expand and exist and be and grow and collapse and die and regrow, grow and can you see that? For me, that's what I call flow. Trying to reach into that state, be present in that state from whatever starting point you can get into it at. From whatever starting point you choose to. To get into it. I mean, it's a. You might. You might. You might touch that feeling for 30 seconds. You might touch it for 30 minutes. You might reach it through meditation where you go in and listen and have it reflected back to you. You might go into that state through your intuition. Will you go in and hear? Listen? Yes, yes, I understand. I can feel that. I know where the guidance is. Yes, I. I hear you. I hear you, divinity. I hear you, quantum consciousness. I hear you, flow. You may go into that flow state and say, here is what I'm creating now. Here's who I am. Here are the emotions I'm. I'm allowing to. To move out of me, to create within this godlike state that's manifesting. You may go into it through prayer, creating that personal, intimate connection with your personal, intimate source self or, or greater being that you acknowledge Jesus or God or, or, you know, Krishna, anybody. And then you may ask for information or ask for your request to be granted, however you choose to do it, as long as you do both. 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I'll see you all at Inflow. Welcome back to Flow Dreaming. Hope you guys enjoyed that first segment there, it was a rather long monolog. But the differences between manifesting and intuition should be clear. Think of running water and still water. Running, manifesting, energy, connection, conversation, prayer, they all go in one pool. The other side is still water. Intuition, meditation, being psychic. Right. That's all part of the still water, the reflection back. That is the divine conversation. And if you have both of those rich and well developed in your life, then when you make a choice for something, choice towards something. I did a podcast recently on effortless decisions, for instance. Right. You can only make an effortless decision to manifest something if you know, if you trust, yes, this is the right decision to make. And how do you trust and know why you're intuitively connected. It makes sense. It's part of you. That's what you heard, you felt that come back to you. Everything you do, you're tracking either along one side of that line or the other. You're either making and creating or listening and verifying. You can't go wrong between those two. So, you know, in the year of me school, what we do, the students learn one section, then they learn the other section, and then they put them both together and you learn, where am I strong? Where am I weak? What am I naturally gifted at? Which one do I have to work at? What are the blocks and resistance I have to working in either area. And you get to discover so much about yourself. I mean, I call it a school of personal development because ultimately that's what it is. Flow dreaming is all about lifelong personal development without end. You don't ever reach a place. Well, it's sort of like enlightenment, right? You know, even when you reach a place of mastery, there's always more you can go into because it's still moving. You're still growing. Now you're just growing in your enlightenment, growing in your mastery. Love it. You can tell. You can tell. I'm an advocate. All right, let's go to. Hey, Melissa, you're calling from Texas, and how are you today?

Hi. I'm doing pretty good.

Good.

Thanks for taking my call.

Yeah. What's happening?

Well, I just signed up for MI school.

Welcome, welcome, you students. Thank you.

Thank you.

Thank you. Before you ask the question, why did you take. Why did you take the leap? Why did you do that?

Well, I guess in a way, it just kind of felt like it was time. I've been struggling with depression for many, many years. And so in the midst of that, it just feels like pretty much you shut down everything. All your emotions, all your intuition, all Those things. Yeah. And I've been getting to the point where I've really, really been working on those issues and, you know, just knowing that I need help and opening all that back up and, you know, help with figuring out the manifesting part and those kinds of things.

Yeah.

So you're ready for. You're. You're ready for a reawakening. Yeah, yeah. Depression. It's true. It does. It shuts your emotional self down, shuts everything down, and then no one can really tell you how to reawaken or build it back. They say, here's a pill. Get some exercise. Right. It's supposed to just come back all by itself. Or they say, make some big life changes. And you say, yeah, but what. So, right. Exactly. Perfect. Perfect. Perfect.

Yes. Yeah. And I, you know, I didn't want to go to the drug route and drown it all out, so I just. I knew I needed to do this, but I am petrified on so many levels, I guess. First off, of course, it was the money level. You know, I. I, like, I knew if money was not an issue at all, there would not be a problem. You know, I. I knew I wanted to do this, but I'm like, it feels like the, the, you know, making the ends meet just hardly happens. And I thought, how am I. How am I going to do this? You know, I. I've been working on my issues with eliminating beliefs of money and all those things, but this is scaring me, I have to admit.

I recently did a little webinar about money. A little webinar. It was a big webinar about money, explaining that, you know, money, because it's such a physical response to us, it really is. It's sort of like it's the exchange rate that we get with life. You know, like when you travel, there's an exchange rate. Money is the exchange rate that we've made with life. If I give this, what do I get back? And some people's exchange rates are very, very low. And you don't go to the money then and say, well, you need to change that. You need to give me more of you. You actually look inside yourself and say, hmm, I need to give more of me. Right? So the first thing that we do with income is, and we look at you and you say, all right, so I have reached this place where there is something in me that my financial situation is perfectly embodying and showing me and reflecting. That is a valuable piece of information. Because the answer is already there. It means that your answer is already in Your problem, it comes together, okay? The solution is out. I mean, it's. We're gonna do a whole segment on this in me school. I hope. I hope Julie told you when she talked to you.

Okay?

There's a whole area of this where we say, all right, if it's broken here, here and here in my life. And it's not just funny. It's. It's, you know, relationships or anything else that's broken here, here and here, what is happening in me that I have made that and created that. So let me just look at you briefly before I explain any more about what you're going to do. Let me see what I can get to you right now. Okay, Melissa, there was one question you wanted me to ask your flow for you. What would it be?

Oh, gosh.

You know what? You just. I'm sorry. While you're thinking, I'm getting a feeling of you. I got a picture of Jack and the Beanstalk. Isn't that funny? Jack and the Beanstalk, that old story. You're like Jack, right? You're at the bottom and up at the top is that golden egg or golden bird or whatever it was. But there's also ogres up there. And you're feeling like, I'm ready to climb. I'm climbing up. I'm climbing up. That must be out of your depression into the clouds. But when I find. It's like there's two parts of you. One part is very scared. Is it going to be hurtful? Is it going to be dangerous? The other part of you says, but that's where the prize is. That's where the income is. That's where it is. Think of it this way. The journey isn't what you. It's not the ogre at the top. It's the strength you have during the climb. The ogre at the top is a fear. It's a misplaced fear. There is no ogre at the top, no giant. The climb itself is what you have to have the strength for. Okay, so translate it. Just move through the climb. Get through the climb, the day to day, the hour to hour, knowing that when you reach the end, it's there. Okay, so it's like what I'm feeling you need to do is to scale back your fears to what's immediately in front of you. Like, that's the first thing that you'll start practicing. This kind of, you know, this emotional tendency we have to look forward in our life and anticipate something bad or fearful or difficult. Okay, you're no Longer allowed to do that. I'm rescinding your invitation. You have no. You are no longer allowed. You cannot look forward with fear. You can look only at today and say, what am I afraid of right now, in this moment? What is being asked of me in this moment? What do I need to do in this moment to make a change for the better? Can I do that? Right. Getting really, really present. And that is the equivalent of putting one foot on that beanstalk, then the other one, then the other one, then the other one. It means you begin climbing without looking up, without looking down. You can't be afraid of what's above you. You can't be afraid of how much you might fall. So would you do that for me between now and the start of school? Yes.

Yes.

Try very hard.

Yeah. Cultivate that state. You'll come in much stronger. Okay. Thank you, Melissa. I'm gonna let you go now. Okay. I love looking forward to seeing you and getting to know you in me school. Yay.

Okay, thank you.

Thanks so much. Bye. Bye. Interesting. So, you know, Flo in that case gave me a visual that it could. A metaphor. She needs to get real present, not. You see, everyone has a different need, a different place that they're in. That. That's why every bit of advice, every bit of insight is going to be completely, completely different from person to person. For her, it's stay present, stay present. No past, no future, no depression, no fear of where you're going. If she can stay right in that space, if she practices and cultivates it, it's kind of like picking the most weak muscle in your body. In my case, my abs. And I told her to do 1000 sit ups before school starts, then we're going to work on all the rest. Right, the core. Right? That's her core. That's her core. One. Okay, we have Caitlin calling from Atlanta. Hey, Caitlin, are you there? Hey. Hello, darling.

It's Caitlin from me school.

Oh, for another one. Gosh, you're just. You're. You're piling up the phone lines today. How are you? I'm good, Good, good. Where you at?

Hey, can you hear me?

Yes, I do. Do you hear me?

Oh, I'm sorry. Yes.

Okay.

I'm good. I just wanted to ask a question about Jordan again. He's in Vietnam now and I've been trying to, like, work on focusing on myself and like, letting things go. Yeah, and we're still talking, communicating, like Facebook messaging. And just the other day I kind of. I mean, just being honest about it, I Said, I miss you. And then he didn't respond, and I asked why. And he went into this whole thing of how he's, like, practicing an attachment. And I guess I understand all that, but it's only been a couple weeks also. It just really, like. It kind of hurt me.

Yeah.

When I think about an attachment, it just. I understand the whole idea of it, but also sounds like if it's only been a couple weeks, maybe. I feel like the whole relationship had such a meaningful impact on me, and I don't really know, like, what it was for him.

And I guess that just bugs me.

Let me take a quick look.

Okay.

Jordan, Jordan, Jordan. In Vietnam. And what's he doing there again? He's.

I think he's going to be teaching English on this, like, online program there.

Okay, that's enough. You know, he's here and I'm saying hi. Hey, Jordan. Caitlin, you know the detachment that he's talking about? He's on a bit of a pilgrimage right now. He's looking to. He's looking. I'm telling you, he's looking for something. He's looking for something greater than what he feels a relationship can give him. He feels. He's. He's. It's not you. But when? Because I'm asking, what are you looking for? Why are you doing this? Why are you there? What's the whole. What's the big picture here, Jordan? And he's saying, like, relationships to him are small, meaning they're limited in what his growth will be. And I think this is because he's been in them before. He feels like they have a natural, you know, beginning, middle, end. He's not looking for something small. He's looking for something bigger. So what this is telling me is, Jordan, it's a relationship with himself, really, that he's cultivating. That's what detachment means. He's looking for the ultimate relationship. Who am I? What am I looking for? What am I doing? What's my purpose? What's my meaning? He's needing. He's looking for his meaning. What's my meaning? And any other kind of connection with any other human being right now feels like. Doesn't come up to the bar of what is his meaning in life? Until he finds his meaning, he can't connect on a bigger level because he's. He feels like it'll be a lesser me connecting. Right. He feels like a relationship would stop him from this. Now, I just. I can't disagree with him because this is how his. This is how he feels. This Is his understanding right now. Other people discover themselves through relationships. Relationships become their catalyst for self growth and evolution. For him right now, he doesn't understand that that's not where his place is, his thinking is. And that's perfectly legitimate. Yeah, you can, you can choose to grow through your encounters with others in tandem with them or like he's trying to do it solo. Okay. So partly the things he's doing, you know, traveling, being in Vietnam, teaching, he's trying to find what are the tools that will get me there, what are the pieces that I need in my exploration. Now quickly, one more thing to ask him before I got to let you. What would that be?

I guess what impact our relationship had on him.

Yeah. In other words, do you love her?

He already said he did, but then he defined it as not being in.

Love, but just a general love. Right. Because he can't be in love right now. He can't be, you know, he's. As long as he's feeling like he hasn't met himself, he can't introduce himself to someone else from a place of love. Ah, does that make sense? Gosh, this man is thinking in a very.

Yeah.

High minded way. Yeah. Do you see?

Like he's only 24. And I feel like, yeah, I kind of want to be like, calm down, you're only 24.

Yeah. But he. But not in his mind. In his mind, it's all the big questions. Okay, so when he loves you, it's a kind of yes, because I love everyone in a universal way. He feels warmth towards you, he feels connection towards you, but he cannot give himself to you because he's not sure what he would be giving.

Okay.

And that's where it stays. That's where it's landed in him. It's like he's got a chunk in a bunch of experiences and evolve into that place again where he can look at a relationship as a medium for growth. Right now relationships are not mediums for growth. They are mediums for getting caught or having to give out to someone else without giving to himself. He's healing this, you could say. Not that it was so damaged to start with, but there's some degree of healing that has to go on. Thank you, Jordan. I'm letting him go. He's very clear. That's a good thing. At least he's pretty aware of what he's doing. You know, there wasn't any ambiguity there. Yeah. So, honey, look, just let him do it. Let him go through it. You can't be in a relationship with a Man who's only halfway there and he's, he's more interested in his own relationship with himself than with anyone else right now. He's got to do that or you'll get half a man instead of a whole one.

Okay.

All right, darling, I gotta let you go. Thank you for your time. All right.

Thank you so much.

Bye, honey. Bye.

Bye.

I'm wondering if we can do a quick one, one more before we go to our last little break and dive deep into our flow dream. Hey, Linda in Toronto, couple minutes. What's going on?

Hi, Summer, how are you?

Good, good. Tell me quickly, where are you?

I'm in Toronto.

No, I mean in your mind, honey, in your life.

Flow, self discovery path. Totally, totally.

I'm going to tell you, Linda, you're a very literal kind. What else do I need to say? Yes.

So self discovery, basically I just anticipate all this change coming. It's like, it's like a dam building up and it's a, it's going to break.

Right.

That's what I feel like. Everything is going to be shifting, everything's going to be changing. Career, love, life, move. I've come with a, at peace with what I want to do with a move finally, but to a new, new home. But I'm just. Would love some insight from you.

Mm. Okay, so what you were just describing there is the intuitive piece. If you're listening to the whole, the whole show today, the intuitive piece. That impending sense of something big is on my horizon. What do, what do I need to do to be prepared? You're like a woman suiting up in a life jacket. And you've got your whistle, you've got your little food pack, you've got your, you know, you've got everything you think you could possibly, possibly need or use. But the fact is you don't know if you're going into cold weather, if you're going into the ocean. It's like Survivor, right? You don't know where you're going to be dropped off. Yeah. So it's a sense of anxiety about what do I need to be prepared? Okay, so I'm going to help you figure out what you need.

Okay.

Because once you reach that point, wherever you walk, you can feel. Ah, here it is. Okay, If I look at you, remember what you have inside you is one of those little. This is so weird. Today I'm getting the strangest pictures. You know those 3D plastic machines that you can like pretty much invent anything you want, push a button and it, it builds it, you ever heard of those things? Yeah, 3D. 3D printer, okay? You've got, you've got a 3D printer inside you, okay? You don't need to be weighed down at this point with a bunch of supplies. Whatever you need, wherever you go, you can just print it as you need it, okay? Just, just hold that feeling. You could even, you could actually go on the web, you know, after this and find a picture of one of these suckers and print it out and put it up on your wall or put it as your screensaver or something.

Okay?

On your, you know, on your phone. Wherever you go, you have the resources. Wherever you go, they are there for you. Whatever you need shows up. One of my favorite sayings. I have what I need when I need it. That is the ultimate manifester. I have what I need when I need it. Now you go back into flow at that point and say, what do I need? Show me. Tell me, what do I need today? What do I need for the next phase? Do I need to start being fearless today? Do I need to start doing a lot of action today? Do I need to start or do some more listening today? What do I need? Okay, so what this is now dropping into inside you is a profound sense of self trust, okay? That's your core self trust. So start with that one. I trust myself that I can do this. I trust myself that I get what I need when I need it. So feel yourself flowing with me right now. Close your eyes a little bit. Okay? And you're walking around this great, gorgeous being with this fabulous 3D printer inside of her and it's filling you up with self trust. I have what I need when I need it. Everywhere I go, no matter what is thrown at me. Some of the things I'll do stellar with, some of the things I'll fumble with, it doesn't matter because this process is not stopping. And even, even if I fumble with it, you know, if it's like your work or your career, even if I fumble with it, I'll get another chance, I'm gonna get another shot, it's gonna come back around again. You know, it's. It's that old video game Frogger, where the logs float off the screen on one side or Pac man, right, goes off the screen on one side, it's going to come right back in the other side. You're going to get another shot, right? So just, you can relax about that. You can fumble with it as many times as you want. Big deal. It's going to come back around you can have another chance. Every time you do it, you're getting better. You're getting better and stronger and you're trusting now. Oh. Each time I'm going to need a slightly different set of tools. That's cool. I will know what they are and I will do them and I will use them and I will work with them. Are you getting into this mindset with me? Do you feel this? This is flow. This is alignment. It's a really strong place. Like, I can feel an energy surrounding you. It's, it's strong, it's in aligned, it's movement. You have this in you already. I can feel it. It's not like it's not there. You have to remember to tap in. Yeah.

This needs to be turned on.

Turned on and yeah, tap into it more often. You need practice. You need to get in there way more often than you now are right now. You remember to do these things, but you don't actually do them. So do them. Okay.

Okay.

All right, Linda, good luck to you. I think that was a good, a good, good call. Good question.

Okay, thanks.

Bye, darling. Okay, we come back after a very quick break and we're going to do a flow dream. And in this flow dream, we're going to open that conversation manifesting and intuition, you know, both ends, the running water and the still water. So stay with me for more flow dreaming right after this. Hi.

It's summer, but on break and I know that some of you are still wondering what is flow dreaming and what.

What is me school?

Because I refer to both of these quite a bit in my podcast. MI School is a transformational program. It's a gorgeous and deeply revealing, empowering online school worldwide where I teach you how to remodel your life in any way you choose, using the technique of flow dreaming as well as a bunch of other deeply powerful life changing processes. So me school is either enrolling or it's accepting names onto the wait list. And that means that I'm accepting students who work with me for the year. And you can learn how to do.

What I do in life.

The way I think, the way I build things, make things, heal things.

Everything I talk about, you will learn.

Directly from me how to do. You're going to create some amazing things, my MI schoolers. Their lives change way beyond the norm.

And you don't even have to be.

A superstar when you go in. Some of you are, and you're ready to go bigger, play in that bigger field.

And some of you are just saying, hey, help. What's Next. Where should I go?

And both are fine. Both are great if you're ready to go big. But you know that you need to deepen your own spiritual practice and your personal growth, because that's where it all comes from, right? Then this is where you need to be. Your life only grows as big as you do. So here's what to do. Go over to flowdreaming.com and click on MI School. And during these enrollment periods, you can actually set up a free phone call with me or my staff and we'll talk about it.

Is it a fit? Is it interesting?

During wait list times, we just put you on a list of people who've expressed interest, so we can notify you as soon as the doors open.

All right.

I look forward to hearing from you and even more to getting to know you as one of my personal students in MI School. Now let's get back to the episode.

Welcome back to Flow Dreaming. We only have a couple minutes, so what I'm going to do is bring you into a very quick flow dream where we're going to start feeling what it's like to communicate, to both manifest and listen at the same time. Now, ideally, this would be done in a bit longer of a place, maybe 10 minutes, although there is no defined time, you know, perfect time. Even though I just said ideally, there's no perfect amount of time to do this. Sometimes I will close my eyes and in less than two minutes, I will put my question out there. In other words, manifest it. Pray, the outgoing energy request. And then I'll be listening, waiting for the incoming response. Right, the intuitive answer. Eyes are closed right now with me relaxing. Nice deep breath. Oh, I love these deep breaths. You can yawn if you want. Remember, this is not meditation or hypnosis. You're just letting go of stress so you can free your mind and free your emotional self, freeing your emotional self to move into flow and flow for you. Is feeling right now like, oh, even if you've never ice skated or rollerbladed or roller skated, you know what it looks like, you know what people who do it feel like? That sense of effortless grace and ease, that sense of power, that sense of swaying back and forth, one leg moving forward, then the other sliding on a surface so slick and brilliant and beautiful. Not falling down, no chance sense of it, not impossible to fall. Yet you feel this movement, movement, movement. A beautiful, perfect speed. The wind, the energy flying against your face, your hair, your body. This is you in flow. This is you in movement. This is you Moving forward in time. Oh, it's so gorgeous. What a good feeling. And look, you don't even notice where you're going, do you? You've just been moving forward. The space has been opening for you endlessly. You don't have to make the path. Every moment is your path. Every moment is your intention. Every moment is your direction. And those tiny moments add up one after another, continuously pointing you on the roads. You see this. There's no need to look that deep. You don't have to look far down the road, nor do you look behind you. Your moment is set. Setting the stage, setting the presence. As long as your moment is good, you are in your flow. You're exactly where you need to be. And you're saying, my life around me is exactly representing this, mimicking this, showing me. Every. Everything that I'm doing right now, involved in everything that's going right or wrong, is perfectly reflecting something inside me. A way of behaving, perhaps, a way of thinking. There's something in the inside me being reflected in every combination of events going on outside me. Every single one.

Oh, I see this.

I know this. I intrinsically understand this Now. Now, it's all in the details. It's in the application. And you reach out in your mind. It's like an expansive feeling. It's like you are a flower opening to the sun. You are a sea and anemone with your tendrils unfurling under the water. And you're now saying, flow. Whatever I need to know. Whatever information you have for me, I am open. I am wide. I am a sponge. I absorb. And whenever you want to give it to me, I'm ready to receive it. I can receive it right now with a sudden inspiration or knowing. Or I might receive it an hour from now as I'm tidying up around the house or as I'm writing an email, something will drop in my mind and I'll say, oh, there it is. Wonderful. I don't know why there was a delay. That's irrelevant. It is what it is. It comes when it comes. But there it was. The answer, the direction, the feeling, the hunch. And I may not even know why it came or, you know, when it came, but it came. And I use that. And I. And I offer gratitude to that. And I say, this is part of my manifestation. This is the conversation. This is the dialogue. Oh, thank you, thank you, thank you. I do my part and you do your part, and together we move forward in dialogue. And perfect and gorgeous, divine dialogue. And you linger in that feeling, that knowing, that taste, that expression, that sensation. Linger even now as you open your eyes. Eyes open. When your daydream is ended and you've returned from flow, how do you feel? Right? That was like five minutes. I know. It felt like a lot less. So if you're curious about how to explore that more, how to get into that dialogue deeper, you can go to my Website Again, Flow Dreaming.com, totally free download Introduction how to Flow Dream with a Flow Dream until next time, my dears, my loves, my flow dreamers out in the world. I'll see you next week for another episode of Flow Dreaming.

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I'm going to give a shout out.

To my mom's podcast. It's called the Dear Venus show and she's an amazing intuitive and a medium and super, super funny. Search the words Dear Venus in your podcast directory or online and that way you can find her too.