#440 Hey Kids! Want To Flow? (A Tutorial for Kids and Adults Alike)

Flow Dreaming.

It's a show where we talk about the power of your mind to change your world around you, to literally affect the fabric of your reality. We talk about this feeling of hope and joy and relief. And that is what being aware of your flow does.

It gives you a feeling of power.

Again in your lives.

Oh, my God, you were so on target. You are so amazing. I can't thank you enough.

Breathe.

It is the feeling that you bring forward. It is your emotional connection that really.

Sets the tone for what is going to be happening to you and for you. And you know that feeling, when you.

Touch it, it just spreads through you. Thank you for taking my call. I don't know why I feel like crying.

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I'm Summer McStravik and welcome to another.

Episode of Flow Dreaming. Welcome to your fl. Hello, welcome to our flow, the world's flow, Life's flow, the feeling good flow. Flow Dreaming is about creating and manifesting. It is about being able to talk to the universe in an incredibly powerful way where you stay in alignment, where you start to behave in alignment. It's not just thinking it or feeling it. You extend it into the way you actually interact with the world. It also drops into the realm of intuition. Being able to talk to people intuitively, learn stuff, know things, see the future, feel patterns in our lives. Flow Energy is your gateway. It's the gateway into everything relating to the other side, the non physical, essentially. So in this podcast, we love to explore this. We pick a topic every week, we dive into it, talk about it, go deep. I take your calls as well. Love to take your calls. If you want to find out when I air live and what number, go to my website, flow dreaming.com. it's always up there for you to see when you can call in and so forth. I love to look in you, help you out if you have questions. Things going on in your life, you need some direction, guidance, intuitive, work with or manifesting to get stuff shaken, moving and rolling with you. It's funny, I've got something called the ME School of Flow and I work with lots and lots of students there. I talk with them every week. Just this week, it was quite funny. I was talking with one of my students and she said three days after we spoke, her house sold, the one that had been on the market forever. Let's see. Then there was another student who. It was a very similar thing. Oh, it was with a person who wasn't getting along with her. Immediately after our session, the woman calls her and they start to like work things out again. She said, how do you do that? Like, it's just flow. It's just flow. It's communication, it's, you know, you can only go so far sometimes working on the physical side of things and you get stuck and you hit a ceiling and you don't know what to do. Well, you know, turn to the non physical, turn to the world of energy, spirit, you know, our quantum interconnectedness. Open the mind, open your energy, open your emotions to begin talking and working in that realm. And it's like learning how to live life all over again. It's very different perspective. So all that being said, hey, today's topic is for kids. I know maybe because it's around the holidays right now and you know, we're getting together with our families and our kids and almost every show I teach is for grown ups. Well, I mean kids can listen too, but their adult topics work, you know, relationships and things like that. But I'm a mom, I've got an 8 year old son and a 11 year old daughter, soon to be 12. And I have been trying to quietly teach them about my work, my philosophy, my worldview, even while I've mothered them, you know, all my life. When kids are younger, they're so impressionable. What you say is real. It's it. So the younger your kids are when you start working with them, the better. You know, if you start working with them as a teenager can be a little trickier because they're already predisposed to be thinking that you're going to be wrong in everything that you say or think or do or look like. But you can still get it across, not just through your words, but your behavior. And then they look at you and how you live life. Are you happy? Are you sad? Are you stressed? They're modeling you every moment. So we're going to look today about how to help your kids understand flow and hopefully it'll help you a little bit as well. Quick note, I mentioned MI school already. It is actually enrolling right now for the year. The 2015 school year is going to start in February and if you have any interest at all, do go to my website. There is a section called B School. You can actually schedule a talk with me where I will go over any questions you have explained to you. A little about what it is, what it costs, you know, what the involvement, the commitment, what you actually learn. So if you're curious about learning, manifesting and Flow, dreaming and intuition and all that good stuff. Go check that out. So what do I do with my kids to teach them, to introduce them about flow? Well, first of all, I don't ever lecture them about this because I want them to learn a way of looking at life. I don't want them to learn something that will feel like a chore or something. Mommy does that now I have to do too, like it's a burden. So when I'm working with Flo, with them it's more like an ongoing modeling. For instance, I talk to my kids on the way to school. Every morning I drive them to school and I'm putting in things like, hey, something really magnificent is going to happen today. Something you're not expecting. It's just going to feel so good to you. And my son says, yippee, yay. And my daughter says, uh huh. Really doesn't matter. I'm introducing an emotional expectation. I don't say what's going to happen, but I'm rising up, I'm bringing up, raising up their emotional expectation for the day. Now it's a seed, it's in them. Hey, something unexpectedly good might happen today. Now they start moving through their day with that seed of potential in them. It means they may make different choices now because they're making choices toward the anticipation of something good happening. What does that do? Really spikes up the possibility that something good will in fact happen. They are now starting to mirror the potential for something really wonderful to happen. What does flow do? What does energy do? Flow mirrors back to you, who and what you are. So if they're going throughout the day with this good feeling in them, good opportunities are more likely than they were before to start lining up to them. So I'm tricky, tricky, let's see, what else do I do? Oh, you know, instead of say, asking, hey, what do you want to be when you grow up? Right. Every kid goes ugh. And their answer changes, you know, pretty much, you know, daily. My daughter wanted to be an architect, you know, primarily because she was into Minecraft. Then she wanted to go into the sciences. No. Now she wants to write books. It's always changing. Instead I ask, how do you want to feel when you grow up? How do you want to feel? It's a very different question. Do you ask, have you ever asked your kids that? How do you want to feel when you grow up? And then you can kind of, you know, help them along. Like, do you want to feel like really free? Like you could be anywhere at any time doing anything you wanted? Or do you want to feel inquisitive? Do you want to always be learning things and discovering things? Do you want to feel investigative? Do you want to go deep and figure things out and then share them with the world? Do you want to be challenged? Do you like that when you achieve something, when that does that goal? Do you love that feeling of having goals and being challenged to get there? Do you want to feel secure? Do you just feel more calm and relaxed when you have a lot of security in your life? Do you want to feel adventurous? Do you want to be all over the world, wherever you want to be, exploring new things one after another? Right? This gets them thinking now, not about a particular job, because Honestly, when you're 8 or 10 or 12 or even 15, we still, gosh, even if you're 40, we still don't know all the different jobs that are out in the world. We only have a fraction of them. You know, the American lexicon of, you know, the 50 jobs each one of us could actually name. But then you always find people who do jobs you've never heard of before. And then you think, how in the world did they land into that? How did. What particular funnel or pipeline led them to that? I bet they didn't even know that that job existed, right? Isn't that most jobs? Actually, most jobs, you don't know what they are, but they exist. And someone took some strange route to get there. Well, flow dreaming is that strange route. And it's based on the inner expectations, the inner ideals of who and what you are. So when you're saying to a kid, hey, you know, they answer, I want to feel adventurous and challenged. Ah, well, I bet you there are lots of things you could do that would give you that feeling here. Feel that with me right now. You're adventurous and you're challenged. What does that mean? Ooh, it means you get to test things, maybe. Means you get to discover things, maybe. It means that maybe you're put in positions where you have to figure out how things work or how to make them better. Right now, as a grown up, you're already clicking through potential careers. Engineers do this. Product testers do this. Product development people do this. Teachers do this. Scholars do this. Scientists do this. Lot of potentials here. You know, world travelers, you know, people working in foreign countries, people who work for foreign governments, diplomats. Lots of potential jobs that will fulfill those emotional criteria. Now, you, as a parent, are probably feeling like, it'd be wonderful to see my child settled in a job that made them feel emotionally you know, secure and fulfilled. Ultimately, that's what we want. That's why we pick out things like doctor and lawyer and banker and dentist. Because we're. We're going for the feelings of security, stability, not having to worry about them. So we come up with those. Those represent stability, security, income. You know, we find out what your kid wants, help them figure out the emotional endpoint of where they're going. Here's another thing. You know, when we're talking about friends, I always say, how do you want to feel in this friendship? Not what did they say, what did they do? What are you gonna do about that? Right? Don't. You don't have to go into that with them. How do you want to feel in this friendship? Your friend hurt your feelings? Well, how do you want to feel with this person? Are they important to you or not important to you? Do they merit your attention or don't they? Again, you see, we're shifting this back to the emotional point right now. And you might even call this developing your child's emotional intelligence. This is key. This is crucial. Now, it's not a question of he said, she said this. And that takes your dialogue with your kids to a whole new level. Likewise, helping your kids understand the lack cycle in their thinking. Believe me, they've picked that up. They picked it up from you. They picked it up from their. Their other parent. They picked it up from their teachers. Often. They picked it up from their, you know, their schooling society. You know, every time they see advertisements on tv, it's reinforcing the lack cycle. You don't have this. Don't you want this? You don't have it. That's what advertising is. Every time they go to school, only some kids get A's. We reserve those only for a few. The rest of you, you don't get it. A lot of things are set up to reinforce the fact that you don't get it. You don't have it. You have to work for it. And it's a good thing if you have to work for something. You know, the flip side is we're instilling goals in our kids, the desire to achieve. But the dark side, of course, is, yeah, you can't really expect to get that. You can't expect every teacher to like you. Can't expect every friend to like you. True, true, true. But watch it. When they start to expect lack in other areas, like, well, I'm not going to get invited to that. Well, our team's not going to win. Well, you're not going to buy me that anyway. Well, listen, guide them from that standpoint. Are they anticipating that they are not going to get their needs met? They will carry this into a lifetime of anticipating that as they grow, your child is growing every day in their ability to get their needs met. That's why they're going to school. That's why someday they're going to become independent. They're learning how to ultimately pay for their own apartment, how to ultimately get a job, how to ultimately, you know, do all these things, increase their independence and get their needs met on their own. Right now, you're getting their needs met. You're their primary means for doing so. You. You are a big, big role. So look at them from that standpoint. So there are four or five really big ways that you can already begin shaping your kids to pay attention to their emotional self. Honor that self. Now, what about the flow component of it? How do you introduce your idea or your kids to the idea of flow dreaming? Well, the way that I talk to them is. I don't say, well, there's three components to flow dreaming. There's the daydreaming, there's the emotions. There's flow itself. And here's the quantum background. I don't do that. What I do is I say really simple, you know. You know how sometimes you. You get really upset and you cry and you're. You're mad, or sometimes, you know, when we're going to Disneyland, you're really, really happy. Well, I had to say something to you or something had to happen for you to feel that way, right? You know, your emotions didn't kick in until you had something to be emotional about. Let's pretend that we can just have an emotion about anything we want, anytime we want. And it hasn't happened yet, but we can feel that way anyway. You can have an emotion on demand. Trust me. Kids know what on demand is. It's how they watch all their TV shows anymore. It's how they, you know, play games. It's how they listen on demand. Oh, yeah, I want that, and I want it right now. We come from an era, most of us, where if we wanted a song, we had to wait for the radio station to play it. And we'd sit there for hours with our little tape cassettes waiting to press to record when it was given to us. Kids today, they're like, hey, I want it. I should. I should have it right now. Well, teach them, hey, emotionally, go ahead and feel it right now. And they'll say, but I don't have actually what I want to feel that emotion about. So what? Let that come afterwards. Get that ingrained in them. Once they're on board with you, once they're down with that, it becomes easy to then say, okay, close your eyes with me. Let's just daydream together. Let's pretend. Let's imagine kids do that naturally. They're way better than we are at doing that. Okay, so we're imagining, ooh, let's feel something. Let's feel now that every day, every second that ticks by, you're like a spaceship, right? You're flying into your future. You're moving through space, and they're already conjuring up Star wars in their head. Yeah, yeah, I'm the spaceship. I'm the spaceship. Like, wow, look how far you've gone. You're traveling, like, eons. You're going so fast. This is you. This is like your spaceship is you. And yesterday, that was the planet you saw yesterday. You know, the planet coming up. That's your tomorrow. And right now, you're. You're on your way there. You're in between. So when you get to the planet, you're going, what if you could choose that planet? Well, of course I get to choose that planet. What if it's the best planet you've ever been to? Well, yeah, I totally want it to be the best planet I've ever been to. Well, what would that planet feel like? How would you feel when you got there? Well, I would. I would feel like, whoa, you know, I'd have so much adventures and my friends would all be there and. And I'd be, you know, my teachers would love me and, you know, introduce it. I feel good. I feel great. I did great on that test. Yeah, that test is that planet, the one you're going to do tomorrow. How do you feel about it? I feel amazing about it. I totally passed it. But I'm afraid, Mom, I'm not going to. That's okay. You can put that down. Let that go. We already know you're afraid. You don't have to keep feeling that way. We know that. It's okay. We've already heard it. We good. We got that. Well, what's another way you'd want to feel? Well, I'd want to feel like I totally understood it and got an A. Okay, let's feel that. Because you haven't felt that way yet. Let's feel that now. But I don't know if I can. Doesn't matter if you can. Let's feel it anyway. If we feel it anyway, we're going to up the chances that it really will happen, right? Oh, I get it. Okay, so let's feel what that is like. How easy was that for you? Oh, yeah. Okay. You bring them out. Okay. Our daydreams ended, our flow dreams ended. So you go in it with them, you guide them through it. You help them see and feel. You do this often enough with your kids. They're going to start doing it on their own. They're going to start, remember, they are. Kids are so fluid. They're plastic. They're like bendable, shapeable. You know, it may take you six months or six years to eradicate, lack, cycle thinking from your own mind. Kids, they're going to get it in six weeks. Ah, that's how they're going to start dissipating and they're going to start saying things like, but I've been expecting this for months. Mom, how come I'm not getting that Wii U? How come I'm not getting that Xbox? You say keep putting it out there. I don't know, may not come from me. Maybe it'll come from somebody else. Maybe your best friend is upgrading his and you're gonna get hit, you know, you're gonna get his old one. Or maybe we can sell as, who knows? Let's just see how it could happen for us. Let's see how it could happen. You see, you feel already all the doors that get thrown open and remember, kids have fewer barriers than we do. They're not all clogged up with constant, you know, getting those. At least most kids, some kids, yeah, they are. They're clogged up with that. But most kids aren't. Okay, we are going to go to a quickie break when we get back doing calls, we're going to do some flow dreaming together. Not sure what flow dream, maybe one with kids or for your kids. If you're a parent, jump in. If you're not a parent, then just come along for the ride. Enjoy it anyway. All right, coming back right after this. Stay with me.

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Welcome back to Flow Dreaming. Hey, we have tons of calls today. Yippee. Let's start with Marquette from Washington dc. Hey, Marquette. Hello. Hi.

How are you?

I'm great.

This is a great topic because I'm with my one year old son now and I'm listening to how to teach flow to your kids. And I feel like, you know, I'm at a time now where I'm spiritually awakened. But I'm 34 and I feel like if, you know, it's too late in life to really be spiritually awakened. I wish I had known sooner.

You know, it's never too late.

Okay. I'm coming from a place of lack, I guess.

Yes, I know. So you know what you could do with your one year old because he's a little too young to, you know, understand this. You know how when you're just kind of holding and cuddling, open up your heart. Feel your heart like an. A field of energy that expands out of your body and infuses him like you're glowing, almost like you're glowing through him and put in the feeling that you want him to experience? I do. I used to do this with my son. I still do sometimes when he lets me.

And I love that.

Do you feel my love? My love is in you and around you right now. And I've taught my son to think of it as almost something tangible. And he says, really? Can I feel it right now? Yep. Close your eyes. Feel it right now. Well, I did that.

I stayed home with him for 10 months and I did that when he was at a daycare and I didn't quite feel right about it. I used to sit at my desk at work and do like a bubble of love and protection around him until I could get him into a better daycare. I hope it worked.

But I have a question. Okay.

Oh, I have a question about my career, if that's okay.

Sure. Switch gears. Let's go.

Yes. So I feel like I've experienced a lot of career highs that were short term and I. Four years ago I quit my job to pursue my passion. It was incredibly risky and I was fearless. And then I just had lots of great moments, but nothing that turned into a long term position. And then it just all kind of crashed, you know, with like working with really bad people. And I just wanted to know, like, what does that all mean? Why show me the highest of the highs for one or two days?

So what line of work are you in? What do you do? Passion?

Communication.

Communication.

Okay. So do you work with adults or kids? Are you a teacher?

I work with. No, no, I work with adults. You know, I. I've done a lot of broadcasting and working and lifestyle, the lifestyle arena of television. And it's rough.

It's a rough industry.

Yeah. Okay. And the people around you, I'm just kind of taking a look at you and looking at the group of people that has sort of been filtering in and. Yeah, it's sort of like you're a white duck surrounded by a bunch of brown ducks. Okay.

Okay.

Yeah.

That's like the story of my life.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Now I'm trying to be more intentional about who I let around me, who I let clothes, who I enter business. And personally I'm trying to be more intentional, but I'm just kind of like, what did the past four years?

Right. So look at it like this. You have a pattern of allowing in people in your life who kind of. They quack differently than you. They're. They're just in a different, different perspective. Hi, we're put you on hold though, so we can, so we can hear. Okay. So I'll just, I'll finish up with you. It's sort of like you've been used to being that odd duck and expecting that the people around you are different, you know, Difficult, rough, needy, you know, need more from you, don't appreciate you. There's a sense of the people around you perhaps being a little more self centered than you are. And you know, you feeling like you just shrug your shoulders and go, oh, that's how it is. And look at the last four years as sort of like flow giving you the opportunity to change that, right? They, they will show up until that has changed. And now you're realizing this must change and your feelings that the whole industry is like this, my whole career is like this. No, it's not. It's only that way for you. And you figured that out by now. Other people don't have this, you have this. And so you're realizing instead of blaming the outsiders, the people outside of me surrounding me in my career, it's actually me. Okay, that's the point you've reached. And your next question is, well, what do I do with me then? What I feel is that it's time to do some pruning in your life. It's like roses that need to be pruned in the wintertime. You're a rose, you need to be pruned. There are people around you, you just don't need them. You really don't need them. And you know, no matter how what you say to yourself, but I need them for the money, I need them for this. You don't need them. And I'm really urging you to look carefully at who those people are, what those relationships are. If you want to get back to that place of sustained highs, you have to say no to all those things. You refuse. You have to risk going into the void of perhaps nothing. Right? That's, that's the next step. You go into that void of nothing and that's where you create from. You go, ah, here are the people I surround with. Here are the people who are like me. But I have to change myself if I want to be around those, Those people aren't going to be around me because I'm the kind of person who tolerates a lot of highs and lows and difficults and, and it makes me unstable. So the stable people I want to be around, they won't, they won't match this energy that I've, I'm in. I have to change mine before those stable people, those stable companies will even approach me. So I hope that helps, gives you some focus. Marquette. Okay, you can, you can talk. You're there.

Okay.

All right, my dear, take care. I hope it helps. All right, bye. Sorry we had to mute her for a little bit there because her little guy was like, I want to be on air too. Beth, you're calling from Mississippi. What's happening in your world today?

Hey, Summer, how's it going?

I'm good.

This is such a neat topic. I really almost hate to go off tangent with my paltry grown up woes. I think it's such a great, it's such a great topic that I think on some level we can all relate to because there's, there's so much innocence that I think a lot of us crave. And I think this is a really refreshing topic even for those of us who, who don't have any kids.

Thank you. It's also, it reminds us that a lot of the things kids worry about, we still worry about too, just in a different way.

Yeah, well, I flat out refused to grow up, so I think I can put a lot of this into my, into my, my own life.

I just heard that song, I Don't Want to Grow Up. What was that song? Anyway, so what's your I don't want to grow up?

I'm a Toys R Us kid.

It's Toys R Us. Oh, my God. Probably because I'm being inundated with Toys R Us commercials now that it's holidays.

Oh, yeah, it's the season all right. Anyway, this has been just this nagging issue that I've. I've been trying to push to the back of my mind and push the back of my mind and, and try to focus on other things. But right now it seems my common sense and my heart are duking it out. I mean, they are just going at it.

It's not a very pretty fight.

There's this fellow with whom I am very much in love. And we are completely different people. Our mentalities are different, our jobs are different. I think that's something about the attraction. And even though a lot of my friends are telling me to just don't give it any more thought, we have this sort of connection and it's like one of us will sort of withdraw and the other will contact the other. He's been, he's had a raw deal. I think he's still recovering from a bad relationship. I think he still hung up on his ex who was unfaithful and I think was pretty abusive. I'm trying to give him all the space he needs, trying to cultivate the friendship. But I keep hoping against hope that there might be something there sometime in the future. And I will wait as long as I have to. But I Was wondering if you could do some flow peeking, slow snooping, whatever it is.

All right, tell me his first name.

Randy.

Randy. And how many years have you been seeing each other for?

Has he. How many years has been. Has he what?

How long have you been seeing each other for? I don't know. Why?

Well, we've been. We've. It's been unofficial. We've just been kind of hanging out since June.

June. I wouldn't say seen each other, but.

We'Ve had this very strong connection since June.

It's weird because it feels longer than that.

Well, I did meet him years ago. He came over and did a tremendous favor for my family, and that was the first time I ever saw him.

Okay, but. So you do have a history of time, even though you haven't really connected and started dating until recently. Yeah. All right, so let's see. See, see, see, see.

And he actually does not want a relationship, but I've just been kind of hanging in there and hoping against hope. But it's funny that you pick it up as dating, because there is that tension.

Yeah, it is. He. I'm just gonna ask him about you. Beth wants to say hi.

I do love him. I'm not going to say it because I don't want to make a grown man run screaming.

No, I'm just asking him, what's your state of mind about relationships in general? That's funny. His response isn't even words. It's like.

Yeah, that's pretty much what he's told me in so many words.

Yeah. He can't form the words. It's just.

Yeah, it's.

It's your. It's not the aversion to you. It's the. He's. He's developed this idea that a relationship is like a. Like something you enter. I guess it is something you enter into, but it's like a contract, and it's a. It's a one size fits all, and it's. And he doesn't want to partake in that any longer.

Yeah.

So he's really kind of lumping all relationships into the same category.

Right.

And saying, I don't want that. So I'm exiting from it. He's just like, I'm going to do other things. I want to be with my friends. I want to. You know, he's thinking about. He's got some work things on his mind, too. I feel like he's got some transition going on with his work or something he's trying to do or achieve that's pushing on him. Pressing on him, on his mind. So he's letting things like that take over. Okay, so what about. What about Beth herself? What do you feel about her? He likes you. He enjoys you. He doesn't want you to get in that bad category. Girlfriend category. It's like a. It's a categorical thing, like don't. I don't want it to cross over into that I don't want to do. Yeah, that's it. You know, as long as you're just kind of har. Har. You know, hanging out one of the. Not. Not one of the guys necessarily. But there's not a pressure. See, the problem is inside of him, he has built up a wall of expectations, a lot of it based on lack. And you're either in that world of his, in his mind, or you're not in that world of his. So you're not. You're actually in a better place right now. If he started thinking of you that way, trust me, you would get a ton of crap from him that you just don't want to deal with. You don't want to rehab him. You know, you're not going to be the rehab girlfriend, you know, making him ready for another girlfriend after you, you know, the one he all out with. That's the position you would be in right now.

Right. Okay.

I don't know if that's what you really want to hear. I think it's just more validating what you kind of said.

What I need is I would rather have an unpleasant warning than trouble things first into something. Yeah.

Yeah. What I would do if I were you is I would just let him be in that no relationship zone for a while. He doesn't have any. See, the thing is, if he had a real strong desire to move out of it, to grow through it, to say, God, I realize I'm this way and I realize this happened and I don't want to be here and. But he's not. He's like, I'm here and I'm staying for a while. Yeah. That's why I'm not encouraging you.

Yeah.

Because he's not 100% what you need because of.

Right, right.

That's just way it is. All right, That's.

I needed to confirm my suspicions. So thank you so much.

Better to know. That's what I always say. Better to know. All right. Take care and have happy.

All right.

Thank you. All right. Bye, Beth. Take care. Bye.

Bye.

So let's do a quick break when we get back. I think we'll have time for probably another call or two. As well as a lovely, delicious, scrumptious Flow dream that will put you in the right state of mind. Maybe address some of those childhood insecurities that linger and remain in many or most of us. So stay with me for more Flow Dreaming right after this. Hi.

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Welcome back to Flow Dreaming. Hey, we're gonna do a flow in a few minutes, but let's get to. Excuse me, Tara, real quick. Oh, let me take a sip. Something too hey, Tara. Sorry about that. Just needed a clear my throat. What's up?

Hello, is that Canada?

Am I on air? Wonderful.

I didn't hear my name.

Thank you, Summer. Yeah, I love this topic.

And so I called in asking parenting questions. So my question is, as a parent, how can I deal with offering conflicting messages to my child where on one hand I want them to adopt this idea that life is abundant and unlimited and all of those wonderful things, but in my own life, having my own struggles with lack consciousness and not necessarily manifesting all that I know is possible, the reality is saying. I find myself saying things like, say, coming up to Christmas season, you know, don't expect too much because we can't afford it. How do you deal with that as a parent?

I turn it instead and look at it from a different perspective. I say things like, we are really good with money in our family. We are really good to it. We respect it, we don't overspend it. We spend what we have within our means and that's how we take care of ourselves. We stay safe and we stay secure. Now, if we want more money, we have to think about ways to do that. We have to think about how to increase what we have. Increase the pool. Can anybody think of ways to increase the pool? Right? And then it becomes a problem solving exercise. It's not coming from a. This is all we get, kids. This is the best we can do. Kids. It's problem solving. And even if they can't problem, you know, even if they can't figure it out, you know, mom get a better job, dad get a raise, you know, I'll get a paper route. Kids don't even do that anymore.

But the idea is, yeah, I've been.

That's what I've experienced. My daughter is 14, so she's definitely looking at, you know, the differences, the differential between what I say and what she perceives me. And like, I even have a, like, deal with her expressing like a fear to grow up because that to her is synonymous with work and money stressors. Because that's what she perceives in me.

And it's like, you're right.

They watch everything we do and not what we say.

Yeah.

And then the guilt builds up. I have the parental guilt laying on top of me like, oh, I'm not doing good enough by her by showing her the right way.

Yeah. You know, and that's something. That's parental guilt. That's completely actually separate. You know, I mean, I feel guilty often that I'm working more than I want to with my kids, they see me work hard, I do very well and I'm happy with my work. But. But they're learning from me. Work hard, work hard, work hard. You know, and I think, I don't want them to think they have to work hard. I work hard because I enjoy working hard because I enjoy my work. So it's sometimes, yes, it's hard to pull me out of my office with my fingernails because I like what I do. So I hope they're getting that message too. But nonetheless, my guilt factor says, well, spend more time with your kids. You know, they need that even more. So no matter, I mean, no matter who you are, we often have something like that playing out. What I would do as you talk to your daughter is say things again along the lines of, you know, learning to be very careful stewards of our money. That's what money is attracted to. Money likes people who take care of it, who treat it well, who don't abuse it, who don't get angry at it, who don't get frustrated at it, who don't. That's something I am learning how to do better and better every day. And I want to show you how to have that same attitude towards money. So this is what we have this year and this is what we can respectfully spend it on now, next year, I wonder what we'll have. I'm curious what we'll have. Do you have any ideas? Right. You know, and then bring her into that dialogue. She's 14, she's going to be 15. She might say, you know, I would like to, you know, maybe, you know, I babysit. Maybe I need to start being more careful with, you know, maybe I need to do more babysitting or more careful on what I spend it on. Or, you know, come up with ways you're honoring money and that's how you're growing money. Just communicate that to her.

Okay, that's great.

Yeah.

Okay.

Thank you so much.

You're welcome, Tara. Take care. Bye. Bye. Bye. That is a great, great, great question. You know, and that's not to say that at times you can't be in even debt. If the debt is for a purpose that makes sense, that betters you, that betters your family. I'm always okay with debt. That is actually an investment, right? That a mortgage, that's an investment. Going back to school or going to any school, going to me school, it's an investment. You're increasing your self worth. If that's the case, then debt becomes an investment. If you're Spending it on silly stuff. It's not really an investment. Right. And that's where you're getting caught in the. In the phase of, well, I never have enough and I never get the things that I like that pleasure me. It's a whole different dynamic. It's a whole other relationship pattern going on in that case. So just bear that in mind. And I know the holidays put extra pressure to just buy stuff, you know, hold back on that. If you can play around with that. There have been years. In fact, a couple years ago, my entire family, they got nothing but homemade pickled goods from me. I think everyone was a little bit surprised. I said, I don't want to. I don't want to feel the pressure to buy things this year that I don't really want to buy. I'd rather give you something that I made. And they got a crazy assortment of pickled beets, and they got pickled okra and pickled Brussels sprouts, and it's crazy. I hope they ate them. I think some of them ate them. One year, everybody got cookies, you know, just tons and mounds of cookies from me. You never know what I'm gonna do. All right, let's go ahead and flow. Dream right now, together with your eyes closed, knowing that we are not meditating and we're not hypnotizing ourselves. We're going into a beautiful emotional place. An absolute and utter connection with the universe, with our greater selves. The place where the inner and the outer meet and match up. The place where the physical and non physical are no longer yards away, but they're woven into each other. The inner is in the outer, the outer is in the inner. There's no distance. They're the same stuff. Just like looking at it with different colored lenses. This is your flow. This is where you're going. This is who you are. You.

You're moving.

Your flow is moving. You're moving. How beautiful is that? You. You are like a stream of colored light, just billowing and blowing. Like you look up in the sky and you see one of those trails from an airplane, those. I know calm trails, right? You see that dotted across the sky? Sort of like you, except the sky. That's your life, your lifetime, your future. The past is there. Gets foggier the further back you look. Future hasn't been made, but right where you are. Ooh, that's potent. How are you feeling? How are you feeling right now? Is it how you want to feel? Do you feel good? Do you feel happy? Do you feel at peace? Where do you feel stress? Why do you need to feel stress There? Ask yourself. Pause. Just ah, do I need to feel stress about this? Is it really important or is it just something heavy on my shoulders? Do I need it? Do I need to give myself to that stress? Does it deserve for me to feel like I have to carry something heavy and awful? Probably not that important. I'm probably over giving. I'm probably giving it a level of degree and attention it really doesn't deserve. I want to shrug that off. Shrug it off, shrug it off. If you have kids, bring them in now with you. If you don't have kids, bring your partner, boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife. You don't have one of those, bring a friend, just bring it. Somebody you care about. Do you see yourself smiling? Smiling and saying to that person, hey, do you want to do what I'm doing? It feels really, really good. It's like a bubble bath for my mind, a bubble bath for my emotions. I'm programming. I'm playing in my own energy. My energy of now, as I move into the future, I am playing with that. You know why I'm playing with it? Because every time I play with it, I'm building something. Every time I play, it's like I am creating, creating a bit more of a sand castle that I'm building in myself, in my life, shaping it. What happens when I keep building, building, building inside myself? Pretty soon almost all of me has been changed or affected. I am not the person I was yesterday or the day before, the day before the day or the month before, the year before. I am. I'm 100% renewed. It's like, it's like my body, you know how my body, it regrows all of its cells in it over the course of something like a year's time. Well, my emotional energy body does the same thing. It regrows all of its components too. And just like my body regrows those cells with a kind of divine or inner or biological knowledge and intelligence. So, you know, cells in my fingers stay the same same. The cells in my liver look the same. Everything looks and feels what it should be. There's a guidance and intelligence. Well, the same is true of me. The greater me. There's a divine intelligence and I'm part of that. And I'm tapping into it right now. What am I growing into? Well, here is how I feel. I feel extraordinary. I feel calm. I don't let things rattle me. I feel focused.

I feel clear.

I feel expectant. I feel expectant for good things. Wildly Expectant for good things. And I feel this enormous sense of allowing these good things in. Ha. Here they come. Here they are, one after another. I don't even know what they are. That's kind of the best part. I don't have to know. I like being surprised by good things because if I tried to figure out what those good things should all be one by one, it would be quite a chore, and it would probably undershoot what good things really could be coming to me. Oh, indeed. So let's just say great things are coming to me. Hey, great things are coming to you. My friend, my partner, my kid. You're in this too. You could do this with me. It's not hard. Super easy. Super easy. Easy to feel this way, to be this way, to think this way, to carve and create this way. It's like creating. It's like creating from the inside out. Beautiful feeling. To feel that. Oof. Putting more and more in it. More of me, more and flow every day, always. No going back. And with that, we're going to drop out of our daydream right now and come back. Here we are. Eyes are open. So I'm sure you noticed a couple things about this. You noticed that we were talking about your emotional self. You noticed we were giving up a lot of control. You notice some of the language was very casual, comfortable. No highfalutin spiritual talk here. No just connecting right in. Use the words that work. If you don't need to use words, don't use words at all. Just go into the feeling circle and swirl around that which you want to feel and become and be. What did I just program in for all of us? A series of happy surprises. Kind of like I say to my kids every day on the way to school, what happy surprise will happen today? Oh, you know what? They get busy looking for it. It's in them. It sticks in them. Now you're busy looking for happy surprises. You're busy waiting for something to come up and just solve it for you. Something to drop into your lap to make something easier for you. Something to plop into your future that says, go here, don't go there. This is the better route for you. Imagine if that kind of stuff was happening all the time, adding up day by day, month by month, year by year. That's. You get where I am, where my students are, my clients are, my fellow flow dreamers are. And I'm going to leave you with that thought and that feeling and give you one last quickie reminder. Come visit my website flow dreaming.com that's where all the goodies are at. Getting on the newsletter, checking out me school. It supports, underwrites the whole whole program. Tons more resources for you. Many of them free, free, free, free. I just want you to learn this, practice this, love this. Change yourself, change your family, change your life. Love to you all. I'll see you in next week's show.

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