#442 What Did I Make, And Why Did I Make It?

Flow Dreaming.

It's a show where we talk about the power of your mind to change your world around you, to literally affect the fabric of your reality. We talk about this feeling of hope.

And joy and relief. And that is what being aware of your flow does. It gives you a feeling of power.

Again in your lives.

Oh, my God. You were so on target. You are so amazing. I can't thank you enough.

Breathe. It is the feeling that you bring forward.

It is your emotional connection that really.

Sets the tone for what is going to be happening to you and for you. And you know that feeling when you touch it, it just spreads through you.

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Of course.

And I think I'm gonna get some ANSWERS.

I'm Summer McStravik, and welcome to another.

Episode of Flow Dreaming. Ah, that's right. We the Flow today. Welcome to Flow dreaming. I'm Summer McStravik. Yes, this podcast has been going continuously without interruption since 2005. Crazy, huh? That means I will be celebrating my 10th year next year. Going to have a little celebration when that happens. So thank you for listening. Thank you for helping make this show widely recognized on itunes. Every time you post a review or subscribe to the show through itunes, it gets knocked up a little bit higher in the rankings. So if you are in gratitude for the program, please do that at some point, even now, if you want, or during. During the show. And that makes a huge difference. The other thing I wanted to mention is that as we wrap up this year here, besides thanking all of you, I hope you know that there are tons of other free resources just like this. I have an app as well that you can listen to this show through, and it's really nifty because it's totally free. It lets you star different shows that, like, are your top shows. Like, oh, I want this. It lets you search by topic. So if you're just looking up Career, you can find all the podcasts I've done on Career. It's pretty cool. And you can find that in the Google app store or the iPhone or itunes App store, whatever these things are called. They're out there. It's out there. There'll be another app coming out very soon, so if you search, you might even find a couple of them. Just look up Flow Dreaming and you should be able to find it. So we're going to be talking today about, hey, what did you guys make this year and why did you make it now? If you're listening to this as a podcast and you're like, what do you mean it's July? What did I make this year? Does it matter when you do this? I'm originally recording this right now at the end of the year. It's December, but your year can be anytime in the last 12 months. So bear that in mind as we go forward. What did I make and why did I make it? Things that were successful, things that I didn't quite get together this year, things that are still on my to do list this year. I'm a big list maker. In fact, I'm staring. I've done this before. Just looking around randomly at my office, I can spot no fewer than 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11 lists that I can see within view. Most of these are on post it notes. Some of them are taped to my walls. So I love to make lists. One of the reasons is that because I manifest so much, because I'm always thinking, what am I making now? What do I want next? What could the universe help me with? I know that a lot of the things I put down will never happen, right? My aim, my goal is to be on overflow. So I don't feel bad if stuff drops off my list. That's just stuff. I am giving my flow and saying, what do you think of this? Now, flow responds to me and says either yes or no. If it says no, that's usually because what I've put down really is not in alignment with me. It's not the easiest way, it's not the simplest thing I could be doing to reach my objective. All kinds of reasons. So I'm happy to see it go, not a problem. Now, most things though on my list I do get through because I try to stay in alignment. This means that if an urge or a desire comes up in me, I've become pretty good at checking in with myself and saying, I, huh? Does this fit in with my life? If it's surprising, I say, what is this? Why is this here? Usually it's because I've been neglecting something going on. You know, the last couple of weeks, I've been feeling an intense urge to play some music. I haven't done that in a while. I was looking at my guitars last night and thinking, I haven't picked those suckers up in months. And that urge that rose up is telling me, yeah, you've been focused on so much else. This part of you is clamoring to get out. So I'm always checking in with Those things that I want, right? I let them come up, I evaluate them and then I put them down on a list. Look into this, do that, get back to this. Put down that list of songs I'm going to learn this year. Now, why am I telling you this? When it comes to manifesting, what does this have to do with what have I done this year? I know that if I go back and I keep a nice big journal, actually, what's it called? It's called an artist sketchbook, right? It's 9 by 12 and it's the kind that flops open with a ring in the middle. I put all my stuff down there, all my lists, ideas, questions. I put lists of questions down. Just things I'd like to have answered. And some things are big things like why am I here? Other things are very small, such as, you know, what is the best email provider that I could be working with, you know, or contact place, whatever. And I write those down too. So if I look back over the course of the year, I am actually able to track my thinking and track my manifesting. And I notice very often things are crossed off my list that I had forgotten I had put down on it months prior. Months prior. I just forgotten about them because I transfer stuff from list to list. If I haven't done it yet, I write it on another one. You're getting to see my. You're getting to see now why Flo picked me, right? Because I'm enough of an A type Virgo personality with all of my lists that I need flow. I really need flow. Desperately need flow. If I don't have it, I'm not balanced. Flow reminds me. Put it on a list. If you don't get to it, flip the page, make another list. You'll go back in a few months. If you seeded it successfully into your flow and into your alignment, that will keep cooking. It's in there, it's going to grow, it's going to blossom, it's going to bloom. My task then is not to try and figure out how to complete everything on my list. It is staying aligned in the vision of what I'm feeling for myself for the year, what I'm feeling for myself for the month. My overall goal, you know, like October, that was get my finances in order month. November, that was decide how big I want to grow certain areas of my life month. You know, August was launch something new, see what I can hold contain month. June, my family month. Now, not to say that all of these goals aren't simultaneously, you know, in Development all through the year. I don't just pay attention to my family in June. Tonight, in fact, we're getting on some crazy Christmas sweater bus or something and we're going and looking at Christmas lights for four hours. The county. I don't ask me how I got roped into it. That's what my family does. So my point is, I am looking to the bigger goals that I have, the emotional goals behind all of this. Those stay with me through the year. I can turn page after page in my book and chart where my headspace was, where my heart was centered, which months I was in sync with my goals and alignment and which months I weren't. I can see the things that happened even after I stopped paying attention with them. And they happen because I gave it to Flo. Flo said, this fits. Let's make it go. Let's make it a yes. So I'm sharing this with you because it's a kind of strategy that I use that both keeps me feeling comfortable. Like, yeah, I'm attending to all of my details and my A type, you know, personality. But it also opens me and lets me, allows me to let things go. Maybe that's one of the biggest reasons why I like to catalog things that I've done or one things that I will be doing. Because when I have a lot of information in my head, it starts to swirl, right? It starts to go round and round orbits, whirlpool spins. I know people who call it spinning. Are you spinning? My mentor calls it spinning. Orbiting, Circling. And if there's too much in there, I start to devote a certain amount of my emotional and energetic energy into a kind of anxiety that I'm going to forget something, that I won't do something when I put it down on paper. In effect, I'm purging. I'm freeing up space, right? I'm allocating that thing from, you know, on demand memory to, you know, storage. So that's why it works for me. Works for me on many levels. So a lot of my stuff goes down on paper. It frees up space in my mind to accept the things that are then flowing in moment by moment, day by day. What is flow bringing me today? What is flow bringing me today? Another reason I point this out is that when you are holding so much in your mind anxiety about all that stuff you've got to do, what happens then? When flow brings you new stuff, you don't have room. You can't do anything with it. You reject it before you even know it's There, it's like you're. It's like something is heading towards you and you're looking the other direction and you miss it. I try to minimize that. If flow brings me something, I know it's what I need, and I am not going to miss that. There is nothing on my list more important than what flow is bringing me to deal with. So looking back now on those situations in your life, what did you do really, really well with what came together? Think about it for a second. What's in motion for you, right? That thing that came together, you're looking at it as probably something outside you. You may have gone right to something internal. Like, I healed myself of my past relationship this year. That's internal. More likely you're thinking I did well at work or I helped my, you know, my teenager through something big, thinking of something like that. If so, if it's external to you, I want you to look inside. Now, the degree of success you had externally directly reflects your own internal degree of development. So key, because now, when I ask you to look at something that you didn't quite pull off, where you got stuck, where you stalled out, that thing, now look inside you, that's where it's really stalling out. It's not outside you. You can blame it on certain elements, certainly. Well, so and so never called me and this person dropped the ball and I didn't get my child support and I, you know, on and on, anything that's a reflection of you, an area inside yourself. And what it's telling you is build me, build me, build me. You're not happy with what you're getting, then build me. Build that part of yourself that's responsible for that outside thing not happening. That is manifesting, that is being in flow. That is a recognition that you are your source of power. There is no one else in this world who has responsibility for your life unless you're under age 18, but really, it's you. And when you're expecting other people to do all these things, don't. They don't have responsibility for your life. They don't have control over your life either. What a blessing that is. It's all yours. Everything in it, yours. What an immense sense of power. If you just flip this around in your mind and you say, you're right, this thing that's not working out, I'm gonna go right back inside myself. I'm gonna figure out why. I'm gonna figure out if I still need it, if I still want it, if it even is something that Belongs to me. That is one of my own desires. Maybe it's somebody else's. I've just been adopting it, trying to play a role. Maybe I don't even need it. I love, love, love, love this kind of intense personal development. And it's flow dreaming that led me there. Because so many years of teaching people to manifest things and then watching it just fall through their fingers. Too many people said, why can't I keep this? Why can't I create this? Why, why, why? Why does manifesting sometimes work and sometimes not? Here I give you flow dreaming, the most intense way of communicating with the world, with the universe, with source energy, with God. And people will say, I asked for these things, but I'm still not getting them. What's going on led me right back into myself. Leads you right back into you. Then there's other things you can play with too, like intuition, which really for me means reading flow energy. I read the flow. I read the flow of information. Little streams of data, they're chugging through everybody's mind around you right now. If you're in a public place, look around, everybody has a stream of information flowing through their mind. If you could read that, what kind of different decisions would you be making? Probably a lot. If you could read that and trust that you were right in what you read, what kind of decisions would you make? Even more decisions, probably even more different. But it's there. It's there. That information is all around us all the time. We just don't believe in our own ability to see it, read it and interpret it. And in flow dreaming we do. We interpret through our emotional self and we create through our emotional self. And that's what I do, that's what I've done all year. So you're looking back and you're thinking what you did, what you didn't do. And the next step, of course, is to ask yourself, what am I doing tomorrow? What am I doing tomorrow? Is it the same thing I'm doing today? And be realistic, it probably will be the same thing. If you continue to take the same actions you've been taking all year or non actions. If you really are looking for something different, you need to make new actions, new choices. You need to give yourself over to flow and say, here is how I feel. This is who I am becoming. This is what my life should be showing me. Because this is what I'm creating in me. Let's work together. Let's partner up on this, okay? I trust. And because I trust so much, I'm willing to do. I'm willing to shove my own internal commitment behind that. Bam, bam, bam. It's a total winning combination. Incidentally, a lot of the stuff I'm describing to you right now, I'm going to point you right now to some resources because that's what makes our podcast free to you every single week of the year. One of those resources is the ME School of Flow. It's a 12 month program and it's long for a reason because that's how long it takes to truly change your thinking. It's something where you implement exactly just like I've been telling you, right? You get in, you dig, you do the work, you create, you learn. Oh my God. I really can manifest and create. Oh my God. What I feel really does come to pass. Oh my God. I really did know what my best friend was feeling. My boss, my child. Oh my goodness. And you leap to the next step. Then I should have done something. Once I realized that, why did I hold back? Did I trust myself or not? Oh, we do all of this in the ME School of Flow. It is the way to take all of my teachings, ground them very deeply in your life. This podcast that I give you is an overview of many different subjects, many different topics you can learn from. MI School takes you on a journey, a very well thought out journey of personal development. So I can help you, all of you guys in meeschool help each other grow to the next level. We go big, we up level from whatever place you start. The other thing I wanted to tell you about is, and I haven't mentioned this one in a while, at the Manifesting store@flow dreaming.com you're going to find tons of playlists around different topics and areas that you can start to actively recreate in your life. You know, this is why Flow Dreaming is so different than meditation and other modalities. You pick a part of your life and you say, I'm going to remodel you. And I'm remodeling you from the energetic emotional endpoint first. In other words, inside here is how you're going to look and feel. And you pick the area. Relationship, you know, parents, forgiveness, healing, growth, transitions, new jobs, relocating, God, it's all there. So go check that out. Two really good, fun resources. That being said, it's time for me to go to a quick break. I see your calls. Thank you. Thank you. By the way, if you ever want to call into the show live, go to my website@flow dreaming.com youm'll see the area there. It's marked radio or podcast. And I have all of my lifetimes written down as well as the phone numbers. This is when I get to call, not call you, when you get to call me. And I get to look in your life and help you with stuff and look into your flow and give you a path to start walking on. Look into people for you if you need that. So stay with me. I'll be right back. And we will get into your flow. I'm Summer McStravik.

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You're listening to Flow Dreaming with your host, Summer McStravic. Welcome back to Flow Dreaming. All right, let's get to some of your calls. Talk about what you've made this year, what you haven't made. How come? How do you do it? What's your process? How do you ground your flow dreaming and your manifesting into something you can see, feel, touch, taste? I kind of shared my process with you earlier. Oh, you know the one thing I forgot to mention besides all those lists, I flow dream. Duh. To me, it's so obvious, I forget to say it, right? That's the other thing I do. I drop into my flow anytime, multiple times in the day, anytime I feel myself projecting lack into my future, I say, whoa, wait a second. Is that really what I'm creating? Nope. I'm gonna do something else instead, right? This is what supports me. This is the thing that keeps me in alignment and keeps all these good things just continuously dropping in my life. So. Hey, Megan, you're calling from California. How are you? Hi, Megan.

Hi, how are you?

How can I help you? Oh, your phone is a little clicky, so we'll do the best we can with the call.

Is this better?

Yes.

Okay. Yeah. So thank you so much for taking my call. This year I've made a new business and a change in our location. We moved cross country. So those are great things. But I feel like some parts of my life are kind of unraveling right now, and I was wondering if you could go into my flow and see what's going on.

I'm still hearing little clicking. It's like a little typewriter. Tell me what part of your life is unraveling. Let me see where to look. Sure.

So one part is with my relationship with my husband since we recently, you know, picked up and moved across country. I feel like he's still not really open to the fact that we left our hometown. And then the other part is my new business that I created. I'm feeling a little overwhelmed by all the things that I need to do.

Okay, Let me look into your husband. I don't know if I can get into both. Okay. In the short time we have. Husband. What's his first name?

Mark.

Mark. Mark. Mark. Mark. I'm asking why it's been difficult for him to really get into the move. It's like he's taking. Oh, I think we lost you. I'm sorry, darling. I'll still answer your question, though. Mark, Mark. Mark. You know, it's funny. He knows it's going to take. It's almost like a false protest he's putting up. He's. He's been reluctant. He was reluctant the whole time. And in a way, he is making it harder for himself. He is the one who was saying, I don't really want to settle in. I don't want this to be comfortable and easy. I don't want it because I didn't want this in the first place. It's like, what did that. What's that called? Biting. Biting off your nose to spite your face. It's not biting off your nose. Something like that, though. That's what he is doing. And it's not intentional. He doesn't even realize he's doing it. It's more like to prove to himself that he was correct. So he's going to go through this. He's going to cycle through this. Yes, it is putting strain on you guys. What you're feeling from him is a combination of resentment and, you know, you're trying not to take this personally. And it's a little bit. You're feeling his struggle because you feel that, you know, he doesn't need to be doing this to himself yet. He is. And that frustrates you. Okay, so I'm sorry we lost your call. I think the phone lines must be a little buggy today, so I hope that really helps you. Okay. I do have dawn from Texas, though. I can talk to. Hey, Dawn.

Hey.

How are you?

I'm great. How are you?

Great, thank you. Welcome to Flow Dreaming.

Thank you.

Yeah, I called in. I called in several months ago and asked for a prescription, a Flow Dreaming prescription.

Oh, good.

And you had given me, you know, the names of beyond fear and strong and fearless and love and intimacy, and so I've been working with those. And guess what? I got my guy. I got my perfect day job to work while I'm setting up my business, and.

Oh, wow.

I mean, things are just really going great. Really. But the thing that I was going to ask you about, interestingly, you went ahead and answered at the beginning of the show when you were talking about spinning and, you know, just so many things coming in that, you know, how do you. How do you up level and stay balanced? So I got some really great ideas from you there. So that kind of answered my question already. But I thought since I have you on the phone, maybe I should ask you about my new guy and how he and I will be on this journey together, because I feel like he's. He's my guy, you know, he's the one. He's my partner. And I just was wondering if you could take a look into his flow and us together and how we can stay balanced together and, you know, keep moving forward.

Okay. What's his first name?

Joe.

Joe. You're reluctant. You're like, oh, I'm giving you out to the world. Let's see, Joe. Well, the first thing I get is that Joe is actually kind of an interesting personality. Interesting man. He. It's funny. He tells me he's out. He's very open to talking to me. It's like he feels he can adapt to different situations and different kinds of people. Do I have the right man? He can be sensitive, he can be cultural, yet he can also go have a beer and watch the game.

Yep.

He's showing me that he's, you know, you might mistake him for just being an average dude. Average dude, that's funny. But he's not. He's got this deeper side, spiritual or something along those lines. And you recognize that you're part of that, and he needs that. He wanted that. He was looking for someone like him that way that had all the parts that wasn't. Because he will tell you people are often just so one dimensional. They're just so. That's it.

Yeah.

Okay. And you, you, yeah, you, you run the span with him. That's really important. It. It's almost like that was one of the things that would have. If you would have asked him, what kind of woman are you looking for? That would be at the top of his list. And that's why it's important that he's sharing it with you. It seems maybe simple or like, duh, you know, but not everybody feels that way. Not everybody has that awareness in their mind that, you know, that versatility, that breadth to them, that was so important.

That's right.

So I guess just keep that in mind as you guys progress, you know, never lose yourself to a one dimensional kind of relationship or, or, you know, exterior to the world. Always keep pulsing in like, oh, let's, let's go on some weird backpack yoga retreat, you know, and he'd say what? You'd say, wow. You know, just because he would love it, you know, he would love whatever you came up with that brought him back into his bigger world, that he's looking for a woman to match him there.

Yeah, that's cool. That's very much in line with how I'm feeling that he is. So that's. That's great. Confirmation.

Good. Yes. I put my, Put my butt on the line whenever I go randomly looking in people because you can say, no, no, totally. He never gets off the living room chair or.

Yeah, yeah. So, yeah, thanks for your flow dreams that, you know, helps bring that in. So I'm gonna work on my list.

Go get some. Go make some lists. Just know you don't have to stick to them. Isn't that a wonderful feeling? You can make them and not stick to them. Just the process of making them is an information dump. And if they're right, they're right. If they're not, they're not. And when you go and you look to your future or to your past, you can refer to those. And C, those themes, you know, that pop up in all the things you wrote. All right, thanks a lot. Oh, I heard more crackly cackling. I think there must still be an issue going on with the phone line, so bye. Dawn, I just want to say a few other words before we take our next break. And you know what? We're going to do a flow dream together. And in this flow dream, we're going to say goodbye to the year, goodbye to the last cycle, and again, doesn't matter what time of the Year. You're listening. There is always a few things in your life that can be resolved. Even if it's March 14th or July 27th, it doesn't matter. Things come in and things release. And it's an ongoing, constant process. It is the yin yang of life. Things come in, things release. Things come in, things release. So you can do this anytime. It just happens that our consciousness fixates on the end of our year. You know, it's. It's part of the solar cycle, the seasonal cycle. We as biological beings have a need to recognize this point of transition. You know, we're going to be going from short, short days to long days here, or we actually, I think we are already. What day is this? No, not quite yet. And likewise, that is what we need to be doing in our life. Creating and letting go. It's only the things in your life that get stuck in that middle ground, right? I mean, really, if you look at the stuff in front of you, look at everything going on, either you're working with something that is progressing and growing, or it is declining and falling away. There are very few things that are stuck in the middle. If they are stuck in the middle. It's not a natural state. Even in nature, you know, a tree is growing or a tree is dying, a rock is being formed, or it is slowly degrading over the millennia. So to be in a stuck state means you have artificially popped on the brakes. And you've done that because there's stuff inside you that has to be reconciled. And, you know, that's what manifesting is. Anything that's in you that's not reconciled, that is a stuck gear. That's your flow saying, I would love to get you to the next block, I'd love to get you on the next mile, the next kilometer. But you're putting on the brake, you're stuck. You're stuck. You're sticking yourself. And that's often because we don't trust ourselves. We are afraid of something. Afraid to try something that we might not be very good at or successful at, Afraid we'll lose money that we can't ever recover from, Afraid we'll lose that job because even though we hate it, what if we don't get anyone better? There's that fear that, oh, this is the best I'll ever get, even though I hate it. What's that? That's ridiculous. Ditto for relationships. This is as good as this relationship gets. I better not touch it. It's too prickly, or I don't have a relationship at all. And I'm not going to get one because the last time I did. I just don't know how to have them right. These are all. You're pulling yourself back, you're pulling yourself into stuck. That's something you want to free up and free it up now, you know, free it up. When the energies of life around you are freeing up. Yes. You know, in the Northern hemisphere at least, it's wintertime, the time when things go deep, they hibernate, they go inside you. Australians, on the other hand, you're coming out. Your cycle is to explore, to let go, to shake off the slumber. You can use either one of these periods to break out of a stalemate. Either one has an inherent energy. Something is being done. Use it. I love to talk about energy. Cycles of energy, cycles of life, all of that. Can you tell? It thrills me. I think the one thing about flow dreaming is that it's a real continuous experience. It is a. Not just a technique that you do, but it's a way of personally pushing forward your personal growth. I know I said personal a lot there. It's a way of pushing forward your personal growth in an ongoing way that is never dull. You don't have to go out and find new things to learn, find new techniques. You just keep using the same ones over and over and they take you into more and more mysterious and beautiful places. Right. It'd be like stopping your journey before you got to the very best places. Why would you do that? A lot of people do though. They just fix what's obviously broken in front of them and then they move off into the next thing. No, take this journey as far as you want. Take it, take it for a lifetime. I mean, imagine yourself right now totally emotionally strong and clear. Imagine that you can make any decision and whether you're right or wrong, it doesn't matter because you know you'll course correct anyway easily. Before you get too far out of alignment, imagine how free you would feel being able to go forward with things like calling up that girl for a date, like initiating the separation in your partnership, like getting that new job, like starting your own company, like taking up a new hobby, new skill and learning it. Like getting your health back into peak condition. All of these things, Any of these things. I'm just naming the most obvious things we all share. It's the things I can't name because they're too personal and unique to our life. Like if I could just get that literature paper, you know, done and get a. Get an A in the class or, you know, the things that are much more, you know, distinct. So keep that in mind. We're going to go to a quick break. When we get back, I see more calls and of course, I'll be doing our Flow Dream. And I hope I've stirred up a whole lot of thoughts in you about how you are going to be different this year ahead. So stay with me for more Flow Dreaming.

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Now back to the show.

Manifest your life with summer mcstravic and flow dreaming. Welcome back to Flow Dreaming. Ah, how do you like all those commercials? I'm thinking of changing those up in the new year, shortening them. My goodness, that's a lot to sit through, isn't it? And some of those are kind of outdated. You can see what's on my priority list. If it's something important I want you to know about, I usually say it myself in the beginning of the show, like, me, school or like, you know, by thanking you for putting the, you know, reviews up on, on itunes, things like that. Let's go to Deborah and then we'll do our flow Dream. Hey, Deborah, what's up?

Hi. How are you?

I'm wonderful.

Okay, that's good.

That's good.

What's your question? Are you wonderful?

Oh, well, you know what? I won't turn cartwheels. But you know what? Everything that I have had to get done for this season is done. And I'm pretty good about that. I'm pretty good.

Oh, great.

Now, my question is about my daughter. My daughter, she's home from school and goes back in January, and she is really a joy to have around. She's missed Christmas. But my question about her is how what she seems to, like, take on a lot of others. Like when people are miserable, she just goes there and she's kind of miserable along with them. Or I don't know how to explain it, but she just, at times she'll go, she's the happiest person on earth. But, I mean, I understand we all go up and down, but when she goes into a funk, she really goes into one. And I'm wondering if you could give me any kind of insight on how to deal with her when she goes here. I just kind of like, leave her alone and let her be.

Yeah. Yeah. How old is she and what's her first name?

Her name is Jade. Jade. She just turned 22 in November and she's. She's really a great, great kid. A young lady. I should call her. I'm probably calling her a kid because I don't see her leaving the house for a while, but she's just.

She just doesn't.

Oh, gosh, I don't know. I'm having a hard time figuring her out.

Hold on. Let me just take a quick peek in her for you and hopefully give you a perspective that you can't see as a mom. Hi, Jade. Just seeing how you feel, why you sometimes get into. You know, it's like she's got. Sometimes things grow inside of her. It's like a. It grows like a. It's like a ball of frustration or a feeling she wants something. She doesn't know how. She gets trapped a lot behind that feeling of not knowing how, like, life is outside of her and she doesn't know how to get into it. And it builds as a kind of frustration. And I think that you see this being taken out on other things that seem like they're outside of her, but they're not so much outside of her as something that's inside of her. Just these outside situations prick at this existing feeling in her. And so it's like popping a little balloon, except the balloon doesn't pop. It just lets the air out slowly. You get a stream of that energy seemingly directed towards those issues, but really she has a real strong sense that she wants a direction, she wants to go somewhere, she wants to be something, but she's clueless how to do it. My best advice, and I'm saying this to you too, Jade, you know, go pick something that fascinates you. It doesn't have to make you money. It doesn't have to be a career yet. It's just got to fascinate you. It's got to draw you in. You need a way to express who you are in the world, to give of yourself to the world so you're not so bottled up that's really going to help her. Yeah, right.

I'll tell you, for the first time in her entire Life. She actually got, I mean, great, great marks. I mean, all of these years, the last year of college, she gets great marks, but she's just like, you know, at this point, I'm saying to myself, what's she gonna do? Is she gonna be here with me forever?

She won't. But she's got to get over this feeling of being impotent. Okay? And, you know, yes, she's got college that is growing her sense of worth, but there's like, a next step she has to make that will let the steam off. She's like a tea kettle. All the steam is getting trapped inside, like, boom. You know, and you feel the steam coming out here and there. It's because she doesn't know what to pour it into. She doesn't know who she can be yet, what she can do yet. That's got to be her focus. And anything you can do to give that to her is going to release that pressure. And I think that accounts for a great deal of her moodiness.

Yeah.

All right, Deborah, thanks so much for your call. Love it. And good luck to you and to her in the new year. Okay?

Thank you so much.

You're welcome. Bye now. All right, are you guys ready? Let's do a little flow dreaming. Okay, now, some of you found the show and you got it through my app because you were looking at meditation and you're discovering. She's not really talking about meditation. Yeah, I'm not really talking about meditation. I teach you how to creatively actively manifest and make things in your life. It's a process very similar to meditation in that it's internal, but instead of turning off your mind, we turn on your mind. Instead of turning off your emotional self, we turn on your emotional self. Flow dreaming is an awareness of flow energy. It's an awareness of the power that exists in your emotional body, and it's the ability to daydream, letting yourself go. Seeing daydreaming as sort of like a vehicle that we use to check in with our greater selves. Right. Just like your email program is. Is right now. If your computer's on or your phone is on, it's checking in the background with some great big servers out there in the world. Your daydream is the same thing that your email is doing. It's the process of checking and connecting. Connecting in. So we take those three things and we combine them. Daydreaming, emotion, flow. And we learn how to speak to the world, to our future, to ourselves, to life, to God, source, all of the above. So close Your eyes with me and just experience it right now. Play with the feeling. Deep breath. Relax, relax. You don't need to have any tension as we go into flow, as we go to this great, beautiful place of creation. Imagine yourself now. You're in a landscape of light. And the light just drops down on you from above like snowflakes that are neither wet nor cold. The little bits of energy that drop and stick in your hair like fireflies. Millions of fireflies slowly dancing and dropping, swirling back up again. And you, you're the magician. You hold the wand. You wear the gown or the robes. You move that wand and the fireflies dance. The energies around you dance. And you realize everything in this place, it moves when I move. If I twirl and swirl my skirts around or my robe, the energy adjusts around me. I, in fact, am the creator. Everything I do causes an adjustment in the world around me. Everything has to float to a new position. Like toys in the bathtub. You move one and all the other toys move into a little bit new of a position. Oh, you say. It's not just moving, though, is it? It's feeling. When you put your hands on your heart and you take a deep breath in, inside your flow, even with your eyes closed, all of you is taking a breath in. A breath of energy, a breath of life. Inhaling it into your lungs, inhaling those beautiful, bright golden lights, feeling your body fill up with this energy, this beauty. And you're realizing, I can feel any way I want to feel here. There's all kinds of things you realize in my life that have just been hanging around, sticking around, overdue, like overdue library books. Time to give them back, send them back. And you recognize them, you feel them in your energy right now. Some of these things are beliefs that you've had, thoughts that you've been carrying around that don't fit you. Too small for you. You've grown past them. Yet here you are, holding on to them. Let them go. Feel them drop and roll away from you, rolling right out of your energy. You don't need that. There's stuff that's happened throughout the year. You don't need either. Let it drop away, rolling out of you. Ah, yeah. You see that? You're done with it. It's like filing away all the paper, paperwork at the end of the year, all those important papers getting tucked away. You have all kinds of energetic debris from the year. Situations, things that have happened, conversations, people, big stuff, little stuff. It's time to release it. Let it go. Let it go. Out into your flow. If it's important, it will be recorded in you. If it's not, release it to where it originally came from, to its maker. Go on, let it go. And as you do this, you feel yourself emptying out. Emptying out. Ah. A good feeling. Feels light, pure, clean, clear. And you recognize there's so much else that I want to make. There's so many things that I left in that stuck position. And you look around you in this space. Ah, do you see all those things you left in the stuck position? You can see them. It's like they're floating, stuck. Some of those things you want to loosen up. You want to go through them one by one, walking past them, stretching out your hand. You can let that one go. It's no longer relevant, doesn't need to be stuck. It's just no longer part of what you need. Let it go, Touch it, Watch it disappear, Melting back into universe. Melting back. Oh, this other thing has been wanting to go someplace, wanting to develop, invite it back in, commit to it. Oh, yes, you. I need to take care of you. I'm going to this year for sure. And you see yourself doing this, walking through the whole vastness of wherever you are, Everything that stuck is in motion again. Not too fast, not too slow, not overwhelming, not underwhelming. Just right. Just right. The perfect speed for your perfect life. When you smile with that feeling, you smile with that thought. This is you, who you are and where you're going. And you linger in this feeling, this knowing, this decision. Even now as you open your eyes. So the intention with this flow dream that you just experienced, you'll notice there was a lot of emotional guidance. There was visual guidance because I make it interesting for you. Give your mind something to do so it doesn't interfere with the emotional work. Emotionally, you just addressed a bunch of stuff in your life. Even if you didn't go into great detail, you brought it up, you made some choices, however brief. That's the start. Now keep doing that. Go deeper with those choices. It's a process. It's beautiful. Everything in your life will change. Everything. And that is what I wish to leave you all with as you enjoy the end of the season, the start of the new year. I'm Summer McStravik and thank you for Flow Dreaming.

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