#454: What Feeling Stuck Is Really Telling You

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There we are. Here we are together. We are listening. You are listening to Flow dreaming. I'm Summer McStravik. Thank you for joining me again this week. I'm really excited about today's show. Today's show is a good show because it is about getting unstuck, prying yourself loose, figuring out what to do next. This subject is one that I have tackled a number of times over the years on this program, and it just feels like it's time to do it again because I have. Well, like you've been hearing, I have a brand new class of me schoolers. And this is something that comes up a lot in the beginning of the program. I'm stuck. I don't know what to do next. I don't even know. Had a flow dream. I can't feel it, what's going on. So this is why kind of wrapping your head around the energy of what stuck really means, what it's telling you is so important for you to move forward. You've got to understand how you created a situation where you don't know what to do next. Right. We examine everything when you learn to work with energy, when you learn to be a manifestor, one of the first things you understand is that in order to know what to ask for, you've got to know how you ask it, why you ask it, how you may have asked it before, how you may not have ever asked it before because you didn't allow yourself to go there. Oh my God, there's so much. Anyway, that was the most terrible intro I've ever done. Do you even know what we're talking about, this podcast? No. I fortunately do. So let's jump in. I put out a new flow dream this month. It's called My Trouble Free Life. And I think this is what got me ruminating again on people who are stuck, people who are feeling like all I do is just go from one drama to another. It's an endless circle. I never really get anyplace because when I was putting together my trouble free life, I was thinking, remembering about those times where we've all been in. I've been in them, where it seemed like everything was a big drama, everything was trouble. I couldn't get out of something. It just kept snowballing around me. It was endless, you know, an endless nightmare, let's put it that way. And my trouble Free Life is a flow dream that takes you into the very opposite space of that. It's a place where nothing is giving you difficulty. There is no one who's giving you a hard time. There is no soon to be ex husband who's tormenting you. There's no soon to be or recent ex girlfriend who's still not letting you move on. There's no person that is tangling you up in their lawsuit. There's no workplace that you're fighting with over some benefit or raise or whatever, right? All of these things that think of this as. Or think of each one of those situations as sort of churning up energy, frothy, churning, chopping energy, of conflict, of drama, of come play in this with me. My trouble free life says, no, I don't want any of that. I don't find any of that energy useful. I don't need that because it doesn't propel me forward. It may be loud energy, it may be big, engrossing, encompassing, you know, huge energy, but it doesn't propel me forward. All it does is divert me from where I'm really going. It's almost like getting caught up in a rowdy bar on my way to running to go to the park for exercising, right? It catches me in. I gotta fight My way through it, it's senseless. It's not time for a rowdy bar. This is my exercise time. When you have drama and trouble like that in your life, it is holding you in that place for a certain reason. And when you figure that out, then you can move past it and get to that place where there is no drama, there is no trouble. Now, for some people, that thought is scary because they say, well, if there's nothing going on, then nothing will be going on and I'll be stuck, there'll be no movement. They've confused peace and ease and continuous free and easy growth with nothing going on. So we have to pull those two concepts apart. I get the most done in my life when there is the least amount of conflict. What am I getting done if there's no conflict? If there's nothing to battle against, push against? Well, it's when I get to create, Right? Imagine a painter who wants to paint a gorgeous picture. If she has to fight to get to the canvas, her time painting is going to be seriously decreased. But if she can just stroll right up feeling perfect, she's had her morning coffee, all is well, she can go right up. And the creativity, the expression pours out of her onto the canvas. She is in full creative growth, manifesting mode. That is what we want you to get to. So let's back up to that step where you have the conflict, you've got the trouble, or you've got what you call simply being stuck. Now, I identify being stuck as a kind of conflict. There's a logic here. When you are stuck, it's often because you're in a kind of push pull situation. I want this, but I don't want to give up that. Right, that's a classic one. I want a better job, but I don't want to give up the security of the job I have. Because what if I don't get a better one? This is probably one of the best, biggest things I see people do in their lives in terms of what they're creating and they're manifesting. If you've listened to this program at all, you know what you are on the inside is perfectly reflected by what you have on the outside. And yes, that statement takes a little digging into. It doesn't mean that millionaires on yachts have gold and beautiful insides, but it does mean that they have solved that part of themselves inside that has to do with their self worth. We don't know what's going on in their marriages or their drinking or anything else. When you have things on the outside that feel like they're holding you in place that you can't get out of. You don't know how to get beyond. Now, this is the relationship that's outlived its purpose in your life. This is the job or the career. Whether it's a great job and you're stuck with those golden handcuffs or a sucky job and you just don't know where to go. You know what else to do. Nobody wants me. I'm not trained for anything. Believe me, there are energy conflicts going on here and they have to do with inside of you inside. And those things are not showing up in your life to take you to the next level because you are not willing and able right now to go and embrace and accept them when they're there. In fact, I'm going to correct myself a little bit here. That next step, I would lay a hundred dollar bill down on the table. It's actually in front of you already. It's there. And it's there in the form of something you get to solve. It's just something you get to solve that you have not yet solved, but it's already there. The conflict that you're looking at is your solution. That is what brings you to the next place. So it's not that you're stuck without any options, it's just the option that you're looking at. You don't want to deal with, you don't want to go, you don't want to touch it. What do I mean by this? All right, say that. Oh, gosh, I always use jobs because they're so easy. Let's use relationship this time. Okay. Another. The second biggest area of people's lives that they often want to change the relationship is I am currently. Should you be with somebody or single, for this example, say. Let's say I'm currently with my partner and with somebody. It's not great, but I've already been divorced twice and I don't want to lose this. But I can tell it's not really working. But I don't want to lose this. I feel stuck because I don't want to start over again. I've been there.

I feel like I have to make.

It work with this person, but I don't even know if they want to make it work with me. I can't exactly go out and date and look for somebody new because I'm still with this person. And yet whenever I try and engage with them, they don't even really want to engage with me anymore. You know, they're never home or they're, you know, we don't do anything together anymore. We just. We've kind of agreed to be separate. I know it's strange together, like sharing a house, but separate in our lives and in the house. This is not what I want. But I'm stuck. I know. What a dim little view there I've painted for all of you. But can you feel the stuck energy in that? Can you just feel the. The sadness even as I describe the situation? Believe me, there are. The situation is not uncommon. It is epidemic. What do you do to get unstuck from that? What is sitting in your life right now that can lead you out of that? Believe me, your flow has already brought it to you. A number of things. There are things such as, you know what, honey, I noticed that we're not doing anything together. And I want to go into this again with you. I want us to increase our closeness because I see where we're going and you do too. And I feel stuck in this relationship and that is not how I want to feel with you. So we're going to start doing xyz, right? There's one plan of attack. We're going to get closer. Now, what if this person says okay, and then they don't ever do it. They've given you an answer. And the answer is, you may want to get closer, but I don't. That is your answer. That is your next step. It's just. You don't want to hear it. You don't want to deal with it. So then you say, well, I'm just stuck again. You have chosen this place because you don't want to let the person go. Even though they're not willing to engage with you, you're willing to take them. And at 25% of a relationship, just to have a relationship at all. You see what I'm getting at? We self create our stuckness all the time because we have these conflicts in our desires we are creating. The powerful point in this is that you always have your power. It is not your partner. It is you. It is your choice. Or how about another one? My partner never wants to go out. I feel like we don't have a social life anymore. I feel like I can't do anything without her. I'll reverse the genders. You know, she always says, don't go out with your friends. Don't do anything. Don't. I just don't have anything anymore. It's really frustrating to me. It's making me feel terrible. But if I go out, then it's just a big fight and a big problem and really stuck in this. What's becoming more and more unfulfilling for me. Where does that go? Well, most people try to change their partner. Come on, honey. It's okay if I go out. If I can go out, you can go out. We need to have people over. Let's do stuff. Let's go places. I don't want to be home all the time. Maybe instead your place of power is to say, I'm going out and I'm going to let you adjust to that. And if you don't, then we'll take it from there. We'll see what else can be done. But the draw that we've been in for so many months or years isn't working for me. I've lost myself. I am not the person that you first got together with or married. I have become someone else who doesn't make you happy and doesn't make me happy. I've done my adjusting. It's your turn to do some now as well. And we'll see if we still get along. At that point, my fingers are crossed that we will. I am in my place of power. I am adjusting. I am the one who's now no longer waiting on you or someone else. When I think about waiting. Speaking of waiting, it's always an indication to me that there's a serious lack of trust going on somewhere in our life. Right? It's either a lack of trust in yourself that I can't resolve the situation. I have no options. Untrue. The option is always there. You just don't want to take it. So you keep waiting and waiting for a better option to show up. And frankly, you're going to be willing to wait years. Just get clear on that. Just say, you know what? You're right, I am. I did put myself in a position of waiting. And I will stay in this position of waiting until I feel that the scales have tipped to a certain point where I have more trust in the outcome. And as long as I'm scared, then I'm not going to make a movement and I will stay in this place. I have made my bed and I am sleeping in it. You can get clear with that. You don't have to push yourself to the next place if you are not ready. It can also be a lack of trust in life itself. Right? You're waiting for life to tell you what your best career is. You say, I don't know what I want to do. I don't know. I've never been able to figure it out. I've tried things. They failed. I don't want to do that again. Universe, tell me what the right thing is. And they say, you know, it never tells me. It never comes to me. Now I've lost faith in the universe now I've lost trust in anything ever happening or working or being right. For me, waiting is a lack of trust. Explore that fight. Right. Lack of trust is an energy. It's an emotional state. When you have that inside of you, your flow will reflect that and respond to that. She doesn't trust this. Let's not give it to her. She won't believe it. She won't take it. We can bring it to her. She won't even see it. She's not open to it. Whatever you are frustrated or impatient with in your life right now, this is where flow has the most movement available for you. How odd, right? We think that flow is always the easy, open, flowing place. And yeah, it is. But here's what happens. I see people find flow. They say, everything is going to be easy and flowing and break open for me and be amazing and wonderful. And they start going with it. They're like, oh my God, my, my career is going better than it ever, ever has before. And then they come to a screeching halt and they're like, what's going on? What happened? My relationships are falling to pieces. What's going on? I say, well, you know, you can only go as far forward as the laggiest thing that you're dragging behind you. They say, what? In fact, I had this conversation no.

Less than an hour ago with one.

Of my MI school students. You can only go as far ahead as the laggiest, heaviest thing that you're dragging behind you. If you are flowing and things are opening and you have learned how to cultivate and craft the energy to fully flow, dream and engage, and you've got an area or 2 or 3 or 10 in your life that are really start work for you. But there is that one area that you haven't wanted to deal with yet. You know what's going to happen. That one area is going to start feeling increasingly heavy. Why? Because the rest of your areas of life are lightening up. The contrast becomes enormous and you start to feel like you're pulling a heavy bag of bricks behind you wherever you go. You can't be a sprinter carrying that heavy bag of bricks. So this is what ends up happening. You start improving an area of your life and you notice, oh, this other area is getting really heavy. Why is this now flaring up for me? What's going on? Oh, because I see the contrast now. What I used to feel was bearable, what used to be normal for me, I'm now feeling like, God, that's really pulling me back. That's really, shoot, I've got some healing and some work to do. And then you turn around, you look behind you, you go, let's sort through this bag of icky stuff, these bricks, this stuck, this impatience, this frustration, this avoidance. Let's figure this out. You work on it a little bit. You then start directing your flow dreaming into that area of your life. You get to the point where you say, okay, yeah, that's feeling pretty good now. I think it's good enough. Ah. And then you move back to that other area that start that's been flowing and moving well. Then you notice, oh, there's another area behind me now. It's the laggiest one. And then you got to go back and you got to clean that one up. Now, over time, I'm not painting a bright picture here, right? Over time, what happens is most areas of your life are now caught up with you. Everything is in motion, no air. You're not really feeling any pull of anything holding you back. You're not dragging old stuff with you anymore. Everything you've worked through to the point where you're pretty caught up to presence, what do you think happens then? Can you imagine there being anything stuck in your life? When everything in your life is really caught up to present, is with you, in alignment with you, where you're feeling strong, committed, bold, you know what to do, you know how to create. You know what happens when there is resistance thrown at you. You're like, yeah, I got that, thank you. I'm going to move right through that. That's the ultimate. That's where we're going. Here is what I've just been describing kind of built out into like a list, right? If you want to wrap your head around this, when you start looking at your life like a manifester, a person who says, there are energies in life that I can control, guide, develop, be in alignment with, and these energies help define and create my future. I recognize I'm not just a physical body in a physical world, but that this body of mine, this consciousness of mine, has ever finer bits to it, made of pure information, in essence at heart, that's constantly being reorganized into new blueprints that then the physical world expresses, the physical world is built off of these energetic blueprints. Okay. I'm now learning how to go in and sketch those blueprints, just as I've learned in my physical life how to create and sketch a life there. Now I understand this. So the first thing I want to do is I want to clear out all the troubles and drama, anything current, top level, surface stuff that is stuck, not working difficult. I'm going to go and engage in. I'm actually going to engage in it to whatever degree I can, to whatever degree I have the strength and ability to at this moment. It's like when you start an exercise program, right? You don't have a whole lot of strength and ability. I know because I just started this intense program two weeks ago. The first day, they're like, it's okay if you only have to lift a five pound weight. You can lift a five pound weight. So I lifted a five pound weight. That's where my starting point is. You have a starting point right now. Clearing the troubles and drama to whatever degree you can. As you start to do that, you're going to realize that the more of this grimy, grungy stuff you pick up and start tossing out of your life, the more you get to see the real ground beneath your feet. And you're going to say, oh, some of this needs some healing. Some of this came to me because I have unhealed parts of myself, unhealed situations, things I avoid, things that I don't allow myself to manifest or create. These are old thought patterns, blocks, ceilings. Okay, so then you're going to go and embark on some healing. Once you've done that right, that's like looking around at the heavy stuff you've been pulling behind you. What is it that's holding me? The third step is you start to identify at that point how you want.

To grow or go bigger.

I know it's tempting to want to do that right at the very beginning, and we can and we do. Actually, I do teach my students to do this. But you'll find as you progress that those goals very much change. And it's really when you're about step three that you can identify your true ways of growing bigger. Because you see where you have been weakest, you go, oh, wasn't my biceps, it was my abs. Oh, wasn't my relationship. It was this old pattern I had about myself worth. This is when you really create that manifesting goal for your life.

When your flow dreaming and your pre.

Action kick in full on. What do you do after that? Step four, you Commit and embrace any current resistance. And you understand what it's telling you, okay? This is a little different than clearing the top level. Surface drama, right Coming in. That's the cleaning. It's like everybody cleans their house before we get started, right? We need some space to work. Now we're going to look at the real resistance that comes up. That's the stuff that stops you every single time. That's the stuff that leads you into stalemate. That's the stuff that leads you into being stuck. That's the resistance that pops up every single time where you stop and you go, okay, I guess I better wait for more. Better wait for the universe to tell me. Better wait for the right person to step in my life. Better wait till I figure out what I really want to do as my job. Better wait till resistance next step. After that, strengthen, purge and notice your lack thinking. How do you deal with resistance? How do you deal with that stuff? What happens when you face a ceiling inside yourself? You go into it, you embrace, you get strong, you call deeper on your flow self, and then you purge. I don't need this anymore. I'm gonna feel opposite this. I'm gonna be wrong about this whole bunch of stuff for you to do. That's the real deep, nitty gritty part. I can't even go into it all in just a simple podcast. It takes months. What do you do again after that? Believe it or not, you go back to healing. Isn't that strange? This is what I have determined to be a manifester's path. You walk this path. You walk this way of thinking and believing and acting and behaving in your life. You will never be stuck again. You will never reach a place of frustration and impatience again. You won't be waiting for houses to sell. You won't be waiting for jobs to be offered to you. You won't be waiting for the right person to cross your path and fall in love with. You won't be waiting anymore. This way of living makes getting stuck or frustrated impossible to align with you. Because every way you're acting and thinking is not in alignment with a stuck person. And you're thinking, well, why is that better, Right? Because when you're in this place of movement and growth, you're purely in flow. You are reaching your potential. And you have, what, 80, 90 years, if you're lucky, to reach that potential, to fully explore what you are, who you are, what you can do. And all these years, you've done stuff until now. Some things you've learned and some things you've got to go back and unlearn as much as you've learned up to this point in your life is probably as much of stuff that you need to go ahead and unlearn because what you learned was wrong and you need to redo it and re navigate it until it's right, until it works. I'm going to let you just let all this settle into your head. I recognize today's show is kind of one that's just going to have to seep in. You're like, what is she saying? This show, I don't get it. It's because I'm outlining a big level picture for you, a way to live in flow, in motion, in growth, all the time. And the steps that you encounter as you go through this cycle, this way of living. And honestly, it's something I've only come to a realization of in the past maybe 18 months. And I've been slow dreaming for more than a decade. So we're going to come right back after a very quick break. We're going to do some Flow dreaming together to get you popped free, unstuck from whatever it is in your life that is being too sticky. And of course, I'll be taking some of your calls. So. Questions? Oh, yep, Lots and lots of them. I'll be getting to those too, right after this.

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All right? Let's get some calls. Let's put some flow in action. Amanda from the Midwest. Somewhere in the Midwest. How are you? Hi. How are you?

Oh, my God, I can't believe I got through.

I'm good. How are you? Do I know you? You do.

I'm one of your MI schoolers.

Oh, yay. All right, well, without giving out your last name, there's two Ambers, so I'm gonna have to figure out which one you are.

I'm not the one in California. I'm the one with the worst weather.

Oh, no. Okay. Okay. So what's going on?

Yeah, I'm so glad I got through on this show because it's just perfect for what I wanted to talk to you about. I feel like almost everything in my life is stuck, and it's one of the things that brought me to new school. And I've been working pretty intensively for the past couple of weeks with some your deep inner healing flow dream. And I felt like I was getting through some really big blocks, and I thought maybe that was it. I'm still not feeling it. I'm still not feeling like things are actually moving forward for me. And so, like, with flow, I can get. I feel like you get little things. Like sometimes I can get a parking space. You know what I mean? But, like, the big stuff isn't moving and something's still not working, and I just don't know what it is. So I was hoping that you could look into my flow and sort of tell me what you.

What you see. Okay. All right, so things are not moving. Tell me what area in particular you think should be budging first.

Well, I mean, the number one thing that I put my energy into is my career, and that's sort of the thing that's going the best. But I mean, relatively speaking, I don't have much of a personal life.

I'm single.

You know, I've got some great friends, but I'm so. I'm a full time student and a full time teacher, so I don't really have a lot of time for a social life. I feel like a career should be working, and I had some really good signs that big things were going to start Moving for me. And then all of a sudden they just didn't.

Yeah.

So it's the career that I think is maybe almost there, but just still not quite firing on all cylinders.

Mm. Right. So as I look at you, it's. It's kind of interesting. You are focusing on career because you feel you have the most control over it. Mm. Okay. It's most within the domain. You're like, I can change it and affect it. If I think about my relationships, I feel like that's just out of my control completely. It's like when you look at your relationships, it's like, well, it all depends on if the hand of fate drops a perfect person in my lap. It's like you feel you have. There's nothing you can do. Whereas career, if you do X, you'll get Y. Oh, my God. I was talking to someone earlier about this. So funny how things are thematic in a day. This is why you're putting a lot of your energy there. So that's okay. You can still work out all kinds of interesting self development goals through work. So you just mentioned that you thought you had something come to you, but then it didn't. It rose up and it's like a flower you thought was going to bloom. It budded and then it just kind of died before. Like a rose. You ever got a great rose bouquet of buds and then like the next day they're all folded over and they didn't actually bloom. So disappointing.

Yes, that's exactly what it feels like.

Okay, so that's what I'm looking at. Like you like, oh, just did it again. What am I doing wrong? What am I doing wrong? Okay, tell me the inspired action that you're taking. I want to check two things. I want to check your preaction and I want to check your action. How do you put in sufficient action?

I mean, the honest truth is in one area, yes, and in one area, no, because I have the sort of two aspects of my career. One is the teaching and the other is my research and my degree program. And I'm definitely not working on the research. And I know that's a problem. And it feels like a big weight on me. And I will freely admit that on the teaching side, yes, I think I am putting as much action forward as I can. And I'm temporary right now and I'm staring down the barrel of unemployment if things don't come through.

So.

Mm. Yeah. So I think so let's pull back from the stress that just popped up in you when you started Discussing this. Right. You went into lack. I'm looking at unemployment. No, you're not. You're looking at a beautiful teaching position. If not this one, then another one. Okay. Be conscious of what you're telling your flow here. Sure. The other then is, and I have to finish this degree to get to the next phase. And did you say that the degree is something that you're lagging on or that you are putting. Okay. You are lagging on that. Yeah.

Oh, I'm lagging big time.

Okay. All right. So you're. You. Okay. What, what I'm doing here is identifying where the stuck is happening. Okay. The stuck is happening because you are holding back on your degree for whatever reason because you're not into it, you're not interested. It bores you. Who knows what it is? There are reasons, though. And if you spend some time digging in, you need to look at those reasons and say, I'm allowing you to stop me. Boy, you must be big and powerful. I've allowed you to stop me. Gosh. All hail the big reason. That's. That's making me not do this.

Yeah.

Is that what I want? Is that who I am? Okay. These reasons can be everything from it's just boring to do all that research and I don't like to be bored, to I'm afraid I won't do well enough. So if I don't do it, then I can avoid that day of judgment. Right. Maybe I can just grow a little and wait a little longer and get to it slower, you know, from me. School engage. This is your engage time. This is your. I'm going to finish this. It is not bigger than me. I've allowed it to control my life and now it's having repercussions because I'm getting nervous and scared that I won't stay with my teaching job. This has grown way too big. It's no longer allowed to be that big in my life. I am bigger than this. If I'm going to be a kick ass teacher and grow to the level I need to grow to, this has got to become easy for me. Not the big challenge that I've set it up in my head to be. This is actually going to be easy for me. Because in the scheme of things, this is going. I'm going to look back, I'm going to say that was the easiest part of my career. Can you grow your head like that? Grow your mindset a little bit?

Oh, yeah, yeah. Absolutely. Just that, that shift that you just put in there just feels like. Like A thousand pounds were just taken off of my chest.

Yeah, yeah. And it's. The thing is, it's true because, you know, this is, this is, this is the low bar on the challenge of your growth. If you really want to go where you want to go. Okay, so now you know what to do. Action wise, you've got to get in there and do it. Okay, that's it. You're bigger than this now. Your energy aligning to that. What do you think happens? Everything shifts now to make it be easier for you to do. Suddenly you have the time open up in your day. Suddenly you have the right faculty or whoever you're working with coming in and saying, oh, I can guide you and help you on that next piece that you were stuck at. As soon as you shift in that thinking, all the stuff that comes to you shifts now to go with it. So the pre action part of it is, yeah, I am past this. I am so past this. This degree is done. I'm onto the next level, the next step. Whoa. That's where I actually start to feel a little nervous. I felt the nerves come up. Oh, my God. What that's going to be, what that's going to look like. Maybe I've actually been afraid of what happens after it. Maybe that's what's been holding me in position. Can you. Do you feel that? I feel it in you.

Yeah, absolutely.

I just got. Oh, geez. That's where the real grown up game starts in your head suddenly.

Yeah, yeah. That's when I'm on my own.

Yeah. Okay, so you want to put your head there now. You want to go up into the place where it gets you a little scared and nervous. Okay. You got to get comfortable there, you know, Pull up your chair to the big kids table.

I see it.

Yeah. Okay. And pull it up every day until where you go. God, you know, at a certain point, you're going to start preacting a feeling of, I belong here. God, how come I haven't gotten that thing done yet? Oh, that. Geez, better finish that up. Because I belong here now. And everyone's looking at me like I'm a peer. And I'm realizing they're not ahead of me anymore. I'm with them. I'm in the same track as those people who are on that career path in teaching. Okay. So you know what you needed today? You need to just scale up your thinking. You have to break through in that mindset and go bigger in your head. Mm. That's your stuck place.

Yeah. No, I can Just feel it. Just the way you're saying it.

Yeah.

It's like I'm in a completely different place in my life right now just from the way that you've explained it.

Yep.

Thank you so much, Summer.

That's amazing. Thank you. Have a. Because you're in ME school, I'm gonna have to give you an extra little piece of homework you need to report back. Okay. Post it on Facebook.

Yeah, I will.

All right. Follow through, commit. Stay accountable.

So much.

I will. Thank you. Bye, my dear. Take care. Bye. It was fun. Let's do one more. Who's been waiting? Ross. California. Hey, Ross.

Hi, Summer.

Hi. Sup?

I'm stuck. So this is a perfect. I'm hoping you could help me see where I'm stuck.

What part is stuck?

Well, I have a great job. People seem to like me there. I'm getting a lot done. I've been there for almost 15 years, doing definitely the next level of work, but have not been given a promotion. I get, like the previous caller. I get a lot get pretty close. A lot of things are manifesting really well, but with this specific thing, you know, the roses die right before they're supposed to bloom.

Yeah. Everybody listening this podcast is going to totally remember that metaphor now all through your life. Good. Everybody find the place where the roses nod over instead of blooming the next morning. Yeah. Okay, so you have this. I'm looking right now at the particular goal that you have, the particular promotion, the particular raise. Would you say that this is pretty narrow, this thing that you're after?

I think it's narrow for the company. It would make a huge change in my life financially with, you know, taking pressures off of other places that are, you know, in my life.

Mm. The reason I'm asking is when we manifest and when you're in a. In a state of preaction, you're in flow and you're feeling it. What I normally say to people is, I have achieved the level I need to achieve, that I feel no financial pressure, that I feel the freedom and the ability to do the kind of work that I want to do. I really feel inside myself, I have made it. I have made it. Right. So now we're evoking these rich, rich, juicy feelings. I'm financially comfortable now. There's no pressure. I've made it. I have, you know, I'm being told and I'm able to do during the day the things that I really want now instead of always being. Doing something I don't want for someone else now I have A lot of self definition. That is the emotional endpoint. Now, if you have attached to that a specific job title or a specific place that you should be in, you're taking all the potential ways of getting that fulfillment and squeezing them and saying, but only through this one. It's sort of like saying, the first flow. I am wealthy, I am carefree, and the only way I got there was winning the lottery. Like what? It all sounded good till you put that lottery part in. Well, that's kind of really squeezing down your options. Honey, what happens if you start feeling something else? Close your eyes with me. You didn't even tell me what kind of work you were in, so I'm flying blind. What if you're feeling instead something like something happens that fully recognizes my mastery, because I do have a feeling of mastery about what I do, and I'm being recognized for that mastery. And it is alleviating all sorts of pressure in my life. It's like a big shift. It's like I'm standing on the ground and the plates are moving under me. The continents are. Are shifting, and I feel a little off balance. But you know what? Ooh, I right myself again. And now I feel myself in this new place and I'm checking and all of my needs are met. I have what I need. I have the income now. I have the recognition now. I have the freedom now. I have. And you can put any feelings in there that you're receiving. I have all of that now. I have all of that now. And don't look at where it's come to you from. It might be from your same company, it might be from a different company. It might be a brand new role in your current company that never existed until two weeks from now. That's not your job. Your job is to start feeling, this is what I have received. And I'm so solid and strong in that that if something doesn't match me, it is going to fall away. And I accept that.

I can live with that.

Sure. Yeah. And you really have to get to that point of certainty because otherwise what you're saying is, I really am this. But if I have to step back and go small still to keep it, I'll step back and stay small. And now you're putting a conflict into your energy.

Max, I'm ready to go much bigger than even with this promotion would. Would recognize. I was looking at the stepping, you know, stepping stools or. You know what I mean, Right?

So get your head off that promotion. Go bigger. Go bigger. Let other opportunities come in that way, flow can push at you three or four or eight new options that you weren't even aware of. And you say, let the best man win. I often say that let the best man win, meaning whatever is easiest, quickest, closest, most in alignment. I'm open, I'm game. Because I know it's going to satisfy my emotional end points, whatever it may be.

Okay, I love that. Thank you.

Roll with it, Ross. You take care. All right, bye. We have a quick break to go to. When we get back, we're going to Flow to pop that cork. Get stuff moving in your life, get those bubbles flowing, get things happening for you. Remember, this is not earth shaking. It is just more like warm honey pouring just the right pace. All right, so stay with me right after this.

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