#456 Drunks, Druggies, Liars, and Cheaters

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Druggies, drunks, liars and cheaters and go call up somebody and lie to them before we go forward. Fun things happening@flowdreaming.com that is my personal website. I own it, I've created it. I put all my most fabulous stuff there for you guys. It includes a manifesting shop, a blog that you can go read and learn way more about what we do in Flow Dreaming. Learn about Me school, which you've heard about. I'm sure what's happening lately there is that we have reorganized our playlists and playlists are recorded flow dreams, which are audios, MP3s that you can download and if you're used to ever recording, you know, using say, a guided meditation, they feel a lot like that. Except you're not meditating. In fact, you're communicating with the universe. When you use these, you are expressing and creating a huge emotionally directed command. Essentially you are restructuring, recreating your own internal emotional and energetic template so that every day as you walk around, go through life, make choices, have stuff flow into your life, you're starting to program what you want to have happen day in, day out. They're really powerful. And the playlists have grouped them together under certain subjects so you can work with them on any area of your life that you want. So do check those out. That is the latest@flow dreaming.com. so what do we think about altering energy? Right. I kind of started thinking about this in Flow Dreaming. I Teach you guys how to alter energy, how to change it, how to change your own emotional energy so that the world starts responding differently to you, how to feel that essence of alignment so that you are now sort of hooked into that flowing, good, easy, natural state of being where good things just naturally occur for you, happen for you. Because you're in that positive momentum. You're not in a negative, backwards resistant momentum any longer. When we use, for instance, alcohol or drugs, we're also just trying to alter our energy. You know, the same motivation is why we flow, dream, why we meditate, why we do a lot of things, why sometimes we run or go to the gym because we know we're going to get that endorphin high when you're drinking, when you have those glasses of wine or beers at the end of the day, when you are taking a pill in the afternoon, and then you think.

A little later on, maybe I'll have.

Another one so I can sleep. And pretty soon taking those pills all day long every day, what you're doing is you're changing your body, but you're also changing your emotional and energetic state. There's a reason for this. Obviously, we know there's a reason when you're flow dreaming, you're changing your state because you have a purposeful intention. I will become this. I am becoming this. I am becoming a person who operates in a state of ease or constant understanding. My needs are always filled. I'm becoming a brave person. I'm becoming a person who knows how to handle tons of wealth. I'm becoming a person who knows how to open up my heart and create intimacy and parent my children. Whatever your goals are, there's just a few. You work to change yourself energetically and we use flow as the means. Alcohol and drugs are just another means and they have a slightly different way of changing you. Do you see the parallel I'm making here? We all have methods for changing ourselves and we do them when we use them all the time. So often the deeper reason for I just need a drink or I need something to swallow is because we're saying, I have had enough. I don't want to feel this anymore. I need to relax from this. I need to de stress from this. There's too much going on or things feel out of my hands, out of control. I feel lost, I feel unloved. There is some energy state that you are trying to address. Find the energy state. Find the emotional state that the booze or drugs are reaching and impacting, right? Find the question that the Numbing agent is answering, right? The question might be, I don't know how to handle what I've got going in my life. The answer is, don't handle it. Just shut it down for a while. Right? The question is, I don't feel there's anyone in my life to take care of me except for me. So I need a little something to kind of just chill out from that. Well, the answer is, yeah, chill out. You know, finding something. I don't trust life perhaps to keep me protected or safe, so I need to kind of escape it sometimes. I need to just not be in that place where that inner anxiety or fear is constantly residing. Now, you may not be any of these particularly, but there is one or two. How about procrastination? Okay. Procrastination is never a thing on its own. It's always a result of something else. When you're high, when you're drunk, you're essentially saying, I'm going to put off or delay stuff for a while. Right? It's like a big timeout. You're taking time out. I'm going to go be in another space right now. I don't want to get to that yet. And if it's just a night, a week, because you've had a long week, whatever, if it's every day, you need to look at this. I can't tell you what the correct frequency is, if ever. But if it's leading to a point where your life is getting impacted and you're realizing you're right. Every day I put this off every day. I have lost so many hours. I have delayed so many decisions because I needed to get into that other state of being, the one where I escape. This is the biggest energy issue, emotional issue I see when I work with my students and my private clients. The reason is, okay, what are you doing? Why are you doing this? Are you ready to go there? Do you want to talk about this? Do you want to see why you're creating that energy? You know, I'm not a therapist at all. My job isn't to get people off of substances, but I do like to show them, hey, let's create some other energies in your life so that now you have something that maybe can be a counterbalance, a counterweight. Instead of feeling like I don't have anything else I can turn to, you say, actually, I do, because this other part of me is rising and growing and strengthening. That's the part of me that says, I actually have some wonderful changes. I'm in the process of so I can't numb myself out to them tonight or whatever else it may be. Let's switch gears a little bit. Let's look at the energies of lying and cheating. Lying and cheating. I put them together because they have a very similar feel. In some ways they serve the same purposes. So let's look at this. Think about a lie that you have recently been involved with. Either one that you told or someone told you can be the most recent one, could be the biggest one that sticks out in your mind, right? Think about that lie. We've all had them, right? They're common as house flies. Lies and flies. Often when we lie or someone else is lying, we're trying to cultivate a different image of ourselves, either to ourselves or to other people. We want them to think differently about us or feel differently about us or we want to think or feel differently about ourself. Sure, I got the report done on time. I promise you I did. It must have been a mistake. Sure, I will be. I can't go to Thanksgiving or no, I can't go to Thanksgiving because I'm going to be traveling. Why are we doing these things? Say, well, sometimes they're white lies. We're protecting other people. What we're actually doing though is we're trying to control other people. Protection, control, crossover. The energy of a lie is always trying to assert your control over someone else. You want them to think a certain way about you. You want them to behave a certain way with you. You want to cause them to do or feel something that you know may not be true about yourself, but you want it anyway. Why? Because it will make you feel better. Ditto for people that lies that people. Lies that people say to you, right? Things that they want you to believe about them or that they want you to believe that they think about you or about their profession or what school they graduated from, or on and on and on. Now, most of these lies originate from a lack of self love, self worth. What they're doing is they're saying to the universe, there's something insufficient in me, something that I didn't do right, Something that is a little bit broken. And I'm going to try to compensate for that by creating this artificial understanding. Now, energetically, this creates around you, within you, emotionally. Remember, flow, your future. The universe is always listening. It's creating stuff based on what you do, say and feel, second by second, moment by moment. So if you're creating a lie, it's now got to respond to you in your life with well, what would fit a Lie. What kind of energies can meet with the energy of falsehood, of covering up, of protecting or shielding these reasons that we lie? The kind of things that will then happen to you will tend to also fall into these categories of covering up. Someone said one thing, they didn't do it. Most people who lie frequently will tell you everybody lies because that's their experience. It's not just their perception, it's their experience. They are in that energy. They operate at that alignment. So it is true in their world, most people do lie. That's the world they've chosen to be engaged with this energetically creates walls of separation, right? We talk a lot about intimacy in flow. Intimacy, right? What does that mean? It's the essence of pulling closer things, getting closer to each other, getting intimate with somebody, being exposed, being open, being vulnerable, being close. Lies create lack of intimacy. They create gulfs and distance. So lies, you can always understand. The lies that I send out will create distance in my life. They will create walls of separation. Even if the other people that I'm lying to aren't aware of it or who are lying to me, it's still going to create an energetic gulf. And because of that distance, we are going to have less intimate relationships. And what does intimacy do? It makes things happen quicker and faster. Intimacy is the energy of closeness and nearness. Lying is the energy of expansion. Far away wall separation. How do you think that's going to play into the rest of your life? If you're a person who's wanting to get a lot of things to happen, wonderful things, you don't want things just always falling through or being pushed into the future or not happening for you, or being presented then whipped away from you. You want things to happen. Be real and be intimate. You've got to participate in that energy. Now, most of you listening, you're not habitual liars, but you probably know somebody who is, right because they don't really like to do all that self examination stuff that might expose that about them. So what do you do in that case? What do you do with those people who create gulfs, who try to steer and twist things? One just don't participate, right? Lying is an energy that requires you to participate. It requires a response from you. And because it's one of those zinger energies like anger or fear, we get an instant response. Got to deal with that one. Ask yourself always do I have to deal with that one? If I go into that right now, that energy is at 50%. I go into it now, it's 100%. Both of us are engaged now. We're both participating in this. Even if it's too. Even it's too. It's to deny it, right? And get more and more into it. Like so many family fights are based on this. You know, my sister said this about me. It's not true. She says that I'm trying to steal, you know, money from my mother, etc. Etc. And then it gets bigger and bigger and you are now drawn into that alignment that creates separation, right? That's always the result. So my biggest word of advice, what I say in flow is don't participate. You can also flow for the opposite. Flow for intimacy, flow for clarity. Create your own. Don't participate in somebody else's. Always ask yourself, do I need to engage in this just because it was thrown at me? If that's the one thing you can learn, it will save you from so much irrelevant drama in your life brought to you by other people that you would have in the past just had a knee jerk response to assuming you had to. You do not have to respond. What about cheaters? Oh, wait a minute, I didn't finish with lies. Another thing that lies do is they excuse our bad habits, right? Our unloving, unacceptable parts of ourselves. Right? I don't want you to see this about me, so I'm going to make up something else instead. In this case, not only are you trying to control somebody else or are they trying to control you, but they're also acknowledging a lie, by its definition, acknowledges. I feel unloved, I feel unwanted. I feel not good enough. Because if what I was, was good enough, I wouldn't have to make something up. If I had enough strength to say the truth, I wouldn't have to make something up. Every lie is you strengthening your acknowledgement of what is deficient in you. Yeah, I know that that kind of knocks you in the head and rolls you backwards because then you think about, well, what are the things I typically don't always tell the truth about? Those are the things that you find to be unacceptable, not good enough, need to look different, need to be changed about you. I know, it's eye opening, huh? Another reason that we lie is because we want to get our own way at someone else's expense. Okay, so think about someone who's lied to you and how pissed off you've been because they were trying to get their own way at your expense. And it wasn't fair. What they're doing here is one, they're of course avoiding intimacy. Like we already discussed. If they were going to go into intimacy and create intimacy, things would have been addressed completely differently. But they're trying to avoid it by just asserting something completely different and wrong and asking everyone to participate in that with them. They are engaging in a win lose worldview. My way or the highway, my lie or nothing. Now, people who have these win lose kind of scenarios going on in their life in their head, I have to get my own way, even if it means someone else doesn't get theirs. They're moving through life with an expectation that in order to get ahead, somebody else has to lose. Maybe not all the time, but if you ask them, they would probably say most of the time, if I get it and you don't, I win. That is an old paradigm and so many new modalities of thinking have come in in the last decade that has just blown that out of the water. You don't always have to engage in win lose scenarios. There are plenty of win, win, win, win win ones. There are also lose lose ones. They have chosen one way of living and going about things. If you don't want to be part of that again, step away. Just step away. I don't like to be in those kind of either or me or you situations because I know the longer I engage in them, the stronger that tug.

Of war will become.

And then all of my emotional energy, of which I wake up every day with a limited quote quantity, will get siphoned away. Okay, we do have to go to a quick break. When we get back, let's talk about cheating. Cheat, cheat, cheater, cheater, cheater. Isn't there a rhyme for that? Cheater, cheater, money eater. No. Cheater, cheater, something or other. I'll try and remember it. We'll be back in just a few seconds. We're going to go into cheating and then we're going to talk a little bit more about how all of these kind of go together and what they're all coming from energetically. Stay with me. Be right back.

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Cheaters, cheat, cheat, cheat, cheat. Right? We've all cheated. Who hasn't cheated? Raise your hand. Nobody better raise their hand. All of us have done something that wasn't quite right. This weekend I was at Home Depot and I was getting the price of a plant. I had to go to the customer service counter and a bunch of the people came by and the people who worked there because nobody could figure out the price of the plant. Seriously. It was like a 15 minute, 5 employee discussion. They all crowded around it and they're poking it. They finally decided it was a bird of paradise. And then they left. And I looked down and There was a $20 bill on the ground. And I thought, okay, these nice people are helping me. One of them must have dropped this from their apron or something. So I held it up and I said, did any of you guys drop this? And they called all the people back from all their corners of the store. Did you have a 20 in your pocket? Did you have a 20? And I thought, this is a really interesting test, because any one of them could say, sure, I had a 20 in my pocket. They all said, no, it wasn't my 20. So I said, okay. And I said, this is freely given. It was freely mine. It paid for the plant. So I was delighted. But that was an example of that little moral dilemma that goes on. You know, when the waitress gives you back too much change, what do you do? I always give it back to the waitress, you know, because it's going to come out of her money anyway if you don't. Her dips at the end of the night are his. But we're tempted, and there have been other times when we have given in. When we do this, what we're really creating inside of ourself is a feeling of, I'm going to gain at the expense of others. And we can justify it and say, well, there is no other. If it's cheating on a test, it's not like I'm hurting someone else directly. Or maybe you are. Maybe there was someone else who was more qualified than you that did study harder, who should have received the benefits of getting the A or the hundred percent, and they didn't, but you did. No matter how you formulate it, the energy that's going out there is, I am taking something that's not really mine, doesn't fully belong to me. Now, where does this come from and how does it replicate itself in your life once you engage in this? The biggest, deepest part of cheating is lack thinking. If you guys listen to the lack cycle series of my podcasts, you recognize this. If you haven't listened to the lack cycle, go into the archives and find it. I know on itunes it only lets you listen to a limited number of shows, so they may be getting aged and be going into the premium archives by now, but they're quite good. And you can listen to a whole month of those premium archives for like three bucks or something. Pretty low. But that's what cheating is. It's lack cycle thinking. I don't know if I'm going to get it any other way. I better get it this way. Even if it's not completely ethical, it's a feeling of, there's not enough. There's not enough. I won't get it any other way. I Have to get the little extra here, even if it takes away from something else or someone else. I try to eliminate as much lack cycle thinking in my life as much possible. It pops up like a noxious weed everywhere. And cheating is one of them. It's one of the ways. Now, what do both lying and cheating do, right? If someone is lying and cheating, right? And everybody, we're all thinking of past lawsuits and ex wives and ex husbands and boyfriends and girlfriends and family members and employers and co workers, right? Oh, all kinds of people are popping up in our head now. That liar, that cheater. They made my life miserable for years, right? And you can start to see, yeah, they were deep in lack cycle thinking and they were trying to use me or use a situation or use something to pull themselves ahead. Both lying and cheating create a false feeling of being on top of having gotten your way, of having forced your way, forcing the energy of the universe to do your bidding. And why do you have to force it? Because you don't believe that it actually will on its own. This is crucial. You engage in it. Or they engage in it because they don't believe the universe will give to them on its own. They don't believe in a generous universe. They don't believe in a loving God, a loving source that will supply. So they have to take matters into their own hands and force it to happen. And you'll notice lying and cheating often comes with a heck of a lot of resistance around it. Sometimes it does go completely unnoticed. But when it is noticed, when it's right there out front and somebody spots it and points it and blows the whistle, whoa. The resistance swirls around it. Why? Universe doesn't like to be forced. Other people don't like to be forced. It goes against the grain. They are creating resistance in what otherwise would be a flowing expansion for themselves. They would be given what they need. They would receive it. They just don't believe it. So they're having to do it their own way. They're having to. You know, anytime you have to force something in position, you have to make that screw fit in the hole. It's hard in flow. It's never hard in flow. It's never forced. And flow is the biggest source of life. It clobbers any need to lie and cheat. It clobbers it. But trusting it, that's harder, frankly, than lying or cheating for most people. It's harder to do because you're giving up a peace. You're giving up old habits, you're giving up old ways of Doing things that you know might work because you remember lying to your mom when you were a kid and saying, no, I didn't mess up my room. That was my friend who did it. And your mom believed you and you got away with it and you thought, huh, well, sometimes it does work. So people who habitually lie and cheat, let's go into habitual people, not only are they creating a false feeling of being on top because they don't trust. They don't trust themselves. They don't trust life. They don't trust that there is any other way of doing things. They typically participate in a worldview where they'll say, I do it because everyone cheats, right? Everyone does this. Everyone, you know, steals and copies MP3s or, you know, I don't know, whatever it is, everyone does it. I'm just doing what everyone does. This is really saying an energy of, if I can't beat them, I have to join them. There's no other options for me. Now, if you believe there's no other options for you, what is flow going to give you? No other options, what kind of world is flow going to show you? It's going to show you a world where everybody, you know, tries to lie and cheat or make the extra buck or, you know, do whatever. What this really means is, I am not going to get my needs met. I won't get my needs met. I don't believe fundamentally that I will get my needs met. And what is that? Another way of saying lack cycle? Right. Imagine you wake up in the morning, your first thought is, I won't get my needs met. Brush your teeth, not going to get my needs met. Going to work, not going to get my needs met. Going on a date, not going to get my needs met. On and on. If you're carrying around that assumption with you, what becomes your alternative? Right? Lying, cheating, drinking, partying. All the other ways that you deal with this basic understanding that the universe doesn't give me what I want. So let's flip this around. How do you wean yourself from engaging in these energies? Notice, too, I'm really not trying to be moralistic in this show today. It's not my job, you know, to call that out in this particular way. Everything that we indulge in is something that we grow through and we'll understand if it hurts us or helps us. That's the way I'm looking at this. Does it hurt you? Does it help you? 9 times out of 10 or 99 out of 100 or maybe 999 out of a thousand. These energies will hurt you because of the underlying energetic sort of substrate behind them. Short term win. Yes. Long term loss. Flow is about long term build. Long term win. I don't like to exist in a hamster wheel of short term stuff in my life. It is so wearing. So when I build in my flow, I am building every day, not just for what happens this week, but for next year, but for 10 years for retirement. I'm building the future as far out as I can possibly feel it. So my intentions are always. I'm getting my needs met. My flow is listening and responding to who and what I am every single day. The universe listens to the emotions that I am pouring out. And if I'm engaged with something that's lying, cheating or numbing, what the universe is hearing is me engaged in a kind of negative feedback. And it will begin to replicate that and give me more of it. It will assume that that's what I'm after. Sometimes it's hard because we think of the universe as always being so intelligent. But there are certain natural laws here. They just are what they are. It's like gravity sticking your feet to your ground. And there's a natural law that says what you are is what you receive. It's not what you ask for is what you receive. What you are is what you receive. In flow dreaming, we change what you are. And then what you receive is a no brainer. It just gets better and better and better. So when I flow here are the kind of things that I say so that my opportunities to lie and cheat and drink and take pills are much lower. In my life, I say to things to my flow, like things happen that continuously give me a beautiful feeling of validation that I'm on the right path, that I'm doing good work. I constantly feel fulfilled. And if I'm not fulfilled, I'm looking at the thing and saying what part of you is not fitting me or matching me? And what else can we do instead? These are basic emotional states. You can apply it to your relationship, you can apply it to work, apply it to your relationship with a child or a spouse, anything, even to your own body. I'm saying things like there's plenty in the universe, there is plenty, tons of it. Stuff is trying to find a home every minute, every hour, every day and buy stuff. I mean twenty dollar bills on the ground, I mean cars, I mean homes, I mean sweepstakes wins. I mean good jobs. I mean all the things that we consume to make our lives feel easier. It's always trying to find a home. There's plenty of that going on out there. Yes, some people have huge, big amounts of it and other people have teensy tiny bits of it. And yes, it could certainly be distributed better, but a lot of that distribution is reliant on the person who is receiving, the person who is being that thing, that energy, that alignment to receive at that level, you know, And a lot of people, sure, they've never even lived in a society where they could open up to that thought. So of course they don't have it. But a lot of us are living in that and we are actively changing who we are so we can receive more. The earth is so bountiful. You can receive, you can get your needs met. There are plenty of people who could fall in love with you. There are plenty of employers who would be delighted to have you on their team. There are plenty of homes you can afford. There are plenty of friends who would be excited to call you, someone that they were close with. Plenty of them. Notice how it's feeling when I say these things. Are you feeling resistance to it or does this feel like ah, warm syrup pouring over you, like, oh, this is long overdue and need it. Oh, this is telling you something about your need for these energies inside of you. Alright, I hope that gave you a little bit of direction. I want to go to one more break when we get back. I'm checking it turns out I wasn't even paying attention to the calls coming in so I'm going to check that right now and we're also going to do a little flow dream as soon as I get back right after this.

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And here we are back. My goodness. I'm surprised my phone lines are not jammed up. Come on. We all know a liar or a cheater or somebody who's been hassling us. This would be a perfect time to look into them, to get some information. What's really going on? What are the strings that are really being pulled? Not the obvious ones. That's always the case when someone is trying to control you through a lie or cheat you with their lack extra expectation. All right, what I think we'll do is head into a Flow dream and create some of those feelings so that one, we ourselves are less tempted to lie, cheat, drink, or, you know, smoke up. Or smoke cigarettes. I should throw cigarettes in there too, huh? I completely forgot about that. I got so enamored with my show title. So what would it be? Drunks, druggies, smokers, liars and cheaters. Oh, all the smokers. Now you guys are all upset at me, but really, anything that alters you. So make it so that we're less desirous of needing any of that. Right? And also make it so that other people are less interested in pulling us into their stuff. That's perhaps the more important part. We don't have an interest in participating in any of you. Your alignment in these areas. Okay, so here's how we flow dream. We close our eyes and we want to relax. And you're recognizing this is an active, energetic emotional technique, not meditation. There's no need to clear your mind. It's a feeling of letting yourself drift into a daydream, losing track of time. Just following me, following my voice. Creating the feeling inside yourself. Lots of feeling, lots of emotion. Letting the words come in, flocking around the emotion like little birds, little words of birds. The images that maybe peek out at you and then disappear again into a haze. Let your mind Add whatever it wants to add, but let your feelings out. Let them escape. Let the lion out of the cage for a walk in the sunshine, a walk in the jungle where it naturally belongs. This is the place where the lion inside you belongs. Belongs inside. Flow. Beautiful flow. Flow is like a sunshiny road, a path through the beautiful jungle. The leaves are dappled with sunlight. And you're this powerful energy, this powerful lion, really king of the jungle, padding through the forest silently. There's no worries. There's nothing that will hurt you, harm you, attack you, or take from you. Nothing. You command this energy. You command this world. You command this flow. This is your life as it unfolds in front of you. The path, the leaves, the sweet smells, the orchids dangling from the trees. The vibration. Vibration. The energy that vibrates and resonates through this place. So potent, living real. Do you feel how everything is growing around you? The trees are growing. The gorgeous deep green plants are constantly growing, sprouting, getting bigger, absorbing the rain and the sun and the rich, dark, volcanic earth. This is your life, constantly being created in front of you. And you are flowing in it. You are part of it. You are in command. You are in control. And there is nothing that will hurt you or harm you. So when you feel that someone or something, some energy, notice it. It's like a little buzzing gnat, a gnat coming out, and it's starting to fly around you, fly around your beautiful body. Maybe you're still that big lion with a swishing tail. Or maybe it's you. Now you recognize this gnat, this little buzz of energy. It's an irritation. It's someone or something in your life that is saying to you, participate with me in something lower. Participate with me in a lie. Participate with me. Come back at me. I'm going to accuse you or this or that. It's just something. It's not something coming up. It's just a feeling you've had before. It's a recognition of an energy you previously experienced in your life. And you want to create a template right now, an energy state, a condition that you will set forth so that at any time in the future, when someone or something tries to ensnare you, tries to irritate you, tries to pull you in, you already have a guidebook set up. You already have a template going. And this guidebook says, no, I refuse you. I already know how I will handle this. And it is to say, absolutely not. No, thank you. I refuse to be pulled into your lack, thinking. I refuse to Be pulled into your. Either or. I refuse to have to go numb to something, to have to delay it or not touch it. I don't do that. I don't want to it. I don't need it. I am filled with power. Everything I need is within me. Everything I need is within my flow, within this gorgeous alignment that I am part of. It's all there already. If I stop believing in that, then yes, of course I'll have to switch and start using these much inferior tools and participate with people who use these inferior tools. But that's not who I am. That's not what I do. I move forward powerfully from a point of strength. I feel this nap, this fly, this buzzing irritation just fly away from me as if it had touched an electric fence. It can't be with me. It can't be around me. I am not somebody, something that it would find any use for. I'm not something that would find any joy in participating with because I don't give it what it wants. I don't give it what it needs. What it needs is something to play with and collaborate with. And I don't do that. In my world, Truth comes on sparkling little wings to me all day long. Birds flying in from the trees all day long. Truth, clarity, forward motion, brilliance. And I'm given all the time. What I need when I need it. Give, give, give. What I need when I need it. I operate from this place constantly and consistently, constantly in consistency. And I feel myself continue along this path. And I feel strong and free and vibrant and wonderful. Everything that comes my way. Today, tomorrow, the rest of the week, the rest of the month aligns to this depth inside me, this knowledge in me. And with that I find my flow dream begin to dissolve as I continue to carry this incredibly strong feeling. When I'm ready, I open my eyes. And there you have it. A really good example of how you would use a flow dream to reconstruct your own interior emotional state. Right. Flow dreaming is about manifesting and creating things. And what you manifested and created was a strengthening of your own internal sense of self, direction and alignment. Feels pretty good, doesn't it? Yeah. All right, we do have time for a couple calls. How exciting is that? So let's go right now to Susan in Delaware. Hey, Susan.

Hello.

Hi. How are you? Pretty good.

Although not that great. That's why I'm calling.

Yeah, what's up? What can I help you with?

You mentioned something. I can't repeat it intelligently about calling to have to see where your energy Is leaking, I think. Or who's feeding off of you energy? Maybe I got.

Well, that could be part of it. What do you have going on?

I was wondering if you could give me a reading.

Well, do you have any idea of who this is?

Oh, yeah.

Okay.

I still have ties. I don't know how to cut them off. To an ex boyfriend who I share a mortgage with.

Yep. Okay.

And who went off to be a trucker. So I'm trying to find work. Do I need help in all areas of my life. And my energy is leaking all over the place.

You know what it sounds like to me is that while you two were together, you began to share a lot of lower emotional energetic states. Maybe he was the drinker. Maybe there was something going on where you got used to this level of alignment, which was, I'm not going to get my needs met. He doesn't think he's going to get his needs met. He always says it. I'm feeling a lot of negativity. In other words.

Right on.

Yeah. So it's that energy. Think of it like you were swimming in a sea of that, an ocean of that. And you've just recently got out of the water and you're trying to dry off and you're realizing, I can't just scrub it off the surface of me. Me. This energy got deep into my pores. It got inside me, and you need to squeeze it back out of you. Close your eyes with me. Let's pretend for a second that you're a sponge. You're like an ocean sponge. And you are filled with this darkish old water, like dirty dishwater, dirty dishwater. And you just want to take it and compress it out. You want to just squeeze, squeeze, squeeze. And you can feel that negativity. You can feel him squeezing out of you, coming out of you. It's like pouring out of you. Now make sure you don't leave it sitting there floating around you as it comes out, as it squeezes out, it is being instantly absorbed back into the energy around you, back into the flow around you. Absorbed and recycled. And then when you're done, you can sigh and you notice you're emptier. Like an empty sponge. It's lighter. You're lighter. I want you to practice this very easy technique whenever you need to. You could do it five times a day. Every time you think of him, do it. Because chances are when you're thinking of him, you're actually recreating some conversation, some emotional state, some way of thinking that got patterned into You. And we want to unpattern it, which means every time it comes up, it has to be squeezed out until it's all gone. It's really effective, especially if you find that you do this 10, 20, 30 times. Eventually, you'll do it one day and you'll say to yourself, wow, like nothing happened. I didn't feel anything. And that's when you know, he's gone. He's just gone. Then your next step is to build yourself up again with who you are, what your feelings are. Do you get your needs met? Do you have lack in your life? Or do you know what you're going to create and make and that you are capable of it? And you are not the woman that he said you were. That's really important. You're not the woman he said you were. You hear that? Yep. Okay. All right, Susan, thank you. You're so welcome. Bye, me dear. I think there was a lot more there with her. You can always tell when someone gets really quiet. They're like, oh. Oh, that went in. And. And now I got to think about that. Oh, that was deeper than I thought. So she can do it. You know, it strikes me. Anybody else listening, you are not the person someone else told you you were. You know how powerful that statement is? You are not the person someone else told you you were. I could do a whole podcast on that. Maybe I will. Maybe that's got to go down in my list. Okay, I'm going to wrap things up for this week. My love goes to all of you. I hope to see some of you. Visit me on my Facebook page. Do Visit the website flowdreaming.com to check out those awesome playlists. Read up on the ME School of Flow, which will be enrolling again sometime next year. Although when you're listening to this on a replay, it's hard to know when it could be enrolling now. And that's it. I'll talk to you all next next week. Bye. Bye. Well, look at that. Show's over.

But before you go, did you know that my mom has a podcast, too? Her show airs live right after mine. It comes up next. We tape our live shows back to back. Her show is called the Dear Venus Show. So stay listening and you can call in or look it up live on itunes if you're listening via podcast. Her show is really good. It's really funny. And she reads people's minds and futures.

And talks to dead people for real. It's called the Dear Venus show on itunes.