#471 How to Get Past Needing Life to Be Fair

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So that means that if you want to call in, you always have the option to talk to me, and I love to meet you that way. It's a nice little injection into the show of being able to talk about your issues and problems and things you need to look at from the flow perspective, from the perspective of how can we work with this energetically? How can we work with it emotionally? What do you need to do? What information do you need to get that you don't currently have? So if that sounds exciting to you, I encourage you to go to my website, flowdreaming.com. you'll find all kinds of information there about ways you can listen to the show on demand, as well as reaching me, such as going through itunes or any of those other methods. So here's how the program Works every week we explore a topic that is somehow related to the concept of flow thinking, flow dreaming, or one of the ways of thinking that I utilize in my life. That makes my manifesting very powerful. That makes my intuition very powerful, which has subsequently made me very powerful. I know that sounds weird, I am so powerful. But truly, more and more what I'm seeing is the end result of this process is a kind of immense personal power. It's interesting too, because recently I've taken a survey of my latest MI School class, asking them what the highlights of the year have been, some of the strongest biggest changes, and I was quite surprised. Personal power came out head and shoulders above so many of the other things that I thought would be so important. Equally important themes that came out were deep healing and repair, as well as inner trust, self trust. These are all components, absolutely vital, absolutely necessary to you being able to manifest, create and intuitively understand your world. The biggest blocks to your creation all come from the inside. They do not not come from the outside. They are all interior. The more those things are unearthed, repaired, grown, strengthened, really the more powerful and effective you become in your life. You become the center of so many spheres of influence. And I don't mean that you're controlling everybody else's lives. No, no, no. I mean that your ability to have things occur for yourself just dramatically escalates. Dramatically escalates. That is the long term goal of Flow Dreaming. That is the purpose of MI School and Personal Mastery and some of the other programs that I work with. Now a lot of you guys are starting out with playlists, learning to flow. Brilliant, beautiful work with them. Today's theme follows what I've just recently put out in my newsletter. Came out, I don't know, today, yesterday, a few days ago, recently, very, very recently. It's about the need for life to be fair and how that mental monkey wrench really screws things up in your flow. So we're going to tackle that topic, what it means when you expect life to be fair. Before we do, I just want to give you guys a little kind of heads up on a couple of things. Many of you have been following me for a long time. You know that the latest big deal going on in my life and you followed me through so many big deals, you know, in my life, my career, having my kids. The latest one, of course, is cancer. So I have been healing from cancer the last two months since I have newly discovered it. I've had my first round of chemo and you can tell I'm feeling pretty strong and well today. So I'm getting an idea of what my life is going to look like over the next few months. That means some of these programs will be encores here and there as we move through the rest of the year. Of course, if you're listening to this as an encore, say in another time and the future, future point, then just kind of file this away as, I don't know, old news, but hopefully still interesting old news. Yeah. So the chemo is going well and I have managed to put a nice team of traditional oncology as well as alternative oncology. In addition to that, I have a kind of spiritual energy, spiritual healing, which would be my flow dreaming, my acupuncture, which I do position more as energetic healing, as well as some other modalities that I'm working with. So that's the way I'm approaching it, the complete picture. And, and I really appreciate all of your God, all of your support, your emails. I still get emails from you. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Your post to my blog with your ideas, your suggestions, your well wishing, those of you who've mailed me beautiful little gifts and things to make my life easier. A special call out to Renee in Cancerland for her latest beautiful package that brightened my day. Anyway, I just want to give love to all of you guys for being such a huge support. It's so ironic, you know. I came to flow dreaming in this show with the desire to help people and show them a different way of living and thinking and now I'm the recipient of so much of that that I've been putting out all those years. Never intended to be. But you know, the byproduct of giving I guess is receiving, which has been a beautiful lesson for me lately, which is kind of a nice way to seg into the recent news that Dr. Wayne Dyer has recently passed. And a lot of you guys remember Wayne and I, we had a show together for many years on Hay House Radio. It was a pleasure kind of being his sidekick, you know, on air, helping run develop, produce manager, co hosts the program with him for him. He was certainly a large influence in my life in so many ways. And I wish him, I wish him well, I wish him Godspeed, I wish him great love and luck in this next phase of his life. And you know, it really calls my attention as if cancer enough, you know, doesn't call your attention. But the fact that he passed quite suddenly double calls my attention away to the importance of what we're doing right now, what we're doing today you know, who are we affecting? Why are we important in life? And I don't mean self important, I mean important. Important to our friends, important to our children, important to our spouse. Where are we making a difference? And important to ourselves. So my blessings go to him and yeah, just wanted to acknowledge that and a lot of healing that's resulting for me from everything I've been in and all those pieces in my puzzle that he was part of. Okay, there we go. That being said, a little moment of acknowledgement there. Let's get back to this idea of life being fair. Because if one thing my illness has done is really brought to me a brand new collection of, you know, you know how much I hate the word lessons, right? I really hate lessons. They just sound so bleh. Let's say a brand new collection of opportunities for me to become aware of what I don't already understand. In other words, frontiers, right? They're not lessons, they're frontiers. I have a whole new group of frontiers that have, you know, scratched against my door and I've let them in the house and I'm busy, you know, brushing their fur. One of those frontiers has to do with understanding that things are not always clear or fair. And it got me thinking. In my life, most of the times when I have ended up at a wall, when I've ended up at the end of a dead end hallway, as I've sometimes called it, there has been a factor there that I've been pursuing something that I believed was fair and when it wasn't, because I was very stubborn in my need for things to be the way I wanted them to be, that I believed for them that they should be or had to be or that was morally right for them to be. That is often what kept me in that dead end, spinning my wheels, angry, upset, powerless, waiting for a new opportunity, waiting for things to change, all of that. I've recently really begun to feel that fairness, that need for it, it's a terrible, terrible liability that we carry around. Now, this is very different from you operating from a place of inner fairness. Okay? You operating from a place of fairness is someone has given to me, I think I might want to give back to them. Right? That's you standing up inside your own moral authority and that feels good. That's a builder of your strength. But when you're in the position of looking around and saying, this is how this person should act, this should be the result of all my hard work here. This is what should have happened to me over there because I did this and that. That's where we find ourselves getting stuck. Here's why. When we start to think of life as a constant set of if I do X, I'll get Y, it's karma. This is the way it should be. This is the way I was raised to believe things should happen. If I work hard, I will get rewarded. There are other variations of that. What ends up happening is we get into this kind of controlling relationship with our flow, controlling relationship with our universe, controlling relationship with source. We start to say, I did my part. Why aren't you doing yours now? What's going on here? We are shifting our power away from us and onto that other thing. The more we're trying to control it, the more we're simultaneously acknowledging that it's not in our control because we have to control it. Right? You're getting into a tug of war with life. And the only way to get out of that tug of war is to shift paradigms entirely. You don't want to just totally give up. I'm not going to give up. I'm going to not even try at all. Right. Then you're just acknowledging I'm going to lose that tug of war. That's different. No, I mean completely shift out of it. Drop the need for fair. What this does. And this is something you can practice, right? You don't have to adopt this whole philosophy, lock, sock and barrel. You can just practice it in one or two things, see if it works for you. Consciously say, okay, I'm going to apply this to this situation and see what happens. You end up stepping away from the control button. And a lot of us come to manifesting because we actually want more control over our life. It's not going as good as I want. I want to control even more. My job is not to teach you all how to be better controllers. My job is to teach you how to flow. You understand that? The very word flow. There's a word, There's a reason it comes across as flow. Flow is a dance. In flow, you are a partner with life, a partner with others, a partner with your own source, energy, your own direction. You do not control even the person who leads in the dance. They can only lead if they have a partner who is also participating. 50%. Otherwise they can't lead it still exactly 50, 50. No matter who is doing the leading and who is doing the following. And in life, your life, that's going to shift back and forth. Sometimes you're leading and directing your flow. Sometimes your flow is leading and directing you right the person leading the dance will go back and forth, but it's still 50, 50. When you impose a structure of fairness, you are now clamping and locking down your flow and going, no, it's got to happen like this. No, this is what I think. Now, when you translate that to other people, what you're saying is to them, no, you can't do your life, you can't do it your way. You've got to do it my way. You've got to show up in my life the way I need and want you to. Well, what do you think the other person's going to say? Well, maybe if it works for me. Otherwise, no. Now what if you do this with more than one person? What if you do it with the whole organization? What if you do it with the pta? What if you do it with your family? What if you do it at work? Because remember, every single person you're interacting with is if perhaps they're thinking the same way. They need you to be fair for them. They're needing to control you because they're still stuck in that paradigm too. Do you see what's going to. The big collisions going to happen? A stalemate is going to happen and you will find yourself stopped at the end of a dead end hallway because you're in a stalemate. They need it to be fair in their world. You need to be fair in your world. And every now and then, yes, of course, the fairness syncs up and wonderful things happen. But there's still a better way. The better way is this. I go into flow. I look at life through flow. I open to flow. I say flow. I know how I need to feel. I know how I want to feel in my life. And yeah, I expected to feel this way through XYZ route. Okay, whatever you've built up in your head, that's fair. If I go to four years of college, I'm going to get a great job when I get out, right? You've made that. You have this assumption. Flo is going to say, how about this? What you really want when you get out of your four years of misery is college, is to embark on a journey that grows you emotionally, intellectually and financially. And you want to feel immense reward. Wow. Okay, that's different. Those are emotional callings, emotional endpoints, as I like to say. So Flo might say, we're not going to give you $100,000 job out of college. Sorry, I don't care if your student debt is 300,000 and you think that's Fair and what you've earned. Sorry. Instead, we're going to send you overseas for six months to intern for this weird and wild place and you're not going to make any money. But you know what? You're going to get all of these things that are building you on the route that you really want to go on to that place where you feel emotionally satisfied, intellectually satisfied and financially satisfied. Don't you want that? And you go, well, yes. And Flo says, wonderful, open to it. Because before it wasn't in your realm of personality because you had a bunch of fairness justifications and expectations all built up. Let go. Let's see what happens. This is what I do now. This is why when I was looking at my illness, what the hell? That's not fair. I've been a good person. I'm a pretty happy person. I'm not depressed more than most people. I actively seek and release emotional debris and trouble and all that stuff that we typically think causes cancer, right? And I was just as guilty as everyone else of thinking I must have brought it on, I did something bad. I didn't see. And I started to think, gosh, that doesn't sound right. It doesn't feel right. Because you know what that paradigm tells me? I'm looking for a justification. I'm looking for a fairness structure that said I was bad, therefore I'm punished. I was a slow learner, therefore I needed a wake up call. Whoa. What happens if I get out of that fairness, you know, eye for an eye world for a moment. What if cancer has nothing to do about fairness, Nothing to do about that old structure? What if it's something else entirely? What if it's playing in just like everything else has in my life to my ongoing continuous belief and love of up leveling myself and deepening my drink of life, deepening the richness I receive in my relationships, deepening my ability to be a mother, to be present for my husband and my mom and my friends, and deepening my ability to know what I can express in this world and give through my work and flow. What if it's actually an intrinsic necessary built in part of that what if. And now this is starting to feel better, right? And yeah, you could say, well, you're just looking around for justification of why bad things happen. Could be true. But if I had to find a justification, I like this one because I know that all the other things that go on in my life prove to me over and over again they're happening because they're fulfilling my emotional Endpoints, I see that I've built up mountains of trust. So whenever I'm tempted to exempt something from what has become what feels to me like a law of nature, I really ask myself, why would you exempt this just because you don't like it? That's not exactly in keeping with the way you think. I'm like, yeah, I'm always telling people, you know, flow is a law of nature. It's a law of life. It's an expansion. So if I exempt it, if I exempt something, what I'm basically doing is rejecting it. And that's where all this new ideas are coming from, about embracing, about letting go of fairness forever. I don't expect it now. I expect when people don't play by my rules, I acknowledge that. I say, hey, I don't really want to play with them anymore. And you know what people do? They sometimes don't play by the rules that I believe we've set out. They're real big disappointments. I still receive that. I've had that happen this year. But I also let it go. I go, all right, this is in service. It's in service to something for me. Thank you, Flo. Right, so I hope this helps your thinking, adjusts your head a little bit. Right? This is what flow dreaming really is in the deepest levels. Now, when I'm manifesting and creating and actually applying my flow dreams, applying myself to that time in flow, see where I'm coming from? Do you see how fewer blocks or restrictions I have? That's the end goal. Now. I can't have gone through saying all of that without pointing out, of course, some resources that I think would be kind of good for you guys. The lucky and guided playlist is going to help you with this if you are interested in up leveling out of the life is fair type thing and learning how to dance in your life instead of control. Also, the Ask and I will Receive playlist, both of those are really, really, really good to start practicing. If you're already on board and you're like, awesome, I'm getting those. And what else can I do? Obviously, MI School of Flow, what I deliver to you in this podcast, this is what my MI schoolers get from me. Hands on, in person, in our retreats, in our live masterclasses that I deliver several times a month. In all of the coaching that goes on, right? This is the devotion to. I'm totally willing to break all of this forever. This is my year or two years or three years that I'm going to do it. In. So anyway, that's that. With that, I'm gonna let you go check out those playlists during the break, if you wish, or me school. And I'll be right back after this. 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Ah, beautiful. Here we back. Here we are. Back, back, back. Let's see. We've got some interesting calls up on the board. How about Caitlin from Atlanta? Hi, Caitlin. Welcome to the show. What's going on in your life?

Hi, this is Caitlin from meat school.

Oh, Caitlin from mean school. It says here Atlanta. That threw me.

Yeah, well, yeah, I'm back home in Atlanta, I guess.

I wasn't thinking. I thought you were. Oh, well, wonderful. That's right. I know you are because you're planning to come back here to California. Yay.

I'm not there yet. But.

What'S happening? What can I help you with then?

Well, I feel like I'm kind of have like a vanity type question, but I've never really looked at it from an energy standpoint, so I thought maybe you could help.

Okay.

I. I, like, suffer from. It seems almost at random times. I have breakouts on my back and chest and of course on my face every now and then. But I'll go months with like, perfectly fine skin, and then all of a sudden it'll come up and it's almost like. It's almost like a rash, but it's more acne. And I'm just thinking, I'm starting to think. I know it correlates with stress, but I feel like I have, like, resistance coming through my skin almost energetically.

Do you know what the very, very first thing that I flashed on, I know that you take medications. I really think there's a medicinal Trigger. That's part of this. And I feel that, that I know you probably never thought about it or dismissed it because you would think it would be continuous. What I feel like is that the medications actually, at certain points, they kind of interact differently with your body's biorhythm and your body's hormone rhythm. And it's like there are certain perfect storm moments. The medication, the hormone and then the stress, the extra cortisol. That's the perfect storm. And, you know, it's like sometimes you don't get it if it's just the hormone and just the medication. Sometimes it's just the stress and the medication, but no hormone. But when they interact together, there's like pieces of each. I really feel it's a lot of it is physical generated more than energy generated. Now, the emotional points that could feed into that, of course, are the stress. And I know you get into this little feedback loop when you have, you know, health issues, then that drives your stress up, which then increases the health issue, which then drives your stress up. Right.

And also I started reading like, I read a lot about like, natural medicine. I started reading more into like Chinese medicine and I read that the skin often correlates with the lungs, but I didn't know if that had something to do with it.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yep.

I wish you could, like, specifically tell.

Me which medication it is.

I don't know that I'm not a good enough medical intuitive. I wish, I wish, I sometimes do wish I had the training and I knew all the names of the organs and the, you know, medicines and everything. You remember your skin is your largest organ. Right. It flushes out stuff and it's flushing out. It's the combination of the hormone flush, the cortisol flush, the medicine flush. I would be sure during the times you're not breaking out to use like a loofah or, you know, make sure that you're getting a lot of the dead skin off. Keeping it open, keeping those channels open.

Okay, yeah, I try to do that. Do you know if there's anything I can do, like maybe diet wise or anything that would help relieve some of it?

Let me see. I hope you don't eat dairy. Do you eat dairy? Do you cut it down?

I cut back on it. I have a problem with cheese. I really like cheese.

Okay, good. That was the thing because I was asking, I said, I went through the list. Is it, you know, is it the medicine? Is it stress? Is it hormones? And when I asked about hormones, dairy flashed up that that's an additional stressor for you. And you probably know I'm not one of those anti dairy wagon people that tells everybody to get off dairy. But that came up in your case. There's something about a mucus reaction you want to be careful of. I would stop it during breakouts. Okay.

Okay, thank you so much.

All right, my dear, I'll talk to you in like a day or two.

Or tomorrow.

Yeah, tomorrow. All right, love you. Bye. Let's jump on over to Cynthia. Hi, Cynthia, how are you? California, right?

Hello, Summer.

Hi, how are you?

Good. Have we spoken before? Do I know you?

Oh, I'm a California mystery girl. Fibromyalgia. I called about six weeks ago, maybe, maybe two months ago. Anyhow, fibromyalgia is kind of, you know, not my issue here because I'm doing so much better since I talked to you.

Oh, good.

Fabulous enough to know that, you know, I know the direction in my life is towards life coaching because I coach every single day. Every day I'm talking to somebody, I'm teaching them what it is they need to do to bring their self up to a better level.

Yes.

And so as I'm going through all of this, I know I want to do it online. I just don't have my connection to how to get there. And I know it's the right thing too, because my voice will crackle when I talk to certain people because coming out, I've held it back for so long, you know.

Right, right. Letting your voice be heard. So when you go into, when you go into this new direction, the first question I want you to ask yourself is, is my primary purpose for the first segment to learn about myself more or do I feel pretty comfortable with that? And I really just want to learn to help others, other people more because I find that people who enter life coaching often have a sort of. They're unaware of how big their desire is to understand themselves incredibly deeply. And so they end up trying to go through and start coaching people immediately. And they kind of stagger for a while like, and they realize, oh, I need to actually figure out some more stuff about myself. So in other words, they get trained to teach other people, but then they have to kind of work backwards and then work through your own things a little bit. So just bear that in mind.

Yeah, well, for the last two or three years, I've been the stay home mom and been able to just focus on me. Where I've been doing, you know, the Love and Above program and, and the Abundance program and all the flow, dreaming Programs and I'm actually writing down the emotion that's in my way to get it out of my way.

So, you know.

Yes, I'm always growing. Anybody I'm talking to, I'm going through a growth at the same time I'm coaching them.

Oh, absolutely.

So, you know, it's a two way thing. It's not just me, you know, but you know, I, I, even when I was, you know, I won't say how many years. I would say about 30 years ago, I was, I was 19 or it's even longer than that. But people always told me I knew how to talk to other people.

Yeah. Okay. And so.

Yeah.

So you're. So your next steps then. You, you can. Well, I've seen it done a number of ways. You can enroll in a coaching program where they teach you how to coach other people. If you already feel very strong in that, you can enroll in a business building program where they teach you how to gather a tribe, gather people together, enroll them in your program, launch a program. Now, some coaching programs also teach you how to do that. But I find that it's really nice if you kind of have them separate because they are a bit different animals. Right. So you're going to have to identify where do I need my skill set to grow the most? I think I'm just looking around for you. It's like looking at a bar graph inside you. Where is your biggest skill set that needs to be up leveled? Yes, you are going to have to learn how to grow that tribe and oops, we may have to mute you there. We have your phone in the background. You feel like you're going to have to learn how to engage people in your program. That's something that you want to skill up in for sure. The other thing is figuring out exactly what your expertise is in coaching. Like what is it that you really are on fire about that you excel past any other coach. That's something I think you'd find by going to a coaching program. Gosh, honey, you're 50. 50. You really are. Did you know that, Matt, I need.

A little help to know how to get to actually do that kind of business.

Yeah, you do.

I'm that one that really, I can go to a psychiatrist, but I'm the one that's giving them the feedback that they need to hear.

That's great. Okay. So you know what your path is honestly, either direction, you know, or you could do both at the same time. But I'm not. I was looking to see if I could positively say do this first, then do that. You could start with either and you would be good. All right, Cynthia, I wish you the best and lots of love. Okay, take care. And with that, we are jumping into another quickie little break. I think we're even gonna have time for another call or two. And there's an open spot here on my call screen. So I encourage you, if you have a question, call in. You're probably going to get on air with me, okay? So stay tuned. I'll be back right after this.

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Alrighty. How are you guys feeling? Did I rattle you up with that? Fairness. You know a little way to advance this instead of just listening, right? Take the next step. Activate it. Go ahead and write down a situation right now that has been driving you crazy because it's so freaking unfair. Write it down. Write down how unfair it is, how mad it makes you, how pissed off you are, how upset, how sad, how undervalued. Any and all of that. Write it down. All right? Now see what it feels like to get out of fairness. What if you will never be resolving it the way you think it should be resolved? Just like. Okay, now remember, we're not manifesting this. We're playing. Playing with our thinking. Okay? Just pretend it won't. Now what? Now what won't be resolved the way you think it will or want it to or you think it should be. Now what? Okay? It's that now what? Feeling that erupts inside you at that moment. That's your next step. That's it. Because that's really what's been there the whole time on the other side of that big block of upset feeling, right? The now what that's where you go. And the now what isn't? Well, I abandon it or I, you know, I give up or. I don't know. If you do give up, what are you giving into instead? Right. Continuously shift it all the way through your thinking as you do this. Your flow is mirroring your thoughts. It's mirroring you. Everything you feel. Your flow mirrors hands back to you right now. What you have in your life is directly a reflection of what you have given your flow. So if it ain't working, it's not going to change outside you before it changes inside you. So stop thinking that. Yeah. All right. We have a call from Susan in Delaware. Hey, Susan. What's up?

Hello.

Hi, Susan. How are you? Hey.

I've been better.

Yeah, I can hear it in your voice. What's happening?

Well, I don't know what to describe it as, but I'm having difficulty with everything.

Okay.

I have 30 days before I possibly. I'm going to sell my house, and I have no idea where I'm going to go. And I'm trying to be open to all possibilities, but it doesn't look very positive. Yeah, I'm in the middle of a big change.

So the reason you're selling the house, is it a short sale, a divorce? What's happening?

Well, I guess it's kind of a divorce. It's failed to find work. Been here for 13 years. My partner left to go drive a truck. He ran away in fear.

Yeah.

Just not my style. He wanted me to go with him. And I was like, no, I can't live in a truck. 24 7.

Understood. Okay.

So they've become my number one enemy because he wanted me to sell and get out so he doesn't have to pay, which he hasn't for the last couple of months.

Okay. You have a beautiful representation of a situation that should be fair. That's not being fair. Okay? You putting your time in, putting your love in, putting your money, investing your time, your years, your life and a feeling now. This is not fair. This is not how it was supposed to end up. Okay? What I just said. You take everything that you felt should have happened, and you set it aside. All around you right now, your energy is saying, lost, loss, loss, loss. Leaking out of you, this sense of loss. The other side of loss is opportunity. I'm free now. I've been freed. I've been released. I've been shot out like a cannonball. And I see that it had to happen kind of rough and kind of fast, and it had to be this ejection, because otherwise I would not have gone willingly. And I trust my life. This is where trust becomes the big theme for you this whole year. I trust my flow knows what it's doing. I trust this is my right direction. I trust that I'm not losing. I'm gaining. And I can't see it yet, but it's there. And a year from now, I'm going to have my own cozy and beautiful, secure snug nest. I'm going to have a happy job that values me, loves me, where I'm paid enough that I feel comfortable in my life. And I'm going to have completely woken up and realized my partner was my last chunk of life, not my going forward. And everything about myself begins to change. I don't know if you need to lose weight, but if that's on the list, you're dropping the weight. You're feeling more beautiful. You're feeling ownership. You're feeling more energy. Everything is going up. You've been totally freed.

Living with my baby man brother who's suffering from arrested development is just a temporary pit stop.

Pit stop? Pit stop. Just the closest place to fly to. Like a bird changing nest. That's just the nest. One nest over. It's not your ultimate one, just a little one. Just a stop.

I'm trying to convince myself of that. I understand it on an emotional level, but my mom fighting me.

You know why? Because you're coming from a place where you were stuck for a long time. And it's easy to project that in the future, I will continue to be stuck. If I go there, I won't get out again. You will. You've been freed. You've been launched. Your flow is not going to let you stay there. And when it tells you it's time to go, instead of kicking and screaming again, you're going to say, thank you. Flo. You knew I didn't want to stay there in the first place.

Yep, you're right. That's what I needed to hear.

That's it. You're not losing anything. Or let's put it this way, they're very necessary losses. You can easily. You can look ahead. You know that. You didn't want the rest of your life to look like what it was. You know it. If you really admit it. All right, my dear. So I send you this wave of good energy. You can close your eyes. Wave of good energy. It's like taking you over the big hump in the middle, right? That's where you are. You're not Losing. You're growing. You've just been gifted with this. You've been gifted with this. The gift had to happen. All right. Okay. Sliding down the other side where it gets easier. So much easier from here.

Thank you.

All right. Thank you for calling. Bye. Take care. Bye, Susan. All right, with that, let's jump into a flow green together. Okay? See how it goes, how it feels, right? Flow dreaming is about juicy, generous, gorgeous, good feeling. If you can't generate this kind of emotion when you get started, don't worry about will come. It will evolve. It will grow in you. Okay? For those of you who are already there and with me, just hop aboard, we're gonna go have fun. For those of you who can't visualize very well, don't worry about it. I actually ran across a study this week that they estimate something like, I think it was 8% of people. There's a real name for it now. People who cannot see things in their mind's eye. Flow dreaming is ideal for you, really is because you're not. It's not a method for visualizing your life, not a visualization method. The reason we see things in flow for most people, the other 82%, is because their minds want something to do. They want to participate. And I'm telling the mind, get out of the way. I'm talking to the emotions here. And the mind says, well, what have you got for me to get busy with? And I go, well, let's see these things. Picture a flow. Picture energy. Picture a beach. Picture a river. Picture a. And then the mind goes, okay, it feels all happy. Get something to do, right? Focus on the feeling. Now remember too, flow dreaming is about understanding. We are going to a place. We're expanding into that place. We're embracing. We're stretching outside of our physical bodies into the rest of what we really are. We're extending out, unfolding ourselves like those solar panels that unfold on the spacecraft in orbit. We're unfolding those bits of our self, our energetic self, to start communicating and talking with the energetic world. And all that you do is be aware of flow. A sense of movement, a sense of goodness, a sense of ripeness, right? Those feelings are your lifeline into that place. So to learn the whole technique, by the way, go to my website. Right there on the home page, it says, download my free tutorial. Grab it. I totally walk you through how to do this. Okay, eyes closed, deep breath. Of course, eyes closed. If you're not driving, be smart about this. Relax your body. You don't want to allow any kind of stress to come in. Don't worry about that. No stress, just flow. You're flowing. You're a gentle ribbon of light rippling through space, rippling forward out there into the beautiful, beautiful somewhere else. As if you've sort of punched a hole, a gentle little hole in the fabric of the physical world. Remember that movie, the Truman, was it called the Truman Show? He reaches the end of the so called world by punching through the the sunset at the ocean. That's you. And beyond that, you discover a place of infinite energy, infinite light. But you're not alone here and you're not lost and you're not wandering. You're instantly swept into a current, a current of you. There's a bigger you out here and you just stepped into it. And that bigger you, well, you have places to go, you have things to do. You have stuff to set up. That little life you're living, that's just you accumulating experiences, growing, shifting, changing, becoming aware. But oh, don't be fooled. There is a bigger you out there. And that bigger you has all kinds of its own achievements, agendas, exchange experiences. And you are swept into this and it feels delightful. You are impressed with yourself. Impressed. Am I really that big? Am I really that evolved? Am I really that beautiful? Do I really have that much going on? And the answer is a reverberation of energy coming back to you and echo it. You can feel it moving through your skin like the bass notes in deep heavy music box bonging, bong, bong through you. It's a yes, it's a well, of course, of course. And you say, oh, well, I'm here because, you know, I'm playing with a feeling today about maybe life isn't fair and that's okay. And, and maybe I need to even kind of, dare I say, grow beyond that. Is it a grow beyond that thing or a shift beyond that? Or just playing beyond that idea? And the bigger uses, why not? What's it gonna hurt? Don't you continuously want to experience new ways of thinking to see if they work for you or not? Go for it. And you say, yeah, really? Do you think I should? And again, do you feel that? Can you feel the response, the bigger you saying, well, yeah, we're really curious what you feel, what you become when you start letting go of there, when you start behaving now that you're beyond fair, when you start changing how you expect things and what you expect. Because we know we can give you so much more. Now, the ab, black, white, Fairness thing, that was really constricting. We had to figure out what other people thought were fair, what they were willing to give. If it matched up, you can see how it. It slows things down a lot for us. Yet now tell us, what do you want that's beyond fair? What's the feeling? What do you really want out of the situation? That thing, that one thing that's just been sticking in your life stuck round and round. What do you really want from it? Not what you want. Want other people to do, not what you want to be given from it. Specifically in terms of money or cash or awards or any of that. What's the feeling that you think those things would have given you had you received them? Go to that. Oh, yeah, you say, this is the feeling I think those things would have given me. Now grow that feeling in your heart. Expand it, see it like a light rippling out. You're talking to Flo, talking to your greater self. This is the feeling it would have given me. Flo says, we hear you. We can work with that. And we can give that to you through many paths now, many, many ways. And you say, well, thank you. I'm now. I'm now open and willing to see. I really am. Flow says, you're welcome. And with that, you nod your head, you acknowledge, and you feel yourself being drawn all the way back to present, instantly back, present, removed from Flow. If you don't believe that that was seven minutes, truly it was. Flow really does carry you outside of time and space. And that means that I have to wrap up real quick right here. So my blessings to you all. My love to you all. I hope to see you on my Facebook page. Hope to hear from you and see you next week. Take care.

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