#477 3 Top Ways to Use Flow Right Now

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That's right. Here we are. Welcome to Flow Dreaming. This is a podcast. It is also taped as a live radio show, and it has been consecutively for the last 10 years, every Tuesday at noon Pacific Time, 3pm Eastern, and who knows when in other parts of the world, whatever part of the world you're in. This means that you can call me during the program and ask questions. I can look in your flow. I can help you out, direct you. We can make some energy adjustments, flow adjustments, intuitive adjustments. And for those of you who are old timers, you know the format. My name is Summer Extravag. Obviously, I rarely have guests nowadays. Come to think of it, over the years, I've played around. Sometimes I've been really interested in certain, you know, avenues of what is flow? How does it work? I remember I went through a year where I interviewed physicist after physicist. Boy, that was a tough, tough year. Today, though, I've kind of settled into a format where I choose a topic and I kind of just go off about it at length for the duration of the show. And the topic is always something that you can use flow for. Flow Or Flow Dreaming. Really, it's about applying this philosophy, this way of behaving, this way of thinking, this way of interacting with the universe into your life and you know, how it works and how it doesn't work and the things you come up against as you move through this journey. Flow dreaming really has become a form of personal development that can carry you through, well, decades at least. I'm living proof of it myself, as my understanding of what this is continues to deepen and expand. So the upshot of all of this is that not only are there hundreds of episodes of this program, many of which you can find on itunes, the rest you have to find in my archives. Those are found via subscription, but it's very reasonable. I think we've held the cost at $2.99 a month for, I don't know, the last five years or something ridiculous. Not only can you find a wealth of information there, but at my website, flow dreaming.com I have a shop where I've recorded many, many Flow dreams. These are the tools that help you change the way you think, change the way you speak to the universe, change your own internal energy structure, your emotional set point, point. And you can search them by topic, such as I want to change this, I want to create that. Plug that in and you'll discover all kinds of resources. The other big thing, of course, is the ME School of Flow, the year long program where my students and I embark on a journey of really intense personal empowerment, transformation and change. We remake our interiors and our outsides as well, meaning our external lives. So you'll hear me reference the ME School of Flow here and there. Occasionally. I use a lot of my experiences there with my students as sort of reference points for aha, you know, I should create a podcast. I should create a topic about this next time. And that brings me to today's topic, the three ways to use your flow right now. I've been thinking a lot lately how Flow dreaming has evolved from manifesting into these beautiful other realms. And manifesting is still a big part of it. Law of attraction, everything that Jerry and Esther Hicks speak of, for instance, all embodied, all put into action, practical use through Flow dreaming. But there are two other areas that have really emerged as necessary components if you want to make really big change, dramatic change, if you want to escalate an up level, if you're ready to just, you know, shed all kinds of fear, guilt, disappointment, being concerned or anxious that you can't become or do or be. So that's what I want to go over today, these other ways that we grow and how you still use flow and this philosophy to get you there. So my other intention was to help you kind of figure out right now what phase you might be in in your life. And like I just mentioned, this is, you know, coming right out of mini school. And the materials that my students go through, they begin to recognize, ah, I'm in this stage, ah, this is the weak area of my life that I've been looking for. That's. And holding me back all this time, ah, this is the area that comes naturally to me. I didn't really need to work on that anymore because I'm, you know, I've been default living in that area forever. So this is your little glimpse into that process so you can get an idea of where you're at. So flow dreaming, of course, evolved from the idea that, you know, you can use flow energy, you can sort of ride the curves, the waves of your future, of the way things are being put together for you moment by moment, using the data, using the quantum information that's already being put into place to form your future. And I've spoken and taught extensively about that. What this energy is, how it behaves, how you communicate with it, how you set your emotional intention into this place, into this energy, this flow to create. In fact, what it is that life serves up to you next. So this is still sort of the heartbeat of flow dreaming, the create aspect, right? This is one of the primary ways, one of the top three ways. We use flow, we create with it. Now, when you're creating, it, assumes that your foundation is firm. Pretend that when you're saying, all right, I am going to create wonderful income in my life. I'm going to create a beautiful relationship with my family. I'm going to create a sense of safety and security in my life where I have savings, I have good work. You know, everything just starts going my way, right? This is an act of create, create, create, create. Working with flow, working with flow, dreaming to make this well, you have to have a strong foundation to build all of this on. And this is what I've realized comes up for a lot of us as we move into the process, we start creating and we realize, I'm creating on a really infirm foundation. It's like building a house on sand. It's difficult. You build something and the walls collapse and it slides down and you say, why don't things stay up for me? Why do things always fall apart? How come things never work out for me? How come this? And then you people. Well, not you, not you people. You or people start looking for reasons why. And this is often the phase of personal growth where you start being interested in, oh, what are my blocks? What's the resistance? What's preventing me from receiving or getting all that I'm putting my intention on? This is where people start oftentimes to feel frustrated or they lose faith, they lose hope, they start to say it doesn't work. All kinds of things come up. Well, this is because to create something gorgeous, if you're going to put a skyscraper up, have you ever seen it on tv? How they do that? They usually dig an enormous pit into the ground and you think, wow, they're supposed to be building up. Why are they digging down? Well, what's true for buildings is true for our lives. The taller you want to grow, the bigger you want to go, the more you have to dig down. You can put a nice one story, two story house flat on the ground, but if you want to go 10 stories, if you want to experience really strong growth, advancement, achievement, you know, inner prosperity in your life, you need to start digging down. You need that foundation to be strong, strong, strong. This is what a lot of people forget. They just want to build on what they've already got. Yet when you look down, what you've got down there is oftentimes a lot of broken messes. You know, it's the rubble essentially of what you've moved through already in your life. These are the job losses and the illnesses and the divorces and the breakups and the arguments with your kids and your family and your, and the fact that you moved and you haven't rebuilt, your friends and you don't have your network of, of social allies around you on and on and on. And we get to a point where we're doing well enough, but have we really cleaned up or are we looking at shifting sands, bits of rubble? How do you build a beautiful skyscraper when you're trying to build around all of this sheet metal and broken glass and barbed wire and all the other stuff, the debris, the detritus, the past. So this is where the second top way to use flow comes in. And this has really emerged dramatically in the last couple of MI school classes. This is healing. This is healing. And you've probably, if you've gone through my archives, you've noticed that I've been speaking to this a lot more. I've had, you know, programs, shows, episodes on just the topic of healing. So when you move into the phase of healing, what you're Recognizing is, in order to go bigger, I have to go deeper first. In order to go up, I have to go down down, meaning what's inside me that needs to be resolved, right? These blocks, this resistance, if it's outside of me, it's because it's inside of me. This is a cornerstone of flow thinking what is outside of you is actually inside of you. Many people try to fix what's outside of them. They attack the situation and they attack it with gusto. I'm going to fix this family problem. I am going to get my finances in control. I'm going to. And then they say to themselves later, it's funny, I fixed it. And then it happened again. And then it happened. Why does this always happen? Why do I always get this kind of person? Why do I always get this kind of job? Well, you keep fixing it outside of you, but you're still generating it inside of you. So this is where healing takes place. We go inside. Now, interior healing often happens through time, right? You can just let things be for a while. Time heals all, it is true. But those of us interested in personal growth also recognize, you know, I don't know how long it's going to take me to get over, you know, the fact that, you know, I got a, you know, I had a terrible marriage and I don't know if I'm even worthy to be in a good relationship again. Maybe everything that they said about me is true and et cetera, et cetera, right? If you just let time take care of that, it might take two years, it might take 10 years. Maybe you're stuck in the healing phase of time, and you have been alone for 10 years and you haven't dated for 10 years because you've been letting time heal. And you realize one day, oh, my God, time has really been taking its time. Well, this is where you use flow dreaming. Flow dreaming allows you to go in and begin healing. If you can change and manifest things external to you, you can also change and manifest things internal to you. And this is perhaps one of the more revolutionary ideas because we tend to think that our characters are fixed, our personalities are what they are. We come in with this grab bag of it. We are natured or nurtured into what we are today. But I do know that when you practice flow, when you are able to move into this state of alignment and you start looking at these internal fears and blocks and resistance, you can actively change your relationship with them, which means you're actually changing your personality. So if you've moved through life in a state of reaction, a state of fear, state, state of trying to control everything. A state of trying to do things right. A state of being like a victim. Why do things always happen to me? All of this is looked at and then reorganized as you recognize. A lot of what's in me are things that just kind of grew up topsy turvy. I didn't plant these things in me. It's like a gardener looking at their garden and saying, I didn't plant these weeds. I didn't. You know, I'm trying to plant some lettuce here. What are all these weeds? And you look back and you go, this is the result of an untended life, right? This is the result of an untended life. And we all see, we all know these years that we've had the untended years, the years where we've just gotten through, where we've been focused on, you know, one or two meltdowns, or where we haven't been thinking about much at all the time, the years just disappear, right? The untented life. Flow dreaming allows you to go in and say, these things don't belong in me. I may have thought they were part of my character, but now they will no longer be. I am powerful, I can grow, I can take charge of my life. I'm deserving, I'm lovable, I'm able to receive. I have a team around me. I'm loved, and I let myself be loved by other people. Any of these things, this is what we create, we culture inside of ourselves. Now, when this process is going on in flow, what do you think is happening over in the creating realm? Right? You're getting really strong. Your foundation is going deep. Now, when you try and put something on top of that and shift and use flow to create with, it's got a beautiful strong base to grow on. It's not going to fall or collapse or break because you've got these little collapsed and broken, basically parts inside of you. This is a huge reason why so many people have tried to create manifest. And they've said, it doesn't work, I can't do it. Or it only works sporadically or haphazardly. Haven't you ever said that, like, I can do some things, but I can't do others? Well, that's right, because in some ways you don't. You have a. You have a foundation, You've got strength underneath them. The ways it collapses for you, look inside, there's some break there. There's like a little you know, it's like when you see the, you know, the cartoons depict an earthquake and you know, the ground splits apart, right? You've got little cracks there. Let's heal those up so you can build on top of them. So what's the third way? The third top way that we use flow dreaming. This is a surprise, and it's a surprise to a lot of people. And it actually takes more education because most people get, oh, yeah, I want to learn how to manifest. Yeah, it makes sense that I have to heal. This third one, though, often takes time to sink in. It's about how to perceive, right? Using flow to perceive. And if you're unsure what I mean by using flow, flow and flow dreaming is a whole concept in itself. I urge you go to my website and you're going to find my blog there. And that's where you can read up on how to flow dream, what flow is. If you sign up, there's a little newsletter registration or a free gift. I think I'm giving away the Art of Flow Dreaming right now, which is a beautiful package of many little items that help you learn how to flow and what flow dreaming is. That explains it. Okay, so let's get back to perceiving. This is when you use the flow to understand things, right? To understand, to better see the world around you, to have more clarity, to be able to interpret the information that's around you. Now, what I've seen is that we all have a natural empathic ability. This simply refers to the way that we intuitively receive information about our world. And when you flow dream, you're opening and you're awakening your emotions as a way that we interact with flow, with the universe, with source, with whatever you want to call it. Well, the same conduit, our emotions can also receive information for us about our world. Now, if you don't know how to perceive, if you don't know how to say, I'm feeling a lot of information, but I don't know how to make sense of it, or I don't have enough information in my life to make a decision. These are all issues surrounding your ability to truly perceive and to trust your perception. So this is why in MI school, for instance, I read all of my students through a whole series on empathic intuition. It is not because I'm trying to make them all be more psychic. What I'm trying to teach them is that as you learn to perceive, you learn to trust yourself. You learn to say, not only do I see the physical material world in front of My face. Not only do I perceive the mental intellectual world where my brain is constantly trying to calculate and think things through, but there is another equally important layer, and that's my emotional spiritual absorption and understanding, which is commonly called intuition. And that is your navigation. That's your true navigation. Your mental self executes plans, right? Your physical self is what wakes up and does it. But who's really navigating? Deep down, you know this. If something doesn't feel right to you, you will not do it. You will find every sort of way to delay it, not get to it. Wait till tomorrow and you'll say, why am I procrastinating? Because your mental self is saying, do it, do it, do it. Something inside your internal emotional, spiritual self is saying, hey, I'm running the show, even if you don't really perceive it. So why don't you come talk to me and find out why you're not doing this? This is about perception. This is about trust. So here's how it works. These three perception, creation, and healing are in constant dynamic motion with each other. You're always cycling through them. And we get stuck often in one of these chunks. One of these areas. For instance, if you're always saying, I'm frustrated. I don't know what to do next. I really don't know what I want to do with my life. I can't make a decision about something. Well, this has to do with your perception. This has to do with you having to learn, having to really get strong in the ability to say, I perceive what's going on and I trust it. I've received the information from my flow, all the layers of information about my life, including what's really going on in the situation. I trust my own knowing. Do you know how strong that feels, to trust your own knowing? I completely trust it. Then you make decisions very quickly and easily. Your guidance system is working. Your guidance system is what's critical because you want to move to the next step. You want to create. Well, you have to have a guidance system to know what you want to create, to trust what you want to create. So if your guidance is working, then your creation will work as well. You're creating. Your manifesting will work only if you've healed everything necessary to grow to the next level. You see this? So they're all working together in tandem. And as we grow, we're cycling through all of these, moving into these greater expanses in our life. Now, the ultimate goal here, of course, is not to get you on a hamster wheel. I don't want it to sound like that. It's to get you to a place where you can always say, I'm ready for something new, delicious, different, expansive, fulfilling in my life. And maybe you even get to the. The place where you say, I am in a place of total daily joy. Everything I've made, everything I do, all of my relationships are so fulfilling. I'm actually ready to go outside of me and start creating that within four other people now. And then you launch even bigger into the world. You launch into charitable work, you launch into coaching. You launch into just being that person that everyone wants to be around because they want to be that way too, right? Then you become a true change maker, a visionary in the world. So you can take this process as far as you want. But I'm hoping that this has shown you sort of the structure for the areas that I've discovered are like the top three. Right? The top three. This is what we use flow dreaming and flow for to move and strengthen each of these areas, to perceive which area we may be stuck in at this point in our life. And stuck can be a bad kind of stuck, like, ugh, I got stalled out here years ago. Or it can be a good kind of stuck, like, hey, I'm working through this right now. Don't bother me. This is seriously important. And we are going to work through this because I need to move into creating after this or I need to move into perceiving after this or, you know, whatever it may be. So, anyway, I hope you enjoyed that. I found it kind of enlightening, actually, for me to express it, to say it so succinctly like that in just under, what, 24 minutes. How fabulous. Okay, so what's going to happen next in our show today is we're taking a quick break. We're coming back. I see some of your calls. So we're going to work through situations on air. You're going to see how this philosophy is put into action, which means freeing up things, figuring out what aspect you may need to work on. And then, of course, we're going to go into a flow dream so you can experience this actual process, the kernel of what makes all of this spin, right? The brilliance of being in flow, what it's like. So stay with me and we'll be back in just a real brief amount of time for some more flow dreaming.

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Hello?

Yes, hi, I'm here. Can't believe it. I'm fine. Summer, how are you? No, actually, we haven't. I sent you an email, but it was kind of long, so it might have gotten stuck on your desktop or something.

I'm famous for that, right? I open up all of my email, I read them all, and if I don't have time, which is typical, I will leave them open on my desktop. Which means that eventually my computer will crash and all of the open emails disappear. And then I have to go find them again. It's a bad habit. I have to find a better way. What's up? What can I do?

I've sent you one email. I really am new to Flow Dreaming. I just started in September. I got the very challenge. I've gotten so many floatings.

I'm.

It makes me feel. I mean, I feel really bright when I'm in flow. This really unique feeling for me. And so I've kind of really dove into it. But Try to make it quick. I went through a career change just recently and I really experienced a lot of lack thinking in my life. I used to make really good money, have a master's degree. And then we had. Me and my husband had children. One of them was disabled. We ended up going through bankruptcy for medical bills. And ever since then, I have spiraled into this terrible lack thinking with finances.

Okay.

And so now my kids are kind of a little bit bigger and I'm able to make a career change. My daughter's pretty stable now and I'm thinking of going into real estate. Well, I'm going into real estate. I'm doing it good. So I'm just wanting you to kind of look into my flow and see I feel very aligned with it. I'm starting to feel this push towards the commercial and I'm wondering, it's like an internal push and I'm wondering if, am I on the right terms? I'm new to flow dreaming. I want to feel like I'm. I'm doing it right. I feel like I am. I don't know.

I find. I want to know. Here. Here's what I feel inside you right now. And you didn't address this, but I feel it's there. What happened to you in the past, doing well, having a good career and then being derailed. Right. This is a lingering feeling that's still inside you and maybe it comes to you and just sort of hovers around you as a kind of, you know, we'll call it like a free floating anxiety that you're just sort of aware of sometimes. Will this happen again? If I move into a new career, is this going to. Am I going to be traumatized again like I was before? Because you went through an intense trauma and energetically, emotionally, it's all sort of tied together inside you. The bankruptcy, the health issue with your daughter, losing something because of all of this, will that occur again? So I feel like really what your mind should be going into, your heart should be going into, is a healing of this. Meaning this is not going to happen to me again. The experience that I moved through in the last, you know, three, five, 10 years, this does not need to repeat. I will not go through that again. So, you know, if that's the feeling you start holding, I do not need to go through that. The next thing I build will not come crashing down. I'm safe. I can see. Safely build this. That's really key. I can safely build this. I can secure. I can build it with faith and my children. Will benefit everything. My finances will benefit. Everything will benefit. This is. This is new. This is. This is a new path for me. Okay. Yeah. But do you feel that? Can you feel the difference if you clear that? Yeah. So that's the feeling in flow. You can even close your eyes as I'm talking. My eyes are closed. I'm sort of feeling you. So now as we go into the question of is real estate? Right. I feel like real estate is a choice you're making because you're looking for the flexibility. You're trying to, you know, hedge your bets. I've got to choose something that's going to allow me freedom, that's going to allow me some independence where I can set my time, where I'm not tied in. That doesn't limit my income. Right. There are a lot of practical considerations with this. Yeah. And a lot of it is still coming from your response of so that it doesn't happen to me again. What can I choose that won't happen to me again? So you even have to release that if you're going to do real estate, because you love real estate, because you're going to love the process of looking at properties and finding homes and connecting people into the right place that they need to be in their life. Right. You have to go in with a place of love. Like, I want this, not because I'm wanting it from a place of lack. Get it? Get it?

Yeah, that's right on the head.

Yeah. And that ties right into what you said in the beginning, getting over the lack. So if you come into it from, like I said, I love this. And I may have come to it because I was trying to avoid lack and choosing it, but now I'm going to reassess my relationship with it. And you still like it. After you do that, you will do wonderful. You'll be brilliant at it, and nothing will come crashing down again. Okay. Yeah. So thank you, Summer. You're welcome. Flow on that feeling. Flow on that feeling. I'm over it. I'm healing this. I'm letting this go. This will not repeat. Real estate will be bountiful for me because I'm going to actually love this kind of work. And maybe I never knew it before, but I'm really looking forward to falling in love.

Okay, I'll do that.

All right. Those are your feelings. Go for it with those reactions. Thanks.

Thank you, Summer.

You're welcome. You take care. Thanks a lot. Thank you. By the way, that was a good call she made by calling me. If you are sending me Long emails, like I said, I read them. But if you want to get a good answer and you want me to really connect in, just call me. There's a way better chance that I'm going to, you know, be able to spend the time and respond to you the way I want to if you call on my show. That's why I do this program, right, Teach? Okay, let's do Jennifer from Indiana. Hey, Jennifer, what's up?

Hi, Summer. Thanks for taking my call.

Sure. How are you today?

Good, thank you. I. I called in a while ago about a certain guy before, and then I'm still seeing or whatever seeing him, I guess, but he's been a long distance thing for, for the entire time, so.

Okay, so what's his name?

His name's Brian.

Brian. Okay.

He lives in Orlando, Florida.

Okay. And how long have you guys been seeing each other?

I would say about. We've been talking, I guess, whatever you want to say. I saw him, we met one time. But like, I want to say, like, I guess you want to say like five years or five years about. We've been talking since then. We've been interested in each other since then. So.

Okay, so five year, long term, kind of long distance relationship. Is he, is he single?

As far as I know, yes. But I never know. But we never really, you know, said exclusive, you know, we were exclusive or anything. So.

Okay, and so what is your main question? Right, because as I feel you, you have a lot of questions floating in your head. So let's drill it down to one.

Well, I have, well, one. I just want to know what's he is like, what is he still. What is he thinking right now? And because I sent him a birthday gift and I just, I made it myself and I didn't, I haven't really, I haven't heard from him. And I just wanted to know like if he, like he's, you know, if he's really that busy or if he's just.

Losing traction.

Right?

Yeah, you're afraid of losing traction. Okay, so, you know, this, this sort of ties into today's topic in that this is an example of using flow to perceive. Right. If I look into Brian, what I'm trying to help you do is move out of place. Move out of a place of frustration and indecision because you're lacking the information you need to make action right. To go into your next phase of creation, which would be a relationship. So let's see here. Who is Brian? I'm gonna go find him. Brian, Brian, Brian, Brian. You know he's feeling far away from me too. Help me find him. What does he do for a living? What would he be doing?

He's a football coach or a teacher now. And football coach.

All right, let me keep looking for him. Sometimes when people are far from you, they're far from me too. I kind of. It's like skipping stones, working through your mind, your energy which connects to his energy. Aha. Okay, here he is. Got him. Hey, Brian. I'm here behalf of Jennifer. Where have you been? She sent you a present, a birthday present. Do you remember that? Oh, yes, he does. You know, he has been busy. I feel a lot of people around him. This could be just right now, there's a lot of people around him. Maybe he has students or there's something going on where his focus is in a lot of places. So let me get him to turn and look toward you, inside of himself. Just focus on you for a moment. What about Jennifer? Five years. That's a long time. How do you feel about making any movement toward her? Well, he says, you know, the problem is you guys are really in two different places. As long as you're in two different places, there's nothing to do. He's not moving. He's not going to change his life. He's probably told you this. He's not going to end his work or his career. And if you were to move closer to him, he's, you know, he would start treating it like a quote, unquote, real relationship. At that point, like, we would start again to figure out if we want to be together. It's not like, move here and we can move in together. It's like, move here and we'll see if we want a date. So what was that?

I understand. So like. But what's the point then?

So, yeah, exactly. What's the point? So what I'm getting from him is, you know, he. In his mind, he's actually pretty clear, which is a good thing. He's not a big confused mess because you guys would both be confused. He's very clear. You know, you are a woman he corresponds with, he likes. You're part of his life, but you're not central into his life. And that's being reflected by the birthday present. It's a feeling of you're just kind of there, but you're on the outskirts. So my recommendation for you is to just continue to be open to other people. I know that feels hard, but if he's not having the motivation to move further and right now he's not you would be taking a big risk by going out there because you would just be moving closer to see if you wanted to develop a relationship deeper.

Well, is there a reason why he doesn't want to, or is it just because of how his life is going?

Let's see here. Let me ask. Find him again. I let go of him for a second. Brian, Brian, Brian, Brian, Brian. Jennifer wants to know why you don't just invite her and say. Say, hey, I do want to pursue a bigger relationship with you. Well, you know, he's got. He's the kind of guy who's got enough going on that his life feels pretty full. He feels relatively content. He's just not motivated. He's not overwhelmed by. You know how in the beginning of relationships there's this often overwhelming urge to get to know the person more? It's like you guys sort of went over that hump without making that choice then. And so now that overwhelming urge has passed. Now you're just more like a steady thing, a steady presence. And he's not really thinking about returning to that point of, oh, wait a second. I actually want to develop this into a relationship. So the best I can do is kind of tell Brian. I'll just tell him right now. Jennifer wants to make a decision, right? You have to put a little sting in his mind. And I mean sting in a good way, a little fire in his mind.

I don't really mean to put pressure on him or whatever.

It's not pressure. It's just you expressing yourself. It's truth. Hey, she's going to be making a decision. This means you have an opportunity to make a decision. If you don't make one, she's going to make one without you. If you're okay with that, fine. But she needs to hear or know something from you. She can't. She's done. She's. She's been waiting. And I know it's not your fault that she's been waiting, but she has. Okay, so all I did was just give him a sense that there will be changes. What does he want to do with that? And I think that's necessary, right, because you have to move to your stuff.

I mean, look, we. There were changes before because we. It took us a long time just for. For us to first meet. And then. And then, you know, he's been, you know, said, oh, I'm so busy. I know he made plans, but I'm busy. And I got. I got sick and I couldn't go out there, and I was sick for A while. And I didn't work for three months and. But we still remain in contact with each other then. And then like last, you know, I just, I don't know. I just want to hear.

Here's the thing. The way you have it now is working for him, okay? That's the problem. And if, and if it works for you, then you're good. But if it's not working for you, if you do want someone in town with you that you can go out on dates with, then that's where your focus needs to go.

Okay? Whoa.

Right, my dear, I gotta let you go. I wish I could keep going, but this will give you some direction. Okay? And he's been. We put the burden to zero. Right? All right.

All right, thank you.

Take care, Jennifer. Bye. Now. That's an interesting situation. You have two people with two different needs, right? And they're connecting, they're overlapping with some of them, but not all of them. Right? So my main advice to Jennifer is to start taking power in her situation. Being in a period of waiting like she's in is only comfortable if it's comfortable with her. But the very fact that she's asking the question means it's not comfortable. So when you're manifesting and creating your future, you're looking at, where am I not comfortable and what do I want to do about it? Then you're using perception to see what's the true thing I'm looking at. And this was a hard answer to give her, frankly, what you just heard, then you go into healing. That's Jennifer's next step. Where do I need to heal? So I feel strong enough to say I'm not getting my needs met. You see, this is your life in motion. This is flow, this is growing, you know, this is where you reach these better states of happiness continuously. Okay, quickie, little break. When we get back, we're going to be doing some flow dreaming together. So get ready and I'll be back with you in just a few minutes.

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Welcome back to Flow Dreaming. So we're going to do a quick flow right now so you can experience what it feels like to be in the flow state and to actively engage with the universe, engage with your future, engage with your greater self in this state. So a note before we go in. It's not meditation. This is emotional. You should be feeling. You shouldn't be clearing your mind of all emotion. You should in fact be accentuating the emotion. If you see things, if I'm giving you visuals to look at, this is because I want your mind to stay occupied, right? Your mind is like dog and you're throwing the bone for it and it wants to go fetch it and make you happy. So seeing the visuals is a way of allowing your mind to participate while your emotional self is doing the true work. Lastly, if you've enjoyed the theme of today's show, there are playlists that I would recommend. One of them is Speak My Truth and Crystal Clarity. Those are. Well, actually those I believe are flow dreams, but you can find them built into specific playlists. Crystal Clarity is a great one for being able to see exactly where you are in your life. We have also playlists surrounding deep inner healing and those are meant to help you renew. And it can be healing in relationships. It can be healing internal things inside yourself, such as we were doing with Cindy. It can be healing of, you know, external things that you have been through, such as you Know, career losses and so forth. So do check those out. And you begin playing with these playlists and actually resculpting, you know, changing yourself inside and out. Okay, so everyone, please, if you want to participate and you're not driving a car or something like that, operating heavy machinery, close your eyes. Now, this beginning part often feels like meditation, because I'm asking you to breathe deeply, relax. We want to allow the tension to drop away from your body, to let your stomach out and your shoulders drop, your chest expanding, exhaling, jaw releasing, your brow, letting go. Your whole self, your whole body has that sort of wet noodle effect, kind of wobbly around more. So perhaps it's feeling like a bit of seaweed at the bottom of the water, bottom of the sea. It's just gently swaying, your swaying. And you recognize there's a current, the sea water, the energy, the flow all around you. And you're just rocking with it, you're moving with it, this flow. And this flow is so much bigger than you. You're just one element in this vast ocean, this vast, beautiful, bright sea across the universe, across the stars. You're not in control of this motion. You're not in control of the direction of the current. You're part of the current, an important part of the current, part of the flow. And yet you know, somehow this flow is part of you. You are in flow. You are of flow. The flow, the energy, the light that surrounds you, the direction, your future, your growth, it's all very much like you, similar to you, an extension of you. And therefore, the direction that it's moving in is absolutely and utterly perfect. And you allow this feeling to wash through you. I'm going exactly where I need to go. I'm exactly where I need to be at right now. In the process, all these things I'm frustrated over, I'm wishing for, dreaming for, they're outside of me, inside of me, in my flow, I'm exactly where I need to be. Because surrounding me are the stepping off points to change, grow, modify. Anything that I'm feeling right now, it's already surrounding me. There is nothing more I need to wait for. If I say I'm looking for work, if I say I'm looking for a new relationship, if I say I'm looking to heal something in my body, the step is already there, the next movement forward, it's a path. It's springs up ahead of me. It springs up in front of me, lighting its way, saying, here you go. This is in your flow. This is where you need to Go for this. You've made that choice. Let's begin walking it. And so you step out on this path and you begin feeling yourself walking forward. And as you do, you feel even more caught, even more held, even more moved forward without even working it, without even trying. Your energy is just moving in that direction, guided and drawn. And you're allowing your mind to expand, your heart to open and saying, if I need to heal, let's heal. If I need to perceive, let's perceive. If I need to create, let's perceive or create. I'm ready. I'm open for all of them. I will accept all of them. We can do them in any order that is necessary. I know they're all coming, and I don't resist that. Because on the other side of each one of these, they're like stepping stones in front of you as you step on each one. Oh, now I heal. Oh, now I perceive. Oh, now I create. I am walking forward through each step, through each segment, through each piece of this. How can I regret a step that I've taken that's moved me forward? I can never regret it. I can only look forward to it. And look forward to it. I do. I open my arms and I receive it in. I say, I can do this. I will do this. I am this. I am this. Nothing is in front of me that I'm not ready for. Nothing is in front of me that I can't do. My flow only gives me those things that I'm absolutely ready for that I can do. And I am doing it. I am doing it. And if I have been in a place where I've paused, where I've rested, where I've been holding myself, retracting or being even in a state of fear or paralysis, I let that go. I can feel my body just relaxing right out of it. My heart relaxes out of it. I can be done with that stage now and I can move into the next. Whichever it is I am ready for. Open for I receive and I accept. Because there is a much greater awareness here. And I accept that, yes, I say I will take this, this greater awareness, my greater flow, the greater energies that help me, that guide me, that direct me, whether I call it Source or God or the universe, guides, helpers, angels, my own self, all of it. Universal guidance, all of it. I receive, I help, I say yes to. And as I do, I feel myself release like I have been freed from something popped loose and forward. I begin moving. Step, step, step, step, step, ready for the next thing. Heal, create, perceive, you let me know, I will willingly step in. Thank you, Flo. Thank you for gifting me with this, for being there to give me this. Thank you for allowing me to be part of this wonderful process, this evolution of who I am. Thank you. Your heart is so full. It's so open. It's filled with this gratitude and love. And that's what you stay in even now, as you find yourself returning from flow and opening your eyes. And if you were in the flow with me, if you let yourself go there for even a few minutes of that whole flow dream, you'll be surprised to know that we just went through about, gosh, six, seven minutes. And it's that feeling of being outside of time that's one of the hallmarks that, yes, indeed, you really are in flow. There are others, but that's one of them. So I hope you enjoyed that experience and you want to get even more emotionally rich and deep. Flow dreaming is truly a bubble bath for your mind that happens to remake your entire self while you're there. So go Visit me@flowdreaming.com so say hi on Facebook. And as always, I'll be back next week for another episode of Flow Dreaming. And until then, if you're interested in me school, go say hi on my site as well and you can learn a lot more about that. All right, take care, everyone. Until next week. My love to you all. Well, look at that.

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