#500 How You Know the Universe is Listening to You

Flow Dreaming. It's a show where we talk about the power of your mind to change your world around you, to literally affect the fabric of your reality. We talk about this feeling of hope and joy and relief. And that is what being aware of your flow does. It gives you a feeling of power again in your lives. And that is what being aware of your flow does. It gives you a feeling of power again in your lives. Breathe. It is the feeling that you bring forward. It is your emotional connection that really sets the tone for what is going to be happening to you and for you. And you know that feeling when you touch it, it just spreads through you. I'm Summer McStravik, and welcome to another episode of Flow Dreaming. Hi, it's Summer. And a quick request before we jump into the show, if you like or even love what you're about to. And the number one reason this show has gotten around and stays in the favorites in itunes and the App Store, it's because of your reviews. And we are in our 11th straight year because of you and your reviews. People rely on your opinion, and frankly, they often misunderstand Flow Dreaming. And the only way to correct that is through you leaving a few words about the program. And I can't do it. I would if I could, but it has to be you. So if I've made any impact on your life at all, please scoot over to itunes on your podcast app and either subscribe to Flow Dreaming or write a review of the show or the app or both. And mega kisses for doing both. I'll send some good flow your way, too. So pause the episode and do it now or just get on to the show. Welcome to the show. So it's wonderful to be with you all today, as it always is my time of connection, where we talk about flow and Flow Dreaming. We talk about a different way of working with the world and our own minds and our own hearts. Actually, that's Flow Dreaming, and we'll be exploring it together in this podcast, which is now running for what, 11 years? Pretty awesome. Oh, but wait a second. You just heard that in the beginning. We've changed things up a little bit. So today I want to talk about the concept of meaning and signs and just listening to the universe, hearing it, like, when is it telling you something that you really, really want to hear and know? Why do we sometimes get an answer and sometimes we don't get an answer? It's kind of a hard thing or it's an easy thing. I guess it's how you look at it. So let's start with an experience that I had pretty recently. This weekend. I went to a conference, stayed at a big fancy hotel, and it was a big conference. The teacher had a lot of people there, and I thought, okay, I'm gonna go undercover. I'm gonna be incognito. Just. Just be a student, just be just a summer in the audience. Completely get over myself, because right there's ego all through this, even thought. But I said, I don't want to teach anything, don't want to help. I just want to be. Just hear. What do I need to hear? I want to get into student mind. I need to be in student mind. I want to refill my well. So I get there and, you know, I'm always curious who I sit next to in conferences. I always feel like there's a kind of destiny, a kind of flow, a connection. Every person. You. We've all had this experience, right? You go to a. You go to a conference and a few people stick out, and then you see them again and again, again and again. And you think, what's going on? Why are. Why are you my people? I wish I could understand this. And then the conference is over and you're like, oh, well, maybe I made the connection, maybe I didn't. I don't even know if I kept on the connection. So I get there and my first. My first date, meaning my first person that I'm sitting next to because I'm hanging out in the back, you know, it's a really sweet young guy, a bodybuilder. And I'm like, oh, geez. He just wants to have the middle aged, you know, middle aged cancer woman next to him. But I'm like, okay, this is his thing. This is what he gets. And we have to like, reveal ourselves and kind of do a. An icebreaker with each other. We get to know each other and I thought, okay, I'll just kind of file that away. All right? For some reason, we need to connect, we need to talk. Must be how it is. And then I start paying attention as the rest of the conference is kind of slipping by. I'm on the 11th floor, I'm looking at my calendar on my iPhone, and not Only is it 11 June, but I have 11 unresponded to requests in the calendar. So I'm looking at 11:11, and I'm thinking, okay, all right, this is getting weirder. It's a good sign. The 11s keep coming, right? It's. I'm being texted to at 11:11. These are not things I'm trying to do. I'm looking in my, my mailbox, on my phone and I, I have to sync to three different devices. So I couldn't plan this, but I have 111 unread messages on my phone. All right, so what is all this telling me? What is this? So I pay attention and this is flow, right? This is communication. It's not obvious. I think which is the most frustrating thing. We want it to be obvious, we want it to be here is what we're telling you to pay attention to right now and point our noses into it like a dog's nose in the dirt. But that's not how life works. It likes to be sassy about it, right? Likes to be a little obscure, mysterious. It's like it's saying look here, but not look at what, what's here. So here I am looking, looking. Alright, you got, you got my attention. What am I looking at? What am I, what am I seeing? And this is where I call it kind of the unfold, right? This is what unfolds for you. And all of you controllers, you, you just want to like make something of it immediately. You want to just shove it in a little box and go, oh yeah, I got that. Yes, totally makes sense, I got it. But again, life isn't like that. Doesn't want you to control everything. Wants you to flow, wants you to be in a state of openness, of receptivity. And then from there you move into the state of understanding and decision. Some of us want to stay in this place of decision and understanding 24 7. And that's not how life works, right? Life is a balance. It's a back and forth, it's the yin and yang, it's the action. And pre action, it's the flow. So here I am, up to my chin, frankly, in signs and signals. And I was so overwhelmed by the energy, all of these people forcing myself into this kind of student mind. Okay, I need to, I just need to. Here's what I have to do, I have to do, right? The control me is just all on overdrive. Control, control, control. Saturday, I come back from lunch, I crawl in my hotel room bed and I am conked out. I am out like a light. I sleep for two solid hours. And I got up and thought, oh, and now they're just breaking for dinner. Awesome. Oh, some, some, you gotta work better at this whole, you know, student thing. Damn. And that's when it hit me. I realized, you know what? I've been trying to embody two Things at once. I've been forcing myself into a state of letting go. But I'm also here to learn on a different level. Right? I'm here to learn and connect and understand. How do you talk to 600 people at a time? Gosh, I'm learning from the eyes of a teacher and I'm learning from the eyes of a student. That wore me out. It was really exhausting to be in two simultaneous energies. And that's what this long sleep, this deep nap woke me up with. That understanding makes me think, you know, how much, how often do you go into places with an expectation of more than one thing, two things at once? You want this and you want that. You need to be this and you need to be that. You need to wear four hats in this situation. You gotta be friend and boss and, you know, lover and parent and wife and sister and. Right. We're so used to sort of oscillating between these roles. But when you're trying to maintain several at one time for hours and hours and hours and hours, flow can step in. It can say, hey, you don't need to do that. And frankly, that's exactly what it did for me. I wandered down and came in right after dinner, and there was a row of nine chairs. I know, I'm just totally revealing everything here. How antisocial I can really be, right? A row of nine chairs in the back. And there was one person on the far end chair. And so I took the other far in chair. And I thought, okay, I'll just kind of sink back into this and get my emotional self aligned to this because, you know, I didn't want to get washed out again, wiped out again by it all. And I'm sitting there, no, like, no less than five minutes, and this woman comes and sits down next to me, and she's cute, she's blonde, she's got a pair of shoes on that look a lot close to mine. And she's like, nice shoes. Like, I was just looking at yours. Those are pretty nice, you know, Hi, I'm so and so. I'm like, oh, I'm, you know, I'm Summer. It's like, summer, huh? From San Diego. I'm like, yeah, yeah, you're from California, too. She's like, you know, you have a podcast, don't you? And I thought to myself, oh, Lord, you know, my cover is blown. How strange is that? I didn't think it was possible. I really didn't think, you know, 600 people, maybe a handful, had ever heard of this show. Right. It just maybe a handful. And yet after I wake up feeling like, okay, you know, step in your power. Be the teacher you are. Pick one. Pick one place to be in. Picked one emotional standpoint to learn from, and picked it. All right, I'm a big teacher. Fine. I will learn from this. Step back and see what's happening. And immediately, immediately I'm validated. And I laughed. I'm like, oh, this is. This is funny. This is funny. So funny. You know, it's my life is funny. Flow is funny. Here you are validating to me. Something I needed to hear and know. She turns out to be an amazing woman. A lawyer, a business coach, a leader. And we hung out afterwards, and, oh, I got to bring my bodybuilder friend back in, right? He's sitting right behind me, as it turns out, again, this is a big room. Hundreds, hundreds, hundreds of people ends up sitting right behind me. So I look at him and I go, okay, dude, you're in. You're along for the ride whether you like it or not. You gotta go hang out with those afterwards. So we did. We sat together for a few hours afterward and just talked about life and what we were here for and what we're becoming and how we think, how we feel, what our hearts are telling us, what Flo tells us. And I thought that was the end of it, right? I thought that was the end until the next day. I had to leave a bit early, so I thought, I'll sneak out. You know, I didn't even put my makeup on, Honestly. I'm like, I just gotta dash out. I don't want to get caught up. So I roll my suitcase into the elevator and I punch the button and I go down two floors. You know who steps in the elevator? My friend. My cute little lawyer friend from last night with the cute shoes and the huge heart and the big mind. She's like, oh, as well as the other woman that she was rooming with, right? And I thought, huh? I thought I was going to escape out of here. And, you know, that was it. Apparently not without finishing something I started. Now, think about this, right? This is all a story about meaning, about communication, about the way that our lives talk to us. And here my life, my flow, is talking to me and saying, oh, by the way, of the thousand or more people who are staying at this hotel, the 600 who are in the conference, the fact that you didn't even know when the conference was at break or not, the fact that these two women had to step into the exact same elevator in the bank of six that you stepped into in the exact last elevator ride you took. Hello, Summer. Now, I sometimes feel like kind of a dunce because I have to be hit in the head like this, right? I have to have stuff like this hit me all the time in this big of a way. Coincidence after coincidence after coincidence. Flo knows that I have to be a doubter sometimes. I have to get into my doubting mind, my doubting heart, and it has to prove to me. And it rolls out the red carpet of proof when I really, really ask it. And usually, here's the funny part, when I'm really, really asking it, I don't even know that I am. It's like a sadness descends on my heart, a fear, a feeling of disconnection, of, do you really love me? Right? Do you really love me? That's what I'm asking, Flo. That's what I'm asking. God, I'm asking my future, do you care? Is anyone actually listening? Am I just speaking words into the wind? Am I just believing things because they make me feel good? And that's when Flo steps up and it hands me what equates to a gorgeous bouquet of roses. I mean, I walked away this weekend with two dozen red and pink roses of love. That's what this is. That's what this acknowledgement is when you have communication come through. It's love. It's acknowledgement. It's saying, yes, we know you doubt. We know you go into fear. We know you want to play small and hold back and wait for more. It's okay. It's normal. You can be that person. You can be in that place inside yourself. It's okay. It's okay. And that's what I was told. It's okay. You know, this isn't the first time this has happened either, right? This is how ridiculous it can be. This happens to me over and over and over. Happens to me at least. I couldn't even. I was gonna estimate three or four times a year, six or eight times a year. A lot happens to me whenever I reach that point where I'm about to kind of careen off and feel like, ugh, I don't know, I'm in doubt. It comes back in, picks me up. The elevens are part of it for me, right? You've got your own number. You know what it is. You see it everywhere. You've probably looked it up. Ah. Is it, you know, threes or eights or sixes or four, four. Four. It's just your Number, it's your number. The number is the sign. The number is the signal. And when you see it in a context, after a while that context builds up for you. It tells you you cannot reference a book. I tell the old story a lot. I remember asking Doreen Virtue, who I feel privileged to call a friend asked her once, what are all these 11s mean? And she said, well, it's your angels telling you. This is when you manifest. This is when it's something peak and, you know, perfect. And I thought, oh, that's interesting. So I kept listening. And over the years, again and again, you know, when 11s show up for me, when they want to reassure me they're my reassurance number. Yes. I can manifest in them and with them, but I don't. I don't make myself feel pushed or guilty if I don't. But I always let myself feel reassured. Oh, this is the number that tells me you love me. Tells me I'm not alone. Tells me there's something more in life. There's meaning here. I'm part of it. When I get 4, 4, 4, it's my son, it's us, it's our relationship. When I get three, three threes, or any. Any form of threes, it's Get Creative summer. Mmm. Yeah. There's something wanting to download right now. When I get eights, right? Eights. Think of eights. As for me, at least two shiny money coins, little golden coins sitting on top of each other. That's eight. Eight is manifesting in the material. It can be money. It can be anything. Material, anything solid, anything that's real, that grows. But those are just my interpretations. You're going to find your own. You're going to find your own signs. You're going to find your own symbols. You're going to find your own ways of asking and especially your own ways of listening. What are those things that happen to you over and over when you need to hear them, when you need to see them? Look for those. They belong to you. They're only yours. Look for the dreams that come over and over again at a certain time. Look for the yellow butterflies that I always talk about, you know, when I see them, when I'm feeling light and playful and manifestational, when I'm just riding the energy with a very light heart. You've got your own signs. Go find them. All right? That's my message for the day. Go find your signs. It's okay to go into doubt. It's okay. That's when your signs come to you. And if your signs don't. Let me just say this before we go. If you're. If your signs don't come to you when you're in a place of doubt, look for more signs. Look for anything that's shifting for you. Look for anything that's repeating itself in front of you. Look for anything that you are not actually looking for. I know that sounds ironic, but you're not looking for it. Look for just comes to you over and over and over. This is what flow does. When you're ready for something, it pushes it in your awareness until you see it. You know the flip side of that? We call it our patterns. Ah. The bad things that come over and over. You know what? The good things come over and over. 2. Just so often we're not awake enough to accept them. We say, I'm too little for that. I'm too small for that. I'm not ready for that. That person really doesn't want me. They don't want to be my friend. They don't want to date me. They think I'm ugly. They think I'm. We get in our own way all the time. The good patterns are happening over and over, too. The good things that keep being presented, take them. Take them. All right, with that, we're going to go to a quick break, and when we come back, we're going to do some flow dreaming to get into those signs and symbols and things that just tell you I'm in the right place. I really am. So stay with me. 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This is the stuff. This is what we actually work with, how we do it. And they're on all kinds of topics. You can end fear, you can get unstuck or find your perfect career, Be seen, get out of debt, find your soulmate, clear your body of toxins. The list is practically endless. These playlists are very powerful and very effective. In fact, I get emails every day with thank you notes from lottery winners, people who've just gotten married, people who got these huge, unexpected bonuses at work, or they've reduced massive amounts of pain or debt, or they've healed themselves either inside or in their body. So please visit the shop@flowdreaming.com and see how you want to begin changing your life. Now back to the show. All right, you guys ready? You want to do a flow, flow dream? All right, so a flow dream is a kind of emotional connection that we make with the universe. It's a place technically like you couldn't see it, but I had little hand quotes going there. A place where you experience complete alignment, flow, release trust. Where you recognize that you're going to have a future no matter what. Right? Those hours and seconds are ticking by, and you have a deeper feeling that those hours and seconds, while you are totally in control of them, while you get to make anything you want of them, are also somehow in a kind of evolution. There's a direction, there's intention. The intention that you set yesterday for yourself, or the intention that you set a millennia ago before you even had this body. That's flow being back in that space. So close your eyes. And here we go into flow. Take a deep breath with me. Did you hear that? I like to yawn. Oh, yawn if you can. Right? Stretch your jaw, roll your neck. Let your body be loose. Don't let your body have stress in it. Don't let your body be in this tight, controlled space. Release it. You can do that for a few minutes. Let it go. Your shoulders have dropped and your chest feels expanded. Your jaw is released, your brow released. Feeling really good. Feeling ready. Feeling inspired. Feeling a little kind of hyped up. Yeah. I want to hear from my flow. I want signs, I want symbols. I want it to just tell me when I need it the most that it's there. Something's happening. Even if I don't know what it means, I'm still on track. So you release again into a feeling. This time a feeling in your imagination like you're a great big triangle. A triangle. Yeah, triangle A little pointy part heading towards space. And the big, flat, fat part, the biggest part of you bringing up the rear. Yeah. And you're floating through space like this. Isn't that odd? Isn't it fun? Never been a triangle in space. Notice how you're cruising. Notice how you're floating. Notice how you're feeling this thing drawing you forward. And by this thing, I mean something right? Beautiful. Drawing us all forward. Not just you. All of nature, all of life, all of our Earth, all of the galaxy, all of the solar system, the universe, all of us into a grand unfolding. You're there. You're a piece of it, you're a part. You're in awareness, you're being connected with, you're being connected to. And yes, it's hands off enough that it's going to let you have all kinds of experiences on your own. Of course you don't want to be that helicopter parent, right? Flow. It's hands off until the minute you say help. I need something. I need reassurance. I just need to know something. I just need to know. Do you love me? Do you care? Do you have my back? Am I part of something bigger? Am I in partnership? I believe I'm in partnership with myself, with my own heart, my own soul, but also with something bigger. I believe that partnerships are layers and layers and layers of partnerships, and I'm layered into those other, bigger partnerships. I'm part of that. I'm part of that. Thank you. Thank you, Flo. I hear you. I'm wide open to receiving you. Do you feel how wide open I am? It's like I've just opened my arms completely to allow you in. Give me numbers, give me names. Give me just the right people popping into my life at the right time with the right message. Give it all to me. Give it to me, please. I ask for so many other things in life. Love, security, money, food, connection. Why would I think you wouldn't give me what I need when I need it? I open and I allow you to give me what I need when I need it. Thank you, Flo. I feel that in my heart. My heart is blooming open. It's like a bouquet of flowers and all of the little petals are popping open at once. That's how I feel right now. You know, tomorrow, tonight, even today. Give me something. Just a few. A few things stacked in a row. Something to just catch my eye, catch my attention. You know me. Sometimes I can be a little obtuse. I sometimes need a little extra effort. So do that for me. Please catch my eye. Tell me you're on the right track. Tell me you're being guided. Tell me you're being directed. Tell me, just tell me, tell me. I want to hear. I want that. I want to be connected. And I'm listening. I am so completely open and listening to you. Thank you, Flow. Thank you. Thank you, Flo. You make my heart feel so good. You make it sing. You care and you love me. And I am watched over and I'm part of something much bigger and I am part of that. I contribute to that back. I watch over and I care and I love. All in this together. Thank you, Flo. With that feeling, we find ourselves returning, coming back. And when you're ready, open your eyes. How do you feel? Flow. Dreams are bubble baths for your mind, right? They just feel so good. You know, I should change that. I should say bubble baths for your heart, because that's what we're really about. Emotion, feeling, knowing, connections, deepening. All right, that wraps up our show this week. Hope you enjoyed it. And a little different format here going forward. As you've probably noticed, I'm taking a little time off to kind of just get deeper into certain subjects and play with my format a little bit. So hope you enjoyed it. If you did, let me know. Drop me a line. Flow dreaming.com summerlowdreaming.com actually is my email address. They all come to me. Summerlowdreaming.com and stay tuned because there's just a few more words I have to say here at the end. Until next time, though. My love goes to you. Mwah. Big kisses. All right, that wraps up our episode today. But before you go, two things. One, you can get the Flow Dreaming app in the Google, Amazon or itunes app stores. It allows you to search and sort to mark your favorite episode episodes. It's completely free to download and it gives you access to the latest several dozen of these episodes, as well as to the premium episode library, where there are more than 400 episodes that date back 10 years. The app's free, so go download it now at Flow Dreaming in the app store on your mobile device. And last, if you love my show, I'm going to give out a shout, shout out to my mom's podcast. It's called the Dear Venus show and she's an amazing intuitive and a medium and super, super funny. Search the words Dear Venus in your podcast directory or online and that way you can find her, too.