653: The Unmanifested

I was reading an article on Apple News recently that said so many of us never have periods of true self reflection. What do I want? And that the pandemic offered a national, a international moment when pretty much everyone got that opportunity at the exact same time. There's a name for this. I forget because I can't find the darn article again. But what it comes down to is we become so habituated to our daily work lives, to our daily life that we never stop to think, do I want this? Is this making me happy? And when things come along that completely change you, that change your way of thinking a bit, being of doing that, the upshot is suddenly we're looking at ourselves and we're thinking, do I want this? The result? And apparently this was the result in 2008 as well in the US after the big crash. And the result happening right this moment now, post pandemic, or I guess we're not post yet, but is the same thing. People are quitting their jobs in massive amounts. Something like 2/3 of people are looking for new work. Everybody has re evaluated and said no. People are struggling to find help. About every store I go to now has a help wanted sign up. Because we're all reassessing. We're all asking ourselves, what do I want? What haven't I yet created? And that brings us to the topic today of our show, the Unmanifested. What haven't I made? Why haven't I made it yet? Why hasn't it happened yet? Now that I'm taking a moment to look and see, I how come it's not here? And what is it that's not here? I better figure this out. So with that, let's jump in. Slow Dreaming. It's a show where we talk about the power of your mind to change your world around you, to literally affect the fabric of your reality. We talk about this feeling of hope and joy and relief. And that is what being aware of your flow does. It gives you a feeling of power again in your lives. Breathe. I'm Summer McStravik and welcome to another episode of Flow Dreaming. Ah, friends. The Unmanifested. I love that title. I don't know why I didn't think of that sooner. Episode 653. It took me 653 episodes to come up with the Unmanifested. Everything is about manifesting. Oh my gosh. I've just been doing some Internet research. 2020 apparently was a huge year for manifesting. Who knew? Who knew? But here we are. It's no longer 2020. And we are all aware, or many of us, of what it means to put our positive thinking along a certain path and, and to feel like if I feel and think this, maybe it will happen. So here in Flow Dreaming, right, which is my realm that I've been teaching in, oh gosh, for 18 years or something now here in my realm, Flow Dreaming tips its hat toward manifesting. Yeah, it's a fantastic tool and a way to make it happen. It does a lot more. It helps you heal, helps you change. I could go on and on. You guys have listened to me for a while. You know that I'm just such a preacher here. But it also helps explain the things that we aren't creating that don't happen. I know, I know. Because sometimes we get wrapped up in this thought that if I just continuously think it, feel it, put positive vibes on it, it's gonna happen. It's almost like the last 10, 20 years of at least us, society has been spoon feeding us this idea. Just put your positive thoughts on it, it'll happen. So what happens when it doesn't happen? This is what I wanna talk about. There should be no sense of personal failure, right? You know, you shouldn't put manifesting into the same kind of meritocracy as everything else. Well, if you just work hard, if you good education, if you do all these things, you'll get xyz. And if you're not good enough, you won't get it right. There's a subtle sucker punch in that idea, right? Which is you must not be good enough. You must not be doing it right. There must be something wrong. You just haven't done it well enough. You just. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. That's, that's not how this whole thing works. Manifesting isn't something where you are guaranteed the result if only you are good enough at it. Do it often enough, get your thoughts aligned with, you know, the great beyond. No, And I guess I'm going to be an outlier here with this philosophy, but I feel like I've been doing this long enough. I can share this perspective with a high degree of confidence. When you go into flow, when you're manifesting, when you're co creating, whatever you want to call it, doing your law of attraction work, what you're really doing is you're having a conversation. You're having a conversation with the universe, having a conversation with your future self, having a conversation with the higher self, with God, whatever you want to call it. But It's a conversation. It is not a dictatorship. And the conversation goes like this. There are some things I'm craving to experience in my life. I'm craving to experience them. What am I craving? Oh, I'm craving my own house. I'm craving being paid what I'm worth. I'm craving lots and lots of clients. I'm craving a lifestyle where I can work from anywhere in the world. I'm craving enough money to pay the rent. I'm craving stability and resources for my children. The list goes on. I'm craving this. I deeply desire this. These are the things that I am trying to make in my life. And I recognize that it doesn't boil down to how quote, unquote, good I am at making. It's not like you can be a tennis star of manifesting if you know you're the top of your game. What it comes down to instead is more like this. When you hold yourself in the. What's a good word to use? I don't want to get super woo here. I was going to say when you hold yourself in the frequency, but frequency can be so misused, right? When you hold yourself in the space of this is where I belong. This is how I feel. This is how I think. This is how I show up. This is what I deserve. This is what I am worthy of. These are the opportunities that I allow to come knock at my door. Do you see how wide open this is? Do you see how receptive this is? Do you see how you are communicating to the world? There is no barrier between me and the thing I crave. In fact, that thing I crave, I'm already gonna start experiencing it. I'm gonna pre experience it in my mind, in my energy, in my field, before it ever even arrives to me in life. And you know what that means? It means that the joy of having it, the pleasure of having it, the security, the relief of having it is something I get to feel right now. Right now. Right? I already get half of what I'm looking for because I was waiting for the thing to come help me feel that way. That's why I was manifesting and working and like chugging along trying to get that thing so I could feel this way. But instead I am going to feel this way now. I am safe, I'm cared for, I'm loved, I'm healthy. I feel this in me. I build this in me. I build it in my energy, I build it in my neurons, I build it in my memories, I build it in me. Whatever I Build in me, I become right. If I build negative thoughts in me, I become a negative person. If I build feelings of satiety, of I have all that I need, I become a person who has all that I need. Now the outside world gets to adjust itself to that. You might discover that having all you need means it fits in a backpack. And you'll say, I never knew. But I just started feeling like I have all that I need. And then I just started gradually letting go of my stuff and realizing I actually don't need all that stuff, that materialistic stuff. Or maybe it goes the opposite way. I have all that I need. And what shows up a better place to live? What shows up more income flowing in. You see what I'm getting at? The world itself can kind of shape itself around you. The world itself is a huge smorgasbord. That's an old word. It means a banquet, right? A potluck of stuff that the world can give you. And some of it, yes, you have to wade through carefully. Some of it, you have to, you know, get your way around. I am not, I would never be a person who said there aren't systemic issues that are impacting us right now. Impacting you as a person of color, impacting you as a woman, impacting you as a white male. Everybody is getting impacted by something that curtails or opens up things naturally. So I nod to that because the game field is not even. But there's still plenty of chips out there. Like, I guess I'm trying to get you to wrap your eyes around the magnitude of possibilities and understanding that luck happens across the board to all of us. Understanding that your own personal agency is within each one of us to equal degrees, to whatever degree you want to develop it in yourself. No one is going to stop you. No one. Doesn't matter where you're starting from. Doesn't matter if you had a crappy childhood and your agency is like tiny and little, the minute you wake up and say, I want agency, I want. I want to manifest. I want to create something I want to make for myself. It starts, it begins, it begins. And you can't say it's all about economics or social class or where you live. You can have a person gifted, all the gifts in the world who never wakes up to their own personal agency, and you can have somebody who got nothing. Day one, oof, they get it and they start creating. I know I'm going all over the place here with this, but it's kind of a big topic, and I've explored this topic in other ways. Like the things that disrupt your manifesting, that get in the way of it. You know, there's a whole slew of things that get in the way. So this is a different angle by the unmanifested. What I'm referring to in today's episode are the things that I have yet to align to the things that I keep wishing for and wanting but for some reason aren't coming. And then, you know, my default is to point my finger and say, it's because of this, because of that, it's because of this, because of that. And whenever I do that point to that thing outside myself, it's because I'm a woman. It's cause I'm over 50. It's because I'm this. Cause I'm that. Whenever I do that, I'm withdrawing my personal agency. Now I know I'm walking a dicey fine line. I probably get some hate mail off for this episode. I hear you. But I'm also saying your personal agency is gold. It is the highest thing you have in your life. Your choice. What do I want to create? How do I want to align myself? How do I want to feel now before the world shapes itself up to give it to me? That is something no one can take from you. That is something no one can say. You can't feel that. Yeah, I'm going to feel that. I'm going to feel safe today. I'm going to feel secure today. I'm going to feel joy inside. Gonna feel personal love for myself today. I'm gonna feel gratitude today. I'm going to feel confidence in me today. You get those. The world doesn't have to give you those. You make those. The world likewise cannot take those away from you. You are those if you choose to be those. And when you choose to be that, when you start practicing that, you do a practice like flow dreaming or you get into therapy. And there's many ways meditation, a lot of things, personal growth and development can take you into this space. I preach flow dreaming because it takes me instantly into these spaces inside myself. Now here is where this is all going. When I'm feeling in me, I'm just gonna pick one. I want to feel safe and secure. It's one of my favorite ones. The reason I choose safe and secure is because a lot of times we have a difficult relationship with money and income. And when I say I feel safe and secure, it really solves that. I wouldn't be feeling safe and secure if I didn't have Enough money to make, you know, to get my needs met. So safe and secure means that's solved. Safe and secure also means there's no emotional threats in my life, right? There's, there's no relationships that are hurtful or, or harmful to me that are threatening my emotional security. Safe and secure addresses that too. Safe and secure addresses a ton of things. I feel safe and secure because my body is healthy. It means that I'm not concerned about disease, ill health. I feel safe, secure. So we're going to use that one as the example. So if I'm popping along trying to manifest and I'm like, I am manifesting a great body, I'm manifesting a good job, I'm Matt, right? I'm manifesting a great relationship. What we're doing there is, we're trying to say I'm trying to make, I'm trying to make things happen in my life that will give me the feeling of safe and secure. And I know what those things are. I'm pretty, pretty clear on those, but I'm not getting them. There's a part of me that doesn't feel safe and secure. I won't feel safe and secure until I get those things. So I'm co creating, I'm manifesting, coming from a point of lack. I'm coming from a place of I don't have and I need it so that I can feel the way I want to feel. What is the world hearing from you? It's hearing from you. I don't have, I want, I don't have, I want. What is the world giving back to you? She doesn't have, she wants. Let's make sure she stays there because that's what she's doing, that's what she's giving. Now reverse that. I'm safe, I'm secure. I'm just going to feel it. I'm feeling it about myself. I'm feeling it about everything. I'm feeling my own sense of agency that says I can give this to myself. I'm feeling the sense that the world, I don't know, the world's got all kinds of junk out there. But when I'm safe and secure, I find that the world tends to align more safe and secure things to match me in whatever environment I'm in. I can have more safety and security and I can start to see a new path open, right? It's like a little glimmer of sunlight coming through the forest canopy, shining a light on this path that opens. You're safe and secure. You're safe and secure in your environment, you're safe and secure in your work, you're safe and secure in your relationships, you're safe and secure in your body. Now what is the world hearing from you now? How are you showing up every day in every situation? We'll talk practical and woo woo here, right? The practical is I show up every day expecting safety and security. My actions speak toward it, my words speak toward it, my choices are filled with it, I choose toward it every day. Everything I'm deciding brings me closer to safety and security. Then I'm also inside, in my heart, in my soul, in my love, in my energy. I'm safe and secure. My well is full. Now I just look at my life and say, huh, I see you rearranging yourself. How cool is that? How cool is that? Now here, here's the catch, right? Here's the thing. We often think this is going to happen in two weeks. I'm on a two week challenge following somebody on the Internet. They said if I just repeat my mantras nine times each day, I will have it all. I'm joking, but I see stuff like that out there. It's great to do challenges to get you booted up, you know, to kind of reset your clock. But beyond that, your life is a very complicated clock with bazillions of gears that are made from all these outside things. And you're showing up shining a different color. And now all the other things in your life that match your color are lighting up out there in the darkness too. And you're moving toward them. And some will be there, right? You'll stumble over them on that forest path. They're so close, they're already almost there. Some of them are ways off. Some of them you'll walk into in a month, you'll walk into in a year. Some of them are saying there's more inside you. You've been, you've been sending out lack, you've been sending out feelings of powerlessness for so long that you know, you got some, you got to re. Some rebalancing here to do. You're like, yeah, that's right. Some of them because they're working with other people and you have some specific desires attached to them. Like, I'm not gonna move. These are my family members, right? We have to make these certain elements work. Some of them are even further out because they're like, it's gonna be a while before we can align all of this stuff to match this new bright, beautiful color in you. Because those things aren't quite ready yet. They're still baking in the oven. So we make the mistake of not listening to divine timing. We make the mistake of feeling impatient. We make the mistake of saying, it doesn't work. I'm giving up. I want you to pull back from that. And I want you to think right now. When was a time that I felt powerful, I felt full of agency. I felt like, I've got this. I can do this. This is gonna be great. And it was. And it was. I'm thinking of a time recently I had a birthday party and I felt a great deal of agency around it. Meaning it's going to be a wonderful party. I'm going to have a great time. I love my friends, and, yeah, I'm going to see them, and it's going to. It's going to feel wonderful. I love this. And it happened. It was great. It was perfect. It was just what I thought. You see, I have no resistance to it. I've already worked on this for many years. My friendships, my. How I show up with others, how I cultivate them, how I show affection, how I receive affection. There's no resistance, no barrier. It's there, and it's something super simple like you wouldn't think, oh, that's. That is. That is true. I showed up a certain way and I received back the way that I thought I was aligned with. Think of anything really simple, as simple and silly as the example I just gave you. Now, compare that to something bigger out there that you're wanting. How is that so different? How is that so different? So I'm thinking of something that I want that's bigger out there, too. And you know what comes up in my head? Well, it's going to take other people. It's going to take luck. It's going to take universal guidance. It's going to take. And I realize that I have a whole bunch of stuff built up in my head about how hard it's going to be, how much luck I'm going to need, how I feel abandoned by the universe. Like, it doesn't listen, it doesn't care. I realize there's a lot of crap swirling around this other, bigger thing that's keeping it perpetually in the distance. And I notice the difference. I can contrast it very clearly. One thing. I had zero expectations of resistance around this other thing because the longer it's taken me to get it, the more resistance, the more rationales and reasons have popped up in my head about why I can't have her. It's not Coming faster the more I feel. It's hard to get. And now what I'm telling the world ultimately is that one I really, really, really, really, really, really want it. But it's so hard to get. So hard to get. What did I just. What did I just tell my life? You want something that'll take a stroke of a miracle to get? Hmm. Okay. Do you see what I've done? It's like I'm trying to catch a ball by continuously kicking it forward every time I get to. Keeps just bouncing away from my foot. Yet we have things like that that we've built up all this stuff around. This is why I'm encouraging you release your attachment to that thing. Go into the feelings that the thing will give you. Right now I know what the big picture thing will make me feel like. Just today, before I started recording the show, I went in and I did my flow, dreaming around the feelings that I want to have. Straight up feelings. And then I plonked in a little bit of what I thought it might take to get me there. But then I said, no, this or better. You guys, it's one of my favorite magic phrases, this or better. What it means is that this thing that you haven't manifested yet, this unmanifested desire, the thing that's slow and coming, laggy, not happening, if you just say this or better about means that I think I know what will get me to these feelings. Let's go back to safe and secure. So I'm gonna say that's what I want. But if there's something better, there's some easier, faster, smoother, more efficient, more solid, more permanent, more everything way I want that instead. Give me that. Because here are the feelings that I want. Here they are. So I want to encourage you when you're thinking about all these things that haven't yet happened, non manifested, unmanifested. I want you to think about it from a couple different angles. One, if you don't have it, it's not because you're not a good enough manifestor. You're not doing it properly. You're not this, you're not that. There's something wrong with you. Other people have advantages you don'. I want you to get rid of all of those thoughts, all of those feelings. Instead, I want you to move into a place of personal power, personal agency. I can feel whatever I damn well wanna feel. No one can take that away from me. If I'm waiting for the world to give me things that will allow me to feel a way that I wanna feel. Then I have just given up my power to outside random things in the world that I love to point my finger at and blame for this. But I'm going to not do that right now. I'm going to feel it myself. I'm going to take it myself, say I have all the wherewithal in the world. I want to feel joy, I want to feel loved. I want to feel like I have lots of friends, that I'm connected to my community. I want to feel purposeful. I want to feel meaningful. You know, go ahead, just plug in whatever, whatever it is and begin feeling it. I feel it. What this will do is it will take all of that unmanifested stuff that's just hanging out there in front of you way down the road, and it will let it shift, it will let it change. And that's what you want. If it's not here yet, probably means that needs to change or grow or age or percolate or, you know, simmer. So letting it do that, letting it shift is exactly what's required. Let it turn into something else. You get the feelings, you start communicating those, you start showing up as that person, as that being, and see what comes in instead. How exciting is that, right? It takes a great act of trust. Trust in yourself, trust in others, trust in the universe. A great act of trust. But if you do that, you will be astounded at the different things that come to you. The different things that just come together, reveal themselves, offer themselves to you, and you'll realize, huh, this actually does fulfill this desire. This does give me the physical correlation to the feelings that I was creating. In other words, this gives me a match. The thing outside me in the world has now matched the interior feelings that I've been creating. It just looks different than what I thought it was going to be. But that's cool. It gave me the same feelings. So it works. That's what we're going for. Let your unmanifested change grow. Open the doors around it. Give it some space, give it some time as well. In our lives, it's not like you think something and it all falls on your doorstep the next morning like an Amazon package. In our lives, our energy radiates from us. We're literally atoms and molecules knocking and banging into things wherever we go. When we exhale, the molecules and atoms of our breath go back out into the world. And then we suck some of the world back into us. Then we exhale it. It's crazy when you think about it, right? If we Are banging into things every day physically with our molecular selves. Goes to reason that we're also banging into things every day with our unphysical selves, our immaterial selves, our soul selves, our flow selves, whatever you want to call it. What is that self saying? How is it showing up as it's banging around in the world? It's going to make a huge difference in terms of what it bangs into and what aligns to it, what's attracted to it and what passes it by. Because it is simply not even aware. Doesn't even register you. Right. That's how I like to say yucky things. They don't even register me. I'm not at that alignment. I don't feel that I'm not that less likely for them to wake up and see me, as opposed to if I'm banging around out there and my being, my energy field is filled with yuck and muck, probably gonna start seeing and encountering a lot more yuck and muck. Isn't it funny? Like, we kind of believe that more intrinsically than the opposite. Like, you know, if I said to you, negative people tend to have a lot of negative stuff in their life, you'd be like, yeah. Yes. So positive people, do they have a lot of positive stuff in their life? Maybe. Now I want you to say yes. Yes. Why? Because their energy fields are banging around out there, Encountering things that match them. That match them. The things that don't match them fall away, don't cling, can't stick. So you're gonna allow your unmanifested things to change, to shift. You're gonna pull away from saying, but I need my new apartment by I know you need that, but let's approach differently. I am safe and secure. My surroundings are safe and secure. I love them. I have continuity, meaning I'm there a long while. Affordability, meaning there's nothing that makes me feel unsafe in terms of the cost. Oh, I feel so good. I feel so relieved. Feel so happy. Feels so comforting and homey. Oh, I feel this. All right, world, show me what you got. That is how I approach manifesting. I do it, of course, through flow dreaming. By the way, that reminds me, I do have a flow dream called finding a new home and making a perfect move for any of you who are in that exact situation. I also have a flow dream called safe, secure, and protected. So what are these flow dreams? You can look at them as a kind of wildly different meditation. They are very emotive. I talk quickly. My voice Carries emotion. I'm trying to help carry you into a place of magnified emotional being. I want you to feel these ways around these particular things. So that's what Flow Dreaming is. It's a vehicle for manifesting, really. It's a way to help you get there. And you can find them all@flowdreaming.com or by downloading my app. There's one more resource I want to give you before we wrap up today and that is a course. It's called the Future youe. And you can also find that@flowdreaming.com and what the Future youe does is it takes you through some masterclasses that I have recorded. And the Future you helps you really distinguish, figure out. Oh, I called it the Future you. I'm sorry, it's called My Future Self. You program the future you, but my future self. And it really gets you clear on the things you haven't manifested, the things that you're moving into and the shift inside you, the power and the agency that you're going to develop emotionally energetically to allow the world to sort of shift and move around you in a different way. Now this is totally different than what we've all been brought up to understand, right? Which is you go in there and you shift and change the world. You physically go in, you make the difference, hands in. And that's wonderful. That's how mankind, humankind, peoplekind, build things, make things, make history, make futures, make everything. But it also means that we're disregarding half of our abilities. It means that we're only encountering the things that have already been made and trying to make something on top of that. It means that there are lots of restrictions and holdbacks and nos because not everything is physically on the table for us. But in energy, everything is on the table. Everything is sparkling potential. Everything begins inside of you. Everything in the world is not yours. Everything inside of you is yours. 100% control. You access that, flip things around. I'm not saying don't try to make stuff in the world anymore. I'm saying let's get into balance around it. Plunge your hands into the world, but get your own inner world the way you want it. So I'm going to leave you with those resources. My future self, you can check that out as well as any of the flow dreams@flowdreaming.com by the way, I talk about these all the time because my Flow Dreaming business is what supports this podcast and all the wonderful teaching the 653 hours that I've been able to give to you guys over the last 17 years. So I appreciate you letting me slip that in now and then also because frankly, these are fantastic and very unique yet to be duplicated. Little bits of audio magic. I don't know what to say that make things happen for you and for you not to explore them and me not to share them with you. I feel would not be. I would not be living into my purpose if I held them back. So with that I'm going to go. Sometimes I do Flow dreams in in our episodes, sometimes I don't. If you want to experience one, I encourage you to either get my free kit that you can download@flow dreaming.com or you can go back and and listen to I Believe. When did I do one? Oh, episode 651. Please finally accept yourself as you are. You can get a taste of a Flow Dream in that one as well. All right my dears, I will see you next time. Lots and lots of love for another episode of Flow Dreaming. My friends. Flow on is a brand new membership and its goal is to keep you in flow, in alignment and and in a state of beautiful growth and emergence. Emergence into the next you. Sometimes this is going to mean some healing or renewing your energy from depression or burnout. Or maybe you're going to be pushing into new areas of growth and rampant success. Well, Flow on is your monthly spiritual backpack. It's a brand new program. I haven't done anything like it since. Well, it's been so many years when I used to have a Flow Dream of the Month club. Think of this as its new 21st century iteration and Flowon has everything that you need. It's a monthly masterclass, a monthly Flow Dream, even some live interaction. And best of all, you can come and go as you please. 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