700: Don’t Be a Hidden Gem - Why You Need to Be Seen Right Now

You need to be seen, your ideas need to be heard, your value needs to be rewarded and your wisdom needs to be shared. The question is, how comfortable are you in doing that? Do you let your words and ideas fly freely from you to impact any and all people who are hungering to hear them? Or. Or do you stay hidden, only available for those who've searched hard for you? Today we're looking at how you can increase your visibility in all ways, starting with your energy, so your talents or message can finally reach all the people that it's meant to reach. Flow Dreaming still kinda Woo Woo is just what it sounds like. An escape into the world of woo. Also a ride into you and how to feel happier, wiser and more self aware in every way. It's your ultimate journey into personal growth and inner power. We'll explore ideas like how your energy self influences the kinds of opportunities you encounter, or how your personal growth can drive your business growth, or even how that feeling of being stuck is really always coming from something else. We just have to figure out what. That's right. We're a dash of woo woo. A sprinkle of self care, a heap of problem solving and pattern busting, and a giant cup of encouragement. We're going to relight so much passion, purpose, self love and confidence in you that you practically stagger. I'm Summer McStravik, your host and welcome to Florida. Dreaming still kind of woo Woo. This is episode 700. Don't be a hidden gem. Why you need to be seen right now. This is one of my favorite topics, one that I return to again and again in the world of flow dreaming. And if you're new to Flow dreaming, welcome. Hello. Hello. Flow Dreaming is a technique for manifesting. It is also a way that we heal, grow, move through patterns and blocks, etc. To learn the technique. Because I don't always say it anymore. Because 700 episodes, right? The best way is to go to YouTube. I have a new playlist up there called Igniting youg Manifesting. It's an eight part series. It teaches you how to do this extraordinary practice. I just feel like I have to do a shout out for Flow Dreaming because so many of you are like, where? How come we're not doing flow dreams anymore every single episode? Well, because like I said, after I. After doing about 400 of them, I figured tell you what, either go to my archives or go to my website, you'll find 200 or more recorded flow dreams there. And these are energy activations. They are not meditation. They're Actually manifestational practices. So go check those out. Anyway, I'm not here to talk about my flow dreams, but I needed to mention them because I've been getting some emails I wanna talk today again. Yes. One of my favorite subjects, why you need to be seen right now. So I'll tell you a little story from my own past. For many years, I was blessed to be in a very visible position. I had a visible position. I was surrounded by luminaries in the field of self help and personal growth and spirituality. And as a result, a lot of people got to know me. They got to know my name, the way that I. And it was a really nice, cushy time. Apparently the universe thought, hey, this person's never going to get out to do their real work unless we give them a nice long, easy ramp in. And I got that. And then one day it was gone. Now what happened is that I left the position. There's a long story there. You guys have my book, right? Stuff nobody taught you. Anyway, check it out. But I left that position and I began teaching Flow Dreaming full time. I began working with people individually and in groups, recording, podcasting, everything, Right. Well, over time, I realized that I was skating on the fact that a lot of people already knew me. I didn't have to go out there and introduce myself and say, hi, my name is Summer. Let me tell you about something extraordinary and life changing. No, by the time people found me, they had already heard me, they already knew who I was, they had pre screened me. So they were reaching out because they were just saying, I want more. Like, this is awesome, tell me more. It made it easy for me because the risk to my own ego, the risk to having people say, I don't know who you are, I don't understand you, I don't know what this is, was very low. Most of the people I spoke with already wanted more, were already in love with my teachings. And one day, a few years down the road, I realized this. And I realized that in essence, I had been hiding. And that if I wanted to go to the next level, I needed to step out. And I needed to step out differently. And stepping out differently would mean me now going to people and saying, hi, my name is Summer. I'm teaching you Flow Dreaming. Do you want to learn how you can X, Y and Z? And this meant I had to capture people's attention. I had to interest them, I had to show them what it does and how it works. And I had to have enough belief that I could effectively do it, that I was the right messenger for this work. This was a game changer for me. And once I realized this, once I started seeing that this is what I had been doing and that this is what was required of me next to go to the next level, literally to grow my own flow dreaming business from a six figure to a seven figure company, I realized I just had to. Now once I did that, I started to see like everywhere. Like, you know how they say your eyes are opened? I saw so many other people doing the same thing that I had just been doing. Just kind of like putting out that website, maybe putting up a few social posts, kind of seeing if there anybody bite, you know, like, like throwing that fishing line in the water. Does anybody? Like this? Is this. Am I doing? Am I in the right direction? I dare you to find me. If you find me, it must be divine providence. It must be. There are all kinds of reasons put on it to make the reason that you were so hard to find and yet you were found mean something as opposed to the other way, which is why did you make yourself so hard to find? What were you protecting? And that's where the, the beautiful part of this whole thing opens, because we realize we're actually protecting something. We don't want to risk being rejected. We don't want to risk somebody calling us on the carpet. And what's that old saying, the king has no clothes? We don't want to be found out. We don't want someone to say, oh, I learned about you, but I don't like you. You're not as good as somebody else. And sometimes it's just all inside us. I have a passion, I have knowledge, I have skills, But I don't know if anybody else will recognize that. So I'm just gonna let them find me. A lot, A lot. A lot of the work that I do with my private clients revolves around these ideas. When will you let people find you? What are you afraid of? Why aren't you showing up? How come you're not getting in front of them? Even as I say this, like right now you might be like, oh, I'm going to turn this off. That's the funny thing. I don't know why I do this podcast when so often it's, it's saying stuff that makes people go, oh, I'm not ready for that. But I also know it's precisely you, precisely listening to this episode and this, this show in general, because it's not something many people do. They're not always willing to go in there and, and, and show stuff and dig stuff. Right? So I'm. I. The fact that you're listening and you're here at all tells me that we are birds of a feather and you want to be seen and you want to get rid of anything that's getting in the way, that there's a point in your life right now where you just feel like, I. I'm all skilled classes, got all the certificates, changed that career, and yet, oh, I need to launch. Well, I'm here to tell you, when you launch, the first thing you need to do is be seen. This has nothing to do with ego. It has nothing to do with you trying to be important. And look at me, look at me. It's the opposite. It's about you getting over your ego, getting over your fear, risking it, being vulnerable, showing yourself to people and daring to say, hey, I think I can lead you, or I think I can teach you, or I think I can take this job position to the next level. That's ownership, right? That's you saying, finally owning in your own self. If I don't do it, who else will? Do I really think someone else is going to do a better job than me. Well, maybe, maybe not. But here's the thing. When people start trusting you, it's because they see something in you and you have to trust them back. I was saying this to a private student of mine just, just the other day. You have to trust in the intelligence of the people around you. Trust in the person who employed you. Trust in the client who hired you. Trust the boss. Trust that they saw and know and are intelligent enough to see that you've got the thing they're looking for, even if you're still afraid to own it. Trust in their intelligence. They're not dummies, and they're not doing anything that they don't want to do. They want you. I hope I'm inspiring you, because that's my goal. I guess we're talking today a lot about mindset, but it's mindset plus energy set right? When you shift how you're feeling, everything changes. It means that, you know, tomorrow when you're at work or when you're, you know, talking with somebody in your family or someone you love, and there's that moment where you're like, nah, I'm just gonna hold back. I'm gonna let somebody else talk at the meeting. I'm gonna not say that thing. Yes, I've got something to contribute, but not today. It means you're going to be a lot less likely to Back off. And a lot more likely to find your hand flying up in the air and you realize I'm sharing something and I'm being seen. Oh, my. I want you to know that as soon as you start doing that, the universe will support you. Your greater self will support you. God, your higher power, it will all support you. It will support you. Why? Because it wants to see you grow. You want yourself to grow, to expand. You want to shift. You want to evolve. And how do you do that? By stretching into these new places. How do you stretch into the new places? By letting other people see you in motion. That's another thing, right? That brings me to point number two. Today, we're often scared to let people see us in motion. We're scared when we think, oh, they're going to realize that I'm still figuring this out or that maybe I don't have enough people in my group program, and it's going to be embarrassing, and I can't do it. I'll tell you, I've been doing this podcast for, what, 19 years? You guys have seen me in motion. You've seen me grow up. You've seen my ideas mature and change. You've seen me, the years when I said, hey, I am feeling not so great this year. And the years when I'm on fire, I've let you see me in motion. I could have pulled the whole catalog down and said, nope, I'm only putting up the best. You'll only see the best pieces of me. I don't. I want you to let people see you in motion. The same joy, the same hunger, the same feeling of I get you. Oh, I see you. I feel you. That's what you want people around you to say about you. I saw you change. I saw you shift. I saw you grow into this. Oh, my gosh, if you can do that, I can, too. And you know what? That's what we're hungering for. We want role models of, I can, too. You showed that. Wow. I guess I can, too. When we hide, it's because we don't want people to see something. We're afraid, we're ashamed. We're not good enough. And when we hide, that hiding can go on for years and years and years if we're not careful. That's why I try to adopt a feeling all the time of, how can I be seen here? How can I show up here? And believe me, I'm discerning that old saying, don't throw pearls at pigs or something. Don't throw pearls. A Silk purse from a sow's ear. Oh, I'm getting them all messed up now. Don't throw your pearls before swine. I think that's the one I'm looking for. Old saying, I'm careful. Not everyone can hear my messages. But when I have a feeling they can, it's my job, it's my duty to show up for them. That's my gift to them. I'm giving them something that maybe they've been searching for and maybe they haven't and they'll say, bye, it's cool, I don't like this. And I say, oh, okay, that's fine. But my job is to show up so that those people who are looking I'm there for, I don't need to make their lives any harder by hiding. So I want you to think about whatever is inside you. What gift you have, what vision you have, what skill you have, what knowing you have, what abilities you have. How do you make it not be hard for other people to get that from you? How do you make it easy for them to get that from you? Again, I can feel practically objections flying up in you. Like, wow, they think I'll be pushy or I'll be pushing salesy or whatever. Nah, you don't have to feel that way. You don't have to be that way. Show them what you got. Here's what I got, here's what I have, here's what I do. Is that what you're looking for? Great. Is there any way I can help you? Say yes to it. Is there any way I can help you? Are you ready? And again, appreciate the people around you. If they're a yes, they're a yes. If they're a no, they're a no. Which brings me to our new little format here. New, old. At this point. Shower thoughts? Yeah, we haven't done this one in a while. Here goes. I admit I ran across this unattributed quote when I was out there searching the web and I was like, yeah, that's exactly what I'm talking about today. It's called hard pill to swallow. If they want to talk to you, they will. If they want to be with you, they will. If they want to make things work, they will. Don't let things be one sided. It's not healthy and it's not fair to you. So what this means in context of, you know, our topic today is that if a person is a no, if they don't see your wisdom, if they don't see your beauty, if they don't see the worthiness of being with you in a relationship or even as a work peer. And they don't see it. Your job is not to make them see it. Respect them, honor them, graciously bow out. On the other hand, sometimes we do that prematurely. We bow out, we duck down. We don't let ourselves be seen so that they never even have the chance to decide. And that's what holds so many of us back from growing big things in our lives. So ask yourself, where have you been on that? Where have you been on that scale? Is there something you can do right now to be seen in a bigger way? And I get you, I get you. Sometimes the ways that people tell us to be seen, we just don't want to be seen. Do you guys know how much I don't like social media? Oh, my goodness. Gosh, you've probably heard me gripe about it for years now. Social media, for me, it's not so much that I don't like doing reels and videos and things. In fact, it's so weird. Like, I'm on zoom all the time, every week for hours and hours and hours with people and groups, and they're looking at me. They could be recording me. I don't care. You know what I don't like about social media? It took me all this time to realize I'm not a short form content person. I know that's kind of funny, right? But short form content, that means the Twitter. That means the short reel, the three minute. Aha. You guys, I like to talk, right? I like to open up things. Even when I write a blog, right? Or an email, you guys are going to get about a thousand words from me. That's just my natural set point. When I say, ah, when I write a flow dream or do a flow dream, it's going to be probably a thousand words in there. It's my sweet spot. And what can you do when you're a content creator like I am, right? Some of you maybe are suddenly light bulbs going, aha, me too. I tell you what, don't let that stop you from being seen. Find the places where you can be seen like that and show up and put out, Put out those blog posts that you find a little cringy or you're a little worried about. Put out those emails where you're thinking, oh, I'm saying too much or I'm letting them see too much. Put them out, put them out, put them out. This is really different than fake vulnerability. I saw a trend, frankly, of fake vulnerability going around, oh, I don't know, three, four, five years ago, where every teacher and mentor and business coach and leader, people in my sphere basically were saying, like, oh, I'm going to tell you all the worst stories where I've bottomed out. And. And, you know, they'd say it's because I want to be relatable, but really, it was more like, you want to be clickbaitable. There's a way to say something, and you guys, you can smell it. We've all. We've all read and seen things like this, right? There's a way when someone's putting something out there and they're saying, look, I really struggled with this. This was hard. This is what happened. And maybe I'm still working on it, or maybe I figured it out, but it's guileless. It's. It's true. And then there is another kind, which is, oh, wow. Ooh. And you can feel like they're trying to get something going in me. They're trying to, like. They're trying to, like, you know, dance in front of all the other dancers. They're trying to shimmy out front when maybe they don't deserve it. You can feel it. So I want you to feel calm and comfortable. If you can feel it in other people, you darn know when you're doing it yourself. And that means you're not going to. You're just not going to. So if you have some beautiful content to write or some gorgeous wisdom to share or some. Even some reel to make, maybe you are short, short form. Maybe you have an amazing presentation or a pitch for the board or the charity. Let yourself be in it. Give people, as they say, the why. Let yourself be seen. And haven't you ever had that experience where a person is just dry and they're going on and on about the thing, blah, blah, blah, and then suddenly there's this little interjection of who they are or maybe what they're going through or why they're doing this, and you kind of perk up. You're like, tell me more. I'm interested. And then oftentimes they shut it back down again. Like, didn't want you to see that. Let's get back to the facts, the subject matter. You're like, no, no, no, no, I want to see that. Think about your favorite teachers in high school or college, right? Half of them, half mine, they spent class talking about old war stories or just TV shows that they watched. All right, Yeah, I did not go to a private High school, you could tell, right? I went to a school. That was it. I got stories about TV shows my teachers watched, but it was interesting and they were usually the best loved teachers. What I'm getting at is if that's your objection to being seen that I don't write that kind of content, great. Write the kind of content you write. Speak the content you speak, do the work you do. Find the place that wants that. It's still there. And there are people still like me who like to be in that place with you. If your other objection is I don't want to be seen like that, I don't want to be vulnerable like that, I'm going to reassure you right now you're not going to be like that. The fact that you're already worried about it means you're not going to be that way. So just be you. Just go, Just be, be, be, go. Be you. I want to see it. I want to see it in all your gorgeous, gorgeous, gorgeous glory. All right, Deal? Deal. Wonderful. All right. If you need help being seen, by the way, if you go to my website, flow dreaming.com, i have several playlists all about being seen. These are the emotional, energetic audios. You listen to them, you go into this flow space and, and you practice this because, like, listening to me now, like your mind, you're kind of nodding probably in your mind to me, like, but when you actually practice it energetically, oh, it really gets in, like, then it gets in where it's just going to be part of you. It's going to make it so much easier to shift all of your interactions from here forward. So go check it out. You can also get the app. Guys, I just got the app redone. It is faster. It loads faster, fewer crashes. It's great. It's in really good shape. So go check it out. You can find all these playlists on the app as well. And please work with them, enjoy them. Half the work we do in Flow Dreaming is non physical work. Right? This podcast is just my way of opening up the ideas that I obsess on in my own growth. Because I know if I'm obsessing on these, chances are other people are too. And in many cases, I've solved them to a degree. And that's what I share with you. I'm like, hey, if you do this, you're going to get to there. Let me show you how. Let me take you there. All right, Finally. I keep saying it. You guys, me, school, me, school, me, school, me, school. I should, I should have a jingle by now. Me, school, preschool is where it's all at. It's where you get me. Live every single week, small group of us and we walk through a program that will really change the trajectory of your next decade. All the things that you've been waiting on or trying to do, you can break through. And I know people say don't over promise like that summer. I know, but the problem is I've seen so many people do this, it's like happened for so many people that I become pretty comfortable saying things like this. Yeah. So if you have any doubts. Well, don't have any doubts, just in fact set up a call with me. I talk to every prospective student. Why? Because I'm going to be talking with you every week for three months. I may as well get to know you now. And we decide, hey, maybe this is for you. Or maybe I'm like, nah, you just need this playlist instead. Right? That's what I'm here for. I built my life around doing this work so no one is too big or too small. I will talk to you and and all Dr. Seuss. All right, lots of love to you guys. Thank you for joining me today. Today was kind of a hard hitter. Ah, maybe I should do an easy one next time, right? Just some flow and some bubbles and get you into that space of ease. I'll have to think about what the next one's gonna be about. In the meantime, hope to see you@flowdreaming.com. hope to see you at One Brilliant Thing. That's my free manifesting challenge I'm doing this summer. And until next week, lots of love and take care. Hey. We don't have sponsors for this show yet but we do have our parent company, my company. It's called flowdreaming.com if you are curious about exploring your full potential, there are over 250 audio meditations and flow dreams and courses there that can completely reshape your world. So take a quick jump over and check out flowdreaming.com and with that, thank you so much for joining us.