Mark Manson separates responsibility from blame. You might not be at fault for what happens to you, but you're responsible for how you respond. A newborn on your doorstep, a car hitting you: not your fault, but now your problem to solve.
There's a natural reluctance to accept responsibility and ownership because I think people tend to confuse responsibility with blame. And a lot of this, I think, comes with the way we're raised and maybe the legal system. But like the idea is that if I'm responsible for my failure, that means it's my fault. That means I'm a failure or I'm a loser in some way. There's like some moral judgment that should come down on me. But interestingly, I think fault and responsibility are actually two different things and they can actually happen independently as well. Like the example I use in my book is that if you wake up one morning and somebody has left a newborn an infant on your doorstep, it's not your fault that that infant is there, but you are absolutely responsible now. Right, right. Yeah. Like, you have to take care of this situation. Or like, if I walk across the street after this podcast and I get hit by a car, it's not my fault I got hit by a car, but it's my responsibility to recover.
