Hannah Hammond reflects on emotional numbness from trauma and how it shaped her resilience. She describes how people with trauma often project their needs onto others, and explores the freedom found in the gap between stimulus and response, that brief moment before you react.
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I've been numb my whole life. Like, I've been told so many horrible things. And I have a lot of horrible experiences. And no matter what anybody tells me, like, nobody has or will ever be able to hurt me more than this girl. And so it really doesn't faze me because I'm like, I hurt myself more than those words are trying to hurt me. And the second thing is, as I've grown and developed and matured, I've realized that people who have trauma and people who are disconnected, they can't really see you. They can only project their own needs and desires and fears and insecurities onto you. And so I read that stuff or I hear that stuff or whatever. Like, that's where the freedom lies, is between the stimulus and the response. Like, there's that gap before you react, and that is how you know if you're truly free or not.