The Real Reason You Break Under Pressure (And How to Fix It)

This one thing changed how I will handle pressure forever. And it's not a super easy answer because it was a journey and it is a journey every single day. But it started with meditation. I was always overwhelmed, always stressed out, always anxious, always feeling depressed, wondering how I could do it all, couldn't fit it all in the day. Insomnia, I was just a mess. I wasn't grounded, my energy was bad. And I often found myself wondering what the point of it all was. So when I hired my TM meditation coach, Transcendental meditation, he told me, imagine our nervous system is a rock. Most people have so much unhealed trauma inside of them. He said we all have these little red dots inside of our nervous system that are all these traumas that we've been carrying onto and holding onto since we were just a little child or even a baby and throughout our childhood. So he said most people who aren't healed, who aren't connected, who don't do the work, who don't sit quiet with themselves, they're so disconnected and they're never truly present with who they are. And they're just in a mode of reaction all the time. So imagine you're somebody that hasn't done the work. Your nervous system has a bunch of trauma in it from your life, which we all have. And someone comes and flips you off on the freeway. Are you one of those people that feels that impact of someone flipping you off and gets road rage and gets angry and it. We all know those people, right? So that's a sign that you have or they have a lot of unhealed trauma in your nervous system. Every time a little traumatic event like that happens or a stressor, it's like drawing a line in a rock. It's pretty permanent in your nervous system and it's really hard to get a line out of a rock that you've drawn into it right now imagine you start meditating, you start doing some work, you start sitting present with yourself, sitting quiet with yourself, you start doing therapy, forgiving your parents. That's a big one. And, and then all of a sudden, which brain scans show when you meditate, your brain waves change. They go into a different type of wave while you're meditating. And a long term practice of meditation will create an outcome like this for you instead of having a rock. And every time you have this stressor in your life, it draws a line in your rock until the point that you eventually shatter or break. You practice this meditation sitting quiet with yourself. You're literally changing Your brain waves. And over time, when something, a stressor happens in your life, it'll be like drawing a line in sand. Where you see it, you feel it, it gets to you. You maybe get a little bit of rage, but you can meditate that evening and get yourself back to a state of calm. You can reset your nervous system. You can release those red dots from your nervous system because you're present, because you're aware, because you're connected with yourself. Now you practice more meditation. More meditation, more presence, more connection, more forgiveness. And pretty soon it'll be like drawing a line in water where it does phase you. Something stressful happens, you lose a big deal, you lose a contract, you get into a lawsuit, your employee quits, your CEO quits, the market crashes and you lose a bunch of money. But it's like a line in water, so it phases you. You feel it a little bit, but very quickly you're back to normal. You don't hold onto it in your nervous system. You're not traumatized by it. It doesn't stack all on top of you where you feel like Atlas with the weight of the world on his shoulders. And then you practice more, you do more work on yourself, you do more healing, you do more meditation. I meditate 20 minutes twice a day. Usually not perfect, sometimes just five minutes in the morning. But it's been integral because it forces me to sit quiet with myself and reconnect to my body, mind and spirit before I go into the crazy reaction mode of the day. And when you really level up towards self actualization, which is where we vibrate at the highest frequency, then when these stressors happen in your life now, it's like drawing a line in air. You literally just observe it. You don't freak out. It doesn't cause a traumatic event in your nervous system. It doesn't even rattle you. So that trick and this work has helped me continue to stack more and more pressures onto my plate every single day. Think of Elon Musk. Think of the pressure that that man has in his life every single day versus anyone else that works a normal job or has a normal business or whatever level. There's different levels to the game. The only difference is how much pressure are you able to withstand. And if you're a rock and everything in your life is drawing lines in your rock and you cannot be just an observer and truly not get affected from the pressure, you will never be able to reach your highest potential. So I think that is the most important habit you could possibly have and the most important work you could possibly do over any business goal, over any financial goal, over any employee hire. It's making sure that stressors in your life become lines in air and you just observe them and you take the right approach to move forward.