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Heather Hester explores the difference between niceness and kindness, arguing that real kindness means standing up for marginalized people even when it's uncomfortable. Niceness keeps the peace; kindness disrupts it.

Heather Hester explores the difference between niceness and kindness, arguing that real kindness means standing up for marginalized people even when it's uncomfortable. Niceness keeps the peace; kindness disrupts it.
Being kind means actively standing up for those who are marginalized, even when it's uncomfortable. And that's the really, really big piece, even when it's uncomfortable. And we talk a lot about discomfort and leaning into that discomfort and knowing that when we feel uncomfortable, a lot of times that means that we're doing the right thing, that we're growing, that we are making important shifts, that we are leaning into who we are authentically. Now we can add kindness to that, right? There is this, when we are uncomfortable in a situation that we are, whether we're standing in solidarity or we are standing up for someone else, kindness comes into play as well. So I just want you to add that to your kind of mental list of, as you are going through

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