Heather Hester shares how to listen when someone with an eating disorder opens up: pause before responding, don't assume, don't rush to fix it. She's spent nearly 6 years working with eating disorders after years in substance use treatment.
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And just keeping in mind that an individual's perception of their reality is their truth. So, so keeping the lines open for communication and, and like you had said earlier, listen instead of just assuming, I know how you feel, or I know what you're going to say next. Listen and try to become uncom— try to become comfortable with holding an uncomfortable space. Human beings just are, we're not comfortable with silence, but really practicing in listening, to use your term, pause before you respond. Allow the other person to process what they just shared or what they're feeling before you jump in. And also just keeping in mind, it's not necessarily your job to fix. Sometimes it's just your job to be there. Um, and segueing that into, to my work in the world, um, I've, I've been working with eating disorders for almost 6 years now. Uh, prior to that, I was working in substance use.