February 06 - Why Fixing Your LGBTQ Child’s Struggles Can Backfire

8 Feb 2026 · 1 min

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Heather Hester talks to parents about why jumping to fix their LGBTQ child's problems can backfire. The instinct to solve things fast creates distance. Instead, try breathing, listening, and sitting with what they're saying before you offer anything.

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You're reading the books, watching the videos, following all of the accounts. You're replaying conversations in your head like a film editor at 2:00 AM. And still your child feels so far away. First, just take a breath with me because this is one of the most common patterns I see in loving parents, especially the capable ones. If you are a problem solver by nature, hi, welcome. You are in good company. Fixing is how you show love. Fixing is how you've handled scraped knees and friend drama and school crises and heartbreak. So when your child comes out or starts sharing their pain, your instinct is, okay, here's what we're gonna do. They say, I'm scared.