+1: #1140 How to Say “I Love You”
17 Dec 2025 · 0 min
Brian Johnson describes holding his newborn son Emerson and the hand-squeeze code his family invented to say "I love you": three squeezes. He recounts how this ritual recreates the intimacy of that first moment when Emerson gripped his pinky.
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Hi, this is Brian. Welcome back to another Optimize plus one. A little over seven and a half years ago, Emerson was born at home. We had an amazing midwife named Mary Jackson for both Emerson and Eleanor's births. I'll never forget the very first moments of Emerson's life. I had the blessed honor of being the first to officially welcome him into the world. And right after he was born, literally a couple seconds after, he looked at me and our eyes met, then he wrapped his tiny little hand right around my pinky finger. Which makes me misty just thinking about it, wishing he was here right now. We've recounted this special moment countless times. I like to say that we both said I love you right when our eyes first connected and he wrapped that tiny hand of his around my pinky. So one of the ways we like to recreate that moment is by holding hands while we're walking. That in itself will always be one of my favorite things in life. But we like to take it one step further and say I love you to each other and in our own top secret way. In fact, we developed our own special language. It's called Squeezy ease. Super easy to learn. There's actually only one phrase which is I love you. All you have to do is grab someone's hand and squeeze it a few times. Squeeze, squeeze, squeeze means I love you like a morse code of awesome. And well, that's today's plus one. If you feel so inspired, how about a little squeezy ease of love. Squeeze, squeeze, squeeze. I love you.
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