Brad Stolberg and Steve Magness distinguish two types of passion: obsessive passion driven by fear of failure, and harmonious passion rooted in intrinsic joy and mastery. The paradox is that focusing on process and internal motivation often produces better external results than obsessing over outcomes.
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Hi, this is Brian. Welcome back to another Optimize plus one. Brad Stolberg and Steve Magness have written a couple great books. First they gave us peak Performance. Then they gave the Passion Paradox. Today we're going to talk about one of the central themes of the Passion Paradox. Tomorrow we'll chat about some goodness from peak Performance. So passion, it's awesome. Except when it isn't. Enter the Passion Paradox. As Brad and Steve put it. I quote mindlessly living with a passion can be extremely harmful and destructive. Mind Fully living with a passion can be the key to a life well lived. They tell us that psychologists differentiate two types of passion by calling the unhealthy kind obsessive passion and the healthy kind harmonious passion. Obsessive passion is toxic. It has two primary facets. Number one, focusing too much on extrinsic results like fame, wealth, achievement, etc. Number two, being too worried about failure. Harmonious passion, on the other hand, gives us a sense of deep joy. Whereas the toxic passion is focused on the pursuit of extrinsic rewards, the healthy passion is focused on intrinsic factors. Six factors in fact, all focused on what they call a mastery mindset. Check out the notes for more on that. As Brad and Steve put it, I quote the Enter harmonious passion, a feeling that emerges when you are wrapped up in something primarily for the joy of the activity, when your engagement is not merely a means to an end, but rather an end in itself. Harmonious passion manifests mainly from activities that are freely chosen without contingencies, when you do something because you enjoy it, not because it offers potential rewards, and not to avoid negative repercussions. Not every moment of harmonious passion is necessarily pleasing, but overall it is deeply fulfilling. It aligns closely with the ancient Greek notion of eudaimonia, or a kind of happiness that results not from overwhelming pleasure, but from striving to meet one's full potential by engaging in activities that one considers meaningful. They continue by saying in the 1970s, the late psychologist and humanist philosopher Erich Fromm wrote of something similar, which he called productive activity, where happiness isn't related to the attainment of possession or rewards, but rather to the process of ever growing aliveness. For living as fully as one can is so satisfactory that concern for what one might or might not attain has little chance to develop. Finally, they say, the great paradox, however, is that although external achievement is never a primary goal of harmonious passion, when you become completely immersed in what you're doing for the joy of the activity itself. It often is a byproduct. Those who focus most on success are least likely to achieve it. Those who focus least on success and focus on the process of engaging in their craft instead of are most likely to achieve it. End quote. That's today's plus one first shout out for Eudaimonia. Second Pop Quiz how's your passion? Here's to the harmonious variety in which we seek mastery and experience the joys of mindfully embracing our passion while letting the outcomes take care of themselves.
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