Brian Johnson argues that psychological safety is the most vital gift parents can give their children. Kids need to see their parent as a reliable safe harbor they can return to after exploring the world. He suggests telling your child: "I love watching you compete."
Safety is the most important thing you can give to kids. Kids crave safety. You do not want to be the source of their psychological lack of safety. They can't look at you and feel threatened by your presence. You need to be a signal of, no, no, you're safe. You can go out into the world that isn't always going to be safe, but you can know you've got a safe harbor with me. Your kids need to feel that you are, he says, a safe harbor. They can come to you in the midst of life's challenges and you're a launching pad, right? So you give them both. You give them the safety to know that no matter what happens, they've got you. Then they can go out and explore courageous fearlessly, etc., knowing they can always come back and get your support when they need it. But anyway, afterwards, what do you do? Brandon's advice is to say, I love watching you compete.
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