Brian Johnson breaks down the difference between confidence and arrogance using a boxer and mentor dialogue from Darren Donnelly's Victory Favors the Fearless. Confidence is trusting you can handle challenges. Arrogance is believing nothing will challenge you. Real confidence comes from doing what you say you will do and practicing daily.
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Hi, this is Brian. Welcome back to another heroic one. In our last several plus ones, we've been exploring some powerful wisdom from Darren Donnelly's victory favors the fearless. Today we're going to wrap up our tour by talking about the difference between confidence and arrogance. Let's get straight to work. Quick context. As I mentioned, this book is a sports fable. It features a boxer who goes from down and out to heavyweight champion after he meets the perfect mentor who teaches him how to conquer the seven fears that hold us back. His mentor's name is Andre. Here they are, having a little chat. Are you sure all this talk about self confidence won't backfire? I asked. Are you sure I won't become too confident and do something stupid? Andre laughed. There's really no such thing as being too confident. Too arrogant, yes, but not too confident. There's a difference. Confidence is the belief that you have what it takes to overcome any challenge that comes your way. Arrogance is the belief that you're so wonderful nothing will be a challenge for you. We've talked about this before. Arrogant people get exposed quickly and they back down in the face of adversity. Confident people step up in the face of adversity because they know they can. You see the difference? I do, I said. You're saying arrogant people don't prepare themselves for the challenges. They're about to face conflicts. Confident people expect challenges and then expect to overcome them. You got it. Cue choir of angels. Confidence versus arrogance. There's a big difference between the two and I love how Darren breaks it down as we discuss all the time. The word confidence comes from the Latin word confidere. It literally means to have intense trust. Intense trust in what? That things will go perfectly? No, that, of course, is absurd. Intense trust in the fact that it doesn't matter what happens because you have intense trust in yourself to respond powerfully to whatever life throws at you. And how do we develop that kind of intense trust? There's only one way to do it. It's the same way you build trust in any relationship. As we discuss all the time, we need to do what we say we will do not once in a while and or when we feel like it, but more and more consistently, all day, every day. Especially when we don't insert that whiny voice again, feel like it. The arrogant person thinks they don't need to work hard anymore. They've made it. They're exonerated from future challenges. We must know that that person is weak. We not strong. The truly confident hero knows that they will never be exonerated from pain, uncertainty and hard work. We have the humility to know that today is the day to get better. So we have the strength for two. We ask, am I giving my best? Am I becoming the best that I can be? Here's to conquering our fear and giving our absolute best to the world. Not someday. Today. Day one. All in. Let go, hero.
