Brian JohnsonChairman & Philosopher in Residence at Heroic

Happy Together by Suzann & James Pawelski (Heroic Wisdom Daily)

5 Jan 2025 · 1 min

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Brian Johnson summarizes Happy Together by Suzanne and James Pawelski, arguing that strong romantic relationships require intentional, daily practice rather than luck. He highlights three takeaways: treat love as a practice (ask “What can I do today to support my partner’s growth?”), commit to daily effort (small, consistent work produces visible fruits), and cultivate character strengths—love, gratitude, zest, hope, and curiosity—to build thriving relationships. The clip ends with a reflective question prompting one concrete action to strengthen a relationship today.

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Today's insight comes from Happy Together by Suzanne and James Pawelski. The Pawelskis remind us we believe in the importance of working on our relationships like we work on our bodies at the gym. Great relationships don't happen by accident. They're built through daily effort. Here's how to build love that lasts. First, treat love as a practice, they write. What can I do today to support my partner's growth? Next, commit to daily effort. They share Once we begin to see the fruits of our labor, the hard work doesn't seem so hard. And finally, focus on virtue. Love, gratitude, zest, hope, curiosity are strengths that build thriving relationships. So what's one thing you can do today to strengthen a relationship in your life?