Brian JohnsonChairman & Philosopher in Residence at Heroic

Improve yourself for those you love.

28 Jul 2023 · 1 min

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Brian Johnson advises that the hardest challenges often come from those we love most and recommends focusing on self-improvement rather than trying to fix others. He describes varying receptivity to coaching among people (some welcome directness; others resist) and reflects on balancing authenticity, intensity, and humility when interacting with family and loved ones.

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I, too, also, as we all do, have the most challenges with those we love the most. Quit worrying about them. Bring it all back to you. Just work on yourself and then try to do what you can do to be the loving, compassionate and encouraging version of you. And there's a spectrum of receptivity from people that you coach who are like, yeah, give it to me and give it to me hard, you know, and those who do not want to be coached. And it's just an art. The irony is, is that I'm trying to be more intense with you. I'm trying to be more candid and more clear and authentic and more me, while also, you know, staying grounded and deferential to I can't solve anyone's challenges at the same time that I'm trying to find a different rhythm with the family. And by definition, that's challenging.