Brian Johnson teaches that your most important relationship habit starts with identifying your own non-negotiable self-care practice, your '#1'. Learn your partner's #1 and actively support it. He shares how morning time with his child enables his partner's meditation practice.
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You're listening to Optimize with Bryan Johnson. More wisdom in less time. Hi, this is Brian. Welcome to the Relationships 101 micro class series. This is the first installment. Most important thing we need to know to optimize the love in our lives is to be healthy. Rule number one, be a healthy human being. You can't give that what you don't have. If you don't love yourself, you're going to have a very difficult time consistently, stably, deeply loving anyone else. So we got to start with this one. That would be you. And then we add the next person and guess what, that gets way more complicated. If you have two unhealthy people interacting with one another, well, you're going to have the divorce rates that we have in this country, and we have those actually, because then you start adding little ones, little one, little one, maybe another little one. Oh my goodness. If you weren't stable here, you're not going to be stable in this dyad and you're certainly not going to be stable and healthy and thriving in this really complex environment. So we've got to start with ourselves. And what's exciting is we've got to start with the number one thing, very practical here, the number one non negotiable self care habit that gives us a foundation if we want to actualize our potential right up here, you need to have a really strong foundation. Michelle Seeger talks about what she describes as your number one non negotiable self care habit. The kind of thing that if you don't do it, you're not going to have an awesome day. We want to know what that is. So for me, it's rest. For Michelle Seger, it's rest. For her husband, it's exercise. Alexandro's is actually rest as well. But what we want to know is what's your number one? What's the thing that keeps you locked in? Is it exercise? Is it nutrition? Is it rest? Is it meditation? Is it creativity? What is it for you that keeps you plugged in? Know that and then know what it is for your partner, your spouse, whoever you're loving your life. What's their number one? Because guess what, if they're not healthy, this is going to be really tough to make healthy. So what we want to do is love our partners by supporting them in honoring their number one. For Alexandra and I, that means that I spend about an hour every morning with Emerson, not only to spend time with him as a dad, but to give Alexandra the time for, for her to do her meditation, do her exercise, do her journaling, do the things that we've identified and she's identified. Help her actualize her potential. So that's our first idea here, is to know your number ones. Be healthy. Know what it takes for you to be plugged in what your partner needs and support them in achieving that consistently. Hope you enjoyed and really excited to see how you integrate this. Have an awesome day. Hi, this is Brian. I hope you enjoyed that micro class. If so, I think you'll enjoy everything else we offer at BrianJohnson me. Two basic things one our free newsletter. It's called the Optimizer. Over 50,000 people start their day with it and they tell us it's pretty awesome and 2 our optimal living Membership program. This is where I put all my best stuff. 10 bucks a month for a ton of wisdom. Two primary things in there philosopher's notes plus optimal living 101 classes. When you sign up, you'll get instant access to 250 philosopher's notes, which are basically six page PDFs and 20 minute MP3s where I capture my favorite big ideas from great books. The PNTV episodes are kind of a mini version of all that Goodness. You'll also get instant access to all my Optimal Living classes. This is where I take all the ideas we cover in the Philosopher's Notes and boil it down to the most practical stuff you can apply today. Classes include Confidence 101, Getting Stuff Done 101, Relationships 101, Habits 101, etc. You'll also get access to what we call micro classes that I think you'll love. We aim to astonish and we're blessed to have thousands of members telling us we're helping them change their lives and and that this is the best 10 bucks they invest in themselves every month. Go to BrianJohnson ME membership to learn more. Thanks for your support and have an awesome day.
