Brian Johnson breaks down Neil Pasricha's confidence quadrant: two axes of how you see yourself and others create four types. Arrogant people rate themselves high but others low. Insecure people do the opposite. Cynics see both negatively. True confidence means viewing yourself and others positively.
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Hi, this is Brian. It is bright and early and I thought I would do a quick video on the confidence quadrant. This is inspired by Neil Pasricha's the Happiness Equation. It's a great little simple model that I'm excited to share. So let's imagine a little quadrant, right? And we have two dimensions. We can look at how you view yourself either negatively or positively. And then we can look at how you view others either negatively or positively, right? So if you have a high opinion of yourself but a negative opinion of other people, you wind up here. You're arrogant, right? I think really highly of myself, but I don't think highly of others. I am arrogant. Then you have the other side of the equation, right? Where you don't think positively of yourself, you think negatively of yourself, but you think positively of other people. Well, then you're insecure. You see everyone else as better than you, whereas the arrogant person sees everyone else as less than them. Neither one of those are obviously ideal. Of course, the cynic is over here. People suck and they suck. Cynic. Eek. Right now, the confident person is the one who holds a positive sense of self with a positive sense of others, right? They think they're pretty awesome and they know that other people are awesome. That's how we want to play. True confidence is a high sense of self and a high sense of others. Now, if you find yourself in the arrogant quadrant, where you have a high sense of self but not so much on others, practice seeing the good in others. Walk around and appreciate people. See the little things that they do better than you. Everyone does something better than us. Find that, celebrate that. That will move you into a true place of confidence. The insecure among us. We need to see the good in the self, right? So all that good that you see in others, identify the qualities that you see in them that you admire and then realize that you have those same qualities, perhaps in a latent state within yourself. Cultivate that experience, more positivity in yourself and move into a deeper level of confidence. Cynic. You got work to do on both. There you go. Super quick look at the confidence quadrant. Hope you enjoyed. What's your work. Get on that. Here's to true confidence.
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