Brian Johnson explains how to build friendships by genuinely appreciating others. He draws on Dale Carnegie's advice and Barbara Fredrickson's research on "Love 2.0," which shows that brief moments of real connection with anyone, even strangers, create lasting belonging. The practice works for introverts too: notice what's good in people and say it.
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If you want to win friends and influence people, be interested in people. Care about people. Look for the best within people. Don't go around day to day all about you, all about you, all about you. Get out of your own sense of self. Look out into the world and look for what's awesome in people. Celebrate people. Great way to win friends and influence people. And one of the ways that I love to practice this is inspired by both him and Barbara Fredrickson, who wrote a book called Love 2.0. One of the most powerful and for me life-changing Changing Books. The basic idea is we think of love 1.0 is like for people that you're supposed to love, you know, your immediate family, your partner, your kids, etc. That's kind of love 1.0, which is phenomenal, of course. But she says there's another form of love that she calls love 2.0, and she studied it scientifically. And what she's found is you can create these micro moments of positivity resonance where your brain, your heart, your underlying, um, being is connected to another individual that you may not know very well. It might be someone at a grocery store or on a hike or whatever that you only spend a few moments with, but in those moments, you can create a loving positivity resonance, and it's really, really powerful and really, really important that we seek those out. When I'm not spending some time with you teaching, et cetera, I'm a pretty introverted guy. Look, actively look for things that you can appreciate, genuinely appreciate and admire in people.
