The two types of perfectionism...

The perfectionist comes in two flavors. There's a healthy version and an unhealthy version. The difference between them is very, very simple. They both have high standards. They both want to do extraordinary, heroic, to use our words, things. But the unhealthy perfectionist thinks they can do every single they want to do. Then they feel a crippling overwhelm and shame comes in because they fail to do the thing that healthy perfectionists do, which is embrace the constraints of reality. So when you draw the lines on your field, the game of life, and you say, look, there's only 24 hours in the day in my energy, my work, and my love, I can't possibly do everything I want to do. But what are the top 1, 2, 3 things that if I do those things, will give me the best shot at doing the other things that I want to do with my life? And again, those targets are a means by which we can do other important work. But embracing reality is really, really important.