Examples of Toxic Femininity from Science, Popular Culture, News, Documentaries and Candid Women

Hi, Coach Kammer here. Thanks for watching the Our Comeback channel. Women have complained a lot over the past 50 years about how men have treated them. It wasn't easy, but for the most part, we listened and made some changes that have made life better for them. But when we complain about how women treat us, they scream, "Misogyny!" Aren't they the ones who are supposedly so loving, caring, and open-minded? Something's wrong here. It's called toxic femininity. Don't go away. Toxic femininity starts with women's idea that they are superior to us. Maybe that goes back to childhood when girls told each other that they are sugar and spice and everything nice. Or maybe that feeling of superiority comes from their incorrect belief that they magically, mystically, wondrously create life. But no matter where it comes from, that's where our discussion of toxic femininity begins. With women's deep belief in their superiority over men.

Of course it helps that there are women on that committee, but you know what, I expect the men in this country and the men in this committee, and many of them, believe me, because we all signed on to this letter to demand an FBI investigation. But really, guess who's perpetuating all of these kinds of actions? It's the men in this country. And I just want to say to the men in this country, just shut up and step up.

Hi, can I help?

Help? No, you can't help. Help implies that caring for our child is basically my responsibility and that you're doing me a favor. Go out and try again.

Hi, can I co-nurture?

No, you always get the floor wet.

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The more amiability and esprit de corps among the members of a policymaking group, The greater is the danger that independent critical thinking will be replaced by irrational and dehumanizing actions directed against outgroups.

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Captain Leonard? Captain? Captain Leonard? Mr. Cosworth, I was looking for the Captain.

And not finding him, entered notwithstanding?

Yes.

Pardon me.

You trespass, madam.

By all appearances, so do you. No.

I've come to fetch Captain Leonard's pipe. At his request.

Well, then he'll be expecting you.

I don't like you, madam. I don't trust you either. I have the Captain's best interests. And I'll know why you're here.

Well, you may have his interest, but I have his trust. And what do you think will happen if I tell him you tried to violate me on his dining table?

I did no such thing.

And who do you think he'll believe? Oh, he'll have you arrested so quick your head'll spin. Now get out of my way, or I will scream.

This study uses detailed qualitative data on 55 sexual assault cases that were reported to the Los Angeles Police Department in 2008 and that were subsequently unfounded. Motivations for false allegations fall into 5 overlapping categories: avoiding trouble, anger or revenge, attention-seeking, mental illness, and guilt or remorse.

So you didn't do anything wrong here?

I don't feel like I did, no. I mean, he took You know, my— he took my love and the vows that I made to him when we got married and totally tromped all over that for the first year of our marriage. Disrespected me, disrespected my home, disrespected our marriage.

I understand why you feel justified for putting him in jail. I'm just asking if you ran a red light in putting him in jail. Did you make statements that weren't true?

I may have said that there was punching or hitting, and there was not that to my recollection, but there was—

You didn't maybe say it. You either said it or you didn't. You either said he hit me and punched me or you didn't. Did you say it?

I did.

You did?

I did.

And did he hit you and punch you?

No. Okay. Not to my recollection.

You knew it wasn't true when you said it, though. I mean, let's be honest. Yes. You knew it wasn't true when you said it, right?

Yeah. I've been a public defender for approximately 7 years. Domestic violence, I would say, is a good 5-10% of my load. There is a very high level of using the system, abusing the system, by complainants. In order to get some other result. I would say the reasons, the motives for people to lie as complainants in cases, custody is just one. It's not even the most common. I would say the most common would be personal vendetta, something that he wants to break up with her, she wants to break up with him. Usually it's— I keep it real. It seems like it's mostly men defendants, but a lot of times it has to do with he wants to break up, he wants to move out, or he wants her to move out of his house, and she gets upset. And nothing gets done about the lies. If somebody is caught in a lie, nothing's done about it. Nothing of significance is done about it.

But if it was your historian, then I didn't ken it. And you said he had already left here. Even so, if he did ravish you as Lizzie said—

Lizzie was wrong. He didn't.

Oh, he didn't abed you?

No!

Well, yes, he did, but I wanted him to. We were handfast, and then we got in this huge fight, and he left, and that was—

You bedded him from lust? You said he raped you of your virtue.

I nearly killed the man.

And to think, I was defending your honor. And now I come to find you claim yourself violated upon finding yourself a child.

I was violated, you self-righteous bastard! By someone else! You beat up the wrong man! Now where the hell is Roger? With the Mohawk.

I, I, I sold him to the Mohawk.

You sold him?

Stop, Bri!

I thought you violated your cousin.

Yeah, I understand.

Thanks.

I'm so sorry, mistress.

You should be.

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Now, you would still like to speak with your fiancé. Would you consider taking him back? You know what, people have been asking me that, and I'm really a little confused at this time, but I want an answer. And then I'll have to just take it from there. Well, unless you call him long distance, you're not going to get an answer because, as we saw earlier, her man's in Tahiti. Have you considered castration as an option?

No.

I think he's really suffering. You're being so rude, Dr. Green. I would be so furious.

But we wondered, what would happen if we reversed the sexes? What if the victim were a man and the abuser a woman?

You want to start with me?

This time she plays the aggressor, verbally and physically abusing her boyfriend.

How's that?

How's that?

Women abusing, even assaulting their male partners— not as isolated as you might think.

I hate you!

Psychology professor Carrie Keating.

It is a big problem in this country. Men create more damage. But women hit more than men do.

Now we're about to meet a woman whose reaction is instant, visceral. Watch closely.

No, get up!

No!

Why don't you calm down?

What went through her mind?

Good for her. You go, girl.

Linda McCluthy just assumed he had it coming to him.

But why?

Maybe she caught him cheating, you know. Something like that, really bad, and then made her lose it.

My first thought was that he must have cheated on her.

But you don't know that.

You don't, but you look guilty.

Exactly.

And now, over and over again, when the victim is a man, so many women perceive him as guilty.

I figure, well, he probably deserved it.

According to the Orange County DA's office, Katherine Q. Becker is accused of cutting off her husband's penis with a knife, taking his penis, and throwing it into the garbage disposal. She's been charged with felony torture and aggravated mayhem. Police say Becker attacked him because he filed for divorce. She's being held— she goes, that'll teach him. She is being held in a California jail while her husband remains in the hospital.

I bet you that those prison guards are wearing one of those— what are those things that footballers wear? Those metal cups.

Oh yeah, that the athletes wear?

Yes, yes.

The jockstrap?

Cups, cups. Cups, yes. I mean, I don't know the circumstances. I don't know why he filed for divorce. I don't know what was going on between them. However, I do think it's quite fabulous. I mean, I mean, can you just imagine that thing whizzing around the disposal? It's like, Hysterical!

286 scholarly investigations demonstrate that women are as physically aggressive, or more aggressive, than men in their relationships with their spouses or male partners.