In this YouTube video, Coach Jack Kammer opens an episode of his series "Our Comeback" by discussing how men are socially conditioned to express anger but not sadness in romantic relationships, arguing that anger alienates partners while sadness can foster connection. He introduces the song "I Am Still a Little Boy" performed by Mark Sherman as a concrete illustration of how men can express sadness in a strong, honest, and masculine way. The video then plays the full lyrics, in which the singer pleads to his partner (addressed as "Mama") for comfort, admits feeling like a child despite appearing as an adult man, and reflects on power dynamics, unmet emotional needs, and the struggle to communicate within the relationship. The content blends coaching commentary on gendered emotional norms with a lyrical example that models vulnerable, childlike expression as a healthier alternative to anger.
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Hi, Coach Kammer here. When you're feeling angry about something in your relationship with your wife or girlfriend, or even in relationships between men and women in general, is there a better play than making sure the woman knows how angry you are? That's what we're going to talk about in this next episode of Our Comeback. It's not fair, but one of the rules of the game between the sexes is that when men get angry, we automatically lose. Angry men are dangerous. Who knows what they might do? On the other hand, anger is pretty much the only unhappy emotion we're allowed to express. It's so manly. What's great about this song that you're about to hear is that it demonstrates how to express sadness in a strong and perfectly honest, healthy, masculine way. Sadness helps bring people to us. Anger only pushes them away. One other thing: you'll hear the singer talking to his mama, but he's talking to his wife, not his mother. The song is "I Am Still a Little Boy" by Mark Sherman.
You tell me I got the power, you say I am in control, but I just feel I'm losing it and I'm just getting old. You say the way I treat you, it really is a sin, but every time I look around, there's another battle that you win. Oh mama, come home and please hold my hand. I am still a little boy though I look like a man. I'm all at sea, I don't know what to do. When I was down, I always, always looked to you. But now you're very busy, you are working or at school, and you tell me to quiet down and stop being a muffin. Now please come and hold me, and please try to understand, I am still a little boy though I look like a man. You say that I have everything, something I don't see. You say I've got the power, but it don't feel that way to me. You say the way I treat you, it really is a sin. But every time I look around, there's another battle that you win. I don't really know just what I'm going to do, and I begin to wonder, do you have a clue? What about our children? Has anyone noticed them? Every time Every time I look around, there's another battle that's here. Oh, Mama, please, please hold my hand. I'm your sad little boy, though I look like an angry man. Oh, where are you, Mama? I don't know what to do. When I was unhappy, I always turned, I always turned to you. You say that now it's your turn, but what am I to do? I really don't know how to say what I'm thinking, nor do you. We used to be partners, but what are we now? We're both trying for different things, but neither of us knows how. Oh, come to me, Baba, and Oh my hands. I am still a little boy, though I might look like a man. I am troubled and I'm unhappy. I don't know what to do. Whenever I was that way, I Always turn to you.
