Jacqueline ElliottLeadership Strategist | CEO, Mother, Wife, Legacy-Builder

Healthy Couples SHOULD be fighting // Jacqueline Elliott

18 Nov 2025 · 1 min

Watch on YouTube

0:44

Jacqueline Elliott (speaker) argues that healthy couples should fight because avoiding conflict creates a transactional relationship and unspoken resentment. The speaker gives examples of long-term couples who "never fight," divide household roles like a business, and later cannot identify specific grievances because anger was never expressed.

Chapters

I am an advocate for fighting. I know a lot of people that say, you know, we have a relationship and you know, and we've been married for 20 years and we never fight. And it's almost like a business relationship. Like, okay, you are in charge of taking the kids to soccer. I'll take my, I'll take the kids to ballet, and I'll make sure I pick up the dry cleaning. And you do this. They're in the same bed, but they're miles apart because they're just kind of like, learn to live together and co parent. After a while, they start resenting each other. But then you ask them, hey, what went wrong? And they can't even answer the question. They can't even tell you, I didn't like this or I didn't like that. And you have all this anger that builds up that you start resenting each other. I know a lot of couples have that, but they don't have the courage to speak up or they're just afraid of starting a fight.